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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Within the "care" industry, your constantly being reminded that your not to be "over friendly"/ familiar with the clients.

I worked within this field and found it very difficult not to be "friendly" with my clients.

I knew over time who you had to be proper with and those who welcomed that closeness that a "hello my darling"

would bring a lovely smile.

An arm around their shoulder that showed them you cared , a touch of another human being that they didnt have at home.

Now my question to all those who have people being cared for is this....

Do you want that friendly carer or that carer who uses mr or mrs and shows no emotion whatsoever ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like friendly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a carer is efficient, that's all that matters, they come in, do the job, politely, and leave, I suppose each case is different, but some carers become over familiar, and this is not a good thing, respect and care with a smile is always welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I needed a carer I would prefer a friendly one any day. Who wants a non smiling sour puss

Isn't the whole idea of being a carer is that you 'care' for the person your caring for ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a touch of humanity is called for. I also think that it's a common sense approach. You'll know who you can and can't be friendly (in varying degrees) to. Just tailor your approach accordingly. Would you get sacked as a carer for caring?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like they know what is best over friendly. there only scared of people making complains about it. I have found that a lot of nurse and care staff have gone too far the other way and so are no rude.

Also remember some people will complain no matter what you do, just to complain.

Me i happy with someone that show care every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know some people that works as carers and after listening to some of the storys of what they go through, makes me wonder how can you be friendly when you're treated like shit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only way I know of doing any form of caring is to be me!!! and CARE

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"only way I know of doing any form of caring is to be me!!! and CARE "

this

They tried to change me but failed miserably.

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By *ingjayMan
over a year ago

exeter

I used to go to elderly peoples houses with me daughter, I used to help em out in their gardens and general jobs ect whilst me 4 yr old kept them company, the Carer that came round could only work with them for 3 months which is quite sad, sadly one got put in a home and 2 died

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me care is more than making sure someone is fed and their bum is clean, care also should cover peoples emotional needs. some people lay in bed all day and the only people they see are those who come into their room/home, a little bit of kindness and conversation is wanted by many people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I needed a carer I would prefer a friendly one any day. Who wants a non smiling sour puss

Isn't the whole idea of being a carer is that you 'care' for the person your caring for ? "

I'm a non smiling sour puss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do community nursing and sometimes I find it really hard to distance myself from some situations, I have on many occasions gone out in my own time with my own money and bought people milk, bread etc when they have none, which im really not supposed to do but im a person not a machine and I cant walk away and see a ill or elderly person without food or a pint of milk for a cuppa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do community nursing and sometimes I find it really hard to distance myself from some situations, I have on many occasions gone out in my own time with my own money and bought people milk, bread etc when they have none, which im really not supposed to do but im a person not a machine and I cant walk away and see a ill or elderly person without food or a pink of mile for a cuppa "

U should be nominated for, The. Pride. of. Britain. awards? LMAO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do community nursing and sometimes I find it really hard to distance myself from some situations, I have on many occasions gone out in my own time with my own money and bought people milk, bread etc when they have none, which im really not supposed to do but im a person not a machine and I cant walk away and see a ill or elderly person without food or a pink of mile for a cuppa

U should be nominated for, The. Pride.

of. Britain. awards? LMAO. "

ok don't over do it its only a pint of milk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do community nursing and sometimes I find it really hard to distance myself from some situations, I have on many occasions gone out in my own time with my own money and bought people milk, bread etc when they have none, which im really not supposed to do but im a person not a machine and I cant walk away and see a ill or elderly person without food or a pink of mile for a cuppa

U should be nominated for, The. Pride.

of. Britain. awards? LMAO.

ok don't over do it its only a pint of milk "

That's my point. No-1 gives a " flying f**k " about no-1 these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like most things I suppose you have to find a happy medium, have a few friends who work in caring and some of the clients are miserable as sin whilst others are lovely people to be around.

It doesn't take much to realise which ones do the majority of the complaining, if you value the job of caring then you have to remain impartial and professional with the complainers so as to give them the minimum to moan about.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"Within the "care" industry, your constantly being reminded that your not to be "over friendly"/ familiar with the clients.

I worked within this field and found it very difficult not to be "friendly" with my clients.

I knew over time who you had to be proper with and those who welcomed that closeness that a "hello my darling"

would bring a lovely smile.

An arm around their shoulder that showed them you cared , a touch of another human being that they didnt have at home.

Now my question to all those who have people being cared for is this....

Do you want that friendly carer or that carer who uses mr or mrs and shows no emotion whatsoever ????? "

if your friendly ... You can care for me any day all day ,

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By *hinosMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

No point been friendly on here. No one else is. So whats the point. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friendly 100% for me

I have only ever been a carer for my daughter, but i do mix with lots of others who care for the elderly etc and they are all friendly too !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do community nursing and sometimes I find it really hard to distance myself from some situations, I have on many occasions gone out in my own time with my own money and bought people milk, bread etc when they have none, which im really not supposed to do but im a person not a machine and I cant walk away and see a ill or elderly person without food or a pint of milk for a cuppa "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No point been friendly on here. No one else is. So whats the point. X "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No point been friendly on here. No one else is. So whats the point. X "

Now thats where i would have to disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be friendly without being tactile. A smile, a look or a friendly word can make all the difference. I think as soon as you start hugging clients, a professional boundary has been crossed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You can be friendly without being tactile. A smile, a look or a friendly word can make all the difference. I think as soon as you start hugging clients, a professional boundary has been crossed."

I not saying "bearhug" the clients...but an arm across the shoulder etc...dependant on the client....in my eyes is ok.

and i was always "professional" in my work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slightly different but as a childcare professional I couldn't do my job without giving the children cuddles....but you do hear of nurseries where they aren't allowed to. How do you explain to a 3 year old that has fallen over and is crying, or just missing mum and dad that you can't give them a cuddle?Common sense seems to have been lost somewhere and replaced with covering arses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in answer to your question I guess it's getting the balance right. You can be friendly and smiley and still be professional.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well

i would like to thank the writer of the message i got saying many things but among them.....

They wonder if those people would want me to care for them, knowing im on a site like this with my bits out

Im saying nowt.........

im too dumbfounded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

forget what ever that sad person messaged you about been on this site and how the people who you are caring would view you ...

they know you as the caring person you are and that all that matters ....your private life is just that private xx

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I always wanted my gran to be called what she wished to be called, it was her choice, no one elses. Over familiarity without prior permission can be deemed as stepping over professional boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can be friendly without being tactile. A smile, a look or a friendly word can make all the difference. I think as soon as you start hugging clients, a professional boundary has been crossed."

it also depends who the clients are

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"You can be friendly without being tactile. A smile, a look or a friendly word can make all the difference. I think as soon as you start hugging clients, a professional boundary has been crossed.

it also depends who the clients are "
Of course, I thought that would be self explanatory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been friendly and ive also been the serious strictly 'im there to do a job lets crack on n do it' type

its about accessing what that individual wants, some would rather not be all chummy n mate like with someone who will help clean you after the toilet etc.. i find the younger male to be more embarrassed about those things. They'd be respectful and nice to me, but its clear there is a line and i wouldn't dream of making them uncomfortable.

The ladies are more accepting of chit chat, occasional hug and letting the barrier down between carer and client

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slightly different but as a childcare professional I couldn't do my job without giving the children cuddles....but you do hear of nurseries where they aren't allowed to. How do you explain to a 3 year old that has fallen over and is crying, or just missing mum and dad that you can't give them a cuddle?Common sense seems to have been lost somewhere and replaced with covering arses. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always wanted my gran to be called what she wished to be called, it was her choice, no one elses. Over familiarity without prior permission can be deemed as stepping over professional boundaries."

Exactly....

I always always always ask what they wanted to be known as, mrs...miss etc or their christian name ,....always their choice .

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

A good few years back I worked as a carer, there was a 99 year old lady I cared for, very advanced dementia, and really didnt know where or who she was anymore, I was youngish and have always looked young so probably appeared to be a little girl to her and she always tried to hug me, hold my hand or play with my hair, I was torn, professionally it wasn't acceptable but, she had no family or visitors, was that little bit of comfort for her so wrong?

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