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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it possible to love someone like a husband does to his wife, etc. Even if they haven't dated or not shown affection such as passionate kisses, etc? Also can having a "soft spot" for someone be interpreted as love too?

Not saying it is or it isn't as I am leaving it for people to discuss.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Errrmmmm I think so,..maybe

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think love and friend are amongst the most over used words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possible yes probable no depends on how you relate to the person first lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think to love someone and to be inlove with someone is totally different, im not sure i could be inlove with someone who was just a friend, to me id have to share something much deeper to be inlove with someone, sometimes infatuation can be mistaken for love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it possible to love someone like a husband does to his wife, etc. Even if they haven't dated or not shown affection such as passionate kisses, etc? "

I think it would be hard without any affection, do you mean all types of affection or just physical?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it possible to love someone like a husband does to his wife, etc. Even if they haven't dated or not shown affection such as passionate kisses, etc?

I think it would be hard without any affection, do you mean all types of affection or just physical?"

Basically when you have a girlfriend or a wife and are in the relationship for the long haul and you only have them as a partner. Is it possible to feel what you would feel for them towards someone you haven't been in a loving/romantic relationship with and you haven't even shared a kiss with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it possible to love someone like a husband does to his wife, etc. Even if they haven't dated or not shown affection such as passionate kisses, etc?

I think it would be hard without any affection, do you mean all types of affection or just physical?

Basically when you have a girlfriend or a wife and are in the relationship for the long haul and you only have them as a partner. Is it possible to feel what you would feel for them towards someone you haven't been in a loving/romantic relationship with and you haven't even shared a kiss with them? "

I think it depends on your shared experiences, you could have gone through more with that person than a married couple have ever gone through, I think it's the shared experiences that bond us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it possible to love someone like a husband does to his wife, etc. Even if they haven't dated or not shown affection such as passionate kisses, etc?

I think it would be hard without any affection, do you mean all types of affection or just physical?

Basically when you have a girlfriend or a wife and are in the relationship for the long haul and you only have them as a partner. Is it possible to feel what you would feel for them towards someone you haven't been in a loving/romantic relationship with and you haven't even shared a kiss with them?

I think it depends on your shared experiences, you could have gone through more with that person than a married couple have ever gone through, I think it's the shared experiences that bond us."

Just wanted to know is it lust/liking someone in all relationships and then love is formed over time or can you love someone like that before too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're confusing me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it possible to love someone like a husband does to his wife, etc. Even if they haven't dated or not shown affection such as passionate kisses, etc?

I think it would be hard without any affection, do you mean all types of affection or just physical?

Basically when you have a girlfriend or a wife and are in the relationship for the long haul and you only have them as a partner. Is it possible to feel what you would feel for them towards someone you haven't been in a loving/romantic relationship with and you haven't even shared a kiss with them? "

for me no that wouldn't be possible, but everyone's emotions are different and no doubt some could

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're confusing me x"

The love between husband and wife who only have each other. Can you love someone like that who you have never dated or even kissed?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"You're confusing me x

The love between husband and wife who only have each other. Can you love someone like that who you have never dated or even kissed? "

You don't have to date or kiss someone to love them deeply. However, there has to be a relationship there of some sort otherwise it's not love but a strange obsessional adoration that is not shared.

The thing that makes the difference with the love between partners, in my opinion, is the familiarity and knowing each other. When in love and in lust has passed that deep love that comes with knowing someone is what keeps people together. Not just knowing that your partner will be there in the dark times but them actually being there in the dark times.

I am fond of a lot of people but even with the experiences we have shared I would never think that my closeness could come close to the love they experience with a partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're confusing me x

The love between husband and wife who only have each other. Can you love someone like that who you have never dated or even kissed?

You don't have to date or kiss someone to love them deeply. However, there has to be a relationship there of some sort otherwise it's not love but a strange obsessional adoration that is not shared.

The thing that makes the difference with the love between partners, in my opinion, is the familiarity and knowing each other. When in love and in lust has passed that deep love that comes with knowing someone is what keeps people together. Not just knowing that your partner will be there in the dark times but them actually being there in the dark times.

I am fond of a lot of people but even with the experiences we have shared I would never think that my closeness could come close to the love they experience with a partner.

"

"Strange, obsessional" doesn't sound good. Makes people sound like a weirdo if they have that

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"You're confusing me x

The love between husband and wife who only have each other. Can you love someone like that who you have never dated or even kissed?

You don't have to date or kiss someone to love them deeply. However, there has to be a relationship there of some sort otherwise it's not love but a strange obsessional adoration that is not shared.

The thing that makes the difference with the love between partners, in my opinion, is the familiarity and knowing each other. When in love and in lust has passed that deep love that comes with knowing someone is what keeps people together. Not just knowing that your partner will be there in the dark times but them actually being there in the dark times.

I am fond of a lot of people but even with the experiences we have shared I would never think that my closeness could come close to the love they experience with a partner.

"Strange, obsessional" doesn't sound good. Makes people sound like a weirdo if they have that "

We're all weirdos but sometimes people can't see their obsessional behaviour.

Think of people who say they love a celebrity that they have never met and spend their time going to the concerts etc. and buying everything possible and not living a real life. That's when it gets to weirdo status.

If you get on with your life but live with inner turmoil about the person you can't stop thinking about then no one knows you are a weirdo.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're confusing me x

The love between husband and wife who only have each other. Can you love someone like that who you have never dated or even kissed?

You don't have to date or kiss someone to love them deeply. However, there has to be a relationship there of some sort otherwise it's not love but a strange obsessional adoration that is not shared.

The thing that makes the difference with the love between partners, in my opinion, is the familiarity and knowing each other. When in love and in lust has passed that deep love that comes with knowing someone is what keeps people together. Not just knowing that your partner will be there in the dark times but them actually being there in the dark times.

I am fond of a lot of people but even with the experiences we have shared I would never think that my closeness could come close to the love they experience with a partner.

"Strange, obsessional" doesn't sound good. Makes people sound like a weirdo if they have that

We're all weirdos but sometimes people can't see their obsessional behaviour.

Think of people who say they love a celebrity that they have never met and spend their time going to the concerts etc. and buying everything possible and not living a real life. That's when it gets to weirdo status.

If you get on with your life but live with inner turmoil about the person you can't stop thinking about then no one knows you are a weirdo.

"

Until they announce it on a forum . Secondly turmoil is too strong a word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time to get the psychology books out methinks...lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Time to get the psychology books out methinks...lol. "

Off you go

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"

"Strange, obsessional" doesn't sound good. Makes people sound like a weirdo if they have that

We're all weirdos but sometimes people can't see their obsessional behaviour.

Think of people who say they love a celebrity that they have never met and spend their time going to the concerts etc. and buying everything possible and not living a real life. That's when it gets to weirdo status.

If you get on with your life but live with inner turmoil about the person you can't stop thinking about then no one knows you are a weirdo.

Until they announce it on a forum . Secondly turmoil is too strong a word. "

What has been announced on a forum? Now I'm confused.

I'm merely saying that you can be fond of people and get on with things but without a close bond it's a one-sided thing. When it's one sided it often gnaws or niggles at the person with those feelings. I then went on to explain the obsessional bit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

"Strange, obsessional" doesn't sound good. Makes people sound like a weirdo if they have that

We're all weirdos but sometimes people can't see their obsessional behaviour.

Think of people who say they love a celebrity that they have never met and spend their time going to the concerts etc. and buying everything possible and not living a real life. That's when it gets to weirdo status.

If you get on with your life but live with inner turmoil about the person you can't stop thinking about then no one knows you are a weirdo.

Until they announce it on a forum . Secondly turmoil is too strong a word.

What has been announced on a forum? Now I'm confused.

I'm merely saying that you can be fond of people and get on with things but without a close bond it's a one-sided thing. When it's one sided it often gnaws or niggles at the person with those feelings. I then went on to explain the obsessional bit."

Well you said if you love a celebrity to the point you stop living your own life. People know you're a weirdo. If you carry on with your own life, but suffer turmoil. No one knows you're weirdo. Well I have announced it on here. So people must think/know i am a weirdo now. Although I think weirdo is a harsh word to use in this case. Then again maybe I am feeling something else and getting my wires crossed. Bit tricky to explain.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"

"Strange, obsessional" doesn't sound good. Makes people sound like a weirdo if they have that

We're all weirdos but sometimes people can't see their obsessional behaviour.

Think of people who say they love a celebrity that they have never met and spend their time going to the concerts etc. and buying everything possible and not living a real life. That's when it gets to weirdo status.

If you get on with your life but live with inner turmoil about the person you can't stop thinking about then no one knows you are a weirdo.

Until they announce it on a forum . Secondly turmoil is too strong a word.

What has been announced on a forum? Now I'm confused.

I'm merely saying that you can be fond of people and get on with things but without a close bond it's a one-sided thing. When it's one sided it often gnaws or niggles at the person with those feelings. I then went on to explain the obsessional bit.

Well you said if you love a celebrity to the point you stop living your own life. People know you're a weirdo. If you carry on with your own life, but suffer turmoil. No one knows you're weirdo. Well I have announced it on here. So people must think/know i am a weirdo now. Although I think weirdo is a harsh word to use in this case. Then again maybe I am feeling something else and getting my wires crossed. Bit tricky to explain. "

I still don't know what you have announced. You asked a question. I am not calling you a weirdo but I am now wondering what is troubling you and causing you to think like this. However, to be frank, I am not concerned enough to make it any of my business.

Good luck figuring out whatever it is your questioning was asking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it is this...ALL forms of attraction, affection, happiness....anything "positive" are very simply.. varing degree's of love!

((()))

Anything..negative comes from absence of love!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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"Strange, obsessional" doesn't sound good. Makes people sound like a weirdo if they have that

We're all weirdos but sometimes people can't see their obsessional behaviour.

Think of people who say they love a celebrity that they have never met and spend their time going to the concerts etc. and buying everything possible and not living a real life. That's when it gets to weirdo status.

If you get on with your life but live with inner turmoil about the person you can't stop thinking about then no one knows you are a weirdo.

Until they announce it on a forum . Secondly turmoil is too strong a word.

What has been announced on a forum? Now I'm confused.

I'm merely saying that you can be fond of people and get on with things but without a close bond it's a one-sided thing. When it's one sided it often gnaws or niggles at the person with those feelings. I then went on to explain the obsessional bit.

Well you said if you love a celebrity to the point you stop living your own life. People know you're a weirdo. If you carry on with your own life, but suffer turmoil. No one knows you're weirdo. Well I have announced it on here. So people must think/know i am a weirdo now. Although I think weirdo is a harsh word to use in this case. Then again maybe I am feeling something else and getting my wires crossed. Bit tricky to explain.

I still don't know what you have announced. You asked a question. I am not calling you a weirdo but I am now wondering what is troubling you and causing you to think like this. However, to be frank, I am not concerned enough to make it any of my business.

Good luck figuring out whatever it is your questioning was asking.

"

Basically saying you said taking that much liking to someone and not making it known is weird, but no one sees it. So only you know you're weird. Well I have announced that I have those feelings and they are hidden. Was wondering of what I was feeling was love or something else as something is niggling at me from time to time, but it doesn't affect me to the point my mood is down, etc.

Thank you. Was just wondering if what I was feeling was love or something else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The way I see it is this...ALL forms of attraction, affection, happiness....anything "positive" are very simply.. varing degree's of love!

((()))

Anything..negative comes from absence of love! "

Want some loving! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way I see it is this...ALL forms of attraction, affection, happiness....anything "positive" are very simply.. varing degree's of love!

((()))

Anything..negative comes from absence of love!

Want some loving! lol "

I'm always up for some free love!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The way I see it is this...ALL forms of attraction, affection, happiness....anything "positive" are very simply.. varing degree's of love!

((()))

Anything..negative comes from absence of love!

Want some loving! lol

I'm always up for some free love! "

What is it with Scottish women on here. All attractive. Especially you

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

I have never known proper love from a guy, and there is only one guy I have totally been in love with but didn't realise til I lost him!!!

Took me a good few years to get over and have never let a guy in my heart since!!!

Been hurt a lot but now I don't think I can love a guy now or believe he loves me!!!

I'm ok with that though as I have all the love I need in my life!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way I see it is this...ALL forms of attraction, affection, happiness....anything "positive" are very simply.. varing degree's of love!

((()))

Anything..negative comes from absence of love!

Want some loving! lol

I'm always up for some free love!

What is it with Scottish women on here. All attractive. Especially you "

Maybe its to do with the shit weather? ..always cloudy and raining, but it does keep us wee scottish chicks wet, clammy and in dire need of some bodyheat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way I see it is this...ALL forms of attraction, affection, happiness....anything "positive" are very simply.. varing degree's of love!

((()))

Anything..negative comes from absence of love!

Want some loving! lol

I'm always up for some free love!

What is it with Scottish women on here. All attractive. Especially you

Maybe its to do with the shit weather? ..always cloudy and raining, but it does keep us wee scottish chicks wet, clammy and in dire need of some bodyheat! "

What she said lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The way I see it is this...ALL forms of attraction, affection, happiness....anything "positive" are very simply.. varing degree's of love!

((()))

Anything..negative comes from absence of love!

Want some loving! lol

I'm always up for some free love!

What is it with Scottish women on here. All attractive. Especially you

Maybe its to do with the shit weather? ..always cloudy and raining, but it does keep us wee scottish chicks wet, clammy and in dire need of some bodyheat! "

You can have my body heat any time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many types of love.

including, but not limited to;

your partner

family

children

your pet

your friends

Pizza

security

Then there is lust:

you see someone who you are attracted to

someone you fancy

a new pair of shoes

a new car

a mates partner

someone on a sex site

someone on a dating site.

someone you fancy but don't know

There is no such thing as love at first site, unless you happen to meet your soul mate, which is very rare , at least the first time!

Love is about getting to know someone, their likes and dislikes,

Love is about enriching someones life.

Just my thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are many types of love.

including, but not limited to;

your partner

family

children

your pet

your friends

Pizza

security

Then there is lust:

you see someone who you are attracted to

someone you fancy

a new pair of shoes

a new car

a mates partner

someone on a sex site

someone on a dating site.

someone you fancy but don't know

There is no such thing as love at first site, unless you happen to meet your soul mate, which is very rare , at least the first time!

Love is about getting to know someone, their likes and dislikes,

Love is about enriching someones life.

Just my thoughts.

"

Mmmmmmm....your comment on love at first sight is a little baffling....if you love ham pizza and someone brings you ham pizza...don't you instantly love that pizza?

Loving the look of someone, or the smell of something as soon as you see or smell it,

IS instant love for that look/smell,

LOVE at first sight IS very clearly an everyday occurance....and I find that getting to know someone better usually at some point causes our seperation, as the human flaws tend to be the reasons we "don't love" anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is love ....

If you feel it - say it whether it be for a pizza or next door neighbours wife

If you feel you love someone without the normal convention - so be it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There can be that love you feel for someone you are not involved with, that person you have in your life that you never get to express your feelings for, your single she is with someone, she is single your with someone, it goes on for so long that one day you just think if we got together now and it ended it could possibly kill me so you let those heart strings get tugged and the butterfly's rampage cos some times it is better not to have loved than let love destroy you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are many types of love.

including, but not limited to;

your partner

family

children

your pet

your friends

Pizza

security

Then there is lust:

you see someone who you are attracted to

someone you fancy

a new pair of shoes

a new car

a mates partner

someone on a sex site

someone on a dating site.

someone you fancy but don't know

There is no such thing as love at first site, unless you happen to meet your soul mate, which is very rare , at least the first time!

Love is about getting to know someone, their likes and dislikes,

Love is about enriching someones life.

Just my thoughts.

Mmmmmmm....your comment on love at first sight is a little baffling....if you love ham pizza and someone brings you ham pizza...don't you instantly love that pizza?

"

Loving the pizza first is just stupid as you'll be gutted when its gone. Love the lady who brings you the pizza and if she loves you back. She'll constantly brings you the pizza

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is only supposed to be in the moment...never forever... Grab what ye can, while ye can....and run!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are many types of love.

including, but not limited to;

[....]"

You're a true poet.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I think love and friend are amongst the most over used words.

"

On the flip side 'weirdo' and 'obsessive' don't nearly get used enough.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I think love and friend are amongst the most over used words.

On the flip side 'weirdo' and 'obsessive' don't nearly get used enough."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think love and friend are amongst the most over used words."


"On the flip side 'weirdo' and 'obsessive' don't nearly get used enough."

Nor do 'affection' and 'fondness'. They are often more apt than 'love'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think love and friend are amongst the most over used words.

On the flip side 'weirdo' and 'obsessive' don't nearly get used enough."

They get very over used on this site... Especially 'weirdo', and I would also say 'obsessive', is just another form of love!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I think love and friend are amongst the most over used words.

On the flip side 'weirdo' and 'obsessive' don't nearly get used enough.

Nor do 'affection' and 'fondness'. They are often more apt than 'love'."

I like fond affection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think love and friend are amongst the most over used words.

On the flip side 'weirdo' and 'obsessive' don't nearly get used enough.

Nor do 'affection' and 'fondness'. They are often more apt than 'love'.

I like fond affection.

"

..which I feel for a few here.

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