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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Can I ask swingers who have been on here a while - over time, do you tend to build up friends who you meet with regularly and become attached to or one off meets with people you never see again - and which is more exciting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of my meets are one off, I do do re meets if we get on but I have never met anyone off here more than 3 times, I would actually like to meet someone local who I could meet regular its just never worked out that way for one reason or another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a mix of both...got a regular FB and a few repeat meets but I also have one offs too. I like all for different reason. With my FB I'm exploring new things, but also regular sex with the same person can be great as you become more comfortable with each other...with the new meets I get the excitement of a bit of strange and the flirtation in the build u to a meet!

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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Do you find it difficult not to become attached to your regularly FB? - what you've got sound perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regulars and not many one offs for me.

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

got regular ones , but happy to do 1 off meet

so any f want a one nr by want a one off lol give me a shout

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Every meet starts out as a one off. It's not what I look for but you just don't know until you test the chemistry.

My stable of regular friends needs replenishing but I wouldn't call any of them a fuck buddy. I have friends and we have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you find it difficult not to become attached to your regularly FB? - what you've got sound perfect "

We're good friends and I guess after 2 years we know each other pretty well, but we both like the other having fun too which is why we've just decided to play as a couple too. I know some have become attached to people they see regularly and I guess if that happens you'd just have to be honest and either cut ties or attempt something real? We're both here for NSA fun though and are helping each other get that x

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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

well done for having a FB for 2 years - you must have formed a close friendship - I'd love to find someone like that - and still be able to have the variety of one offs.

Do you still get that excitement when you meet?

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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Do you just drift off from each other after a while then?

I agree about the chemistry and not knowing until you meet.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy the fun with my FB - we know how to turn each other on and trust each other so are willing to experiment

But I also enjoy the thrill of a one off - meeting someone new and exploring each other

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Been seeing his lordship now for 9 months at least once a week from the start - we're best friends and know what we think about each other

Love him to bits but could still easily kill him

As for excitement, its like with any one you meet - it's as exciting as you make it really!

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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

sounds like a marriage - lol - it must be nice to have that security of meeting once a week - is there ever any jealousy between you when you know you're meeting other people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask swingers who have been on here a while - over time, do you tend to build up friends who you meet with regularly and become attached to or one off meets with people you never see again - and which is more exciting?"

Both! I've been lucky enough to find a great FB who I also class as one of my best friends, as well as some other fabsters I've met a few times and hope to again. Add a few one offs into the mix and life is good!

Which is more exciting? They all are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess I should read all posts before diving in myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wonder if someone has had a regular fuck buddie for over a year who they have seen on a weekly basis and one finds a partner and stops meeting how would the other one feel, I know people on here say, oh id wish them luck, I wouldn't be bothered as that's what we feel we should say but I think you'd have to be sad as that's a big part of your life, whooooosh gone

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Guess I should read all posts before diving in myself! "

umm . . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often wonder if someone has had a regular fuck buddie for over a year who they have seen on a weekly basis and one finds a partner and stops meeting how would the other one feel, I know people on here say, oh id wish them luck, I wouldn't be bothered as that's what we feel we should say but I think you'd have to be sad as that's a big part of your life, whooooosh gone "

Hand on heart - i'm never going back into a relationship! And if Fox did and was happy i'd be over the moon for her! Til then.............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer repeat meets, you get to know the person more and can enjoy more with repeats. Not into one offs. xx

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I often wonder if someone has had a regular fuck buddie for over a year who they have seen on a weekly basis and one finds a partner and stops meeting how would the other one feel, I know people on here say, oh id wish them luck, I wouldn't be bothered as that's what we feel we should say but I think you'd have to be sad as that's a big part of your life, whooooosh gone "

Im sure my clippers wouldn't complain that he'd gone!!

Or my wifi

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By *illyDudeMan
over a year ago

norh east

most of mine have been one offs, (maybe im to crazy? :P ) i would kill to meet some regular people i could go to clubs with or see regulerly

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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

That's a good mix x

I still wonder if some people get too attached though after a while x but I suppose it's about keeping your FB in the friendship box

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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

That's what I'm trying to get at - does that familiarity constitute as a relationship - in whatever form that may take - so if does end you'd be more hurt that you'd think.

Can we always keep our feelings under control?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a good mix x

I still wonder if some people get too attached though after a while x but I suppose it's about keeping your FB in the friendship box

"

some do, I guy I used to meet wanted to move in with me I soon got rid of him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can we always keep our feelings under control?"

I can only speak for myself but no not always

I used to meet a guy, I met him several times and in all honestly i did feel like i was getting to attached to him, i could feel myself falling for him in a way i shouldn't so i stopped seeing him, he did keep texting and calling me to ask me why and if he had done something to upset me but i just told him i felt it was time to move on as i knew it was for the best

you cant always control your feelings, however you can choose how to act on them, if you fall for someone the choice is tell them or walk away, i felt as it was no strings the correct thing to do was walk away

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Can I ask swingers who have been on here a while - over time, do you tend to build up friends who you meet with regularly and become attached to or one off meets with people you never see again - and which is more exciting?"
I think if you have a bit of both regulars and one offs you can have the best of both worlds and thats always good.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I have a mix of both...got a regular FB and a few repeat meets but I also have one offs too. I like all for different reason. With my FB I'm exploring new things, but also regular sex with the same person can be great as you become more comfortable with each other...with the new meets I get the excitement of a bit of strange and the flirtation in the build u to a meet! "

Ditto. Best of all worlds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or one can rephrase it as regular one offs

One offs once in a blue moon are if no use

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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

LOL x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've been trying for years for an fb seems I am resigned it will never happen

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"That's what I'm trying to get at - does that familiarity constitute as a relationship - in whatever form that may take - so if does end you'd be more hurt that you'd think.

Can we always keep our feelings under control?"

I was seeing someone fairly regularly for the last year. We had to end it as neither of us want a relationship that is impossible (he lives too far away and also found it difficult that I would see other people) and we were beginning to fall in love.

It has been difficult but better now than letting it go on and ending up fighting.

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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

that's the problem - it's always only one of you that feels like that x

I wonder if any swingers every become a monogamous couple?

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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

so what was so wrong with falling in love if that was the way it was going?

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By *uckyinlustMan
over a year ago

manchester

With meets its a condom.............

With fb .......bareback............

Regular is best btw .....:......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so what was so wrong with falling in love if that was the way it was going?"

There wouldnt be anything wrong with that if both were happy and wanted to go there, some people dont and you have to respect their decision

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"so what was so wrong with falling in love if that was the way it was going?"

He's too far away. With his work and my work we would only see each other once or twice a month and he would always be wondering if I was seeing someone else to help with my libido.

There's nothing wrong with falling in love but it is so much harder to end things when you do. We were able to spot we were heading that way and it wasn't what either of us wanted with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from a small number of gents that I would play with when I am at Chams, my 1-1 meets have all been one-offs.

Although repeat meets have always been on the card with some, due to the distances involved, they have not materialised.

Some disappeared from FAB into thin air.

However, I still ping a few of them a PM from time to time to check that they are up the right way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a FB for 3 years (who's not on Fab) and a mixture of one-off and repeat meets...so I guess I like a bit of everything!

As long as it's NSA and hassle-free I'm happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular would be nice but happy enough with the occasional one to one, its the best that us single guys can expect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mixture of both is best I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a few regular men, 2 I have been seeing for more than 3 years. It just happens when it's right

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"that's the problem - it's always only one of you that feels like that x

I wonder if any swingers every become a monogamous couple?"

I couldn't do a 'regular' relationship now - if I was in a relationship with someone i'd want to continue doing meets with them, and now & then apart - I would however still prefer my MMF's

Or MMMF's

Or MMMMF's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's what I'm trying to get at - does that familiarity constitute as a relationship - in whatever form that may take - so if does end you'd be more hurt that you'd think.

.."

I think it does. I think relationships take many forms, not necessarily the romantic cuddly chocolates and flowers stuff that people usually associate with the word 'relationship'.

I also think some people are in a relationship whether they realise it or not. It's good....

But it's also one hell of a head fuck......

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

the guy ive been seeing over seven years has just gone home. hes like a comfort blanket i see him about every six weeks. neither of us care if the other sees someone else. he was coming over tomorrow but think he destroyed me tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so what was so wrong with falling in love if that was the way it was going?"

Good question!

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford


"so what was so wrong with falling in love if that was the way it was going?

Good question! "

Nothing at all if its what you want

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Once friendship develops, my preference is we don't have sex.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"so what was so wrong with falling in love if that was the way it was going?

Good question!

Nothing at all if its what you want "

And everything if it just can't happen

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

A few one offs but not had a meet in sooooo long and i don't really have anyone regular....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a good mix x

I still wonder if some people get too attached though after a while x but I suppose it's about keeping your FB in the friendship box

"

Been there done that, got my heart broken, I went into a dark place over it it was my fault compleatly I over steeped the mark, and let feelings develop that shouldn't have, I've put it down to experience and moved on but lost a good friend, so I would say if the day comes and you want to tell your FB you love them think long and hard about it cos you could loose more than you could gain, right now I am seeing a girl who is a total miss match for me where it comes to a relationship but sexually it's exciting and neither of us want a relationship so fingers crossed things go well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My FWB knows I Love him and we are best friends too. We see each other when we can and talk everyday. We both know where we stand and its been nearly 2 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't fall in love. Purely sexual for us. I do chit chat a lot with one of mine most days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But some people are in love with the idea if being in love ....there's a big difference in reality

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

A regular fb would be ideal for us. That's exactly what we're looking for. They seem to be thin on the ground though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I have found one :-0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask swingers who have been on here a while - over time, do you tend to build up friends who you meet with regularly and become attached to or one off meets with people you never see again - and which is more exciting?"

For me, its both. Regular meets are with singles and couples where its a really strong sexual and mental attraction. And one off meets are with singles and couples where its again a strong attraction, but the logistics are difficult (eg a 200 mile round trip, or availability problems etc), or the first meet didn't merit a repeat. As to which is the most exciting, its always first meets (be they one off or regular)

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"well done for having a FB for 2 years - you must have formed a close friendship - I'd love to find someone like that - and still be able to have the variety of one offs.

Do you still get that excitement when you meet?

"

I have a friend on here who I have been seeing regularly for over three years now. Sometimes the gaps between meets are too long, but we always manage to get together again and it just gets better and better. I still get the thrill of anticipation, love the flirting and sexting and we get straight down to it when he arrives at mine. I love him to bits, but am not "in love" and we both do our own thing at other times. Occasionally we have played together as a couple too.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

like to do regular rather than one offs ..been meeting with same guy a year and a half now ...works great for all of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

regular please long distance tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once friendship develops, my preference is we don't have sex.

"

I feel like that too, I find it really hard to have sex with someone who I consider a friend, i've made some really good friends thro swinging who I have met thro clubs, socials etc who I would never have sex with, ive also met guys and had sex but then got to know them well and stopped having sex with them, I just feel more comfy having sex with people I don't know, soon as I get friendly with them I cant have sex with them anymore, id sooner keep them as a friend and find someone else to shag

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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

I agree - it's hard sometimes to put what category your FB is in - more than friends - less than a couple - trying not to look any deeper than sex - but there's definitely a connection - a definite head fuck x

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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

aww that's a real shame - I know what you mean - it's like going back to what's safe when you've been 'out there' for a while - familiarity - hope you find someone to take his place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask swingers who have been on here a while - over time, do you tend to build up friends who you meet with regularly and become attached to or one off meets with people you never see again - and which is more exciting?"

ive met a girl of here about a month ago and we now see each other 3-4 times a week and a lot to do with that is we really get on and are attracted to each other and the sex is amazing too

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By *rankygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

That's a good point - loving them to bits - but not being in love with them x that makes sense and puts things into perspective

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By *unnysmileWoman
over a year ago

wakefield area ish

I had a fb of four years..he became a great friend too...met several times a week...he met n fell in love with a mutual swinging friend...he is extremely happy n they buying a house etc now...I actually stepped back n gave them space , not knowing how she felt about me remaining a friend.

12 months on , he s my rock again...listens n advises...we both offer support ...we are a phone call away...she also now contacts me n has realised I m not a threat of any sort and bends my ear lol. I consider them friends in the real world. And I hope they live happily ever after...awww lol.

But I have to be honest n say on a cple of occasions I almost went to kiss him n then remembered he s off limits lol...old habits die hard..hmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask swingers who have been on here a while - over time, do you tend to build up friends who you meet with regularly and become attached to or one off meets with people you never see again - and which is more exciting?

ive met a girl of here about a month ago and we now see each other 3-4 times a week and a lot to do with that is we really get on and are attracted to each other and the sex is amazing too"

Blushing mutch lol i never thought i would find a qoute about me wow hun so happy with your kind words my stunning hunny bunny lol

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