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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I see a lot of comments about time wasting and being let but I never have been a victim of it, here or elsewhere.

What I do when talking to someone is not just to talk about sex, I found about them, and just be a real person as if I was in the pub talking to them for the first time.

We share emails over a period of a few days and start to discuss a potential meeting. I always make sure we speak first on the phone - and thats not to check if they are real, but to see if we get on.

Maybe what I do could help people who are being let down

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

You do know someone is thinking 'challenge accepted'

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I see a lot of comments about time wasting and being let but I never have been a victim of it, here or elsewhere.

What I do when talking to someone is not just to talk about sex, I found about them, and just be a real person as if I was in the pub talking to them for the first time.

We share emails over a period of a few days and start to discuss a potential meeting. I always make sure we speak first on the phone - and thats not to check if they are real, but to see if we get on.

Maybe what I do could help people who are being let down"

You can meet people who are very real and still have your time wasted unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

same here, no let downs, but then again like attracts like x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see a lot of comments about time wasting and being let but I never have been a victim of it, here or elsewhere.

What I do when talking to someone is not just to talk about sex, I found about them, and just be a real person as if I was in the pub talking to them for the first time.

We share emails over a period of a few days and start to discuss a potential meeting. I always make sure we speak first on the phone - and thats not to check if they are real, but to see if we get on.

Maybe what I do could help people who are being let down

You can meet people who are very real and still have your time wasted unfortunately."

Now I have been in that situation, but I dont think my time was wasted because I always insist on no expectations - lets see how we get on when we meet.

Sometimes the woman has said no thanks, but you know what, she turns up - I respect that and dont think its time wasting

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I see a lot of comments about time wasting and being let but I never have been a victim of it, here or elsewhere.

What I do when talking to someone is not just to talk about sex, I found about them, and just be a real person as if I was in the pub talking to them for the first time.

We share emails over a period of a few days and start to discuss a potential meeting. I always make sure we speak first on the phone - and thats not to check if they are real, but to see if we get on.

Maybe what I do could help people who are being let down

You can meet people who are very real and still have your time wasted unfortunately.

Now I have been in that situation, but I dont think my time was wasted because I always insist on no expectations - lets see how we get on when we meet.

Sometimes the woman has said no thanks, but you know what, she turns up - I respect that and dont think its time wasting"

I'm not talking about that, I am talking about people being deliberately deceptive, pretending to be what they are not or want something different. They waste precious time that could be spent on people who are authentic and honest at whatever level they relate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

you have a point, a bloody good one.

I've never been in that situation and I certainly havent painted a different picture of myself to give a false impression

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you have a point, a bloody good one.

I've never been in that situation and I certainly havent painted a different picture of myself to give a false impression"

I was let down three times in one day booooo hooooo

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I see a lot of comments about time wasting and being let but I never have been a victim of it, here or elsewhere.

What I do when talking to someone is not just to talk about sex, I found about them, and just be a real person as if I was in the pub talking to them for the first time.

We share emails over a period of a few days and start to discuss a potential meeting. I always make sure we speak first on the phone - and thats not to check if they are real, but to see if we get on.

Maybe what I do could help people who are being let down"

Maybe some people arrange a lot more meets than you and therefore have a higher chance of encountering time wasters and liars?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you have a point, a bloody good one.

I've never been in that situation and I certainly havent painted a different picture of myself to give a false impression

I was let down three times in one day booooo hooooo"

Firstly...what are you going for the world record or something ;p

Secondly ....what the hell? I'm literally gob-smacked anyone would let you down...let alone three complete idiots x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you have a point, a bloody good one.

I've never been in that situation and I certainly havent painted a different picture of myself to give a false impression

I was let down three times in one day booooo hooooo

Firstly...what are you going for the world record or something ;p

Secondly ....what the hell? I'm literally gob-smacked anyone would let you down...let alone three complete idiots x"

I had a day off (I work six days a week ) so I thought I arrange a couple of meets at least one is bound to show up but none did

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

see.. its an interesting question...

in the 7-8 years I have been swinging I think I could count the amount of timewasters I had on the fingers of one hand....

my definition of "timewaster" only applies If I have actually set up a meet and left the house.....

but by them I have talked to them on here, and talked to them on the phone, maybe even skyped to make sure they look like who they say they are... and got an address and a text message from them before I have left the house.....

I think it is all of those "checks" I put in place that have prevented me from encountering the problems others have...

if something doesn't quite feel right, I keep talking and using all of my checks until it does... regardless of it that take 10 minutes... 1 hr... weeks or months!!!

if people don't like the speed I work at to feel comfortable... they can pass me by!!!

people are entitled to walk away, or change their minds at any point, that doesn't make them timewasters...

it is a very easy word to throw out there... leaves you blameless and puts it all on "someone else" but there has to be an amount of accountability on your own part.....

problem is so many people think with their genitals that those "checks" are sometimes relaxed or removed in the search for a quick legover..... and that is a major part of the issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you have a point, a bloody good one.

I've never been in that situation and I certainly havent painted a different picture of myself to give a false impression

I was let down three times in one day booooo hooooo

Firstly...what are you going for the world record or something ;p

Secondly ....what the hell? I'm literally gob-smacked anyone would let you down...let alone three complete idiots x

I had a day off (I work six days a week ) so I thought I arrange a couple of meets at least one is bound to show up but none did "

Ahh no way...definitely their loss big time...I'm still dumb struck they'd miss an opportunity to see you

Good job they didn't all turn up though...you know the famous saying "twos a crowd, fours a gang bang" - I think it was Confucius said it ;p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you have a point, a bloody good one.

I've never been in that situation and I certainly havent painted a different picture of myself to give a false impression

I was let down three times in one day booooo hooooo

Firstly...what are you going for the world record or something ;p

Secondly ....what the hell? I'm literally gob-smacked anyone would let you down...let alone three complete idiots x

I had a day off (I work six days a week ) so I thought I arrange a couple of meets at least one is bound to show up but none did "

What would you have done if both parties agreed the meet? Would you have made an excuse to one of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My approach is similar to the OP's. I expect to spend a bit of time messaging them building a rapport ~ I think the more you know someone the more likely you are to meet them.

Also I think it depends on what you define as a time waster, my definition would be someone who doesn't turn up at the agreed time & place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have not had one but I have a liberal attitude to chatting to people.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"I see a lot of comments about time wasting and being let but I never have been a victim of it, here or elsewhere.

What I do when talking to someone is not just to talk about sex, I found about them, and just be a real person as if I was in the pub talking to them for the first time.

We share emails over a period of a few days and start to discuss a potential meeting. I always make sure we speak first on the phone - and thats not to check if they are real, but to see if we get on.

Maybe what I do could help people who are being let down"

Hmmmmm. So why your other thread about having your time wasted ?

If you're going to give out sound advice to folk you must ensure it works first. Which evidently it did not for you.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"You do know someone is thinking 'challenge accepted' "

Yes, yes I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see a lot of comments about time wasting and being let but I never have been a victim of it, here or elsewhere.

What I do when talking to someone is not just to talk about sex, I found about them, and just be a real person as if I was in the pub talking to them for the first time.

We share emails over a period of a few days and start to discuss a potential meeting. I always make sure we speak first on the phone - and thats not to check if they are real, but to see if we get on.

Maybe what I do could help people who are being let down

Hmmmmm. So why your other thread about having your time wasted ?

If you're going to give out sound advice to folk you must ensure it works first. Which evidently it did not for you."

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Well your comments are a long way off positive so why add them. You do realise people can give advice from a position if bad luck themselves or was your intention just to snipe?

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