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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have issues saying no, Is honesty the best policy or should you make an excuse? thoughts .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think honesty is the best policy. Can't get caughty out or trip yourself up then.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

you dont have to be impolite, but being honest is always best ..unless you do mercy shags!!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

zoe I know what you mean, I don't like hurting people's feelings...usually I will just send back a message "thanks for the message but I am not interested...happy swinging" 9 times out of 10 they seem happy enough with that.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i find it hard to say no too and to be hoest it has led to big disappointments and people verging on stalking me lol

am adapting a harder outer shell now and opting for the honest approach with a few little lies thrown in to sugar coat it if needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we get messages from people we don't fancy we simply don't reply. If they have issues with that then that's their problem not ours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes it can be difficult turning people down without seemingly coming across as nasty or insensitive. On the other hand you also dont want to lead ppl on in thinking that you are interested when your blatantly not.

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

Zoe - just be honest hun.

People need to know where they stand - and if they dont like it tough,.

They will soon get over it and move onto the next person.

Lok after YOU hunny xxx

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By *exeteraWoman
over a year ago

Bridgend

I agree that honesty is the best policy, most guys I reply to with a "no thank you" normally mail back thanking me for having the decency to at least reply to their message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many guys try to pressure you into meeting... they only wanna see you, have coffee with you, you're the best thing since sliced bread... yet, when chatting to other fems in the area you find out they are saying the same to them! so don't feel bad don't take it or make it too personal, some guys will say anything to get a shag hahah! (not all guys... no offence meant etc. )

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ohhh I don't have trouble on here its more in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have issues saying no, Is honesty the best policy or should you make an excuse? thoughts ....."

Just a thought but your saying here you don't like to say no and lots of men will be reading it won't they. So aren't you going to get even more messages asking to meet and have even more problems saying no?

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"they only wanna see you, have coffee with you"

Yeh, but some want to get into your knickers"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have issues saying no, Is honesty the best policy or should you make an excuse? thoughts .....

Just a thought but your saying here you don't like to say no and lots of men will be reading it won't they. So aren't you going to get even more messages asking to meet and have even more problems saying no? "

its more a face to face thing. I am not saying that I will fuck anyone,just to get out of hurting someons feelings. BUT i find it difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"ohhh I don't have trouble on here its more in person."

Im exactly the same hun............I get Rob to do it while I run away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they only wanna see you, have coffee with you

Yeh, but some want to get into your knickers" "

I meant only as in exclusivity... see only you, meet only you... sorry didn't make myself clear. And yes they do mainly wanna get in your knickers! (only yours--yea right)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ohhh I don't have trouble on here its more in person.

Im exactly the same hun............I get Rob to do it while I run away "

lol ahabs would enjoy it tooo much

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"sorry didn't make myself clear"

You did I just got carried away with the thought of your knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends if being economical with the truth and a little white lie is going to hurt or not.

I am not very good with fibbing, and have been known to be brutally honest.

People know where they stand with me, and when they ask me for advice/opinion, they know I'll give it to them straight without beating around the bush.

So IMHO, it is better to be honest, as I don't have to remember the little white lies I have told!

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