FabSwingers.com forum: Jealousy, are you a Green Eye Monster?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are you one of those who are easily jealous, and believe that people do not deserve their good fortunes in life, and that you have been dealt a bad hand by your maker?

I must admit that at times, like when a peer of mine with no obvious talent, who happened to be at the right place and the right time, and got promoted beyond his/her ability/capability, I would think he/she did not deserve his/her promotion.

I have thought about certain lottery winners did not deserve their good fortunes, mainly because they were low lives who have not contributed anything to the society except to cause missery of others.

I do not believe I am they type that are easily jealous, probably because I have learnt from a very young age, that favouritism will always exists and life is never fair, and there is no point in trying to compete with my siblings for our parents' affection. My dad would always favour my elder sister, and they would always let my little brother get away with anything because he is the youngest and a son.

That leaves me, the middle child, to trot along and mind my own business most of the time, and became the rebel I am today.

I may not have scaled as high as I could on the corporate food chain, however, in order to do that, I would have to bite my tongue and loose my integrity, and it is not something I am prepared to do.

I am where I am because of choices I have made myself since I turned 18 and be an adult.

I count my blessings every night before I go to bed, for my good health, for job and financial security, for friends that are supportive, for my mum and brother that care for me, pets that love me, and for a certain someone who thinks a world of me. I don't need anything to make me happier, as life is rosey enough for me as it is.

However, that does not stop me from buying lottery tickets or scratch cards, and hope I hit the jackpot one day! When I do, I shall share my winnings with my loved ones for certain!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not jealous of anything at all, well, just a little bit of Snoggy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No life isn't fair and you should have to work for everything. I have got jealous in the past but only a little as it puts people off and if it festers it screws you up.

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I am usually happy to hear of someones good fortune, and would hope people would be happy for me if I had good fortune at some point.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

everybody probably gets little jealous some time or annother,but i also realised at an early age.jealousy is an emotion that says more about who you are.than the person you are jealous of.

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

Life has given me quite a few hard knocks and made me feel low/down about myself.

I have never however begrudged anyone elses happiness.

Same as Pearl, have envied a tad when someone gets picked for a job over me when i felt i was better for the job.

But i smiled and supported that person and it wasnt long later that i WAS recognised and also got my promotion

Everything happens for a reason -= and life is here to test us - and i am sure if we keep being nice to people - when we need them most of them will return the favour.

I have found some superb friends in the most unlikeliest of places in the past just because of some kind words or a bit of support i gave them at some point.

One friend i was jealous of for a bit - cos she lost loads of weight and looked fab, got a better job and found herself a gorgeous fella.

It took me only a short while to realise - she had MADE herself loose wieght, she had LOOKED for the fabulous job and she had met the man of her dreams. I soon became very happy for her - and they are now married and saving for their house

Jealousy makes you miserable - where as laughter makes you well,

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I may covet certain things people have and wish I could have the same,I don't think thats jealousy though,its more like oooooh thats lovely I would love it too

I think jealousy is a very destructive emotion and I don't like to see it in people

As for the lottery,It may sound weird but I would be scared to win a huge amount incase it change our lives too much and even though we don't have much we're happy and I like our life the way it is

To be able to make those around me that I love happier with a few more material things and not to have to worry about money would be the best thing about winning a vast amount of money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..jealousy is an emotion that says more about who you are than the person you are jealous of."

Wise words. I agree completely.

I'm not the jealous type wither but that has come about with age & experience. As a young man I could get jealous quite easily but never over material things like money, position, success etc, usually it was over love. Nowadays, I'm much more mellowed and there's no way Siren & I could swing if either of us were prone to jealousy.

I do sometimes look at lottery winners, like that Carroll bloke, and think, "boy, what a wasted opportunity to have done something with his life," but I don't envy him his win, he bought a ticket and took his chances, like I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meanwhile over in Pedants Corner:

Can I just clarify:

Jealousy is when you have something you don't want others to share

Envy is when someone else has something you don't

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

I wish I had a monster but I do have a japs eye!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I too believe in fate, and that everything happens for a reason.

I do hope they are right about happy and content people live for longer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meanwhile over in Pedants Corner:

Can I just clarify:

Jealousy is when you have something you don't want others to share

Envy is when someone else has something you don't

To be even more pedantic:

Envy and jealousy are very close in meaning. Envy denotes a longing to possess something awarded to or achieved by another: to feel envy when a friend inherits a fortune. Jealousy, on the other hand, denotes a feeling of resentment that another has gained something that one more rightfully deserves: to feel jealousy when a coworker receives a promotion.

** Source: dictionary.com

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I do get envious but never jealous. I love people getting good fortune especially when they deserve it. Life is to short to be jealous such a wasted emotion. By the way pearl i like yours and snoggys avator pic its sooooooooooooo sweet lol

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"Meanwhile over in Pedants Corner:

Can I just clarify:

Jealousy is when you have something you don't want others to share

Envy is when someone else has something you don't

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if i knew how to look up a dictionary.i would question that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need. Read above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meanwhile over in Pedants Corner:

Can I just clarify:

Jealousy is when you have something you don't want others to share

Envy is when someone else has something you don't

if i knew how to look up a dictionary.i would question that."

Google is your friend, google envy definition, then jealousy definition.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"Meanwhile over in Pedants Corner:

Can I just clarify:

Jealousy is when you have something you don't want others to share

Envy is when someone else has something you don't

To be even more pedantic:

** Source: dictionary.com"
are you going to make up your friggin mind. i started of confused,you are not helping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

huh???

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

In the words of a great man "I Abide"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the words of a great man "I Abide" "

Erm... it's about 11 o'clock.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Eh? Am I missing something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”

Dalai Lama. xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”

Dalai Lama. xxxx"

Very true, laine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”

Dalai Lama. xxxx"

Gotta agree here........or getting what YOU thought you wanted ..is the best stroke of luck

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

"“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”

Dalai Lama. xxxx"

Yes i also agree here.

By not getting what i thought i wanted actually led to a better place.

Karma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meanwhile over in Pedants Corner:

Can I just clarify:

Jealousy is when you have something you don't want others to share

Envy is when someone else has something you don't

To be even more pedantic:

** Source: dictionary.comare you going to make up your friggin mind. i started of confused,you are not helping"

Men are not disturbed by things, but by the view they take of them. Epictetus

(Although some translations suggest t should be "people are not disturbed...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not jealous but do think some guys are taken for fools by women....bunny boilers.,....

And you can see it happening but the guys wont believe it. lmao

So you just sit back and watch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope not for me , i just go with the flow of things and try to make the best of it

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Im not jealous but do think some guys are taken for fools by women....bunny boilers.,....

And you can see it happening but the guys wont believe it. lmao

So you just sit back and watch

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oh loads of em about peaches....iv had rabbit pie twice so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not jealous but do think some guys are taken for fools by women....bunny boilers.,....

And you can see it happening but the guys wont believe it. lmao

So you just sit back and watch

oh loads of em about peaches....iv had rabbit pie twice so far

Met a couple of bunny boilers through swinging too. There are some really screwed up women out there.

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

"Im not jealous but do think some guys are taken for fools by women....bunny boilers.,....

And you can see it happening but the guys wont believe it. lmao

So you just sit back and watch

oh loads of em about peaches....iv had rabbit pie twice so far

I like rabbits - esp in a pie

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like rabbits - esp in a pie

Thinly sliced, marinated in sweet sherry and soya sauce, and stir-fried with garlic, ginger and spring onions, yum!

I love rabbits, won't boil them though, as it would be a waste IMHO!

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

"I like rabbits - esp in a pie

Thinly sliced, marinated in sweet sherry and soya sauce, and stir-fried with garlic, ginger and spring onions, yum!

I love rabbits, won't boil them though, as it would be a waste IMHO!

oooooh sometinmes i DO wish my screen was scratch and sniff

I wanna come to your house - that sounds lush and i am feeling a bit peckish

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like rabbits - esp in a pie

Thinly sliced, marinated in sweet sherry and soya sauce, and stir-fried with garlic, ginger and spring onions, yum!

I love rabbits, won't boil them though, as it would be a waste IMHO!

oooooh sometinmes i DO wish my screen was scratch and sniff

I wanna come to your house - that sounds lush and i am feeling a bit peckish

Hopefully, one day it will be tidy enough to receive guests, and you are welcome to come and visit!

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

"I like rabbits - esp in a pie

Thinly sliced, marinated in sweet sherry and soya sauce, and stir-fried with garlic, ginger and spring onions, yum!

I love rabbits, won't boil them though, as it would be a waste IMHO!

oooooh sometinmes i DO wish my screen was scratch and sniff

I wanna come to your house - that sounds lush and i am feeling a bit peckish

Hopefully, one day it will be tidy enough to receive guests, and you are welcome to come and visit!

well i may have to stalk you in the mean time - and raid the kitchen when you take muttley out for a walk, hehehehe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"well i may have to stalk you in the mean time - and raid the kitchen when you take muttley out for a walk, hehehehe

The cat won't like you for that, LOL! Unless you can charm her too!

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

"well i may have to stalk you in the mean time - and raid the kitchen when you take muttley out for a walk, hehehehe

The cat won't like you for that, LOL! Unless you can charm her too!

I have charmed a few pussies in my time

heheheh ehehehehehe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The cat won't like you for that, LOL! Unless you can charm her too!

I have charmed a few pussies in my time

heheheh ehehehehehe"

I am sure you have!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How does the saying goes?

Something about it takes one to recognise another, or something like that!

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over a year ago

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

"How does the saying goes?

Something about it takes one to recognise another, or something like that!

Yeah, takes one to know one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use rosemary when boiling my rabbits.

And a hint of thyme

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I prefer mine stir-fried oriental style or in a cassarole, Mediterrainean style with peppers, olives, anchovies etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They also go well in a rich tomato based sauce

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not too keen on tomato based sauces, except when cooking with mince and meat balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats just reminded me........

got some quorn balls in the freezer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And I have proper meat balls in a rich tomato sauce in mine!

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