FabSwingers.com forum: Bi sexual

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How did you discover you were bi sexual? Did you always fancy both sexes or did you find out during the heat of the moment?

I call myself straight but get many men asking if I would ever be Bi. I don't generally fancy women but can appreciate a nice pair of boobs and have started thinking that in the heat of the moment I may play with a lady if it felt right.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I was totally straight until I moved to Brighton. Happened by accident really, in a 3sum and he licked my cock and then the situation arose where his cock was right in my face and it seemed rude not to, so I did. I was very freaked out by the whole thing but went back for more and second time it wasn't so bad and third time I quite liked it.

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By *antoplay1976Couple
over a year ago

Chico

For me, I have always appreciated women. But it took the right one for me to explore it further. I have a girlfriend for the first time in my life. It has more to do with her as a person and the connection that we felt. I'm still not sure I would call my self Bi sexual. I am attracted to this particular person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm struggling with my bi side as I see myself as straight but occasionally I feel like a lesbian?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always known ...I grew up with it so i didn't have a massive moment when it dawned on me.

Im just a woman that loves men and women .... Im just me

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I knew when I was 16 never acted on it until I was 30....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still exploring and figuring out (and very much enjoying doing so!), but think for me, I have always seen attractive qualities in women and had had celeb girl crushes but never thought any more of it. Then I started going to clubs with a previous fb and seeing women playing (with either men or women) was a turn on and after toying with the idea for a while I decided to try it and see how it felt. I made sure she was fully aware that I had never been with a woman before and wasn't sure how I'd react and she was really cool about it...didn't push at all and we played a little with each other, with the main focus being the partner swap to keep the pressure off. I met the same couple again on my own when my fb and I parted ways and explored a little more and now I know I am at the very least bi-playful, and loving it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was a footballer at 19 and was sent to see a massuer/physio with tight hamstrings. he had me in just shorts and t hsirt while he massages my legs and thighes, as his hands got higher, he was touching my undies and gently feeling my balls. i was shocked to find myself getting erect ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'm bi.... I enjoy it in the moment but have no interest at all in playing just with a woman... to be honest it's more an extension of my exhibitionist side... I don't really get turned on by the woman.. but do the situation ... however I do enjoy pleasuring the lady.

So I guess I've always been like I am... but I still get very embarrassed if my girl on girl play is mentioned xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew when I was 16 never acted on it until I was 30....

That's similar to me. I think I was a bit younger 14/15 but never got to play till I was around 30 too. Waiting was torture. My first husband did not understand my sexuality and would not entertain talking about it much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Found out when I a teen, had a few naughty fumblings with a girl.. Friend, and its just grown from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always was for as long as I can remember, looking back. Didn't realise until I was 21. Think I was in denial.

I've had relationships with both men and women. I'm actually pansexual but only realised that was a 'thing' recently. Thought it was just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always was for as long as I can remember, looking back. Didn't realise until I was 21. Think I was in denial.

I've had relationships with both men and women. I'm actually pansexual but only realised that was a 'thing' recently. Thought it was just me. "

Its not just you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets just say it was kind of forced on me being the type of kid that got bullied and being in an all boys boarding school......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lets just say it was kind of forced on me being the type of kid that got bullied and being in an all boys boarding school......"

do you want to expand/

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess I have always assumed I am straight, I have in the past had some very erotic dreams about women and the idea of touching a woman has never really turned me off or on.

It has only been since pushing my boundaries on her that the thought of it happening in sponatious circumstances would be interesting.

Not sure I could set out to 'plan it' though.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

always known, but would describe myself now as Pansexual

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I'm Peter Pansexual. If ya names Wendy come say hello.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have wanted to try for quite some time..not popped me cherry yet..but here's hoping ..nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im only bi-curious

I can never be fully bi - I love men too much! - but have always been happy to play with fems to a degree

I can appreciate the female form (well, norks make the world round after all!) but I have never and very much doubt I will ever fancy a girl

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think if it ever happens it will be if I joined a couple but that is a hurdle in itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm Peter Pansexual. If ya names Wendy come say hello. "

Ah shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if it ever happens it will be if I joined a couple but that is a hurdle in itself.

Prepare for your inbox to be filled

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

What's pansexual involve? Not kitchen equipment, obviously, but I just wondered what peoples take on it was. I know I'm bi but I don't fancy men normally just when they are naked in a sexual situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's pansexual involve? Not kitchen equipment, obviously, but I just wondered what peoples take on it was. I know I'm bi but I don't fancy men normally just when they are naked in a sexual situation. "

I had to clarify this myself recently....it's being attracted to someone regardless of gender or sexuality. So for example being attracted to men, women and tv/ts regardless of their sexual orientation or what gender they may identify as. It's prob more complex than that, but easiest way to describe it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How did you discover you were bi sexual? Did you always fancy both sexes or did you find out during the heat of the moment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always was for as long as I can remember, looking back. Didn't realise until I was 21. Think I was in denial.

I've had relationships with both men and women. I'm actually pansexual but only realised that was a 'thing' recently. Thought it was just me.

Its not just you "

nope not just you. Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I'm bi.... I enjoy it in the moment but have no interest at all in playing just with a woman... to be honest it's more an extension of my exhibitionist side... I don't really get turned on by the woman.. but do the situation ... however I do enjoy pleasuring the lady.

So I guess I've always been like I am... but I still get very embarrassed if my girl on girl play is mentioned xx"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think if it ever happens it will be if I joined a couple but that is a hurdle in itself.

Prepare for your inbox to be filled "

I have couples filtered out at the moment as not sure I am ready for it.

I get a fair few views from them though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always was for as long as I can remember, looking back. Didn't realise until I was 21. Think I was in denial.

I've had relationships with both men and women. I'm actually pansexual but only realised that was a 'thing' recently. Thought it was just me.

Its not just you

nope not just you. Me too

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what is pansexual?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im only bi-curious

I can never be fully bi - I love men too much! - but have always been happy to play with fems to a degree

I can appreciate the female form (well, norks make the world round after all!) but I have never and very much doubt I will ever fancy a girl"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always was for as long as I can remember, looking back. Didn't realise until I was 21. Think I was in denial.

I've had relationships with both men and women. I'm actually pansexual but only realised that was a 'thing' recently. Thought it was just me.

Its not just you

nope not just you. Me too

Aww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm intrigued by this pan sexual thing.

Does it mean you would entertain having a relationship with either as well ?

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By *amslam1000Man
over a year ago

willenhall

i discovered my sexuality in the 70's, I was used by a schoolteacher and his wife! i enjoyed it so went back for more

this was in the days of jimmy saville et al when it was not frowned on like it should have been

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Gay before I was bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm intrigued by this pan sexual thing.

Does it mean you would entertain having a relationship with either as well ?"

Yes ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just know the number of replies to this thread do not reflect the number of views its had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was gay at 13 n bi at 15 n have had monogamous relationships at times with men and women. My sexuality roams all over the place. I actually do find some men sexually attractive when I meet them in vanilla situations n not just when in a sexual situation

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Consider myself straight...

Dont fancy women at all but will happily kiss and play from waist up....

Its all just good fun

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was always attracted to both, had zero intention of acting on it when married same as I'd never sleep with another woman when married, since the split both are fair game, although men are easier to get for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never wanted a relationship with a man, and I never look at one in the street and think "I fancy that!". When in a sexual situation though, I am not thinking about a man or woman, I am just "in the moment" with another person(s). Romantically I could only ever be involved with women, and it's women that really do it for me.

I am pretty much try-sexual in all honesty, some people might take this as being that all bi-men will just shag anything with a pulse. Not true for me. And no, that doesn't mean I hang around graveyards with a shovel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only actually fancy 2 women, both good friends and one I love going down on. We don't kiss or talk much about it over lunch. We usually spend all lunchtime talking about men but now and then we get together with her man and enjoy each other. I just enjoy a woman's body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am then, wanted to check it doesn't involve animals before clarifying

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

1st time was heat of the moment was with a couple there was no mention of him being bi beforehand she was going down on me he said that looks nice can I have a go thinking he meant he wanted her to suck him I said ok its your turn she lifted her head up next thing he got my cock in his gob didn't freak me out at all so let him carry on

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"I was very freaked out by the whole thing but went back for more and second time it wasn't so bad and third time I quite liked it. "

Can I nominate this as quote of the week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi Sexual is just a handy name, it doesn't exist in real life, just a convenient label.

Sexuality is on a line from 100% straight to 100% gay, and everything in between.

At different times of our life and in different circumstances we move along the line.

I think a better word would be, Homoflexible or Het

exible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I'm quite happy being called bisexual thanks.

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

Both of us are bi and both love watching each other play with same sex. Wouldn't go back as far to much to enjoy

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

I always think the labels don't quite fit me. I feel I need to describe what I am with this caveat or that one. As for women and sexual experience. All of my very first ones were with female friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was 18 first year of uni, I met a Lad on a night out (got chatting at the bar) and I just couldn't stop smiling the entire time was great our two groups were going separate ways though so as we left we swapped numbers and I had my first ever kiss with a guy absolutely loved it could have dragged him.home right then :p parted ways an as I was going to catch up to my mates just heard "oi fag" then lots of bright lights and pain and woke up in hospital the next morning:/

That put me off for quite a while, started exploring again with my ex though and now we're split up just having some fun with it. Still keep it very private though irl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmm, after reading this thread, I don't know what I am any more, I thought i was bi, ie I like ladies and men, however, I find now, that I only like to play with a lady in a couple or swap situation, not just on my own, prefer the men, where does that put me ??

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

I was playing with a couple and when I looked down it was not the lady giving me a BJ. I thought to myself I could get used to this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I aws always curious about sucking a cock, and feeling a cock inside me. I reguarly used toys on myself as my arse is very sensitive.

A few years back when I started swinging, the ladies sat back and said to us guys to put a show on and they would in return. I was nervous, but sucked his cock and loved it.

Since then I have really explored my bi side and played with men and TVs.

Better still, my partner gives me special dispensation to go off and play bi when I have the opportunity. I feel very blessed to be with someone who accepts I am bi, as my ex was horrified when I told her I was even curious!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I'm a little curious about is why so many women/couple seem vehemently anti bi male, despite the gem usually being listed as bi herself.

I'm just curious why what a guy gets up to in other meets affects them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One thing I'm a little curious about is why so many women/couple seem vehemently anti bi male, despite the gem usually being listed as bi herself.

I'm just curious why what a guy gets up to in other meets affects them?"

Are there a lot? We only see the other side - the men that hide behind straight profiles. Then again we aren't sending out lots of messages to new people do we probably can't gauge response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wasn't something I ever thought about till it happened, I had a 3sum with a couple I used to babysit for many years ago, I hadn't even been with a man at that point never mind a woman and was very surreal at the time

But on the face of it I found I enjoyed the time playing with her more than him and my second sexual encounter was with a woman

I don't really play with woman anymore, I haven't played with a woman for about 4 or 5 years, though at one stage in my life I was important to me I just seem to have gone off women for some reason and only have sex with men now

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

In my early teens I started to become very aware of other women and was very curious. Didn't do anything about it until my mid 20's when we started swinging.

I love playing with other women with or without men present. But I have no interest in having a relationship with another women.

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Sexuality is as big broad spectrum as colours.

And on here it is limited.

Mrs says she isn't bisexual although she has had the most amazing experiences with a girl.

She does it, she enjoys it but cannot love a female as she would/could a man

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Sexuality is as big broad spectrum as colours.

And on here it is limited.

Mrs says she isn't bisexual although she has had the most amazing experiences with a girl.

She does it, she enjoys it but cannot love a female as she would/could a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One thing I'm a little curious about is why so many women/couple seem vehemently anti bi male, despite the gem usually being listed as bi herself.

I'm just curious why what a guy gets up to in other meets affects them?

Are there a lot? We only see the other side - the men that hide behind straight profiles. Then again we aren't sending out lots of messages to new people do we probably can't gauge response.

A heck of a lot of couple/female profiles have things like

* no bi males* or *if you're listed as bi don't bother*

Was just curious as to why really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexuality is as big broad spectrum as colours.

And on here it is limited.

Mrs says she isn't bisexual although she has had the most amazing experiences with a girl.

She does it, she enjoys it but cannot love a female as she would/could a man"

This is why I describe myself as Bi-Playful...I enjoy playing with women, but don't think I could play with a woman without a guy being there never mind have a relationship with a woman

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