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Should photo-verification be compulsory?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've been on this site for a while and have met many great people both single and couples. But we have also come across lots of fakes. Amazing how many women are suddenly busy when the female half wants to chat on phone to prove they're genuine lol. I know its not a perfect system but photo verification at least proves you are a couple, not a single male faking it. What do you guys and gals think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never even look to be honest, about as much use as a cam one....we've never felt the need to do it ourselves and if people don't trust our verifications by meeting because we haven't held up a piece of paper so be it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. We're not photo verified and no intention of ever doing so. To be honest I wouldn't want to meet someone who can't tell that we are genuine without being photo verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally don't take any notice,but I will say that sometimes im not available to talk on the phone when its ok for other people to do so,does'nt mean anything really,Ill chat when im ready and comfortable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We never even look to be honest, about as much use as a cam one....we've never felt the need to do it ourselves and if people don't trust our verifications by meeting because we haven't held up a piece of paper so be it..."

You've been verified by others which is just the same really, its just confirming that you are who you say you are which is great. If a profile has one or the other or both we're more likely to trust those people. It's when you get couples profiles that have been online for over a year, with no verifications of either type trying to become friends, you just start to think they're just there to perv your photos lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no it shouldn't be compulsory, but its worth doing I think. When I first joined and had no veris, I think it was important I was photo verified. I prefer to see meet verifications on peoples profiles though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The difficulty is the majority do not make this aspect of their lives public and if you are new to the site placing your identity in the hands of a strangers (i.e. the site owners) is a big ask and big no go I suspect.

Just so as to be clear, we all know the site owners are responsible people but that's only from being on the site and gaining such experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Its just too easy to fake photos

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

never been photo verified ..dont consider it that important really

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there

This kind of thread always gets this kind of response, usually from couples which have been on the site for years and have loads of meet veri's. This doesn't really apply to you! No one doubts you are real.

This is about new profiles with no veri's, be it meet, cam or whatever.

I'm not sure whether compulsory photo veri's are the answer to stopping fake profiles but I do think that maybe new profiles should have some restrictions until they are verified one way or the other. Like not being able to initiate conversations, that would help reduce the spam messages and harassment that single fems and couples get from new single male profiles.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"This kind of thread always gets this kind of response, usually from couples which have been on the site for years and have loads of meet veri's. This doesn't really apply to you! No one doubts you are real.

This is about new profiles with no veri's, be it meet, cam or whatever.

I'm not sure whether compulsory photo veri's are the answer to stopping fake profiles but I do think that maybe new profiles should have some restrictions until they are verified one way or the other. Like not being able to initiate conversations, that would help reduce the spam messages and harassment that single fems and couples get from new single male profiles. "

How would a guy being photo verified stop him from spamming and harassing me?

I have blocked new profiles. People can also block non-verified profiles. Much simpler.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)


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The difficulty is the majority do not make this aspect of their lives public and if you are new to the site placing your identity in the hands of a strangers (i.e. the site owners) is a big ask and big no go I suspect.

Just so as to be clear, we all know the site owners are responsible people but that's only from being on the site and gaining such experience"

I never got photo verified for this very reason. Now I have meet veries I see no point as they are in my opinion better.

I would never meet anyone on this site for several months with none at all as that screams fake or a reason there are no meet veries and I don't want to know the reason

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

No, I think everyone should have a choice.

Using mail filters mean you will probably never have to speak to unverified people.

http://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there


"This kind of thread always gets this kind of response, usually from couples which have been on the site for years and have loads of meet veri's. This doesn't really apply to you! No one doubts you are real.

This is about new profiles with no veri's, be it meet, cam or whatever.

I'm not sure whether compulsory photo veri's are the answer to stopping fake profiles but I do think that maybe new profiles should have some restrictions until they are verified one way or the other. Like not being able to initiate conversations, that would help reduce the spam messages and harassment that single fems and couples get from new single male profiles.

How would a guy being photo verified stop him from spamming and harassing me?

I have blocked new profiles. People can also block non-verified profiles. Much simpler."

It wouldn't necessarily but it would remove the anonymity aspect of it. Also, if they weren't allowed to initiate conversations then you wouldn't get any messages from them unless you sent one first, so it would act just like your newbie filter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe as a twist to this then is, if a person hasn't any meet veri's after set amount of months, should they then get photo verified?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"This kind of thread always gets this kind of response, usually from couples which have been on the site for years and have loads of meet veri's. This doesn't really apply to you! No one doubts you are real.

This is about new profiles with no veri's, be it meet, cam or whatever.

I'm not sure whether compulsory photo veri's are the answer to stopping fake profiles but I do think that maybe new profiles should have some restrictions until they are verified one way or the other. Like not being able to initiate conversations, that would help reduce the spam messages and harassment that single fems and couples get from new single male profiles.

How would a guy being photo verified stop him from spamming and harassing me?

I have blocked new profiles. People can also block non-verified profiles. Much simpler.

It wouldn't necessarily but it would remove the anonymity aspect of it. Also, if they weren't allowed to initiate conversations then you wouldn't get any messages from them unless you sent one first, so it would act just like your newbie filter. "

But people can choose not to show their photo verification, so I still wouldn't know if its 'them'. They could get any old geezer off the street to hold their piece of card.

To be honest, I tend to only meet men who have sent me a face pic and a decent message. My own filters come into play with other messages, and I trust that more than a green flag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe as a twist to this then is, if a person hasn't any meet veri's after set amount of months, should they then get photo verified? "

why, whats the issue, if they aren't verified don't reply to them ....just like any other preference that you may have.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Maybe as a twist to this then is, if a person hasn't any meet veri's after set amount of months, should they then get photo verified? "

How about people get to do their own thing, within the rules, and if their thing isn't someone else's thing- they walk on by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it should be compulsory, but it something I think is beneficial if you're struggling to get that first meet. My FB and I are considering it on our couples profile because it benefited him on his single profile when he started out, but it's not something I ever got round to on my profile and after a few meet veri's it didn't seem worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look for it but don't pay much attention as it is a few recent meets by veri we look for.

A photo only veri wouldn't get a reply of interest from us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been on this site for a while and have met many great people both single and couples. But we have also come across lots of fakes. Amazing how many women are suddenly busy when the female half wants to chat on phone to prove they're genuine lol. I know its not a perfect system but photo verification at least proves you are a couple, not a single male faking it. What do you guys and gals think? "

Nope

cuz i cant be bothered to do mine....and if anyone wants to fake my tits.....can they please make them very very perky

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there


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But people can choose not to show their photo verification, so I still wouldn't know if its 'them'. They could get any old geezer off the street to hold their piece of card.

To be honest, I tend to only meet men who have sent me a face pic and a decent message. My own filters come into play with other messages, and I trust that more than a green flag."

You're right, most people don't show it. In fact, on the mobile site I can't even find the option to show mine. I mostly meant that the site would then have a record so if the same person kept trying to set up new accounts they could easily be discovered. As for asking a stranger to hold up a card saying "FabSwingers, some username and a date" I'm not sure how many people would resort to that, I think Photoshop would be the first port of call.

I think anything to try and make it more difficult for fakes to set up a profile in the first place is a good idea, rather than trying to deal with them once they are already on here.

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

In all fairness if you have exchanged messages with someone and then meet for a social with the couple what difference does a piece of paper make?

We met a lovely couple with no verifications, if we took the attitude that they weren't verified so we wont meet them then we would have missed a good night.

We did speak to both parties on the phone and then had a local meet to ascertain genuine. Then we met at their home for a play date.

We all start with nothing, someone has to give them a chance

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I think anything to try and make it more difficult for fakes to set up a profile in the first place is a good idea, rather than trying to deal with them once they are already on here. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In all fairness if you have exchanged messages with someone and then meet for a social with the couple what difference does a piece of paper make?

We met a lovely couple with no verifications, if we took the attitude that they weren't verified so we wont meet them then we would have missed a good night.

We did speak to both parties on the phone and then had a local meet to ascertain genuine. Then we met at their home for a play date.

We all start with nothing, someone has to give them a chance "

I totally agree, we ourselves have meet several "newbies" both with and without verifications and had fantastic times, but we have chatted on the phone before meeting like yourself. It's when you get the fakes saying the wife is to busy to chat etc etc, just wastes peoples time and effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never heard so much bollicks, what does having photo verified prove, it certainly does not prove your genuine, as some said you can always fake a pick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never heard so much bollicks, what does having photo verified prove, it certainly does not prove your genuine, as some said you can always fake a pick"

Pic even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't really see how being photo verified proves your real!

And to be honest I can actually day I haven't even noticed if the people we have met have been pic veried!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a good start for sure.

Theirs always the chat rooms to help get a webcam versification also.

From there I guess a versification in person on a meet is idea if lucky enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% yes just for the fact it would piss a lot off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't pay any attention to the pic veri tick. I would never get pic verified anyway.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

No. I don't think it should be compulsory.

I do think some restrictions on new profiles until veri's are on, is a good idea though. Newbies cant post on the forums for a week so other restrictions shouldn't be too hard to implement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"100% yes just for the fact it would piss a lot off "

And at the same time send all the genuine one, Who don't want to be photo verified moving to other sites

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

No....

We have never been photo verified and have no intention of doing so.

It's not something that we take any notice of on others profiles either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No....

We have never been photo verified and have no intention of doing so.

It's not something that we take any notice of on others profiles either."

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No

I am but if I did it all again, I wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes to many Time wasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No the site is about fun, not reality, life is hard enough without lists of rules and regulations,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anything on here should be compulsory, it should be upto you if you want to have verifications, show them or put pic's up, not everyone wants to have pics on here and surely by making pic verification compulsory your forcing people to show pic's

If you don't get a good feel for someone just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just so as to be clear, we all know the site owners are responsible people but that's only from being on the site and gaining such experience"

How do we know that? There's no info about who they are or how they handle data.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't get a good feel for someone just move on"

it's not difficult is it?

Too many people think that photo verification is the answer without looking at their own shortcomings in their selection criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes to many Time wasters. "

I feel it would get rid of a few of them!

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands


"Yes to many Time wasters.

I feel it would get rid of a few of them!"

Anyone determined to 'waste time' will do the required to be able to.

So if that means holding a piece of paper for a full length nude shot, they will.

What will the next suggestion be, once it is established 'time wasters' get photo verified?

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Nope - can't see what it adds, to be honest. Have no intention of photo verifying ourselves and pay no credence to it on anyone else's profile. We have 'met in person' veris - that's proof enough for anyone we're real. Photo veris are about as worthwhile as cam veris in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes to many Time wasters.

I feel it would get rid of a few of them!

Anyone determined to 'waste time' will do the required to be able to.

So if that means holding a piece of paper for a full length nude shot, they will.

What will the next suggestion be, once it is established 'time wasters' get photo verified? "

I think it would stop a few of them setting up a profile in the first place!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt a bit daft doing it to be honest so for that reason alone would say no. Fakes are devious people and will find a way around most things also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No the site is about fun, not reality, life is hard enough without lists of rules and regulations,"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm we are not photo verified, we are meet verified as I remember we couldn't post on the forums without being verified, and we have set filters to stop unverified people contacting us (which anyone can do).

reason we are not photo verified is we feel it's not valid, give me any picture of any couple and 30 seconds in photoshop and I can make the required picture, give me 60 seconds and the picture could have been taken on our last trip to the moon, mars or anywhere else we can grab a pic of from the net.

Best advice to all and any new comers is get to a social, or club find other fab members and get them to verify you as real people. Apparently even that is not hack proof but it is still the best method.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm we are not photo verified, we are meet verified as I remember we couldn't post on the forums without being verified, and we have set filters to stop unverified people contacting us (which anyone can do).

reason we are not photo verified is we feel it's not valid, give me any picture of any couple and 30 seconds in photoshop and I can make the required picture, give me 60 seconds and the picture could have been taken on our last trip to the moon, mars or anywhere else we can grab a pic of from the net.

Best advice to all and any new comers is get to a social, or club find other fab members and get them to verify you as real people. Apparently even that is not hack proof but it is still the best method."

prob the best answer, give thsi lady a cracker jack pencil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm we are not photo verified, we are meet verified as I remember we couldn't post on the forums without being verified, and we have set filters to stop unverified people contacting us (which anyone can do).

reason we are not photo verified is we feel it's not valid, give me any picture of any couple and 30 seconds in photoshop and I can make the required picture, give me 60 seconds and the picture could have been taken on our last trip to the moon, mars or anywhere else we can grab a pic of from the net.

Best advice to all and any new comers is get to a social, or club find other fab members and get them to verify you as real people. Apparently even that is not hack proof but it is still the best method."

True suppose there is nothing to stop fakes from giving each other verifications!!

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