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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

What happened to children being given a handful of prezzies or just one main one? Listening to work colleagues speaking about what they're getting their kids it seems that many of their children will be overwhelmed with gifts just from their parents. Either that or they will buy them some really expensive piece of tech.

Do we go overboard with kids these days?

Are we in danger of producing a generation of wannahaves with an over-developed sense of entitlement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we do.

We are very strict with this. When our son got enough presents to fill the front room on Xmas day on his second birthday we have told everyone every year since that it was one main present and maybe a little something else as well if they insisted. And that is it. He gets a small stocking and two presents from us. One main one and something else he wants. That's it.

We also make him sort his toys after Birthdays and Xmas and take the little used ones down to the charity shop "For other boys and Girls who haven't got as much"

Probably lots won't agree with us but we think it is important.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

i think it is ludicrous personally ..for something that is meant to be a religeous celebration ..im personally not religeous ...i opted out about 15 years ago. it seems to me that there is copious amounts of pressure put on people to overspend and end up in crazy amounts of debt ...im out ...i dont even send christmas cards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes we do.

We are very strict with this. When our son got enough presents to fill the front room on Xmas day on his second birthday we have told everyone every year since that it was one main present and maybe a little something else as well if they insisted. And that is it. He gets a small stocking and two presents from us. One main one and something else he wants. That's it.

We also make him sort his toys after Birthdays and Xmas and take the little used ones down to the charity shop "For other boys and Girls who haven't got as much"

Probably lots won't agree with us but we think it is important. "

I do that too. The kids will get a main present and a few bits.

I have a friend and her kids write a christmas wish list. She buys EVERYTHING on it. Then she complains how badly in debt she is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely yes and most get caught up in the hype. Christmas is far too commercial these days and some families are put under too much pressure,for what amounts to just one day of spending madness.

Some families get themselves into so much debt they take a fair chunk of the next year, to financially recover from it.

I love Christmas time and I'm guilty of spending far too much on the children in my life. I'm lucky and can afford to do so but I sympathise greatly with families who struggle at this time of year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i saw a friends status on facebook that she went into Toys R Us and came out £550 poorer..

Ive never been in debt and will only spend what i have in the bank, if ive ever wanted something for my child i have worked hard and saved for it. I am proud that actually i am good with money.

Once xmas and her birthday are over at least i know i will not be suffering financially afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I buy 1 big one, then 1 or 2 smaller - that's it!

Partly because 2 months later its time for birthday presents which is 1 main and 1 smaller present

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I allow my children into the yard for one hour on Christmas morning, they can pick two pebbles each, one large one small then its back under the stairs they go until Chimney cleaning season starts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I buy 1 big one, then 1 or 2 smaller - that's it!

Partly because 2 months later its time for birthday presents which is 1 main and 1 smaller present"

ah thats interesting,, i see birthdays as more significant occasions than crimbo.

*wonders off to start thread*

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By *ightkitty4uWoman
over a year ago

Epsom

There's an interesting article on this very subject on the BBC news pages...

As a child I never got what I put on my wish list I have friends who go stupid and are already complaining about how much they are having to spend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's an interesting article on this very subject on the BBC news pages...

As a child I never got what I put on my wish list I have friends who go stupid and are already complaining about how much they are having to spend"

Me neither, but i'm finally getting what I put on my wishlist - my tattoo is getting started Friday morning then being completed just before christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I child I only got one present a year - was always happy with that - even if it was an action man each year

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I allow my children into the yard for one hour on Christmas morning, they can pick two pebbles each, one large one small then its back under the stairs they go until Chimney cleaning season starts "

quite right too, no point in spoiling them

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I don't think I go overboard at Christmas, I do have the 'fill the sofa' mindset but some are expensive gifts and some are inexpensive but thoughtful gifts. I remember the magic of coming down the stairs and seeing all the wrappings, I want our children to be able to remember that also. My daughter is hard working, polite and she deserves a proper spoiling once a year, although we save for this, don't get ourselves into debt and probably have as much if not more pleasure from it than the kids x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I go overboard at Christmas, I do have the 'fill the sofa' mindset but some are expensive gifts and some are inexpensive but thoughtful gifts. I remember the magic of coming down the stairs and seeing all the wrappings, I want our children to be able to remember that also. My daughter is hard working, polite and she deserves a proper spoiling once a year, although we save for this, don't get ourselves into debt and probably have as much if not more pleasure from it than the kids x"

Completely agree, our issue is that with all the presents from friends, relatives, godparents etc even if He gets 1 from each he will still have over 25 presents to open. Take it to two then it is over 50 - Which is a bit extreme for 1 child IMHO.

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd


"I don't think I go overboard at Christmas, I do have the 'fill the sofa' mindset but some are expensive gifts and some are inexpensive but thoughtful gifts. I remember the magic of coming down the stairs and seeing all the wrappings, I want our children to be able to remember that also. My daughter is hard working, polite and she deserves a proper spoiling once a year, although we save for this, don't get ourselves into debt and probably have as much if not more pleasure from it than the kids x

Completely agree, our issue is that with all the presents from friends, relatives, godparents etc even if He gets 1 from each he will still have over 25 presents to open. Take it to two then it is over 50 - Which is a bit extreme for 1 child IMHO.

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Yes agree with that, we have a very small family so wouldn't end up with anywhere near that amount. And I won't be buying crazy priced gifts like iPads etc so it's ok to get quite a few

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I don't do Xmas at all but happily gave nieces and nephews premium bonds on their birthday until they were 16.

No big wins so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What happened to children being given a handful of prezzies or just one main one? Listening to work colleagues speaking about what they're getting their kids it seems that many of their children will be overwhelmed with gifts just from their parents. Either that or they will buy them some really expensive piece of tech.

Do we go overboard with kids these days?

Are we in danger of producing a generation of wannahaves with an over-developed sense of entitlement? "

I thought the sales in previous years had dropped with there being less money about? If people are getting back to having more disposable earnings its probably not a bad thing if it gets the economy going. If they are borrowing to do it then its a bit of a worry.

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