FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting strangers how safe?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Meeting strangers is always going to have some measure of risk, whether you find them online, at a bar or at the grocery store. I don't think meeting through the web is much more dangerous than meeting other places. But I think you have to keep in mind that while the person you are chatting to is most likely just a normal person like you, you really don't know them. While it is human nature to be trusting, you should consider the possibility that they could be crazy or dangerous ..I Was reading about this lady in a magazine man come into her house to do a job he was nice they got on well end up having a drink ... After 3 dates he started to change and he had a history of beating woman up and had been to court and on parole and he almost killed her . How do you know when meeting strangers online for sex you will be safe and they don't have a passed like this. ? And how do you keep yourself safe.? People can say ooo we chat yes but people only tell you most of the time what you wish to here and if there passed bad would never maybe say . Meeting at a club could still have risks too ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

meeting off here is like fucking bareback, we know the risks its upto us if we take them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it all adds to the excitement don't you. I'm meeting a man today he's comin round to have his Dick sucked at 5pm on way home from work I'm worked up already can't wait to do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"meeting off here is like fucking bareback, we know the risks its upto us if we take them

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yes but some have a passed and could be a really nasty bit of work .. How can you them out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a risk that only you can decide if its worth taking, I don't do socials, as i could meet someone for coffee and he could be perfectly lovely, but once behind closed doors, he could still be a fucking nut job. For me i chat for quite a while, people tend not to be able to hide craziness for to long, and then i met for fun, it's part of the buzz for me. If i didn't do anything that had an element of risk life would be very dull.

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By *estfrienddaveMan
over a year ago

wellingborough

If its single women they should always arrange a meet in a public place first and not take lifts from them to get there.

I always let the woman decide where when and how we meet. And if she was to invite me round i still ask if she is sure.

But then again that's just me. Want then to feel safe and relaxed about a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"meeting off here is like fucking bareback, we know the risks its upto us if we take them

yes but some have a passed and could be a really nasty bit of work .. How can you them out?"

you cant can you, by the time you realise somebodies got a dark side its usually to late

people are usually really nice when you first meet in order to gain your trust for later on, so maybe if you don't do re meets it will stop the late on happening?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose its a bit different for a guy than a woman. My only rule is if you say your this that an the other when you turn up if your not then il tell them to forget it. I only had the odd bad experience to be honest

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"meeting off here is like fucking bareback, we know the risks its upto us if we take them

yes but some have a passed and could be a really nasty bit of work .. How can you them out?"

You can't, end of, you just have to use your judgement as best you can. And get as many details as you can to leave with someone as security when you go out to meet.

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By *estfrienddaveMan
over a year ago

wellingborough

I think that's where the verification comes in to play to help you decide if they can be trusted by what others say about them ?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I wear iron pants to be on the safe side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wear iron pants to be on the safe side"

incase you get a kick in the nuts?

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By *estfrienddaveMan
over a year ago

wellingborough

"I wear iron pants to be on the safe side"

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I think that's where the verification comes in to play to help you decide if they can be trusted by what others say about them ?"

That doesn't work for the above scenario - dodgy people could get good veris on the first meet by being on their 'best behaviour'. There are a lot of seriously damaged people around, but they usually reveal themselves before too long - the odd comment.........

There is a saying 'The horse that tried to kill you warned you first'. We need to take heed to the little warning signs that set our antenna twitching saying 'Something not right here' and learn to walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that's where the verification comes in to play to help you decide if they can be trusted by what others say about them ?"

verifications can lie.

who would post up bad veri's? nobody.

all you can do is chat with people, and trust your judgement.

hasnt sent us too far wrong yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like all things in life you have to balance the risk, chatting and reading veri's is a good start.

I always meet socialy in a public place, I do think you can generaly tell if a person is ok.

You will always get the odd balls who go out of there way to hide what they are realy like.

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By *estfrienddaveMan
over a year ago

wellingborough

"I wear iron pants to be on the safe side

incase you get a kick in the nuts? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wear iron pants to be on the safe side

incase you get a kick in the nuts? "

No. Just cos he gets himself off on wearing iron pants. He's odd like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to go with my "gut feeling" when chatting etc.

Its served me well so far and all those ive met have been ok.

Everything we do has risks so we need to reduce them ...

re meeting in a public place, letting people know where your going, time back etc.

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By *estfrienddaveMan
over a year ago

wellingborough

"I think that's where the verification comes in to play to help you decide if they can be trusted by what others say about them ?

verifications can lie.

who would post up bad veri's? nobody.

all you can doa is chat with people, and trust your judgement.

hasnt sent us too far wrong yet"

Guess that's true, but then again their whole profile could be a pack of lies !

You just take your chance on what you believe

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By *estfrienddaveMan
over a year ago

wellingborough

"I tend to go with my "gut feeling" when chatting etc.

Its served me well so far and all those ive met have been ok.

Everything we do has risks so we need to reduce them ...

re meeting in a public place, letting people know where your going, time back etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that's where the verification comes in to play to help you decide if they can be trusted by what others say about them ?

verifications can lie.

who would post up bad veri's? nobody.

all you can do is chat with people, and trust your judgement.

hasnt sent us too far wrong yet"

Works like that for me. And I never just meet someone off the cuff. Have to chat first and see what makes them tick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if they look a bit dodgy or rough, then dont meet them. i have a feeling about some men and i am often right, better to be safe than sorry.

my hubby is always in the house when i have men round, most people are ok but even nice men can get nasty, sometimes.

the good thing about fab is that you can read their verifications and the ones they have left for others, as well as their face pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that's where the verification comes in to play to help you decide if they can be trusted by what others say about them ?

verifications can lie.

who would post up bad veri's? nobody.

all you can doa is chat with people, and trust your judgement.

hasnt sent us too far wrong yet

Guess that's true, but then again their whole profile could be a pack of lies !

You just take your chance on what you believe"

and thats where judgement comes in.

you can find holes in someones profile within 5 messages, easily, because liars need to remember what thye have said.

when i have just read their profile, and htey havent read it since they posted it, its fresher in my mind than theirs.

really is that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can hide craziness for as long as they need. Believe me I know.

I guess that's why you have verifications on here. I have to have confirmation pictures, phone calls and even possibly have to see them out and about (like I am gonna be around a place at this time come to that place so I can see you and check your real) before I contemplate a meet now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if they look a bit dodgy or rough, then dont meet them. i have a feeling about some men and i am often right, better to be safe than sorry.

my hubby is always in the house when i have men round, most people are ok but even nice men can get nasty, sometimes.

the good thing about fab is that you can read their verifications and the ones they have left for others, as well as their face pic.

The thing about veris, is that you cant take them back.

I know someone on here and have known him all my life...he has a veri off me ....but then he does something to show that he is nowt but a lying shite..

I cant get back that veri and he displays it proudly.

That annoys me because other women will take note of that veri and have a distorted view of him.

There should be a way of removing them ,without having to leave the site all together .

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I think if they look a bit dodgy or rough, then dont meet them. i have a feeling about some men and i am often right, better to be safe than sorry.

my hubby is always in the house when i have men round, most people are ok but even nice men can get nasty, sometimes.

the good thing about fab is that you can read their verifications and the ones they have left for others, as well as their face pic.

The thing about veris, is that you cant take them back.

I know someone on here and have known him all my life...he has a veri off me ....but then he does something to show that he is nowt but a lying shite..

I cant get back that veri and he displays it proudly.

That annoys me because other women will take note of that veri and have a distorted view of him.

There should be a way of removing them ,without having to leave the site all together .

You can hun, if you block him your veri will disappear!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if they look a bit dodgy or rough, then dont meet them. i have a feeling about some men and i am often right, better to be safe than sorry.

my hubby is always in the house when i have men round, most people are ok but even nice men can get nasty, sometimes.

the good thing about fab is that you can read their verifications and the ones they have left for others, as well as their face pic.

The thing about veris, is that you cant take them back.

I know someone on here and have known him all my life...he has a veri off me ....but then he does something to show that he is nowt but a lying shite..

I cant get back that veri and he displays it proudly.

That annoys me because other women will take note of that veri and have a distorted view of him.

There should be a way of removing them ,without having to leave the site all together .

You can hun, if you block him your veri will disappear!!!"

Ohhhh thank you...just done it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if they look a bit dodgy or rough, then dont meet them. i have a feeling about some men and i am often right, better to be safe than sorry.

my hubby is always in the house when i have men round, most people are ok but even nice men can get nasty, sometimes.

the good thing about fab is that you can read their verifications and the ones they have left for others, as well as their face pic.

The thing about veris, is that you cant take them back.

I know someone on here and have known him all my life...he has a veri off me ....but then he does something to show that he is nowt but a lying shite..

I cant get back that veri and he displays it proudly.

That annoys me because other women will take note of that veri and have a distorted view of him.

There should be a way of removing them ,without having to leave the site all together .

I agree with this as I have verified guys after meeting them once and they have turned out to be not as I expected so if verifications could be removed easily I would be happier

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think if they look a bit dodgy or rough, then dont meet them. i have a feeling about some men and i am often right, better to be safe than sorry.

my hubby is always in the house when i have men round, most people are ok but even nice men can get nasty, sometimes.

the good thing about fab is that you can read their verifications and the ones they have left for others, as well as their face pic.

The thing about veris, is that you cant take them back.

I know someone on here and have known him all my life...he has a veri off me ....but then he does something to show that he is nowt but a lying shite..

I cant get back that veri and he displays it proudly.

That annoys me because other women will take note of that veri and have a distorted view of him.

There should be a way of removing them ,without having to leave the site all together .

I agree with this as I have verified guys after meeting them once and they have turned out to be not as I expected so if verifications could be removed easily I would be happier

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your right maybe fab should look into that as would make this site better for others . Sure they will look into it.

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By *estfrienddaveMan
over a year ago

wellingborough

"I think if they look a bit dodgy or rough, then dont meet them. i have a feeling about some men and i am often right, better to be safe than sorry.

my hubby is always in the house when i have men round, most people are ok but even nice men can get nasty, sometimes.

the good thing about fab is that you can read their verifications and the ones they have left for others, as well as their face pic.

The thing about veris, is that you cant take them back.

I know someone on here and have known him all my life...he has a veri off me ....but then he does something to show that he is nowt but a lying shite..

I cant get back that veri and he displays it proudly.

That annoys me because other women will take note of that veri and have a distorted view of him.

There should be a way of removing them ,without having to leave the site all together .

You can hun, if you block him your veri will disappear!!!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think if they look a bit dodgy or rough, then dont meet them. i have a feeling about some men and i am often right, better to be safe than sorry.

my hubby is always in the house when i have men round, most people are ok but even nice men can get nasty, sometimes.

the good thing about fab is that you can read their verifications and the ones they have left for others, as well as their face pic.

The thing about veris, is that you cant take them back.

I know someone on here and have known him all my life...he has a veri off me ....but then he does something to show that he is nowt but a lying shite..

I cant get back that veri and he displays it proudly.

That annoys me because other women will take note of that veri and have a distorted view of him.

There should be a way of removing them ,without having to leave the site all together .

You can hun, if you block him your veri will disappear!!!

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Would it disappear to all? if she did block or just her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you only really get to know people you are around alot

some sex and a few socials isnt gonna tell you everything about someone. we all try and come across our best in those kinds situations

i guess you just go with your gut. you could be right or wrong about someone but following your own instincts is the best option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The veri disappears if you block someone or they block you

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I'd like to be able to remove veris too.

I'd like to be able to remove or edit those left for others, (editing would rehide the veri until reviewed and reshown by the receiver).

I'd also like to be able to delete veris left for me. I once had one from someone I had a less than stellar social with. The veri, though I didn't show it, was fine but every time I saw it on my account it made me feel ill.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"I think if they look a bit dodgy or rough, then dont meet them. i have a feeling about some men and i am often right, better to be safe than sorry.

my hubby is always in the house when i have men round, most people are ok but even nice men can get nasty, sometimes.

the good thing about fab is that you can read their verifications and the ones they have left for others, as well as their face pic.

The thing about veris, is that you cant take them back.

I know someone on here and have known him all my life...he has a veri off me ....but then he does something to show that he is nowt but a lying shite..

I cant get back that veri and he displays it proudly.

That annoys me because other women will take note of that veri and have a distorted view of him.

There should be a way of removing them ,without having to leave the site all together .

You can hun, if you block him your veri will disappear!!!

Would it disappear to all? if she did block or just her?"

No one would see the veri if she blocks him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive just posted on the site feedback forum asking if we can have a simple way of doing it. ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meeting strangers is always going to have some measure of risk, whether you find them online, at a bar or at the grocery store. I don't think meeting through the web is much more dangerous than meeting other places. But I think you have to keep in mind that while the person you are chatting to is most likely just a normal person like you, you really don't know them. While it is human nature to be trusting, you should consider the possibility that they could be crazy or dangerous ..I Was reading about this lady in a magazine man come into her house to do a job he was nice they got on well end up having a drink ... After 3 dates he started to change and he had a history of beating woman up and had been to court and on parole and he almost killed her . How do you know when meeting strangers online for sex you will be safe and they don't have a passed like this. ? And how do you keep yourself safe.? People can say ooo we chat yes but people only tell you most of the time what you wish to here and if there passed bad would never maybe say . Meeting at a club could still have risks too .."

This post Reminds me of the Denis Nielsen thread

Laughing at the word "normal" and this site

The two don't go together

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Ive just posted on the site feedback forum asking if we can have a simple way of doing it. ???

It would be good if we could separate veris from blocking, so you can remove them without blocking, AND vice versa, block without removing the veri.

I also wish veris would not disappear when people leave the site for perfectly legit reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive just posted on the site feedback forum asking if we can have a simple way of doing it. ???

It would be good if we could separate veris from blocking, so you can remove them without blocking, AND vice versa, block without removing the veri.

I also wish veris would not disappear when people leave the site for perfectly legit reasons."

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Ive just posted on the site feedback forum asking if we can have a simple way of doing it. ???

Good luck lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter what you do to protect yourself the risk is always there! I had a bad experience where a guy decided to bite me during oral, a full on bite drawing blood, I got my stuff and got out as soon as I could!

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

i was a swinger when i was married and never gave a thought to my safety till i met couple last year ,the guy said to me be careful of having single guys round.

as they could leave you for dead so now

go to clubs or just me guys i've met before and let a friend know what i'm doing.

veris not mean a thing been let down by guys with veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No matter what you do to protect yourself the risk is always there! I had a bad experience where a guy decided to bite me during oral, a full on bite drawing blood, I got my stuff and got out as soon as I could! "

God !! how awful.

I would have knocked teeth out , he wouldnt have bit anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's risks in meeting people anywhere - not just on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being funny to op but every think we do has it's risks and we can't all go round by thinking every one is or isn't a nut job and it is scary in that respect because everyone could or couldn't be like some other people said on this go with your gut feeling or play it safe before you meet or when you meet. Also that nut if you get one hope not but they have the biggest risk as they will get caught one way or another because they always mess up

Wish you all a good time on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not being funny to op but every think we do has it's risks and we can't all go round by thinking every one is or isn't a nut job and it is scary in that respect because everyone could or couldn't be like some other people said on this go with your gut feeling or play it safe before you meet or when you meet. Also that nut if you get one hope not but they have the biggest risk as they will get caught one way or another because they always mess up

Wish you all a good time on here

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yes I know theres a risk meeting strangers for sex ...and letting people into your home you don't know ... only thing you can go on is gut feelings when you don't know them but god help you if you read them wrong and a nutter .How can you really trust people you don't know ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit although what happened was nasty I was lucky, he had 6 verifications, I let my FWB know exactly where I was and put my locator on, on my phone. Always let someone know where your going whether male or female either sex can be violent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I must admit although what happened was nasty I was lucky, he had 6 verifications, I let my FWB know exactly where I was and put my locator on, on my phone. Always let someone know where your going whether male or female either sex can be violent. "
yes it good to let a close friend know what your up too. And phone can really help your right. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting strangers how safe?

My basic groundrules are:

Message(s),

Text(s),

Email(s),

Phone call(s),

Social meet, in a public place.

Then, the first few meets, always a hotel (never my home, or her/their home).

Works for me ... never had a bad swinging meet yet. And works for the singles/couples I meet too.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"meeting off here is like fucking bareback, we know the risks its upto us if we take them

yes but some have a passed and could be a really nasty bit of work .. How can you them out?"

The same could be said when meeting anyone, anywhere.

You just don't know what people are or can be like behind closed doors or when d*unk etc.

You just have to use a bit of common sense and listen to your gut feelings. There are risks with most things in life....

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Wish you all a good time on here

yes I know theres a risk meeting strangers for sex ...and letting people into your home you don't know ... only thing you can go on is gut feelings when you don't know them but god help you if you read them wrong and a nutter .How can you really trust people you don't know ?"

But you can't always trust those that you do know, like family.

Some people are just good at putting on an act when it suits.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wish you all a good time on here

But you can't always trust those that you do know, like family.

Some people are just good at putting on an act when it suits."
Meeting on the net people can be who ever they wish and say what ever and you have no clue about there passed at lest you do with family know something that's real yes can still do things to hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's risks in meeting people anywhere - not just on here "

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"Meeting strangers how safe?

My basic groundrules are:

Message(s),

Text(s),

Email(s),

Phone call(s),

Social meet, in a public place.

Then, the first few meets, always a hotel (never my home, or her/their home).

Works for me ... never had a bad swinging meet yet. And works for the singles/couples I meet too.

Though I have to say, if I go to someones house, it means I have their home address and can leave it with my text buddy, and that makes me feel safer - there is a certain amount of trust involved.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

All of life is a risk. It's up to us to manage it in a way where we still enjoy life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of life is a risk. It's up to us to manage it in a way where we still enjoy life

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Praise the lord, and pass the ammunition

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