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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Last night I was very pleasantly surprised how well this went. There were some success stories and also some that got no reply.

I often get no replies but oddly, the rejection makes me stronger. Anyone else going to try this, or report back on if it changed how you do things?

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Yesterday's post in case you didn't see it-

If you normally just wait for people to mail you, will you try this?

Search for males/ couples (whichever you normally meet) and mail them. Then come back and let us know how it went.

Did you find someone you liked? Have you arranged a meet? Did you get no reply,and if so how did it feel?

If you won't try this... why not? I realise some people will say they already get enough mail, but this is just an experiment. Are you afraid of rejection? Why not just try and see what happens?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone I mailed replied to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tried sending ten and got 4 replies not bad averages lol..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tried sending ten and got 4 replies not bad averages lol..x"

I didn't get one

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I sent a 'fancy a fuck' message to Ryan who replied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sent a 'fancy a fuck' message to Ryan who replied. "

Charming ... He didn't reply to me !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I sent a 'fancy a fuck' message to Ryan who replied. "

Was he a good fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tried sending ten and got 4 replies not bad averages lol..x

I didn't get one "

Aww well their loss I would have replied x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sent a 'fancy a fuck' message to Ryan who replied. "

Me too lol he told me I was better than you, my boobs are bigger lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I sent a 'fancy a fuck' message to Ryan who replied.

Charming ... He didn't reply to me ! "

It was a no, though!

No one messaged me at all!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I sent a 'fancy a fuck' message to Ryan who replied.

Was he a good fuck? "

No, the short conversation quickly degenerated

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I was on mobile all night and didnt receive a thing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sent a 'fancy a fuck' message to Ryan who replied. "

Me too!

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I sent a 'fancy a fuck' message to Ryan who replied. "

Pffft... I sent him a "fancy a fuck AND a burger" mail and he still didnt reply

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I sent a 'fancy a fuck' message to Ryan who replied.

Pffft... I sent him a "fancy a fuck AND a burger" mail and he still didnt reply

"

Next time tempt him with a burger first, then a fuck.

Woo-hoo! I got a message of this thread!! An opportunity to perve some lovely pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone I mailed replied to me "

That doesn't surprise me to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never cold mailed anyone on here.

I do get a lot if mail but that's not the reason.

I feel if I mail them, they will assume they are "in" and I might decide later (depending on the reply) that they're not for me.

Then ya get accused of being a time waster etc..

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

hi guys

its a job to reply to some people as they set filters age / couples etc to stop us oldes posting to them..lol we lov meeting nice young couple's

lov Connie

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By *obbo30paulMan
over a year ago

durham

I never seem to get any replies but I just keep searching for the one that dose

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By *atinaBabeCouple
over a year ago

casa caliente

I always b luck lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi guys

its a job to reply to some people as they set filters age / couples etc to stop us oldes posting to them..lol we lov meeting nice young couple's

lov Connie "

Confused?

If they've messaged you - you can reply to anyone - filters or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sent 3 and got 3 replies. Was intresting though because I had to wait 45 mins for one reply and watching the sent box was one hell of a experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Peaks and troughs. I have a few (very few) 'friends' I actually meet and one regular for over six months. The other day, due to deleted and the more polite ones sending short 'thanks but no thanks', I was seriously contemplating jacking it all in.

But for some reason (and I've no idea why?) I started getting replies! An all time high of 5 unread!!!!! in the space of about 10 minutes. One who'd recently moved into my friends list who I messaged saying I appreciate she was getting loads of messages and I didn't want to pester her messaged straight back with: 'don't stop coz I want to have you soon'.

I'm well aware from experience some are time wasters but I assure you not all.

Just a matter of plod on and take a break for whatever reason if feel the need to. Great if the reason's more than enough meets already

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I sent a couple of messages to men in Birmingham and one wink. No response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sent a couple of messages to men in Birmingham and one wink. No response. "

Along with the ones I get from TVs I received a wink from a couple in London the other day. Strange. Maybe they were doing this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sent out 10 messages and got nothing not even a curious peek,i think i'm going to take up knitting

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I sent out 10 messages and got nothing not even a curious peek,i think i'm going to take up knitting "

Make a little hat for Innocent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sent five messages just saying hi like your profile ( not for meets ) and got replies from all .....lovely surprise

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Oh please no more. I've got a right Tardis arse this morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sent five messages just saying hi like your profile ( not for meets ) and got replies from all .....lovely surprise "

I never got one x

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By *obbo30paulMan
over a year ago

durham

I think you should always reply even if its a kind sorry your not my type

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh please no more. I've got a right Tardis arse this morning "

It still looks small even though it's got loads of things stuffed in it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sent five messages just saying hi like your profile ( not for meets ) and got replies from all .....lovely surprise

I never got one x "

Awww sorry didn't want to over do it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sent five messages just saying hi like your profile ( not for meets ) and got replies from all .....lovely surprise

I never got one x

Awww sorry didn't want to over do it lol "

Let u off lol x

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE


"hi guys

its a job to reply to some people as they set filters age / couples etc to stop us oldes posting to them..lol we lov meeting nice young couple's

lov Connie

Confused?

If they've messaged you - you can reply to anyone - filters or not!

"
yep you are right ,but if we try to message from this forum ,as in to op serendipity28 we are blocked

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"hi guys

its a job to reply to some people as they set filters age / couples etc to stop us oldes posting to them..lol we lov meeting nice young couple's

lov Connie

Confused?

If they've messaged you - you can reply to anyone - filters or not!

yep you are right ,but if we try to message from this forum ,as in to op serendipity28 we are blocked "

Then presumably she has used her filters to block people she doesn't want to meet. Just because you want to meet someone, doesn't mean they will want to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you should always reply even if its a kind sorry your not my type "

I HAD 30 messages in my inbox today, do you want to go and reply to the 20 who haven't read my profile or who aren't my type?

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Rare I send prospecting mail these days, maybe 2 or three last week, the ones I do I d guess I get a 50% reply rate to them,

Just checked I sent One on Monday to a lady,, must be something I said as,,,, user no longer on site,,, ,,, Me bad

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"hi guys

its a job to reply to some people as they set filters age / couples etc to stop us oldes posting to them..lol we lov meeting nice young couple's

lov Connie

Confused?

If they've messaged you - you can reply to anyone - filters or not!

yep you are right ,but if we try to message from this forum ,as in to op serendipity28 we are blocked "

It works both ways. There could be single men thinking the same way when they can't message you.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Can I be very lazy and not read all the above answers/posts Miss Heels??

When I make first contact I send a face pic, then I have a 50% response (the other 50% goes dead).

Out of the 50% who respond (I did fancy them right!) half want me to do illegal stuff

Out the remaining numbers a percentage just do not appeal to me. Profile appeals, pic does not! I know I am so so shallow! Guilty!

Now I'm down to 0.00005% and guess what...we have similar interests and we will meet - for a coffee.

Coffee/lunch over my 'success rate' is 100% of the 0.00005% and I might get them all into one bed! ooooh I am so bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50% reply rate? Wow, my first messages must be fucking awful. When I have sent them in the past I would say I got aroud 10%, maybe even less.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

It's a great idea, we mainly consider those that message us. Time to change tact, it will obviously mean looking through profiles and chasing our type or those that we feel the vibe looking at/reading. Wish us luck !

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"50% reply rate? Wow, my first messages must be fucking awful. When I have sent them in the past I would say I got aroud 10%, maybe even less. "

My sweet Libertine, I have absolutely no doubt that being French, Bi, female and 50 (a bird of prey) has something to do with my success rate! 10% is a better response rate and shows that although you may not always be successful, the answers are from geuine people. And you are cute

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"It's a great idea, we mainly consider those that message us. Time to change tact, it will obviously mean looking through profiles and chasing our type or those that we feel the vibe looking at/reading. Wish us luck !"

Luck and good hunting....it is great fun!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Ok, sent one wink, got one wow, one short conversation later a coffee meet was set for this morning. Overslept badly, went to ride a horse first, forgot my jeans and so had to go an hour late to a meet wearing jods, boots and spurs, hahaha! (Well, I coulda taken the spurs off but decided not too...)

Anyway, we had a drink and agreed to meet again and that's all I'm saying on here!!

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"Ok, sent one wink, got one wow, one short conversation later a coffee meet was set for this morning. Overslept badly, went to ride a horse first, forgot my jeans and so had to go an hour late to a meet wearing jods, boots and spurs, hahaha! (Well, I coulda taken the spurs off but decided not too...)

Anyway, we had a drink and agreed to meet again and that's all I'm saying on here!!

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Nice one milady....I need to take up horse riding or any kind of riding I think cos my bker's gear dont turn them on...!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Ok, sent one wink, got one wow, one short conversation later a coffee meet was set for this morning. Overslept badly, went to ride a horse first, forgot my jeans and so had to go an hour late to a meet wearing jods, boots and spurs, hahaha! (Well, I coulda taken the spurs off but decided not too...)

Anyway, we had a drink and agreed to meet again and that's all I'm saying on here!!

Nice one milady....I need to take up horse riding or any kind of riding I think cos my bker's gear dont turn them on...! "

Does it not?? Maybe you need tighter leather trousers, ha!? I actually wore a brown leather jacket too, hedged my bets!

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"Ok, sent one wink, got one wow, one short conversation later a coffee meet was set for this morning. Overslept badly, went to ride a horse first, forgot my jeans and so had to go an hour late to a meet wearing jods, boots and spurs, hahaha! (Well, I coulda taken the spurs off but decided not too...)

Anyway, we had a drink and agreed to meet again and that's all I'm saying on here!!

Nice one milady....I need to take up horse riding or any kind of riding I think cos my bker's gear dont turn them on...!

Does it not?? Maybe you need tighter leather trousers, ha!? I actually wore a brown leather jacket too, hedged my bets! "

Wicked, wicked lady!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a great idea, we mainly consider those that message us. Time to change tact, it will obviously mean looking through profiles and chasing our type or those that we feel the vibe looking at/reading. Wish us luck !"

Good luck!

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By *etsgetjiggingMan
over a year ago

norwich

Well I sent 5 got 1 response back saying maybe.

Not a bad try but it's not easy waiting for a response.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am still waiting lol

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Good luck everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck everyone "

Need more than luck, maybe a prayer or two lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck everyone "

Luck? I need a miracle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck everyone

Luck? I need a miracle "

A prayer and a miracle may just work mate lol

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over a year ago

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Good luck everyone

Luck? I need a miracle

A prayer and a miracle may just work mate lol"

No one likes a defeatist.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck everyone

Luck? I need a miracle

A prayer and a miracle may just work mate lol

No one likes a defeatist..... "

I never give up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck everyone

Luck? I need a miracle

A prayer and a miracle may just work mate lol

No one likes a defeatist..... "

Don't tempt me to do a rocky and fight back and prove myself/others wrong and that I am capable of going after what I want

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

fancy a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well Miss Heels, I thought you'd like to know I met with a frankly luscious lad with whom I've just had a rather nice time with. I might do that again one day

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Well Miss Heels, I thought you'd like to know I met with a frankly luscious lad with whom I've just had a rather nice time with. I might do that again one day "

Woohoo Job done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well Miss Heels, I thought you'd like to know I met with a frankly luscious lad with whom I've just had a rather nice time with. I might do that again one day

Woohoo Job done!"

Thanks. I've surprised myself with my own boldness lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you should always reply even if its a kind sorry your not my type "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well done OP for this thread glad to see this has mad some people give it a real go.. I have enjoyed this thread.

even better a meet was had hope there will be more peep's meeting from it soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mad = made (dam my dyslexia)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I may give it a try now from someone off this forum I haven't had a one to one chat with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Search for males/ couples (whichever you normally meet) and mail them. Then come back and let us know how it went.

"

Not read the whole thread so it might have been said..

But isn't that the entire point?..

Isn't that supposed to be a default?..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still looking !!!! Did a local search ! Most people on it had already contacted me !!! ... Its hard bloody work finding the one !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Search for males/ couples (whichever you normally meet) and mail them. Then come back and let us know how it went.

Not read the whole thread so it might have been said..

But isn't that the entire point?..

Isn't that supposed to be a default?.. "

For men yes ! most of us ladies just sit back and wait!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Search for males/ couples (whichever you normally meet) and mail them. Then come back and let us know how it went.

Not read the whole thread so it might have been said..

But isn't that the entire point?..

Isn't that supposed to be a default?..

For men yes ! most of us ladies just sit back and wait! "

The last time I mailed was fucking ages ago.

I get mail. Shocking I know for a single male right.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Whats mail ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats mail ?? "

Something that local women don't do to me

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Whats mail ??

Something that local women don't do to me "

thats 2 of us then mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time I got mail a pigeon brought it

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Last time I got mail a pigeon brought it "

better than mine they are normally off blokes whitch pretty much proves not many blokes read profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My inbox has been empty.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well Miss Heels, I thought you'd like to know I met with a frankly luscious lad with whom I've just had a rather nice time with. I might do that again one day "

x

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By *onkers 76Man
over a year ago

pontypool

Well I just sent 4 all read no replies

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