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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why and what do some people get out of waisting other peoples time saying there going to meet but then canceling last min repeatedly with numerous fabers does it give them a kick or just inflate there ego? your views please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just do unfortunately z but not all of us are timewasters x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Some of them are men pretending to be women so they have to cancel for obvious reasons!

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Some people just do unfortunately z but not all of us are timewasters x"

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Hey!

I've come to realise what a lot of this is about.

Women generally cop out for two reasons:

They get nervous and bottle it...

They never actually wanted to meet... They just wanted to fantasize.

I don't seem to get these anymore though. Tend not to chat with people who seem to be a bit mysterious! Seems to work!

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Hey!

I've come to realise what a lot of this is about.

Women generally cop out for two reasons:

They get nervous and bottle it...

They never actually wanted to meet... They just wanted to fantasize.

I don't seem to get these anymore though. Tend not to chat with people who seem to be a bit mysterious! Seems to work!"

Oh and ofcourse... Men with women's profiles... You can generally tell with those though as they seem too good to be true...

Very keen, etc... Photos... Etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have had some amazing meets and made some freinds that i can say are so genuine but 1 out of 5 on here seem to be timewaisting dishonest ego junkies that to me seems like there not only letting the site down and the people they say there going to meet down but them selfs too.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

luckily we have also had some fabulous meets on here but have also found lots of timewasters.....men and couples

They chat all week and get the sexy banter going ready for the build up of the meet then let you down with the most pathetic excuses.

With couples is the kids excuse...with women its the wrong week....with men the list is endless but have found mostly the car....lol

U have to laugh but we now just buger off to a club if we get let down and still have a good night anyway while they are most probably stuck at home still fantasising and moaning that they never get any meets

Wonder why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of them are men pretending to be women so they have to cancel for obvious reasons!"

because a lady never cancelled or timewastes, so any time one does its a man?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Pathetic excuses are just that - excuses. Not reasons. Which is why I never give a second chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waist = body part

Waste = an act or instance of using or expending something carelessly, extravagantly, or to no purpose.

So a time waister would be someone with a clock near their hips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you looked at your part in this problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can usually out the male pretending to be couples, Usually want to go into depth about your experiences and ask for pics right at the start, its obvious they are having a tug and getting all aroused, we usually find genuine couples like to just talk about the forth coming meet of where and when, may not be in all instances bust mont we have found

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Some of them are men pretending to be women so they have to cancel for obvious reasons!

because a lady never cancelled or timewastes, so any time one does its a man? "

They said "some" of them are men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Showing up spelling mistakes is ................. Beyond me!

What does it bring to the conversation ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't define those who chat then stop talking as time wasters, if someone didn't turn up we would consider that as time wasted but touch wood, it hasn't happened yet.

I tend to waste an awful lot of time in the forums and I have no one to blame for that but myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of them are men pretending to be women so they have to cancel for obvious reasons!"

Yes weve had that one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"luckily we have also had some fabulous meets on here but have also found lots of timewasters.....men and couples

They chat all week and get the sexy banter going ready for the build up of the meet then let you down with the most pathetic excuses.

With couples is the kids excuse...with women its the wrong week....with men the list is endless but have found mostly the car....lol

U have to laugh but we now just buger off to a club if we get let down and still have a good night anyway while they are most probably stuck at home still fantasising and moaning that they never get any meets

Wonder why"

So if someone's child is ill that's just a time wasting excuse to mess up your sex life? Sheesh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of them are men pretending to be women so they have to cancel for obvious reasons!

because a lady never cancelled or timewastes, so any time one does its a man?

They said "some" of them are men."

I just think its a predictable lazy answer thats all

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"luckily we have also had some fabulous meets on here but have also found lots of timewasters.....men and couples

They chat all week and get the sexy banter going ready for the build up of the meet then let you down with the most pathetic excuses.

With couples is the kids excuse...with women its the wrong week....with men the list is endless but have found mostly the car....lol

U have to laugh but we now just buger off to a club if we get let down and still have a good night anyway while they are most probably stuck at home still fantasising and moaning that they never get any meets

Wonder why

So if someone's child is ill that's just a time wasting excuse to mess up your sex life? Sheesh. "

If our daughter became ill or had an accident a meet off here would be the last thing on our minds. Of course we would inform the other party of the events wether it's before or after the scheduled time of the meet. If they then chose to call us timewasters for putting our childs health and well being before satisfying their sexual needs well, that just says a lot about them really.

We trust the comment about using kids as an excuse was made by someone who does not have children and therefore has no understanding of parental responsibilities. And if they do have kids and make such a comment does that mean they're prepared to overlook the suffering/injury of them in favour of fucking a stranger ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might it be that they have fantasised about the meet and for one reason or another thought they can't go through with it, I know it does your head in but perhaps nerves just get the better of some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This type of issue amazes me. This lifestyle is about having fun and an a part of ones social life. If something genuinely happens in everyday life that needs your attention over and above recreational sex then surely that takes precedence? If the person or persons that have a life occurrence communicate the situation effectively and politely then there should be no reason to preclude the arranging of another assignation?

As a single man on fab I have had my share of timewaisters and even timewasters but if something arises that is more important than me parting with bodily fluids then I respect that!

However for the couple last weekend (you know who you are!!!!!) who postponed because of huge lottery win I totally forgive you and happy to meet again !!

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

For some people this IS their life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why and what do some people get out of waisting other peoples time saying there going to meet but then canceling last min repeatedly with numerous fabers does it give them a kick or just inflate there ego? your views please."

That is not in my opinion a time waster, they have told you they not turning up all be it last minute. A time waster to me is someone who fails to turn up without letting you know.

I do understand it is really annoying when for whatever reason people have to cancel.

Can you please just clarify what you mean by "numerous fabers" as well.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


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That is not in my opinion a time waster, they have told you they not turning up all be it last minute. A time waster to me is someone who fails to turn up without letting you know.

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Oh people can waste your time without actually not showing up! I've managed to be careful enough to avoid that, it's the people who string you along and then fail to confirm and either just go AWOL or give some obviously lame excuse that I call timewasters.

Of course there will be genuine people who change their minds or have a genuine REASON to have to cancel, even at the eleventh hour, but there are a bunch of people who intend to do so all along, and it's those that need ing out of dating sites and sites like this alike.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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That is not in my opinion a time waster, they have told you they not turning up all be it last minute. A time waster to me is someone who fails to turn up without letting you know.

Oh people can waste your time without actually not showing up! I've managed to be careful enough to avoid that, it's the people who string you along and then fail to confirm and either just go AWOL or give some obviously lame excuse that I call timewasters.

Of course there will be genuine people who change their minds or have a genuine REASON to have to cancel, even at the eleventh hour, but there are a bunch of people who intend to do so all along, and it's those that need ing out of dating sites and sites like this alike."

Thing is if I am on here then I do as such have time to waste so for me nobody wastes my time as I am already wasting it.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Why and what do some people get out of waisting other peoples time saying there going to meet but then canceling last min repeatedly with numerous fabers does it give them a kick or just inflate there ego? your views please."

Repeatedly,,??

I d be asking myself about my selection process,

My selection process seems to work for me, never had a no show,

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


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That is not in my opinion a time waster, they have told you they not turning up all be it last minute. A time waster to me is someone who fails to turn up without letting you know.

Oh people can waste your time without actually not showing up! I've managed to be careful enough to avoid that, it's the people who string you along and then fail to confirm and either just go AWOL or give some obviously lame excuse that I call timewasters.

Of course there will be genuine people who change their minds or have a genuine REASON to have to cancel, even at the eleventh hour, but there are a bunch of people who intend to do so all along, and it's those that need ing out of dating sites and sites like this alike.

Thing is if I am on here then I do as such have time to waste so for me nobody wastes my time as I am already wasting it. "

It's a question of intent I think. You can choose to chat on here to while away time, but if you are talking to someone privately with the intent of meeting it's very annoying to find out they have not been chatting with the same intent. I would rather have been spending that time talking to someone who IS genuinely looking to meet, so in my view they have wasted my time with a deception.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you looked at your part in this problem? "

where do i need to start looking?i think its maybe that im genuine and truthfull and expect the same from others but ive got to realise some people arnt.i had two meet lined up lastnight and i put my trust in the first girl that asked and i explaind to the other girl i had allready aranged a meet.i was promised by the first one that she would meet only to be let down again no show not even a explanation why.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

I'm afraid the one who would be able to answer you that (and not necessarily the truth either) would be the timewasters themselves x

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands


"Why and what do some people get out of waisting other peoples time saying there going to meet but then canceling last min repeatedly with numerous fabers does it give them a kick or just inflate there ego? your views please."

There is no such thing as a 'time waster'

Review your own selection process.

Accept people have lives and can change their mind and be much happier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why and what do some people get out of waisting other peoples time saying there going to meet but then canceling last min repeatedly with numerous fabers does it give them a kick or just inflate there ego? your views please.

There is no such thing as a 'time waster'

Review your own selection process.

Accept people have lives and can change their mind and be much happier. "

when you have chatted to some one for weeks and got on so well and changed all your plans in your own life cus theyve been going mad to meet and then they dont show up then i would say that there timewasters and how weve got the green tick for veris i think there should be a red x for them im just glad that there is some amazing genuine peeps on here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can always rely on good owd tarzan thought id just manipulize this thread and say come on ladies get in touch with myself i always show up count on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time waisters or time wasters are two different things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why and what do some people get out of waisting other peoples time saying there going to meet but then canceling last min repeatedly with numerous fabers does it give them a kick or just inflate there ego? your views please."

5 meets and one let down in 8 weeks

Stop crying

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands


"Why and what do some people get out of waisting other peoples time saying there going to meet but then canceling last min repeatedly with numerous fabers does it give them a kick or just inflate there ego? your views please.

There is no such thing as a 'time waster'

Review your own selection process.

Accept people have lives and can change their mind and be much happier.

when you have chatted to some one for weeks and got on so well and changed all your plans in your own life cus theyve been going mad to meet and then they dont show up then i would say that there timewasters and how weve got the green tick for veris i think there should be a red x for them im just glad that there is some amazing genuine peeps on here too"

See that's where we differ.

I wouldn't chat to someone for weeks, without doing a confirmation phone call/social meet.

I wouldn't rearrange my life for nsa.

And if I arranged a meet, and had a no show, I would do something else with my free time and not allow them to ruin my evening out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think quirklicious has her head screwed on the right way -

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why and what do some people get out of waisting other peoples time saying there going to meet but then canceling last min repeatedly with numerous fabers does it give them a kick or just inflate there ego? your views please.

5 meets and one let down in 8 weeks

Stop crying "

5 meets and 4 let downs and i find it funny and i dont let it get to me and ive spoke to every one of them on the phone i just think its there thing that gets them of just like peopl that just webcam ide rather live in the real world but each to there own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why and what do some people get out of waisting other peoples time saying there going to meet but then canceling last min repeatedly with numerous fabers does it give them a kick or just inflate there ego? your views please.

5 meets and one let down in 8 weeks

Stop crying

5 meets and 4 let downs and i find it funny and i dont let it get to me and ive spoke to every one of them on the phone i just think its there thing that gets them of just like peopl that just webcam ide rather live in the real world but each to there own"

Fab isn't the real world though

May be a way of life for some but for some it's just a fantasy world

We All on here for self gratification

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Have you looked at your part in this problem?

where do i need to start looking?i think its maybe that im genuine and truthfull and expect the same from others "

Yes, me too, and that's how I think it is supposed to be. I dunno, the cynics may be disappointed in people less often, but I do not want to become a cynic like some of my friends.

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By *uicybum62Woman
over a year ago

leeds

hi was told hi was a time waster cos hi said no to him when he wanted to fuck me wtf

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"hi was told hi was a time waster cos hi said no to him when he wanted to fuck me wtf"

I don't know Hi. He does sound a bit dodgy though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why and what do some people get out of waisting other peoples time saying there going to meet but then canceling last min repeatedly with numerous fabers does it give them a kick or just inflate there ego? your views please.

There is no such thing as a 'time waster'

Review your own selection process.

Accept people have lives and can change their mind and be much happier. "

Of course there are time wasters,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why and what do some people get out of waisting other peoples time saying there going to meet but then canceling last min repeatedly with numerous fabers does it give them a kick or just inflate there ego? your views please.

5 meets and one let down in 8 weeks

Stop crying

5 meets and 4 let downs and i find it funny and i dont let it get to me and ive spoke to every one of them on the phone i just think its there thing that gets them of just like peopl that just webcam ide rather live in the real world but each to there own

Fab isn't the real world though

May be a way of life for some but for some it's just a fantasy world

We All on here for self gratification "

I totally agree, however there are some people who deliberately try and waste peoples time, sad really

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