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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

When I shop at one of the local supermarkets there is almost always a charity at the checkout offering to pack your bags and then you feel obliged to give them some money for whatever their charity.

I dont have a problem with donations to charity but since being back a few weeks recently I have felt that it happened almost every time and it is difficult to escape the situation so I feel almost bullied into allowing them to pack my bags and donate.

Do other people experience this?

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area

I always say I prefer to pack my own bags, as I fill the bags with like for like products.

If I want to support the charity then I will still add to the bucket. As far as I'm concerned it is my choice, much as it is with street collectors

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By *rumCoupleCouple
over a year ago

birmingham


"When I shop at one of the local supermarkets there is almost always a charity at the checkout offering to pack your bags and then you feel obliged to give them some money for whatever their charity.

I dont have a problem with donations to charity but since being back a few weeks recently I have felt that it happened almost every time and it is difficult to escape the situation so I feel almost bullied into allowing them to pack my bags and donate.

Do other people experience this?

"

I once paid a packer *not* to pack my bags. Got fed up with squashed bread.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I always say I prefer to pack my own bags, as I fill the bags with like for like products.

If I want to support the charity then I will still add to the bucket. As far as I'm concerned it is my choice, much as it is with street collectors"

I quite agree it is and should be a choice. Nonetheless it sometimes feels quite difficult to actually say that.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"When I shop at one of the local supermarkets there is almost always a charity at the checkout offering to pack your bags and then you feel obliged to give them some money for whatever their charity.

I dont have a problem with donations to charity but since being back a few weeks recently I have felt that it happened almost every time and it is difficult to escape the situation so I feel almost bullied into allowing them to pack my bags and donate.

Do other people experience this?

I once paid a packer *not* to pack my bags. Got fed up with squashed bread."
There is that as well - some people don't pack terribly well.

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By *wingerdelightCouple
over a year ago

eastliegh

always pack my own bags as i prefere to leave that service for those that need it, and i rarely put money in collection tins but do donate to my charities of choice with direct debit, i wont be bullied into giving money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I shop at one of the local supermarkets there is almost always a charity at the checkout offering to pack your bags and then you feel obliged to give them some money for whatever their charity.

I dont have a problem with donations to charity but since being back a few weeks recently I have felt that it happened almost every time and it is difficult to escape the situation so I feel almost bullied into allowing them to pack my bags and donate.

Do other people experience this?

"

I've not experienced bag-packing chuggers in this country but then again I much prefer to pack my own bag anyway...

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"When I shop at one of the local supermarkets there is almost always a charity at the checkout offering to pack your bags and then you feel obliged to give them some money for whatever their charity.

I dont have a problem with donations to charity but since being back a few weeks recently I have felt that it happened almost every time and it is difficult to escape the situation so I feel almost bullied into allowing them to pack my bags and donate.

Do other people experience this?

I've not experienced bag-packing chuggers in this country but then again I much prefer to pack my own bag anyway... "
What's a chugger?

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I know what you mean, our Tesco have limits on how many bag packing/raffle ticket selling sessions they have as I asked when fund raising for RSPCA, if I remember right it was 2 per month, don't know if that's a countrywide thing or just cos Arse Enders are really big on fundraising and theres always something going on for various local and national charities. I never mind chucking 10 bob in the buckets when my bag is packed or indeed tossing a few coppers in the ever present buckets on the checkout when I have my purse out, but I'm fairly well off and can see how those on a tight budget might feel somewhat pressured

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

I've not experienced bag-packing chuggers in this country but then again I much prefer to pack my own bag anyway... What's a chugger? "

A CHarity mUGGER.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"

I've not experienced bag-packing chuggers in this country but then again I much prefer to pack my own bag anyway... What's a chugger?

A CHarity mUGGER."
Ah, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I've not experienced bag-packing chuggers in this country but then again I much prefer to pack my own bag anyway... What's a chugger?

A CHarity mUGGER."

And that , dear readers, is a portmanteau.

What a smartarse I am...

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area


"I always say I prefer to pack my own bags, as I fill the bags with like for like products.

If I want to support the charity then I will still add to the bucket. As far as I'm concerned it is my choice, much as it is with street collectors

I quite agree it is and should be a choice. Nonetheless it sometimes feels quite difficult to actually say that. "

Maybe I'm just hard faced lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I always say I prefer to pack my own bags, as I fill the bags with like for like products.

If I want to support the charity then I will still add to the bucket. As far as I'm concerned it is my choice, much as it is with street collectors"

That's what I do. I know how I want my bags, packed and, being an Aldi veteran, am much faster than the usual packers. Then I pop the change in their bucket anyway, so its win-win!

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

As someone who fundraises at supermarkets, it is not usually the charity that asks to bag pack but the managers that asks. Then again who wants a blind bag packer

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"As someone who fundraises at supermarkets, it is not usually the charity that asks to bag pack but the managers that asks. Then again who wants a blind bag packer "

But we do usually have an advantage over other charities.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"As someone who fundraises at supermarkets, it is not usually the charity that asks to bag pack but the managers that asks. Then again who wants a blind bag packer "

Gotta be cheaper than paying staff to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think it should be allowed.

there is a box where you can put cat food for the cats home which is a good idea.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"As someone who fundraises at supermarkets, it is not usually the charity that asks to bag pack but the managers that asks. Then again who wants a blind bag packer

Gotta be cheaper than paying staff to do it."

Very true and remember a lot of supermarkets ask if you need help with packing.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"i dont think it should be allowed.

there is a box where you can put cat food for the cats home which is a good idea."

Most charities have felt the pinch and get money anyway they can. Remembering charities usually pick up the short fall of what government or councils either do not want or can not do now days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have never had this problem as i usually rob my groceries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only donate to charities I support at tills...

The Zambian school trips or stage talent school ones ate avoided.

The local peoples kitchen for the homeless or the hospice get my cash. Hospices are not state funded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont think it should be allowed.

there is a box where you can put cat food for the cats home which is a good idea.

Most charities have felt the pinch and get money anyway they can. Remembering charities usually pick up the short fall of what government or councils either do not want or can not do now days "

Lot of people cant afford to give money to charity these days. i only give money to animal charities, you dont get so many of them begging for money though. they are a nuisance when they come knocking at your door, we dont answere it and if we do we say no thanks.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

i can see both sides of this...

I help out once a year with bag packing in a supermarket for an inner city project and realise what valuable contributions even the pennies are. We usually do it around Christmas, which is both a good festive time (I've helped lug cases of beer to the cars!) but equally a tight one for people.

Being a project involving under 18s they assist with the bag packing and as a customer - no way would i let them pack, lol! I'm so fussy about what goes in each bag.

I tend to decline bag packers but throw in a few pence. I don't believe people should be obliged to at all.

Do what's right for you.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I just want to make it clear that I am NOT against donations for charities - most charities are suffering under the ecnomic climate as Nucs already said.

I just dont like feeling pressured into donating - I prefer to have a genuine choice.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"i can see both sides of this...

I help out once a year with bag packing in a supermarket for an inner city project and realise what valuable contributions even the pennies are. We usually do it around Christmas, which is both a good festive time (I've helped lug cases of beer to the cars!) but equally a tight one for people.

Being a project involving under 18s they assist with the bag packing and as a customer - no way would i let them pack, lol! I'm so fussy about what goes in each bag.

I tend to decline bag packers but throw in a few pence. I don't believe people should be obliged to at all.

Do what's right for you. "

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"I just want to make it clear that I am NOT against donations for charities - most charities are suffering under the ecnomic climate as Nucs already said.

I just dont like feeling pressured into donating - I prefer to have a genuine choice."

When we collect we try to be out of the way, not only to not block the gangway but also so our dogs are not trod on.

As a side line if everyone in the country gave one pence to just one charity, it would more than run most charities.

I too believe that you give to what charity you choose and should never be forced into donating just because they are there

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

60,000,000 people at 1 penny each?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it can get a bit too much, although when a rugby player offered to pack my bags to raise money for the club I would have preferred he carried them to my house with me

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"60,000,000 people at 1 penny each?"

There you go. I always use it when a old lady try's to apologize for only being able to donate a few pence. It all really does help, god bless them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"60,000,000 people at 1 penny each?

There you go. I always use it when a old lady try's to apologize for only being able to donate a few pence. It all really does help, god bless them "

I think thats nice. you feel awkward because you think its no good just giving them less than 50p as they think you are tight.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"60,000,000 people at 1 penny each?

There you go. I always use it when a old lady try's to apologize for only being able to donate a few pence. It all really does help, god bless them "

Would £600000 pay the salaries of the CEOs of Britain's charities, far less run them all for a year?

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By *rumCoupleCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Drifting slightly OT, but we haven't used any supermarket bags for a while now. We bought a couple of folding crates from Homebase, and keep them in the car. When we go shopping we just pop the crate open in the trolley. Empty onto belt, and re-fill when scanned. We can now pack faster than the checkout operator can scan.

And we get nectar/clubcard points

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Like it seems most of us, I prefer to do my own arrangements at check-out. Also I do plan my own charitable giving, and help manage a struggling charity.

Often it's better if the charity gets gift-aid tax on top of your donation, so it's better for them if they can get an arranged donation rather than a bit of cash.

Also, like others, I avoid chuggers, as it's too much pressure for many and I don't encourage it.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"When I shop at one of the local supermarkets there is almost always a charity at the checkout offering to pack your bags and then you feel obliged to give them some money for whatever their charity.

I dont have a problem with donations to charity but since being back a few weeks recently I have felt that it happened almost every time and it is difficult to escape the situation so I feel almost bullied into allowing them to pack my bags and donate.

Do other people experience this?

"

Yup. Stopped shopping at my usual sainsbury because of it. I donate to a food bank regularly so am annoyed at being constantly tapped for more. Can't damned well afford it!

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Ive done bag packing twice

Raised £4000 for the neonatal unit who looked after my son, and done that in his memory, really appreciated when people even put pennies in but some people actually took 1p change

God help them if they ever lose a child or their baby needs cared for in the unit

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Ive done bag packing twice

Raised £4000 for the neonatal unit who looked after my son, and done that in his memory, really appreciated when people even put pennies in but some people actually took 1p change

God help them if they ever lose a child or their baby needs cared for in the unit "

So anyone who shows they don't donate enough to YOUR chosen charity you wish ill for them or their child? Not a very charitable attitude. And how do you know they can afford it? Did they have their bank statement pinned to their chest for you to peruse?

I donate to two charities. One by monthly direct debit and, as I said before, I regularly donate to a food bank. So were you to rattle your tin in front of me you would get nothing. And no doubt you would brand me as some miserly old skinfkint and hope any grandchildren I might have would be in need of neonatal care in the future.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Ive done bag packing twice

Raised £4000 for the neonatal unit who looked after my son, and done that in his memory, really appreciated when people even put pennies in but some people actually took 1p change

God help them if they ever lose a child or their baby needs cared for in the unit

So anyone who shows they don't donate enough to YOUR chosen charity you wish ill for them or their child? Not a very charitable attitude. And how do you know they can afford it? Did they have their bank statement pinned to their chest for you to peruse?

I donate to two charities. One by monthly direct debit and, as I said before, I regularly donate to a food bank. So were you to rattle your tin in front of me you would get nothing. And no doubt you would brand me as some miserly old skinfkint and hope any grandchildren I might have would be in need of neonatal care in the future. "

Ur sick!!!!!! Did i say that? Report

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Ive done bag packing twice

Raised £4000 for the neonatal unit who looked after my son, and done that in his memory, really appreciated when people even put pennies in but some people actually took 1p change

God help them if they ever lose a child or their baby needs cared for in the unit

So anyone who shows they don't donate enough to YOUR chosen charity you wish ill for them or their child? Not a very charitable attitude. And how do you know they can afford it? Did they have their bank statement pinned to their chest for you to peruse?

I donate to two charities. One by monthly direct debit and, as I said before, I regularly donate to a food bank. So were you to rattle your tin in front of me you would get nothing. And no doubt you would brand me as some miserly old skinfkint and hope any grandchildren I might have would be in need of neonatal care in the future.

Ur sick!!!!!! Did i say that? Report "

Nothing sick about it. I'm simpky responding to your obvious inference. Perhaps you need to think about what you are posting before you hit send. Your comment was very uncharitable and not particularly pleasant.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Ive done bag packing twice

Raised £4000 for the neonatal unit who looked after my son, and done that in his memory, really appreciated when people even put pennies in but some people actually took 1p change

God help them if they ever lose a child or their baby needs cared for in the unit

So anyone who shows they don't donate enough to YOUR chosen charity you wish ill for them or their child? Not a very charitable attitude. And how do you know they can afford it? Did they have their bank statement pinned to their chest for you to peruse?

I donate to two charities. One by monthly direct debit and, as I said before, I regularly donate to a food bank. So were you to rattle your tin in front of me you would get nothing. And no doubt you would brand me as some miserly old skinfkint and hope any grandchildren I might have would be in need of neonatal care in the future.

Ur sick!!!!!! Did i say that? Report

Nothing sick about it. I'm simpky responding to your obvious inference. Perhaps you need to think about what you are posting before you hit send. Your comment was very uncharitable and not particularly pleasant. "

And urs was?

My point was i dnt expect a lot from pepo and even odd pennies help..

I would be extremely worried if someone could not part with 1p but a guess ur ryt some pepo cant afford tht

And i wasnt doin it for me or my son as hes no longer here or in need of care, i was doin it to help any other familes whos babies unfortunately end up where my son was

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Ive done bag packing twice

Raised £4000 for the neonatal unit who looked after my son, and done that in his memory, really appreciated when people even put pennies in but some people actually took 1p change

God help them if they ever lose a child or their baby needs cared for in the unit

So anyone who shows they don't donate enough to YOUR chosen charity you wish ill for them or their child? Not a very charitable attitude. And how do you know they can afford it? Did they have their bank statement pinned to their chest for you to peruse?

I donate to two charities. One by monthly direct debit and, as I said before, I regularly donate to a food bank. So were you to rattle your tin in front of me you would get nothing. And no doubt you would brand me as some miserly old skinfkint and hope any grandchildren I might have would be in need of neonatal care in the future.

Ur sick!!!!!! Did i say that? Report

Nothing sick about it. I'm simpky responding to your obvious inference. Perhaps you need to think about what you are posting before you hit send. Your comment was very uncharitable and not particularly pleasant.

And urs was?

My point was i dnt expect a lot from pepo and even odd pennies help..

I would be extremely worried if someone could not part with 1p but a guess ur ryt some pepo cant afford tht

And i wasnt doin it for me or my son as hes no longer here or in need of care, i was doin it to help any other familes whos babies unfortunately end up where my son was "

Mine was purely in response to yours. It did not wish you or anyone else ill.

My point was; how do you know what people can afford or whether they already give to charity? By being negative about people you want money from shows a lack of charitable feeling on your behalf.

It is commendable that you give so much of yourself to a cause which is close to your heart. It is less commendable that you are judgemental even when people give but may need change - they might have needed that for bus fare. Who knows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take the help, look them in the eye and simply walk away. Or if your purse or wallet is out let them see the notes as you slowly shut it up.

I don't mind giving to charity but don't make me feel guilty for my money.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Ive done bag packing twice

Raised £4000 for the neonatal unit who looked after my son, and done that in his memory, really appreciated when people even put pennies in but some people actually took 1p change

God help them if they ever lose a child or their baby needs cared for in the unit

So anyone who shows they don't donate enough to YOUR chosen charity you wish ill for them or their child? Not a very charitable attitude. And how do you know they can afford it? Did they have their bank statement pinned to their chest for you to peruse?

I donate to two charities. One by monthly direct debit and, as I said before, I regularly donate to a food bank. So were you to rattle your tin in front of me you would get nothing. And no doubt you would brand me as some miserly old skinfkint and hope any grandchildren I might have would be in need of neonatal care in the future.

Ur sick!!!!!! Did i say that? Report

Nothing sick about it. I'm simpky responding to your obvious inference. Perhaps you need to think about what you are posting before you hit send. Your comment was very uncharitable and not particularly pleasant.

And urs was?

My point was i dnt expect a lot from pepo and even odd pennies help..

I would be extremely worried if someone could not part with 1p but a guess ur ryt some pepo cant afford tht

And i wasnt doin it for me or my son as hes no longer here or in need of care, i was doin it to help any other familes whos babies unfortunately end up where my son was

Mine was purely in response to yours. It did not wish you or anyone else ill.

My point was; how do you know what people can afford or whether they already give to charity? By being negative about people you want money from shows a lack of charitable feeling on your behalf.

It is commendable that you give so much of yourself to a cause which is close to your heart. It is less commendable that you are judgemental even when people give but may need change - they might have needed that for bus fare. Who knows?"

Ok

I did what i did for others and not for myself, hadnt even lost my son 4 weeks and i was raising money for the hospital

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Take the help, look them in the eye and simply walk away. Or if your purse or wallet is out let them see the notes as you slowly shut it up.

I don't mind giving to charity but don't make me feel guilty for my money. "

And how exactly do people collecting make u feel guilty? I said thanks to absolutely everyone even when they didnt give..

And as i said it was all for others and not for myself

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Ive done bag packing twice

Raised £4000 for the neonatal unit who looked after my son, and done that in his memory, really appreciated when people even put pennies in but some people actually took 1p change

God help them if they ever lose a child or their baby needs cared for in the unit

So anyone who shows they don't donate enough to YOUR chosen charity you wish ill for them or their child? Not a very charitable attitude. And how do you know they can afford it? Did they have their bank statement pinned to their chest for you to peruse?

I donate to two charities. One by monthly direct debit and, as I said before, I regularly donate to a food bank. So were you to rattle your tin in front of me you would get nothing. And no doubt you would brand me as some miserly old skinfkint and hope any grandchildren I might have would be in need of neonatal care in the future.

Ur sick!!!!!! Did i say that? Report

Nothing sick about it. I'm simpky responding to your obvious inference. Perhaps you need to think about what you are posting before you hit send. Your comment was very uncharitable and not particularly pleasant.

And urs was?

My point was i dnt expect a lot from pepo and even odd pennies help..

I would be extremely worried if someone could not part with 1p but a guess ur ryt some pepo cant afford tht

And i wasnt doin it for me or my son as hes no longer here or in need of care, i was doin it to help any other familes whos babies unfortunately end up where my son was

Mine was purely in response to yours. It did not wish you or anyone else ill.

My point was; how do you know what people can afford or whether they already give to charity? By being negative about people you want money from shows a lack of charitable feeling on your behalf.

It is commendable that you give so much of yourself to a cause which is close to your heart. It is less commendable that you are judgemental even when people give but may need change - they might have needed that for bus fare. Who knows?

Ok

I did what i did for others and not for myself, hadnt even lost my son 4 weeks and i was raising money for the hospital "

And as I said that is commendable. But it's best, if only for your own self worth, to not judge. Some may be miserable gits but as you do not know what is going on in their lives you cannot truly know why they choose not to donate or why they may want change if they do.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I have no problems with people collecting for or donating to the charity of their choice but can't they just do it quietly, without having to tell everyone what they're doing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive done bag packing twice

Raised £4000 for the neonatal unit who looked after my son, and done that in his memory, really appreciated when people even put pennies in but some people actually took 1p change

God help them if they ever lose a child or their baby needs cared for in the unit

So anyone who shows they don't donate enough to YOUR chosen charity you wish ill for them or their child? Not a very charitable attitude. And how do you know they can afford it? Did they have their bank statement pinned to their chest for you to peruse?

I donate to two charities. One by monthly direct debit and, as I said before, I regularly donate to a food bank. So were you to rattle your tin in front of me you would get nothing. And no doubt you would brand me as some miserly old skinfkint and hope any grandchildren I might have would be in need of neonatal care in the future.

Ur sick!!!!!! Did i say that? Report

Nothing sick about it. I'm simpky responding to your obvious inference. Perhaps you need to think about what you are posting before you hit send. Your comment was very uncharitable and not particularly pleasant.

And urs was?

My point was i dnt expect a lot from pepo and even odd pennies help..

I would be extremely worried if someone could not part with 1p but a guess ur ryt some pepo cant afford tht

And i wasnt doin it for me or my son as hes no longer here or in need of care, i was doin it to help any other familes whos babies unfortunately end up where my son was

Mine was purely in response to yours. It did not wish you or anyone else ill.

My point was; how do you know what people can afford or whether they already give to charity? By being negative about people you want money from shows a lack of charitable feeling on your behalf.

It is commendable that you give so much of yourself to a cause which is close to your heart. It is less commendable that you are judgemental even when people give but may need change - they might have needed that for bus fare. Who knows?

Ok

I did what i did for others and not for myself, hadnt even lost my son 4 weeks and i was raising money for the hospital

And as I said that is commendable. But it's best, if only for your own self worth, to not judge. Some may be miserable gits but as you do not know what is going on in their lives you cannot truly know why they choose not to donate or why they may want change if they do. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive done bag packing twice

Raised £4000 for the neonatal unit who looked after my son, and done that in his memory, really appreciated when people even put pennies in but some people actually took 1p change

God help them if they ever lose a child or their baby needs cared for in the unit

So anyone who shows they don't donate enough to YOUR chosen charity you wish ill for them or their child? Not a very charitable attitude. And how do you know they can afford it? Did they have their bank statement pinned to their chest for you to peruse?

I donate to two charities. One by monthly direct debit and, as I said before, I regularly donate to a food bank. So were you to rattle your tin in front of me you would get nothing. And no doubt you would brand me as some miserly old skinfkint and hope any grandchildren I might have would be in need of neonatal care in the future. "

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"60,000,000 people at 1 penny each?

There you go. I always use it when a old lady try's to apologize for only being able to donate a few pence. It all really does help, god bless them

Would £600000 pay the salaries of the CEOs of Britain's charities, far less run them all for a year?"

Population of UK 64 million cost of running Guide Dogs including CEO salary under 60 million

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way for a charity to raise money at a super market is to be in the entrance. The charity pots at the checkouts tend to be the chosen charity of the year.

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over a year ago

I have experienced this and I agree with what you are saying. I think the best way to respond is to inform the supermarket that you will shop elsewhere while they continue to allow emotional begging

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over a year ago


"I have experienced this and I agree with what you are saying. I think the best way to respond is to inform the supermarket that you will shop elsewhere while they continue to allow emotional begging"

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over a year ago

Once the items have passed the till then I consider them to be my property and I won't permit anybody else to handle them. I politely decline the till person's offer to help with packing, but I quite bluntly tell anybody else not to touch my stuff!

If it's at the supermarket (usually Morrisons because I detest Tesco!), then I carefully re-stack everything into the trolly and then take my time packing it into bags once I get outside to the car...

I fully respect the work that charities do - but I do not react well to them appealing to my sympathy around the checkout..!!! In fact I have no trouble at all being quite rude to them....

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"60,000,000 people at 1 penny each?

There you go. I always use it when a old lady try's to apologize for only being able to donate a few pence. It all really does help, god bless them

Would £600000 pay the salaries of the CEOs of Britain's charities, far less run them all for a year?

Population of UK 64 million cost of running Guide Dogs including CEO salary under 60 million "

Recount the 0s. £600,00 doesn't go very far when some CEO are on £150,000+.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"60,000,000 people at 1 penny each?

There you go. I always use it when a old lady try's to apologize for only being able to donate a few pence. It all really does help, god bless them

Would £600000 pay the salaries of the CEOs of Britain's charities, far less run them all for a year?

Population of UK 64 million cost of running Guide Dogs including CEO salary under 60 million

Recount the 0s. £600,00 doesn't go very far when some CEO are on £150,000+."

By my sums it is twelve Guide dogs from birth to retirement, I heard all the arguments regarding CEO's, but like most businesses they need a figure head and someone to lead from the front.

I am not trying to beat the charity drum because in a ideal world we should not need them, but we all know this is not an ideal world. Charity is not always about money, it can be something as simple as checking on a elderly neighbour or helping someone lift a heavy bag into their car. I know how lucky I am with the charities that have helped change my life and give me freedom and independence.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Once the items have passed the till then I consider them to be my property and I won't permit anybody else to handle them. I politely decline the till person's offer to help with packing, but I quite bluntly tell anybody else not to touch my stuff!

If it's at the supermarket (usually Morrisons because I detest Tesco!), then I carefully re-stack everything into the trolly and then take my time packing it into bags once I get outside to the car...

I fully respect the work that charities do - but I do not react well to them appealing to my sympathy around the checkout..!!! In fact I have no trouble at all being quite rude to them....

"

OUF!!!!!!

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