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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent

It's been 2 years since my ex moved out. 18 months since we split up properly. 12 months since he got with his new gf and 6 months since he moved into her 3 bedroom house (I'm only mentioning the size of the house to demostrate the space issue)

When he moved out he took the main stuff, clothes, his tv, xbox, some furniture etc. but a cupboard in my hallway has been full of the rest of his junk (old motorbike parts, a crappy set of golf clubs, odd bits of clothing, tools etc) since he left.

In that 2 years I have asked him nicely on numerous occasions to please clear out his stuff and if he doesn't want it I'll take it to the dump to get rid. I've probably asked him at least ten times. He always says he will but never has.

2 months ago I told him that my dad was going for his op and as soon as he could drive again which would be a couple of weeks after I was having a good clear out and his stuff would be going. He STILL hasn't bothered moving it so this morning I dumped the lot!!!!

He will probably go bloody mental when he finds out.

Have I been unreasonable??? My new Hoover now has a new home and he looks quite happy in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bang out of order.

You're a very naughty girl lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You haven't been unreasonable at all. You have given him more than enough time and chances.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Well, its your house... You have told him... You have given him months to sort it.

I'd have phoned him and said "your stuff is in bin bags outside, when are you coming to get it?"

It's your house... Your rules. He needs to take things more seriously by the sounds of it.

X

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

he had the chance so quite reasonable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope he doesnt live there so why should his stuff

You left it longer than i would have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, its your house... You have told him... You have given him months to sort it.

I'd have phoned him and said "your stuff is in bin bags outside, when are you coming to get it?"

It's your house... Your rules. He needs to take things more seriously by the sounds of it.

X"

how come you waited so long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's been 2 years since my ex moved out. 18 months since we split up properly. 12 months since he got with his new gf and 6 months since he moved into her 3 bedroom house (I'm only mentioning the size of the house to demostrate the space issue)

When he moved out he took the main stuff, clothes, his tv, xbox, some furniture etc. but a cupboard in my hallway has been full of the rest of his junk (old motorbike parts, a crappy set of golf clubs, odd bits of clothing, tools etc) since he left.

In that 2 years I have asked him nicely on numerous occasions to please clear out his stuff and if he doesn't want it I'll take it to the dump to get rid. I've probably asked him at least ten times. He always says he will but never has.

2 months ago I told him that my dad was going for his op and as soon as he could drive again which would be a couple of weeks after I was having a good clear out and his stuff would be going. He STILL hasn't bothered moving it so this morning I dumped the lot!!!!

He will probably go bloody mental when he finds out.

Have I been unreasonable??? My new Hoover now has a new home and he looks quite happy in there "
good for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've given him enough time and plenty of opportunities to take the rest of his belongings!

So no you haven't been unreasonable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't even had given that many chances

Plus I probably would have eBay'd it and called it rent

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"Well, its your house... You have told him... You have given him months to sort it.

I'd have phoned him and said "your stuff is in bin bags outside, when are you coming to get it?"

It's your house... Your rules. He needs to take things more seriously by the sounds of it.

X"

I've done that once and felt guilty so bought it back in!! I'm fed up of being a pushover. I left it a long time because he was just renting a room at his aunts so was short of space but now he has moved into a decent size house he has more space than me. I've asked him at least twice since he moved so I've had enough now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've given him plenty of time, a colleague at work has had a similar issue and gave him a matter of weeks. She's given loads of his stuff (worth £100's) away after he said in front of several witnesses that he didn't want anything that he hadn't already taken. I very nearly got his mountain bike!

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"I wouldn't even had given that many chances

Plus I probably would have eBay'd it and called it rent "

It's not worth anything or I would of done. I even told him if he popped in and sorted through what he wants I'd ditch the rest as he doesn't drive so my dad would take me to the dump but noooooo!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hoover has a new home????

but u promised me that was gonna be my bedroom!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done HotBot! Very impressed.

You've done the right thing, your house your rules!

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"You've given him plenty of time, a colleague at work has had a similar issue and gave him a matter of weeks. She's given loads of his stuff (worth £100's) away after he said in front of several witnesses that he didn't want anything that he hadn't already taken. I very nearly got his mountain bike!"

Lol!! I gave him time to find somewhere to store it. He's been living somewhere big enough for 6 months now and still hasn't bothered so if he gets pissed off (which he will) it's tough!!!

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"hoover has a new home????

but u promised me that was gonna be my bedroom!!!!!"

There's still space for you paddy as long as you can sleep standing up next to the Hoover x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'd like to chuck half of Rodger the lodger fishing gear out and turn the spare room into that a spare room...alas I think he would notice

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"I'd like to chuck half of Rodger the lodger fishing gear out and turn the spare room into that a spare room...alas I think he would notice "

Haha!! Yes he prob would!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hoover has a new home????

but u promised me that was gonna be my bedroom!!!!!

There's still space for you paddy as long as you can sleep standing up next to the Hoover x "

on an unrelated note, is ur bedroom next to mine? not that I'm drilling any holes to peek in FFS...what kindo pervo u taking me for!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex took the important stuff like the tv's and sky box's. Just had to wait forever for him to collect his children's stuff!

6 months later though I'm still waiting for him to collect their beds, an electric mixer and their bikes! Hmmmm

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"hoover has a new home????

but u promised me that was gonna be my bedroom!!!!!

There's still space for you paddy as long as you can sleep standing up next to the Hoover x

on an unrelated note, is ur bedroom next to mine? not that I'm drilling any holes to peek in FFS...what kindo pervo u taking me for!?"

It's directly opposite. If you prefer next door there's a built in wardrobe in my room that I could make a bed up in if I shifted done stuff around

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By *uckyinlustMan
over a year ago

manchester

Good on you .........nice one .........

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"My ex took the important stuff like the tv's and sky box's. Just had to wait forever for him to collect his children's stuff!

6 months later though I'm still waiting for him to collect their beds, an electric mixer and their bikes! Hmmmm

"

That's harder isn't it coz id of felt bad chucking kids stuff. I've gotta admit I've been grinning to myself all day now I've finally done it coz I think he expected me to keep it there forever! I even told the blokes at the dump there were a load of spare xbox cables etc in there they had a good rummage through lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't even had given that many chances

Plus I probably would have eBay'd it and called it rent "

Was thinking eBay myself and then you could have spent the money on yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hoover has a new home????

but u promised me that was gonna be my bedroom!!!!!

There's still space for you paddy as long as you can sleep standing up next to the Hoover x

on an unrelated note, is ur bedroom next to mine? not that I'm drilling any holes to peek in FFS...what kindo pervo u taking me for!?

It's directly opposite. If you prefer next door there's a built in wardrobe in my room that I could make a bed up in if I shifted done stuff around "

well with this bedroom tax malarkey we gotta stick together...wheres ur knicker drawer located also...not that I'm wanting toi wank over ur knickers FFS ,what kinda pervo u take me for!!?!

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there

If you're worried about chucking it and you can afford to, hire some storage space for the shortest time allowed - probably a month, stick all his stuff in there, give him the keys and the receipt and it's no longer your problem. If he fails to collect it from there then they'll get rid of it and there will be no legal comeback to you.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

good for you gal never had that my problem with my ex as he came home from spending the weekend with gal he left me for and announced he was selling the house this was on april last year he not move out till june so i sorted stuff out told him to clear the loft and the shed. he took some pictures from the walls but i still have all the rest and as my house was sold in february rather forced the issue really

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It's been 2 years since my ex moved out. 18 months since we split up properly. 12 months since he got with his new gf and 6 months since he moved into her 3 bedroom house (I'm only mentioning the size of the house to demostrate the space issue)

When he moved out he took the main stuff, clothes, his tv, xbox, some furniture etc. but a cupboard in my hallway has been full of the rest of his junk (old motorbike parts, a crappy set of golf clubs, odd bits of clothing, tools etc) since he left.

In that 2 years I have asked him nicely on numerous occasions to please clear out his stuff and if he doesn't want it I'll take it to the dump to get rid. I've probably asked him at least ten times. He always says he will but never has.

2 months ago I told him that my dad was going for his op and as soon as he could drive again which would be a couple of weeks after I was having a good clear out and his stuff would be going. He STILL hasn't bothered moving it so this morning I dumped the lot!!!!

He will probably go bloody mental when he finds out.

Have I been unreasonable??? My new Hoover now has a new home and he looks quite happy in there "

I would have given him 24 hours before binning the lot! I did that with a boyfriend. Told him to get his shit out of my house before the Tuesday as that was bin day. He turned up the Wednesday and was genuinely surprised when I gave him directions to the municipal tip!

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"hoover has a new home????

but u promised me that was gonna be my bedroom!!!!!

There's still space for you paddy as long as you can sleep standing up next to the Hoover x

on an unrelated note, is ur bedroom next to mine? not that I'm drilling any holes to peek in FFS...what kindo pervo u taking me for!?

It's directly opposite. If you prefer next door there's a built in wardrobe in my room that I could make a bed up in if I shifted done stuff around

well with this bedroom tax malarkey we gotta stick together...wheres ur knicker drawer located also...not that I'm wanting toi wank over ur knickers FFS ,what kinda pervo u take me for!!?!"

Next to my bed. Lol.

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"It's been 2 years since my ex moved out. 18 months since we split up properly. 12 months since he got with his new gf and 6 months since he moved into her 3 bedroom house (I'm only mentioning the size of the house to demostrate the space issue)

When he moved out he took the main stuff, clothes, his tv, xbox, some furniture etc. but a cupboard in my hallway has been full of the rest of his junk (old motorbike parts, a crappy set of golf clubs, odd bits of clothing, tools etc) since he left.

In that 2 years I have asked him nicely on numerous occasions to please clear out his stuff and if he doesn't want it I'll take it to the dump to get rid. I've probably asked him at least ten times. He always says he will but never has.

2 months ago I told him that my dad was going for his op and as soon as he could drive again which would be a couple of weeks after I was having a good clear out and his stuff would be going. He STILL hasn't bothered moving it so this morning I dumped the lot!!!!

He will probably go bloody mental when he finds out.

Have I been unreasonable??? My new Hoover now has a new home and he looks quite happy in there

I would have given him 24 hours before binning the lot! I did that with a boyfriend. Told him to get his shit out of my house before the Tuesday as that was bin day. He turned up the Wednesday and was genuinely surprised when I gave him directions to the municipal tip!"

Too late now! Oooops. I'd love to say I feel bad. But I don't!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"nope."

I think I'd get a week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You haven't been unreasonable at all!! You have told him numerous times to get his stuff out! And in that amount if time if he really wanted it, if it was really important he would have done it!!

Good for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's been 2 years since my ex moved out. 18 months since we split up properly. 12 months since he got with his new gf and 6 months since he moved into her 3 bedroom house (I'm only mentioning the size of the house to demostrate the space issue)

When he moved out he took the main stuff, clothes, his tv, xbox, some furniture etc. but a cupboard in my hallway has been full of the rest of his junk (old motorbike parts, a crappy set of golf clubs, odd bits of clothing, tools etc) since he left.

In that 2 years I have asked him nicely on numerous occasions to please clear out his stuff and if he doesn't want it I'll take it to the dump to get rid. I've probably asked him at least ten times. He always says he will but never has.

2 months ago I told him that my dad was going for his op and as soon as he could drive again which would be a couple of weeks after I was having a good clear out and his stuff would be going. He STILL hasn't bothered moving it so this morning I dumped the lot!!!!

He will probably go bloody mental when he finds out.

Have I been unreasonable??? My new Hoover now has a new home and he looks quite happy in there "

For what it's worth, I think you've been very reasonable...

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Next question... Should I tell him or not bother until in about a year he wants something from there and it's all home and say I threw it away ages ago so you can't of been that bothered??

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Next question... Should I tell him or not bother until in about a year he wants something from there and it's all home and say I threw it away ages ago so you can't of been that bothered?? "

Nah don't bother telling him...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah damn. You could have given it to me. And then i could have sold it and made some moneeeeyyyyy!!

..but you did the right thing. Remove the remnants of his being from the house. And that can be his surprise gift..

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By *thyorksCouple
over a year ago

ROTHERHAM

You gave him enough time & opportunity to remove it ..

His loss

Your hoover's gain. X

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Seems fair to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course you've done the right thing love!You;ve given him enough warning!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you've been more than fair ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Next question... Should I tell him or not bother until in about a year he wants something from there and it's all home and say I threw it away ages ago so you can't of been that bothered?? "

I wouldn't tell him, then if he does ever ask for it all just tell him the fairies must have been a taken it all! He'll probably never know it's all gone

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By *rMrsAdriaCouple
over a year ago

Gosport


"I'd like to chuck half of Rodger the lodger fishing gear out and turn the spare room into that a spare room...alas I think he would notice "

Poor old rodger. U leave his fishing gear alone

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