FabSwingers.com forum: What would you do??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have been invited to a greedy girls night/horny porny night next sat with someone Iv been talking to but

The more I'm hearing about it the more I'm not wanting to go. I said I would go as I had never been to a club before. I attended azzures last night and had a good night but have been told the two are completely different, which i understand but I didn't understand was that a greedy girls night is exactly that! (All new to me) I'm not into gang bangs or fuck n go's I'm very sensual and adore foreplay... What should I do? What would you do??

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would not go

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By *orny69pussyCouple
over a year ago

Tonbridge

In my humble opinion, if something is hitting you inner alert, then you shouldn't go! xx

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and the person should respect your decision

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

If it doesn't feel right, don't go. Find something else to do. On the other hand, if you do go, there is no iron law saying that you must have 20 guys fuck you. You could just go along and enjoy the evening and do as much or as little as you liked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avoid. It don't sound like its the way you are looking to play.

Great pics BTW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel that you don't want to go then don't go. I think your concerns are more than valid, a greedy girls night is far from being something for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sound like it you like the idea sort of but all that much.

So give it a miss and be safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it doesn't feel right, don't go. Find something else to do. On the other hand, if you do go, there is no iron law saying that you must have 20 guys fuck you. You could just go along and enjoy the evening and do as much or as little as you liked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

weve never been anywhere where if you attend you must join in, if this is the case avoid at all costs, if not go for the experience

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Don't go.

Greedy girls night, from what I understand is the sort of arrangement where there are a lot of men invited... It does seem to be gang bang/intense material from what I hear.

Personally, I don't think you should go. Simply tell your friend that you've had a rethink and you'd like to take things mire slowly as you aren't comfortable.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Firstly, I wouldn't agree to do something if I didn't understand what I was agreeing to.

Secondly, I'd talk to the person I had the agreement with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand I could go and just see what it's like but it is miles from home... He is driving and it's his house were I'm staying the night... He lives about hour n half 2 hours from the lodge..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have been talking to him about it... Wanted others _iews also. Iv been umming & arring about it all week... He keeps assuring me I will love it.. And I don't have to play.. I don't want to ruin his night though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand I could go and just see what it's like but it is miles from home... He is driving and it's his house were I'm staying the night... He lives about hour n half 2 hours from the lodge.. "

Definitely don't go. I'd never go anywhere if I was relying on someone else for a lift. He may be nice... but what if he's not. Give it a miss. Trust your instincts. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you do not like the idea, and it is something that is out of your current comfort zone, then don't go, and other people should respect your decision.

IMHO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send me in your place....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Send me in your place....

You are such a tart, love you to bits!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He is fuming with me... Not happy at all and I don't blame him... But i have given him a weeks notice to find someone else and even offered to pay my half.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your body, your choice.

If he does not respect that, then forget and move on I'd say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Send me in your place....

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

I'm not sure if I agree with the comfort zone thing... Going to a club was out of my comfort zone, but I'm glad I did it... Learning to drive was out of my comfort zone also... But I'm glad I did that too.

However, I get the feeling that you don't want to go. To be frank, I can see why! Trust your instincts.

I'm a guy, and to be fair, I wouldn't be comfortable with that situation either... Unless I knew him very well.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He is fuming with me... Not happy at all and I don't blame him... But i have given him a weeks notice to find someone else and even offered to pay my half."

That says it all to me. Sounds like he was pimping you out without your knowledge.

A decent bloke would respect your decision.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not sure if I agree with the comfort zone thing... Going to a club was out of my comfort zone, but I'm glad I did it... Learning to drive was out of my comfort zone also... But I'm glad I did that too.

However, I get the feeling that you don't want to go. To be frank, I can see why! Trust your instincts.

I'm a guy, and to be fair, I wouldn't be comfortable with that situation either... Unless I knew him very well.

Xxx"
yes totally agree with the out of comfort zone bits! I went past my comfort zones at azzures last night a little and loved it.. It would be a different story if I was going with someone I had already met.. Or closer to home

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He is fuming with me... Not happy at all and I don't blame him... But i have given him a weeks notice to find someone else and even offered to pay my half.

That says it all to me. Sounds like he was pimping you out without your knowledge.

A decent bloke would respect your decision. "
really

there I was thinking he was a decent guy

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"He is fuming with me... Not happy at all and I don't blame him... But i have given him a weeks notice to find someone else and even offered to pay my half.

That says it all to me. Sounds like he was pimping you out without your knowledge.

A decent bloke would respect your decision. really

there I was thinking he was a decent guy"

I would wise up quick on here.....

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He is fuming with me... Not happy at all and I don't blame him... But i have given him a weeks notice to find someone else and even offered to pay my half.

That says it all to me. Sounds like he was pimping you out without your knowledge.

A decent bloke would respect your decision. really

there I was thinking he was a decent guy"

I agree with SteelHeels on that one!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"He is fuming with me... Not happy at all and I don't blame him... But i have given him a weeks notice to find someone else and even offered to pay my half."

If he's 'fuming' with you when you voiced your concerns with plenty of time before the event then it sounds like you've had a lucky escape tbh. Everyone has the right to not go ahead with something they don't feel comfortable with.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"He is fuming with me... Not happy at all and I don't blame him... But i have given him a weeks notice to find someone else and even offered to pay my half."

you should never, ever feel obliged sexually to anyone, no man or woman should. He's angry but I would rather that than you find yourself compromised.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"He is fuming with me... Not happy at all and I don't blame him... But i have given him a weeks notice to find someone else and even offered to pay my half.

That says it all to me. Sounds like he was pimping you out without your knowledge.

A decent bloke would respect your decision. "

His reaction should sum up your decision IMO. If he was a decent guy he would understand, accept your apprehension about the event and not lose his temper but be more considerate.

Personally i'd say avoid it. Its your choice what you do and if he cant accept that then you may want to avoid him too else you could be in a similar situ in the future

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He is saying can I see it from his point of _iew... Tickets bought, hire car bought, can't go in own as it's couples (which I find odd for a greedy girls night)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He is saying can I see it from his point of _iew... Tickets bought, hire car bought, can't go in own as it's couples (which I find odd for a greedy girls night)"
on own*

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"He is saying can I see it from his point of _iew... Tickets bought, hire car bought, can't go in own as it's couples (which I find odd for a greedy girls night)"

he can cancel the hire car.... likely, no charge

he has a week to find someone for his tickets

entry? single guys for a greedy girl night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Besides, the OP has offered to pay her share of the expenses, so what is the problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been invited to a greedy girls night/horny porny night next sat with someone Iv been talking to but

if i was u id say no ty and meet me instead im a very sensual guy and would love to spend the night teasing u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He is saying can I see it from his point of _iew... Tickets bought, hire car bought, can't go in own as it's couples (which I find odd for a greedy girls night)"

What if you went and you hated it. How would you get home? If he's being like this now ....

You can get refunds on cars etc.

I'm no expert on greedy girls nights but I'm pretty sure it's lots of single guys. Not couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk away and don't look back... It really doesn't need to be so complicated...

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Personally i think his reaction answers all questions and doubts really OP.

It's your choice and he needs to respect that

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"He is saying can I see it from his point of _iew... Tickets bought, hire car bought, can't go in own as it's couples (which I find odd for a greedy girls night)"

Ah so he's trying emotional blackmail hoping you'll feel guilty enough to go even though he knows you don't want to? Jeez talk about trying to railroad you.

See it from his point of _iew? Well if that doesn't enrage you I reckon im angty enough for both of us!

Dump him!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"He is saying can I see it from his point of _iew... Tickets bought, hire car bought, can't go in own as it's couples (which I find odd for a greedy girls night)"

I think you have seen it from his point of _iew and he is now putting undue pressure on you, what the ecky peck does he expect you to do? Change your mind and be systematically fucked by random strangers to save his face and pocket?

Seriously..you need to tell this guy to stop behaving like a spoiled brat whose mummy has taken his Mars Bar away and man up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something I use all the time is, gut feeling. If your gut feeling says it's wrong for you, then it is.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Something I use all the time is, gut feeling. If your gut feeling says it's wrong for you, then it is.

Yep!

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Lucky escape I would say. You have given him notice and offered to pay expenses, yet he is "fuming"? Just imagine if you did go, then changed your mind...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He is saying can I see it from his point of _iew... Tickets bought, hire car bought, can't go in own as it's couples (which I find odd for a greedy girls night)

Seriously..you need to tell this guy to stop behaving like a spoiled brat whose mummy has taken his Mars Bar away and man up.

I would also say that you need to find out what you're letting yoruself in for before you agree to something if you don't know what something is research first and don't feel that you owe the other person."
I will research better in future I promise... I guess he had a little hold over me without me realising... Until now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He is fuming with me... Not happy at all and I don't blame him... But i have given him a weeks notice to find someone else and even offered to pay my half."

Sounds like you made the right choice, if he was a decent bloke he would respect your choice and understand your worries.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"He is saying can I see it from his point of _iew... Tickets bought, hire car bought, can't go in own as it's couples (which I find odd for a greedy girls night)

Seriously..you need to tell this guy to stop behaving like a spoiled brat whose mummy has taken his Mars Bar away and man up.

I would also say that you need to find out what you're letting yoruself in for before you agree to something if you don't know what something is research first and don't feel that you owe the other person. I will research better in future I promise... I guess he had a little hold over me without me realising... Until now"

Good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the sound of it he has kept back the greedy girls bit of the night, it doesn't matter what he has paid for if you are not confortable with any part of it say no. After all reading into what you have said, he is more intetested in himself than you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In fairness I knew it was a horny porny night but being totally new the club scene I didn't realise it was just a bunch of guys queuing to get sucked and fucked... But like some have said I should have researched more... Which I have been doing hence why I'm not happy to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to clubs on nights that aren't for me... I just do my own thing... chat... play if I want to...

Greedy girl play is different... it's a different sort of buzz... but you may find some thing you like... you do as you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

isit a giant buffet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you do go, I imagine you will ruin his night and your night, basically its as many guys as pos fucking the girls, no foreplay, just numbers, and that's what the girls going expect. so it isn't for you, and if you are just going to watch, it will feel uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nahh dont go and meet me instead..I'm a one man gangbang army

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for all yr input much appreciated

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By *anger mouse and EmmaCouple
over a year ago

Honiton

Do not go, but go to Secrets at Totness instead on the 16th. You will love that!

Good luck.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"In fairness I knew it was a horny porny night but being totally new the club scene I didn't realise it was just a bunch of guys queuing to get sucked and fucked... But like some have said I should have researched more... Which I have been doing hence why I'm not happy to go"

If he is working on the couples ticket line then it sounds like he needs you more than you need him. My experience is that couples can attend at reduced rates or free. The men in a couple can't play unless the woman in the couple plays.

I was lucky that my first experience was with someone who understood me, protected me and did not pressure me in ANY way. I knew that even at the last moment I could have said I don't want to go in and he would have been happy for us to do something else.

He's asking you to see things from his perspective without even considering yours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do not go, but go to Secrets at Totness instead on the 16th. You will love that!

Good luck."
I really want to go to that one! Got my name down already

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He's asking you to see things from his perspective without even considering yours.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

If you were a bit iffy about that particular club why the hell didn't he just ask where you would like to go

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He wanted to go there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't feel bad. We're all still learning. x

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

In fairness?? Fuck all fairness

!!! you told him no and your concerns.... and he played a guilt trip, gut instinct wins xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't feel bad. We're all still learning. x"
I feel terrible Iv let him down and he has mDe a damn good job in making me feel guilty.. I.e car, ticket

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Don't feel bad. We're all still learning. x I feel terrible Iv let him down and he has mDe a damn good job in making me feel guilty.. I.e car, ticket"

Not your problem. He wasn't listening to you. You have made the offer to cover your half of the ticket and he can cancel the car.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't feel bad. We're all still learning. x I feel terrible Iv let him down and he has mDe a damn good job in making me feel guilty.. I.e car, ticket

Not your problem. He wasn't listening to you. You have made the offer to cover your half of the ticket and he can cancel the car.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Don't feel bad. We're all still learning. x I feel terrible Iv let him down and he has mDe a damn good job in making me feel guilty.. I.e car, ticket"

People can only make you feel bad if you allow them to. You do need to be pretty tough to preserve your self worth if you are going to meet guys under these circumstances and without wanting to sound harsh it seems as if you've let this guy guilt trip you big time, as a single woman you need to feel in charge and be seen to be in charge.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't feel bad. We're all still learning. x I feel terrible Iv let him down and he has mDe a damn good job in making me feel guilty.. I.e car, ticket

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Don't feel bad. We're all still learning. x I feel terrible Iv let him down and he has mDe a damn good job in making me feel guilty.. I.e car, ticket

I'm glad you're listening to your.Aunty Nicecouple lol. I know it is difficult and as women we're bombarded subliminally with messages that we should be putting out all the time and not to lead men on but its all crap.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't feel bad. We're all still learning. x I feel terrible Iv let him down and he has mDe a damn good job in making me feel guilty.. I.e car, ticket

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Don't feel bad Hun, sounds like u did the right thing!!!

It's your body not his x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't feel bad Hun, sounds like u did the right thing!!!

It's your body not his x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't feel bad Hun, sounds like u did the right thing!!!

It's your body not his x"

Obviously !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In fairness?? Fuck all fairness

!!! you told him no and your concerns.... and he played a guilt trip, gut instinct wins xx "

Here, here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been talking to him about it... Wanted others _iews also. Iv been umming & arring about it all week... He keeps assuring me I will love it.. And I don't have to play.. I don't want to ruin his night though."

..it's not about him. It's about you. If you won't feel comfortable in such an environment then you shouldn't go. It's meant to be enjoyable for both of you..not just him. It works both ways.

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By *scariMan
over a year ago

Taunton

As has been said, don't let anybody pressure you into something you are not comfortable with.

your profile suggests you are more into intimacy. Him trying to get you into a greedy girl night appears to be more about what he wants than what you want.

Tryng new things can be fun, but should only ever be on your terms!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I wonder how many people get frightened off the scene by incidents like this. It's easy to imagine someone not having the gumption the OP has shown in saying no.

Hopefully threads like this will help others in the same position rather than them just going along with something they hate and then disappearing altogether.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

You've definitely made the right decision. I attended a greedy girls event at a club not wanting to be involved in a free for all, but thinking I'd find a number of men there to play with. Nope they just follow you around the place waiting for you to stop so they can come up to you and grunt 'wanna play? '. (Ok not all men like this I'm sure! ). So even if you did go and didn't want to get involved you would probably find the night uncomfortable and awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is looks and feel bad then it will be bad and if you like the more sensual side then just go with that then x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally avoid and do what you want to do and feel comftable with.never let people pressure you its your body and do what you only want to do with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you check the clubs website i suspect you may find couples are free or considerably cheaper to enter - or that single guys need to be members or pay higher entry fees.

So the simple fact is possibly that all of a sudden he has no 'golden ticket' anymore. Any normal single guy who is attracted by the prospect of a greedy girls night would know what the night entailed and respect your decision not to attend safe in the knowledge that he would more than likely enjoy the evening alone.

Unless of course he's attended before and been knocked back by the regular female attendees?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry - missed the detail!

The Lodge has,strict rules for single guys (see the club website) - not so for couples. This may be his gripe!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wonder how many people get frightened off the scene by incidents like this. It's easy to imagine someone not having the gumption the OP has shown in saying no.

Hopefully threads like this will help others in the same position rather than them just going along with something they hate and then disappearing altogether."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You've definitely made the right decision. I attended a greedy girls event at a club not wanting to be involved in a free for all, but thinking I'd find a number of men there to play with. Nope they just follow you around the place waiting for you to stop so they can come up to you and grunt 'wanna play? '. (Ok not all men like this I'm sure! ). So even if you did go and didn't want to get involved you would probably find the night uncomfortable and awkward. "
oh I'm glad Iv said no!

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