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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And not in the sexual sense. When you have been seriously annoyed/gained frustration to the point where you can feel yourself about to lose it. What do you do? Do you lash out in the gym, etc or find some other remedy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And not in the sexual sense. When you have been seriously annoyed/gained frustration to the point where you can feel yourself about to lose it. What do you do? Do you lash out in the gym, etc or find some other remedy? "

follow my lead.........................................................dont do it on here

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I nearly got killed in the car by a complete wanker and had to stop to calm down as my driving was badly affected. If it hadn't been for the electronic safety stuff all kicking in at once....well....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And not in the sexual sense. When you have been seriously annoyed/gained frustration to the point where you can feel yourself about to lose it. What do you do? Do you lash out in the gym, etc or find some other remedy?

follow my lead.........................................................dont do it on here "

Just want opinions on what people do to calm down and get rid of that feeling? Not having a go at anyone or anything. So can't see a problem with this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deep breathing really does help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a hole in every door in my House

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"i have a hole in every door in my House "

for glory purposes?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Deep breathing really does help "

I have found I have felt the same after sleep. So don't think that will work. Tried a gym session and that didn't work either and it normally does

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"And not in the sexual sense. When you have been seriously annoyed/gained frustration to the point where you can feel yourself about to lose it. What do you do? Do you lash out in the gym, etc or find some other remedy?

follow my lead.........................................................dont do it on here

Just want opinions on what people do to calm down and get rid of that feeling? Not having a go at anyone or anything. So can't see a problem with this thread."

Peaches was referring to herself and her thread a couple of days ago....when she got ANGRY!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just punch who's pissed you off, I find that usually works

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And not in the sexual sense. When you have been seriously annoyed/gained frustration to the point where you can feel yourself about to lose it. What do you do? Do you lash out in the gym, etc or find some other remedy?

follow my lead.........................................................dont do it on here

Just want opinions on what people do to calm down and get rid of that feeling? Not having a go at anyone or anything. So can't see a problem with this thread.

Peaches was referring to herself and her thread a couple of days ago....when she got ANGRY!!!!! "

Missed that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And not in the sexual sense. When you have been seriously annoyed/gained frustration to the point where you can feel yourself about to lose it. What do you do? Do you lash out in the gym, etc or find some other remedy?

follow my lead.........................................................dont do it on here

Just want opinions on what people do to calm down and get rid of that feeling? Not having a go at anyone or anything. So can't see a problem with this thread."

You got me wrong crazed......

I wasnt having a go, just saying dont do what i did ....on here ..ahem

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just punch who's pissed you off, I find that usually works "

Can't for 2 vital reasons. 1. They are women and 2 I will be lumbered with a 4 or 5 grand debt and won't have a job to pay it back and doubt anyone will employ me after getting sacked from the previous job. If they knew I hit my boss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I calm done and think thank The Lord I left him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And not in the sexual sense. When you have been seriously annoyed/gained frustration to the point where you can feel yourself about to lose it. What do you do? Do you lash out in the gym, etc or find some other remedy?

follow my lead.........................................................dont do it on here

Just want opinions on what people do to calm down and get rid of that feeling? Not having a go at anyone or anything. So can't see a problem with this thread.

You got me wrong crazed......

I wasnt having a go, just saying dont do what i did ....on here ..ahem "

I won't, but thanks for the warning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And not in the sexual sense. When you have been seriously annoyed/gained frustration to the point where you can feel yourself about to lose it. What do you do? Do you lash out in the gym, etc or find some other remedy?

follow my lead.........................................................dont do it on here

Just want opinions on what people do to calm down and get rid of that feeling? Not having a go at anyone or anything. So can't see a problem with this thread.

You got me wrong crazed......

I wasnt having a go, just saying dont do what i did ....on here ..ahem

I won't, but thanks for the warning "

Big breaths chuck

and she was only 16

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And not in the sexual sense. When you have been seriously annoyed/gained frustration to the point where you can feel yourself about to lose it. What do you do? Do you lash out in the gym, etc or find some other remedy?

follow my lead.........................................................dont do it on here

Just want opinions on what people do to calm down and get rid of that feeling? Not having a go at anyone or anything. So can't see a problem with this thread.

You got me wrong crazed......

I wasnt having a go, just saying dont do what i did ....on here ..ahem

I won't, but thanks for the warning

Big breaths chuck

and she was only 16 "

Big breaths don't work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just punch who's pissed you off, I find that usually works

Can't for 2 vital reasons. 1. They are women and 2 I will be lumbered with a 4 or 5 grand debt and won't have a job to pay it back and doubt anyone will employ me after getting sacked from the previous job. If they knew I hit my boss."

do you want me to come round and jump her as she leave work one night?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just punch who's pissed you off, I find that usually works

Can't for 2 vital reasons. 1. They are women and 2 I will be lumbered with a 4 or 5 grand debt and won't have a job to pay it back and doubt anyone will employ me after getting sacked from the previous job. If they knew I hit my boss.

do you want me to come round and jump her as she leave work one night? "

Do that to 99% of the people I work with and I will be forever in your debt. No matter how many favours you ask for, they will get done and I will still owe you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think about loading up the machine gun and which route I will take!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

if i get really frustrated i cry

i cried at the site director n my last job a few times

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think about loading up the machine gun and which route I will take!"

Tsunami, but with blood and not water is the route if I was to follow that advice.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Get some bubble wrap and stamp on it until all the bubbles have popped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

put your music on loud and either sing at the top of your voice or dance or both

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By *Kgirl80Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

I have a punch bag hung up in the summer house. I sometimes go and beat the shit out of it to calm down!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Count to 11

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By *razilnutsMan
over a year ago

York

Strenuous work usually does it for me. Not gym workout, something that involves your mind too. I have some acres of land to look after, plenty of opportunities around!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a punch bag hung up in the summer house. I sometimes go and beat the shit out of it to calm down! "

That's the sort of thing works with me, but can't do it anymore due to not having access to a punch bag.

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By *Kgirl80Woman
over a year ago

South Coast


"I have a punch bag hung up in the summer house. I sometimes go and beat the shit out of it to calm down!

That's the sort of thing works with me, but can't do it anymore due to not having access to a punch bag. "

I'd offer you mine but you're a little far from me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a punch bag hung up in the summer house. I sometimes go and beat the shit out of it to calm down!

That's the sort of thing works with me, but can't do it anymore due to not having access to a punch bag.

I'd offer you mine but you're a little far from me! "

There's only one thing worse than feeling these things and that's not being able to let it out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So a hard gym session, long shower and a verbal rant lasting a few minutes and I am still feeling the same as I did 4 hours ago when it all began

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found out the hard way not to lash out, a mate wound me up till I went o hit him. I punched the wall next to him and broke two bones in my hand, since then I bottle it up till home time when if cycling home I will go as hard as I can till the anger goes. If riding the motorbike home, I release my anger in enjoying the ride, accelerating out of a corner hard or how I take the corner. Half way home I am happy and relaxed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rampant mad passionate sex!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

have a wank, have a drink and go to sleep. no retaliation will make anything any better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rampant mad passionate sex! "

1 problem with that. Finding someone dull enough to give it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"have a wank, have a drink and go to sleep. no retaliation will make anything any better."

That's called "repression", which is not healthy and no wonder why many people suffer with some sort of mental problems/issues. The right form of retaliation is best. Maybe confronting the problem head on is best. Otherwise problems will keep happening

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"have a wank, have a drink and go to sleep. no retaliation will make anything any better.

That's called "repression", which is not healthy and no wonder why many people suffer with some sort of mental problems/issues. The right form of retaliation is best. Maybe confronting the problem head on is best. Otherwise problems will keep happening "

so confront it then but it a constructive manner

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"have a wank, have a drink and go to sleep. no retaliation will make anything any better.

That's called "repression", which is not healthy and no wonder why many people suffer with some sort of mental problems/issues. The right form of retaliation is best. Maybe confronting the problem head on is best. Otherwise problems will keep happening

so confront it then but it a constructive manner"

That's the trick. What to say, how to say it whilst keeping cool and showing people that they can't get away with it, but doing that in the right way is proving difficult.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"have a wank, have a drink and go to sleep. no retaliation will make anything any better.

That's called "repression", which is not healthy and no wonder why many people suffer with some sort of mental problems/issues. The right form of retaliation is best. Maybe confronting the problem head on is best. Otherwise problems will keep happening

so confront it then but it a constructive manner

That's the trick. What to say, how to say it whilst keeping cool and showing people that they can't get away with it, but doing that in the right way is proving difficult. "

if you are scared you wont be able to keep your cool in person write a letter to them explaining your feelings on the matter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"have a wank, have a drink and go to sleep. no retaliation will make anything any better.

That's called "repression", which is not healthy and no wonder why many people suffer with some sort of mental problems/issues. The right form of retaliation is best. Maybe confronting the problem head on is best. Otherwise problems will keep happening

so confront it then but it a constructive manner

That's the trick. What to say, how to say it whilst keeping cool and showing people that they can't get away with it, but doing that in the right way is proving difficult.

if you are scared you wont be able to keep your cool in person write a letter to them explaining your feelings on the matter"

Good thinking, but things have to be said over the next day or so. Failing that I will suffer and lose an awful lot of money. My only that, but if I write a letter it would be to late by the time they have ready it.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"have a wank, have a drink and go to sleep. no retaliation will make anything any better.

That's called "repression", which is not healthy and no wonder why many people suffer with some sort of mental problems/issues. The right form of retaliation is best. Maybe confronting the problem head on is best. Otherwise problems will keep happening

so confront it then but it a constructive manner

That's the trick. What to say, how to say it whilst keeping cool and showing people that they can't get away with it, but doing that in the right way is proving difficult.

if you are scared you wont be able to keep your cool in person write a letter to them explaining your feelings on the matter

Good thinking, but things have to be said over the next day or so. Failing that I will suffer and lose an awful lot of money. My only that, but if I write a letter it would be to late by the time they have ready it. "

how long does it take to write an email?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"have a wank, have a drink and go to sleep. no retaliation will make anything any better.

That's called "repression", which is not healthy and no wonder why many people suffer with some sort of mental problems/issues. The right form of retaliation is best. Maybe confronting the problem head on is best. Otherwise problems will keep happening

so confront it then but it a constructive manner

That's the trick. What to say, how to say it whilst keeping cool and showing people that they can't get away with it, but doing that in the right way is proving difficult.

if you are scared you wont be able to keep your cool in person write a letter to them explaining your feelings on the matter

Good thinking, but things have to be said over the next day or so. Failing that I will suffer and lose an awful lot of money. My only that, but if I write a letter it would be to late by the time they have ready it.

how long does it take to write an email?"

I haven't got their email address, but replying to letters in general takes ages with them. Even though writing one will take me a minute

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"have a wank, have a drink and go to sleep. no retaliation will make anything any better.

That's called "repression", which is not healthy and no wonder why many people suffer with some sort of mental problems/issues. The right form of retaliation is best. Maybe confronting the problem head on is best. Otherwise problems will keep happening

so confront it then but it a constructive manner

That's the trick. What to say, how to say it whilst keeping cool and showing people that they can't get away with it, but doing that in the right way is proving difficult.

if you are scared you wont be able to keep your cool in person write a letter to them explaining your feelings on the matter

Good thinking, but things have to be said over the next day or so. Failing that I will suffer and lose an awful lot of money. My only that, but if I write a letter it would be to late by the time they have ready it.

how long does it take to write an email?

I haven't got their email address, but replying to letters in general takes ages with them. Even though writing one will take me a minute "

looks like you are going to kiss that money goodbye then as you seem to have a reason you cant do something for every suggestion made.

either man up and confront the situation in person and risk losing control or accept that you cant do that and lose the money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have a hole in every door in my House "

Hmmm...self made glory holes ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally match into the office where my boss has his desk, point at him and signal for him to move into the meeting room next door, and then explode.

He usually knows I am unhappy the moment I match into the office.

Seldom explodes outside work though.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Punch a pillow

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In terms of "physical" energy. I have one of, if not the most easiest jobs around and for all of you to know. If I collapse due to "internal" problems. It will be because of a stroke, burst blood vessel or a heart attack and it will be down to my job. If it happens whilst d*unk. The alcohol wouldn't have helped when trying to help me, but it certainly would not have been the cause of it. Just need to relax now, if I can as its been "sorted".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And not in the sexual sense. When you have been seriously annoyed/gained frustration to the point where you can feel yourself about to lose it. What do you do? Do you lash out in the gym, etc or find some other remedy? "

I punch people in the face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And not in the sexual sense. When you have been seriously annoyed/gained frustration to the point where you can feel yourself about to lose it. What do you do? Do you lash out in the gym, etc or find some other remedy?

I punch people in the face "

Oh ben

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I drink swear curse and drink did I mention I drink hic hic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And not in the sexual sense. When you have been seriously annoyed/gained frustration to the point where you can feel yourself about to lose it. What do you do? Do you lash out in the gym, etc or find some other remedy?

I punch people in the face "

If it was a bloke I would be in hospital or prison now because I would have done exactly that. Going by what I felt over that day.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

It doesn't happen very often, but depending what has made me explode can vary the reaction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It doesn't happen very often, but depending what has made me explode can vary the reaction."

Yes, but the feeling you have when you know you're about to lose your cool and you are seconds away from it. What do you do to calm down?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"It doesn't happen very often, but depending what has made me explode can vary the reaction.

Yes, but the feeling you have when you know you're about to lose your cool and you are seconds away from it. What do you do to calm down?"
I don't much, its good to let go of emotions now n then......

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

I used to be unable to control my temper, it only lasted five seconds but in that short time I did a lot of damage. I learnt with age it was not good for me. I count to ten and have a fuck it it is not worth it attitude. Prefer a beer to punching someone's lights out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smash something up with a sledge hammer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to be unable to control my temper, it only lasted five seconds but in that short time I did a lot of damage. I learnt with age it was not good for me. I count to ten and have a fuck it it is not worth it attitude. Prefer a beer to punching someone's lights out "

That's when someone has annoyed you. What if its something that couldn't wait?

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"I used to be unable to control my temper, it only lasted five seconds but in that short time I did a lot of damage. I learnt with age it was not good for me. I count to ten and have a fuck it it is not worth it attitude. Prefer a beer to punching someone's lights out

That's when someone has annoyed you. What if its something that couldn't wait? "

If it still felt that bad after a count of ten I would walk away muttering to myself along the lines you do not want to be eating prison food

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to be unable to control my temper, it only lasted five seconds but in that short time I did a lot of damage. I learnt with age it was not good for me. I count to ten and have a fuck it it is not worth it attitude. Prefer a beer to punching someone's lights out

That's when someone has annoyed you. What if its something that couldn't wait?

If it still felt that bad after a count of ten I would walk away muttering to myself along the lines you do not want to be eating prison food "

Example. You book days off work to go on holiday a few months back then your holiday gets booked. 5 days before going they say you can't have it off and you have spent what you consider a lot of money. Counting to ten, muttering, doesn't change the fact your boss has lied to you, out you in a difficult situation, etc. some form of action has to be taken as doing what you said only helps if someone upsets you. Not when there's a deadline involved.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

does your contract have anything n it about leave being cancelled due to business need?? A lot do. Your boss would ave to prove what that business need was....he cant just stop you going if there is enough staff to cover your work

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"does your contract have anything n it about leave being cancelled due to business need?? A lot do. Your boss would ave to prove what that business need was....he cant just stop you going if there is enough staff to cover your work"

They basically said I need to find cover and no matter how many people I find. It isn't good enough . But my point was when you're in a "rage" because of stuff like that. How do you calm down?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"does your contract have anything n it about leave being cancelled due to business need?? A lot do. Your boss would ave to prove what that business need was....he cant just stop you going if there is enough staff to cover your work

They basically said I need to find cover and no matter how many people I find. It isn't good enough . But my point was when you're in a "rage" because of stuff like that. How do you calm down?"

if its my job then i will walk away. no point getting fired over it. find out the fact present your case and contact HR if necessary. understand your rights before you speak to your boss

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'm almost supernaturally calm. I don't know why. Everyone I know, or spend any time with, seems to have bad nerves. I see the comedy in most situations. Rather embarrassing at funerals.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"does your contract have anything n it about leave being cancelled due to business need?? A lot do. Your boss would ave to prove what that business need was....he cant just stop you going if there is enough staff to cover your work

They basically said I need to find cover and no matter how many people I find. It isn't good enough . But my point was when you're in a "rage" because of stuff like that. How do you calm down?

if its my job then i will walk away. no point getting fired over it. find out the fact present your case and contact HR if necessary. understand your rights before you speak to your boss"

Walk away as in quit the job? I have and everyone has different stories

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"does your contract have anything n it about leave being cancelled due to business need?? A lot do. Your boss would ave to prove what that business need was....he cant just stop you going if there is enough staff to cover your work

They basically said I need to find cover and no matter how many people I find. It isn't good enough . But my point was when you're in a "rage" because of stuff like that. How do you calm down?

if its my job then i will walk away. no point getting fired over it. find out the fact present your case and contact HR if necessary. understand your rights before you speak to your boss

Walk away as in quit the job? I have and everyone has different stories "

no, remove myself from the current situation, regroup, do some research then go back to the to explain why they cant do what they are trying to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"does your contract have anything n it about leave being cancelled due to business need?? A lot do. Your boss would ave to prove what that business need was....he cant just stop you going if there is enough staff to cover your work

They basically said I need to find cover and no matter how many people I find. It isn't good enough . But my point was when you're in a "rage" because of stuff like that. How do you calm down?

if its my job then i will walk away. no point getting fired over it. find out the fact present your case and contact HR if necessary. understand your rights before you speak to your boss

Walk away as in quit the job? I have and everyone has different stories

no, remove myself from the current situation, regroup, do some research then go back to the to explain why they cant do what they are trying to do."

Did try to do that, but I left the situation whilst being civil and then all I felt was anger, etc and even after the research and my usual remedies. I couldn't calm myself down. Hence why I asked for opinions on what to do to try and relax and get calm. I didn't let on my emotions when I was there though. Just said it was ridiculous, said I would help them and walked off.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Dude i have't read all the thread but if it is work related then bite your lip and dont let them get to you.

i made this mistake of losing my temper 9 years ago at 1 of the big 4 banks and lost my job. I gave them everything they needed to sack me after they kept pushing and pushing to get me to react.

I'd say bite your lip for now and look at future options about moving away and moving on with your career

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dude i have't read all the thread but if it is work related then bite your lip and dont let them get to you.

i made this mistake of losing my temper 9 years ago at 1 of the big 4 banks and lost my job. I gave them everything they needed to sack me after they kept pushing and pushing to get me to react.

I'd say bite your lip for now and look at future options about moving away and moving on with your career "

Good advice if there was something upsetting me rather than not being have a day off, which was promised to me and now I have spent a fortune on that event already. Then 2

months later, 5 days before it happens. I get told I can't have it off. So would waste money if I didn't have it off. something has to be done/said so the day off can still happen like promised. Reacting negatively yes can get the sack, but ignoring the problem. Doesn't do anything as I need that day off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you get to the point you want to lash out just walk away - time out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if you get to the point you want to lash out just walk away - time out "

Always do, but asking for remedies, lol.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"I used to be unable to control my temper, it only lasted five seconds but in that short time I did a lot of damage. I learnt with age it was not good for me. I count to ten and have a fuck it it is not worth it attitude. Prefer a beer to punching someone's lights out

That's when someone has annoyed you. What if its something that couldn't wait?

If it still felt that bad after a count of ten I would walk away muttering to myself along the lines you do not want to be eating prison food

Example. You book days off work to go on holiday a few months back then your holiday gets booked. 5 days before going they say you can't have it off and you have spent what you consider a lot of money. Counting to ten, muttering, doesn't change the fact your boss has lied to you, out you in a difficult situation, etc. some form of action has to be taken as doing what you said only helps if someone upsets you. Not when there's a deadline involved."

Let's put it this way, I got pulled back off holiday. I did what I needed to do to sort the job and then went and spoke to boss about the error of me not having down time. I walked out of his office with a massive raise and two week holiday in Kos. No point in flipping, go in with a structured view and be polite. Usually get more by being calm and not losing your temper

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