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Hell of a night to be homeless

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's blowin a gale and pissin sideways out there and I got an urgent call from a friend earlier on, asking me if I had a spare bed for one of our old social circle, who is going to be homeless until later next week, despite asking for help all week long.

Sudden and very lucky change of circumstance, he's with family now (for the moment at least). Regardless, he knows he's welcome here.

What really pisses me off is that his countless close friends love being the centre of attention until it involves being of any help whatsoever. That is why I say "old social circle"... shallow bastards.

All it takes is a spare bed, if not a blanket and a couch!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

All the best to your friend.

It may realise the true meaning of friend through the hard times, then be able to celebrate his good times with his friends for the future.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

He* may realise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the best to your friend.

It may realise the true meaning of friend through the hard times, then be able to celebrate his good times with his friends for the future."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sofa is available to my friends in need

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All the best to your friend.

It may realise the true meaning of friend through the hard times, then be able to celebrate his good times with his friends for the future."

Yes, I hope he gets everything dealt with soon. He doesn't often learn the hard way, but now maybe he'll see why we no longer share the same friends. Friends of convenience is a phrase that springs to mind!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've been street homeless in the depth of winter...you learn to survive and I'm here to tell a tale

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been street homeless in the depth of winter...you learn to survive and I'm here to tell a tale "

I've not slept rough any longer than one night and wouldnt want to. That time I woke up with hypothermia and covered in frost kicked my arse enough.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

Friends of convenience is a phrase that springs to mind!"

He is best to smile and wish them well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Friends of convenience is a phrase that springs to mind!

He is best to smile and wish them well. "

Let's hope so!

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"All the best to your friend.

It may realise the true meaning of friend through the hard times, then be able to celebrate his good times with his friends for the future.

Yes, I hope he gets everything dealt with soon. He doesn't often learn the hard way, but now maybe he'll see why we no longer share the same friends. Friends of convenience is a phrase that springs to mind!"

Yeh my so called friends are just that!!! That's why I prefer to be just me and my boy, don't trust many people at all!!

I help them over and over but if I was on fire they wouldn't piss on me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Friends of convenience is a phrase that springs to mind!

He is best to smile and wish them well. "

That can take a while to achieve when people have not been there for you the way you thought they would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's blowin a gale and pissin sideways out there and I got an urgent call from a friend earlier on, asking me if I had a spare bed for one of our old social circle, who is going to be homeless until later next week, despite asking for help all week long.

Sudden and very lucky change of circumstance, he's with family now (for the moment at least). Regardless, he knows he's welcome here.

What really pisses me off is that his countless close friends love being the centre of attention until it involves being of any help whatsoever. That is why I say "old social circle"... shallow bastards.

All it takes is a spare bed, if not a blanket and a couch!"

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I've been street homeless in the depth of winter...you learn to survive and I'm here to tell a tale

I've not slept rough any longer than one night and wouldnt want to. That time I woke up with hypothermia and covered in frost kicked my arse enough."

Well I was street homeless for 6 months it made me and I'm glad of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All the best to your friend.

It may realise the true meaning of friend through the hard times, then be able to celebrate his good times with his friends for the future.

Yes, I hope he gets everything dealt with soon. He doesn't often learn the hard way, but now maybe he'll see why we no longer share the same friends. Friends of convenience is a phrase that springs to mind!

Yeh my so called friends are just that!!! That's why I prefer to be just me and my boy, don't trust many people at all!!

I help them over and over but if I was on fire they wouldn't piss on me lol "

Well a long time ago, I had more friends than I could ever want. Same social circle in question. Then I literally went through hell and I did it alone, because that's what I do.

But it damaged me and I didn't have the support I needed when I owned up to it. I spent years and lost friends going out of my way for the people I cared for and they never even met me half way unless it was convenient. I started getting really alienated and questioning my identity.

So the day I turned up to one of their birthdays, said hello, then went to another bar to meet other friends, then went back d*unk two hours later, stood there for five minutes and thought 'fuck this, I feel like I'm waiting in line to get a word in', then got a text half an hour later asking 'did you just walk out on me?'

...I felt pretty fucking good about it LOL. Who needs that? That's not friendship!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been street homeless in the depth of winter...you learn to survive and I'm here to tell a tale

I've not slept rough any longer than one night and wouldnt want to. That time I woke up with hypothermia and covered in frost kicked my arse enough.

Well I was street homeless for 6 months it made me and I'm glad of it "

Sometimes break does make. Just takes a few years to realise how tougher you are for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My spare rooms been offered on more than one occasion, thankfully for those I offered it to they didn't need it in the end.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I've been street homeless in the depth of winter...you learn to survive and I'm here to tell a tale

I've not slept rough any longer than one night and wouldnt want to. That time I woke up with hypothermia and covered in frost kicked my arse enough.

Well I was street homeless for 6 months it made me and I'm glad of it

Sometimes break does make. Just takes a few years to realise how tougher you are for it "

Ah well I learnt I survived and here I am

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been street homeless in the depth of winter...you learn to survive and I'm here to tell a tale

I've not slept rough any longer than one night and wouldnt want to. That time I woke up with hypothermia and covered in frost kicked my arse enough.

Well I was street homeless for 6 months it made me and I'm glad of it

Sometimes break does make. Just takes a few years to realise how tougher you are for it

Ah well I learnt I survived and here I am "

I think I speak for all of us here when I say:

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY

As in thank fuck for that, because you're awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive explained to my daughter that the worst thing I can ever imagine is not being warm & toastie in bed on a freezing night.

I give to homeless charities & well done to you for stepping up to the mark when needed x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive explained to my daughter that the worst thing I can ever imagine is not being warm & toastie in bed on a freezing night.

I give to homeless charities & well done to you for stepping up to the mark when needed x "

Thank you x

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"It's blowin a gale and pissin sideways out there and I got an urgent call from a friend earlier on, asking me if I had a spare bed for one of our old social circle, who is going to be homeless until later next week, despite asking for help all week long.

Sudden and very lucky change of circumstance, he's with family now (for the moment at least). Regardless, he knows he's welcome here.

What really pisses me off is that his countless close friends love being the centre of attention until it involves being of any help whatsoever. That is why I say "old social circle"... shallow bastards.

All it takes is a spare bed, if not a blanket and a couch!"

A warm dry place is a minimum, a friend that is willing to give it. Is a friend truly worth having. Best wishes to you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was homeless a year ago and wish I had really good friends!

Unfortunately some friends are just there for themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the op - you are a survivior & your post here has been humbling x being alone with no one watching your back is the hardest thing

Some people trip through life and are never seem to feel anything deeply & some of us have a tale to tell & how we survived it x Its made me a better person x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was homeless a year ago and wish I had really good friends!

Unfortunately some friends are just there for themselves "

I really dread finding out which ones. So I keep very few, and they are the ones that returned my unconditional support. And we have one rule only...

Never forget!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could never imagine being homeless and it would terrify me.

There but for the grace of god eh ...

It can happen and does happen to people all the time.

Those i know well, know there would always be a bed here for them.

And a much needed warm hug .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To the op - you are a survivior & your post here has been humbling x being alone with no one watching your back is the hardest thing

Some people trip through life and are never seem to feel anything deeply & some of us have a tale to tell & how we survived it x Its made me a better person x "

It's a triumph if you have anything left to feel at all. I emotionally feel like an amputee some days, but the post is about an old friend. I dont even believe it's goodwill, it's just the right thing to do. Treat as you would hope to be treated x

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