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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi fab guys and girls,

Relatively new to this and grateful for your thoughts (please be kind!), so my question to you all....

Is it really possible to achieve amazing sensual, intimate sex without getting emotionally attached??? Or do you have to create a personal 'invisible line' to stop the emotional train crash when either party decide to move on...

Can you achieve the same sexual satisfaction through a one-off???

Do you need clear ideas of what you want out of this site before 'playing'?

Thoughts on a postcard

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

never get emotionally attached to anyone and tend to meet long term guys off here ..the current one have been meeting 18 months ..its just sex and friendship ...it works for us !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a word, yes!

I've had great sex with people who I find attractive but am not emotionally attached to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So how do you create sensual intimacy without emotions? Weird post I know, just intrigued by others experiences....by the way thanks for sensible response!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two different things.

Swinging = emptying your balls. Control,Danger.

Love. = Vunerability, emotions,care,

and emptying your balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are happy in your own skin you can fun x there is attachment but its easily broken x happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally have crossed that line, and it ended badly, I think the way forward is to tell the difference between someone you would date and someone you would fuck, think could you see a future with this person? If not but you still find them attractive then it's a go for fuck buddie-vill if you hear wedding bells then best to stay away unless you want a relationship in which case the opposite applies.

By saying this I'm not saying a fuck buddie should be someone you look Down on, I'm saying probably someone with completly different lifestyle and tastes outside of the bedroom, that are at odd with your own.

Going to get shouted at for this now aren't I lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be a very thin line. I see a guy I have great affection for and fantastic sex with. BUT I do not love him. I care about him as a friend and would not do anything to hurt him. If something bad happened to him then I would be sad and would miss him if we stopped seeing each other. I suppose I have a certain amount of emotional feeling for him as I do most friends but that's as far as it goes

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Hi fab guys and girls,

Relatively new to this and grateful for your thoughts (please be kind!), so my question to you all....

Is it really possible to achieve amazing sensual, intimate sex without getting emotionally attached??? Or do you have to create a personal 'invisible line' to stop the emotional train crash when either party decide to move on...

Can you achieve the same sexual satisfaction through a one-off???

Do you need clear ideas of what you want out of this site before 'playing'?

Thoughts on a postcard "

cant believe you have to ask!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could this be the kind of question the university researchers would like to ask?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Is it really possible to achieve amazing sensual, intimate sex without getting emotionally attached??? "

Yes

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon


"Could this be the kind of question the university researchers would like to ask? "

Or a Channel 4 documentary team

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Yes you can.....however on the odd occasion you can meet someone that blows your socks off in every way going....its about control and self peservation...ive crossed the line and its ended in disaster...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could this be the kind of question the university researchers would like to ask? "

Haha - I don't work for Sydney university, nor have used your images for research purposes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can be a very thin line. I see a guy I have great affection for and fantastic sex with. BUT I do not love him. I care about him as a friend and would not do anything to hurt him. If something bad happened to him then I would be sad and would miss him if we stopped seeing each other. I suppose I have a certain amount of emotional feeling for him as I do most friends but that's as far as it goes "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could this be the kind of question the university researchers would like to ask?

Haha - I don't work for Sydney university, nor have used your images for research purposes "

I do wonder where this Sydney paranoia came from. We just followed suit with the assumption that we were at risk of being part of someone's project but what started this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never crossed the line,some people ive met have the wow factor and are fb's x i can do sensual just not emotional i have a guard up,anyone gets too emotional with me i run lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are always 'emotions ' during sex - pleasure, joy bla bla bla. I believe it is right to feel n experience THOSE emotions

The ones you have to turn OFF are the romantic ones. It's ok to feel a degree of 'romance in the moment' if that works for you - but like a favourite book you have to then place it back on the shelf and move on until you both meet again (or not) .

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