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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you decline someone's introduction advances without sounding harsh, I feel a non response is rude a and seem to be getting hassle for my lack of fab etiquette ... Kind words required x

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

try

'Thanks for your message, it's a thanks but no thanks from me.

Good luck with your search and have fun'

works for me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

On this website it is not considered rude to not reply. A non reply means 'thanks but no thanks'. Some women get 100's of messages ans simply would not have time to enjoy the site if they replied to each one, which would the generate 'why?' responses in turn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On this website it is not considered rude to not reply. A non reply means 'thanks but no thanks'. Some women get 100's of messages ans simply would not have time to enjoy the site if they replied to each one, which would the generate 'why?' responses in turn. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"try

'Thanks for your message, it's a thanks but no thanks from me.

Good luck with your search and have fun'

works for me "

That would be a good approach

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"try

'Thanks for your message, it's a thanks but no thanks from me.

Good luck with your search and have fun'

works for me "

+1

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Oh and then if they come back with the why etc I just ignore

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Oh and then if they come back with the why etc I just ignore "

Perfectly reasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

keep it short and sweet. thanks but ur not for me or something

ur gonna get some guys getting the hump however nice you are so dont let any negative reactions get to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yup, i just say "thanks for the message, but not for me, have fun" I Have never yet had anyone be rude back, just a couple of "thank you for your reply"..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"try

'Thanks for your message, it's a thanks but no thanks from me.

Good luck with your search and have fun'

works for me

+1 "

+2

If they ask why. I just tell them I don't fancy them simples. Tends to work. If not. There's always the block button. That works really well too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If they ask why. I just tell them I don't fancy them simples. Tends to work. If not. There's always the block button. That works really well too "

Great advice there. The block button serves well for all kinds of people! And lets be honest, its not as if there aren't plenty more sexy single ladies to pick up others seconds!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"How do you decline someone's introduction advances without sounding harsh, I feel a non response is rude a and seem to be getting hassle for my lack of fab etiquette ... Kind words required x"

I have tried all sorts of ways. Now I just say 'No thank you'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck the hell off!"

No..dont.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"try

'Thanks for your message, it's a thanks but no thanks from me.

Good luck with your search and have fun'

works for me "

+1

+2

+3

Polite and to the point

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"yup, i just say "thanks for the message, but not for me, have fun" I Have never yet had anyone be rude back, just a couple of "thank you for your reply".. "

+1

That's the formula for me too and it's the way it should be and probably is for most of us....just a few newbies or sullen immature bitter characters kick off claiming it's not fair or polite or whatever, evacuating toys from prams.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

.. and here was me thinking this was going to be a thread about growing old gracefully.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for the advice very helpful indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for the advice very helpful indeed "

It may be a good idea for you to use filters to le out the shit too. Rather than having to deal with a plethora of messages! Saves more time for seconds!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Filters are on ... Age restrictions, verified only, pictures etc ... Just people think you have nothing better to do then fab all day and night lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And here was me thinking it was my Deoderant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And here was me thinking it was my Deoderant "

I know what you mean!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as I know, site rules,say that it is perfectly acceptable to ignore messages. You might want to reread them OP to save you spending such a long time on Fab answering all of your messages. Makes time for other things.

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By *ob55Man
over a year ago

PE13

if I get a really nice reply back saying not for them or something similar I sometimes send an equally nice reply and never write again

if my message is just deleted I block them So I don't write again sometime in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And here was me thinking it was my Deoderant

I know what you mean! "

so you go to the same market stall as me

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