FabSwingers.com forum: Chatters vs. Forumistas

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are they two very different communities? I have only dipped my toe in the chat for a few minutes. Didn't find it was cup of tea for some reason, as well as not being able to write txt spk qkly enuf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The very thought of going into chat scares the hell out of me.

to fast and to many people and no control.

At least with this i can write at a reasonable pace .

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Chat scares me but theres lots that go from one to the other and enjoy both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been in chat a few times

the bord moves too quick for me to keep up and there are half a dozen covos going on

and nobody spoke to me

even when i said hi a few times

so i thought here is better

at least like peaches i can type at me own pace

and peeps say hi to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The very thought of going into chat scares the hell out of me.

to fast and to many people and no control.

At least with this i can write at a reasonable pace .

The sensation i had was a bit like being used to shopping in a nice town high street with lots of independent shops then finding yourself at a massive shopping centre with everyone dashing round. Crap analogy I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to chat in chatrooms a few years ago, however, much has changed since then, and I seldom venture into chatrooms anymore.

Forums suit me better nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"ive been in chat a few times

the bord moves too quick for me to keep up and there are half a dozen covos going on

and nobody spoke to me

even when i said hi a few times

so i thought here is better

at least like peaches i can type at me own pace

and peeps say hi to me

Well any excuse I get to say hi to you Beccie, I will use so... HI!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive been in chat a few times

the bord moves too quick for me to keep up and there are half a dozen covos going on

and nobody spoke to me

even when i said hi a few times

so i thought here is better

at least like peaches i can type at me own pace

and peeps say hi to me

Bloody rude people then

glad i stay on here.

and HI becs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Peaches, I doubt the chat room would have had the in-depth discussion we had regarding Michael Buble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive been in chat a few times

the bord moves too quick for me to keep up and there are half a dozen covos going on

and nobody spoke to me

even when i said hi a few times

so i thought here is better

at least like peaches i can type at me own pace

and peeps say hi to me

Bloody rude people then

glad i stay on here.

and HI becs

hi truro

hi peaches

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

i dont wanna go near chat been in there a few times and it makes me scared......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly.

as i sit listening now to

mmmmmmmm sensual

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi truro

hi peaches

Beccie it will be Hi Crewe in about three weeks, moving... just to be closer to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And me. so ner ner cuz me and becs live very close.

Oh i once stopped at crewe station...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cool truro

what ya trying to do move up to tamworth bit by bit lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"cool truro

what ya trying to do move up to tamworth bit by bit lol"

If he is he a fool. lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

herlloooooo peeps, I'm just taking a breather from scots chat room the now..... spent the last couple of hours doing a pop quiz, it is fun and it means the two mods larry n lil who initiated it included all comers in the room, seasoned swingers and newbies... we all had a hoot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And me. so ner ner cuz me and becs live very close.

Oh i once stopped at crewe station...

we do dont we peaches

ive been through crew it was very fast though i was on a train lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And me. so ner ner cuz me and becs live very close.

Oh i once stopped at crewe station...

we do dont we peaches

ive been through crew it was very fast though i was on a train lol"

Best way really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"herlloooooo peeps, I'm just taking a breather from scots chat room the now..... spent the last couple of hours doing a pop quiz, it is fun and it means the two mods larry n lil who initiated it included all comers in the room, seasoned swingers and newbies... we all had a hoot!

Helloooooooo laine.

sounds fun but i still aint gonna try it.

scarey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And me. so ner ner cuz me and becs live very close.

Oh i once stopped at crewe station...

we do dont we peaches

ive been through crew it was very fast though i was on a train lol

Best way really

i blinked and i missed it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Helloooooooo laine.

sounds fun but i still aint gonna try it.

scarey

hi laine xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

even better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im heading off to the kitchen to make a pot of tea and some toasted hot cross buns

hands up who wonts some lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooooooo will have a bun and have ya got any green tea ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes i have green tea peppermint tea and every kind of fruit tea you can think of

daughter no 1 drinks it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooooooo peppermint please . and lots of butter on me bun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"im heading off to the kitchen to make a pot of tea and some toasted hot cross buns

hands up who wonts some lol"

yes I would like your hot buns... with something warm and wet to go with them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sounds good Laine but when I peeped in it was 36 conversations at once, mostly of the "show us yer tits" variety - although that was the directing room of course.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"cool truro

what ya trying to do move up to tamworth bit by bit lol"

Bollox, I just noticed you are not meeting anyone anyway. Better cancel the house sale. Peaches and you will both be so near yet so far...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol....

that is a very diplomatic response .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"cool truro

what ya trying to do move up to tamworth bit by bit lol

Bollox, I just noticed you are not meeting anyone anyway. Better cancel the house sale. Peaches and you will both be so near yet so far..."

dont cry sweetie

when you have your house warming i will be there

to warm you house and anything i can think of that you might need warming

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i dont go in the chat rooms as they are too fast for me

i have trouble keeping up with a lively thread lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"cool truro

what ya trying to do move up to tamworth bit by bit lol

Bollox, I just noticed you are not meeting anyone anyway. Better cancel the house sale. Peaches and you will both be so near yet so far...

dont cry sweetie

when you have your house warming i will be there

to warm you house and anything i can think of that you might need warming

Oh goodie, cos I will be renting at first (one housewarming) then will be buying (another housewarming)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds good Laine but when I peeped in it was 36 conversations at once, mostly of the "show us yer tits" variety - although that was the directing room of course."

Ohhh I don't do directing room, they all far too naughty in there

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

why dont you all try the new chat rooms far more civilised and slower

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

it takes us 20 minutes, to type a 2 line reply in the forums.chat would totally lose us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why dont you all try the new chat rooms far more civilised and slower

ahhh like us forumites then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why dont you all try the new chat rooms far more civilised and slower

I'm in there right now, after reading your post, I thought I would try.

I even got a hi back after saying hello.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think as laine has said... in the scottish rooms and the scottish chatrooms I don't think there is a us vs them attitude at all.... which is so nice to see, especially when it then comes to going to socials....

that why I spend a lot of my time there...

I know... a fan of all things scottish!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why dont you all try the new chat rooms far more civilised and slower

I'm in there right now, after reading your post, I thought I would try.

I even got a hi back after saying hello.

well arnt you the lucky one loony lol

its more than i get when im in there

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"And me. so ner ner cuz me and becs live very close.

Oh i once stopped at crewe station...

we do dont we peaches

ive been through crew it was very fast though i was on a train lol"

You went through the whole train crew, good girl!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are they two very different communities? I have only dipped my toe in the chat for a few minutes. Didn't find it was cup of tea for some reason, as well as not being able to write txt spk qkly enuf "

We like both but chat is too fast for me and Lou can type faster in there but you should try chat if you havent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why dont you all try the new chat rooms far more civilised and slower

I'm in there right now, after reading your post, I thought I would try.

I even got a hi back after saying hello.

well arnt you the lucky one loony lol

its more than i get when im in there

In the new chat room? it seemed ok to me in there, a bit quiet being so early, but there was some trying to start a conversation up, and with anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

might try the new chat room se what its like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"might try the new chat room se what its like"

I'll join you, you first though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not tried chat yet. I am guessing everyone knows everyone in there though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have not tried chat yet. I am guessing everyone knows everyone in there though."

Get in then, I'm on my own here, I need cover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have not tried chat yet. I am guessing everyone knows everyone in there though.

Get in then, I'm on my own here, I need cover.

I will have a try once i have d*unk my coffee lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm being ignored now.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I'm being ignored now.

what room are you in? i was in genral chat on the new one and there was only 3 people there about 10 mins ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm being ignored now.

what room are you in? i was in genral chat on the new one and there was only 3 people there about 10 mins ago"

Directing room, in new chat, was only a couple in general chat, so I moved on, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat rooms scare the hell out of me too.

And I'm a fookin' moderator

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Helloooooooo laine.

sounds fun but i still aint gonna try it.

scarey

hi laine xxxxx"

Hi there

sorry I never got back to you last night, chat was fun then I dozed off after the quizzes

They exhausted me.... I couldn't type fast enough to be in the major points league but my fingers were flying over the keys...... great as I'm trying not to smoke (2 weeks now peaches!)

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I went in the the scotland room once when they had thei quiz night,could'nt understand a word they were saying

so ran away then got a message from someone saying OI you I just said hello in there and you ignored me

I did'nt even see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you need to take your own personal interpreter with you next time Honey

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went in the the scotland room once when they had thei quiz night,could'nt understand a word they were saying

so ran away then got a message from someone saying OI you I just said hello in there and you ignored me

I did'nt even see it

It was probably just the Jezza Kyle audience researcher - apparently it happens a lot in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went in the the scotland room once when they had thei quiz night,could'nt understand a word they were saying

so ran away then got a message from someone saying OI you I just said hello in there and you ignored me

I did'nt even see it

It was probably just the Jezza Kyle audience researcher - apparently it happens a lot in there

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"you need to take your own personal interpreter with you next time Honey

xxxx"

Can I lurk until I learn the lingo

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you need to take your own personal interpreter with you next time Honey

xxxx

Can I lurk until I learn the lingo

xxxx"

I'll sit in the quiet corner and hold your hand... we do out knitting there and drink cocoa

xxx

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over a year ago

"you need to take your own personal interpreter with you next time Honey

xxxx

Can I lurk until I learn the lingo

xxxx

I'll sit in the quiet corner and hold your hand... we do out knitting there and drink cocoa

xxx"

If you're holding my hand I won't want to be drinkning cocoa and knitting

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you need to take your own personal interpreter with you next time Honey

xxxx

Can I lurk until I learn the lingo

xxxx

I'll sit in the quiet corner and hold your hand... we do out knitting there and drink cocoa

xxx

If you're holding my hand I won't want to be drinkning cocoa and knitting

xxx"

shhhhhhhh that's what we tell the rest we do in the quiet corner..... we'd be sent to the naughty corner otherwise

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By *Y MAN n MECouple
over a year ago

FIFE

majority of comments are exactly what i think... 2 fast, getting ignored knocks one's confidence, and hard to follow just one coversation.... everyone says hi to everyone else but then i'm totally out of my depth...give me the forum anyday, can choose the pace and can read back what you missed... sorry chatters but we all can't be wrong can we???

happy chatting XX Heather

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Likewise forumites, many prefer chat so they can't all be wrong either. I'm happy to have a foot in each camp. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found it ok, a few things I said went unnoticed, or ignored, but I guess that's because those in chat at the time are more familiar with one another than they are me, a bit like the forums if we're honest, it can take a good few posts until one starts to get a response.

I found it ok to be honest, I did get some response, even when I popped in a little of my humour.

Secret is, when in chat, don't be a shrinking violet (or whatever the term), get involved where you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are correct Mr Loon.

As in many aspects of life, people are initially polite... Hi hello etc. then back away again to allow the real you to come forward, whether in the chatrooms, the forums, trains, queues etc. And come forward you must at your own pace, it has been likened to going to your local pub or shops... initial politeness followed by genuine wishes to get to know you leading to friendships formed, irrespective of where you are such is the way of it all.

If you are a wall flower you will be overlooked and outshone by those more flamboyant but don't let that put you off..... persistence in forums and chat pays off.

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

We use a another site for the chat - as we are new to this one and new software takes some getting used to

But our take on it... forums and chat brings in traffic to your profile

However we end up thinking of chat "friends" as vanilla and don't think about them in a swinging way

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