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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What does this word mean to you? Especially when used to describe people or people using it to describe themselves / to construct their personal identity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, it means I view myself as being into things out of the mainstream norm, I have alternative to mainstream music tastes, dress sense, lifestyle, approach to relationships and other general interests.

I am not a typical 28 year old-I am not like the other girls I see who are into mainstream (chart) music, current fashion, traditional relationship views, normal wants for life (house, marriage, kids) and current affairs (celebrities).

For me, I use alternative in the context alternative to the norm.

crystal

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I use alternative to mean different to the norm, shorthand to describe someone who doesn't appear to be mainstream. However I think almost anyone who thinks originally and refuses to run with the crowd despite outwardly appearing to conform in terms of dress and relationship values could be describes as alternative.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To me, it means I view myself as being into things out of the mainstream norm, I have alternative to mainstream music tastes, dress sense, lifestyle, approach to relationships and other general interests.

I am not a typical 28 year old-I am not like the other girls I see who are into mainstream (chart) music, current fashion, traditional relationship views, normal wants for life (house, marriage, kids) and current affairs (celebrities).

For me, I use alternative in the context alternative to the norm.

crystal"

But the boundaries are blured. There is no black and white any more?

For instance do we now call a person without tatts 'alternative coz most people now appear to have one or two?

With all due respect your description sounds pretty 'normal' to me. Just out of interest do you like shopping?

These are issues of general interest to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I appreciate these replies but they say very little to me except as fashion statement made by a teenager.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I appreciate these replies but they say very little to me except as fashion statement made by a teenager. "

Oh dear lol its a long time since anyone described anything I said as sounding like a teenager.

Oh wait are you trying to be patronising towards another poster?

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

The more people that discover they are all individuals the better.

Alternative to me is anything out of the box.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm just saying things as I ser them. Should I do otherwise. I don't watch X-Factor, etc. I watch very little TV (soz for the cliche). I don't have enough money to have any dress sense. Can I call myself 'alternative'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP.

To use an analogy. ..

If you walk into a shop and everybody orders a "banana split" and you ask "what is the alternative?"

.....what are you really saying at it's most fundamental level?...

Are you saying you want the same or you want something different?...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm just saying things as I ser them. Should I do otherwise. I don't watch X-Factor, etc. I watch very little TV (soz for the cliche). I don't have enough money to have any dress sense. Can I call myself 'alternative' "

You can call yourself what you like as long as you don't see it as a label that makes you better than someone else. People might label me in different ways, I am an individual that is all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The more people that discover they are all individuals the better.

Alternative to me is anything out of the box.

"

Thanks for reply. There's a big, fat, juicy Life of Brian quote in there somewhere, isn't there?

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

You have alternative views, they can be on most things, religion,sex,culture,music politics

I have alternative views on most things, but come to this site we most have the same views on one thing

And alot of the time nothing is as it seems anyway

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It's not a term I use it's a choice I make based on one or more options being available at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i had to put myself in a category i guess it would be alternative.I think of it more as a state of mind and culture than a fashion statement, so no having a few tattoos , wearing black make-up isnt alternative.For me being part of an underground culture is very important, so that means my personal moral code includes veganism, peaceful protest, anarchy (in the sense that i reject so called "democracy" by not participating with it and creating my own society) and making my own work.Interestingly though ive yet to find many alternative swingers! xx

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'm more alternative on a Saturday night than what I am on a Monday morning

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven


"if i had to put myself in a category i guess it would be alternative.I think of it more as a state of mind and culture than a fashion statement, so no having a few tattoos , wearing black make-up isnt alternative.For me being part of an underground culture is very important, so that means my personal moral code includes veganism, peaceful protest, anarchy (in the sense that i reject so called "democracy" by not participating with it and creating my own society) and making my own work.Interestingly though ive yet to find many alternative swingers! xx"

Well Denmark s kristianastad is one place.

but some of what you said have the same views

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm more alternative on a Saturday night than what I am on a Monday morning "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if i had to put myself in a category i guess it would be alternative.I think of it more as a state of mind and culture than a fashion statement, so no having a few tattoos , wearing black make-up isnt alternative.For me being part of an underground culture is very important, so that means my personal moral code includes veganism, peaceful protest, anarchy (in the sense that i reject so called "democracy" by not participating with it and creating my own society) and making my own work.Interestingly though ive yet to find many alternative swingers! xx"

Busy at work atm (how alternative is that!). This seems more substantive than some of the formative lists.

I have visited the Centre for Alternative Technology a couple of times. Maybe easy to name the centre. But a not quite so clear cut when we're talking people or the human condition even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could not care less to bw honest. If the person seems ok that will do for me. Folk try to label themselves for whatever reason personally makes no odds to me.

We all perform bodily functions in same way unless someone has alternative way of doing that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So to you it's just another fashion statement? A parody of itself even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have never described anyone as being alternative.

to me it simply means a different option to the one i was offered originally.

but then, i have always had a problem with perceived 'normality' on a social scale as i have never really fitted in anywhere, or with a certain type of person

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In a word association game I think I'd say 'Stiff Little Fingers'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP.

To use an analogy. ..

If you walk into a shop and everybody orders a "banana split" and you ask "what is the alternative?"

.....what are you really saying at it's most fundamental level?...

Are you saying you want the same or you want something different?..."

Good job we're not in Margaret (TINA) Thatcher's shop where: there is no alternative

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