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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

does any other fuller figured chicks find it a little intimidating when someone talks to you and all there verifications are from women who class themselves as slim.

or is it just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just you. Fuller figure gal here feeling exactly the same. Our own insecurity I suppose...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes and no. depends who they are, what their message says, and what they say on the verifications they leave the women they have met.

men could be put off by seeing i have met slim men, i doubt it though.

just because someone is slim, doesnt mean they are better in bed, not all the time anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a nosey at the veri's if published but i wont let previous meets bother me just because they are thin.. if im honest its inevitable that all meets previous to me will be thinner

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not just you. Fuller figure gal here feeling exactly the same. Our own insecurity I suppose... "

I sit there thinking and he wants to see my mummy tummy :/ is he really sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have a nosey at the veri's if published but i wont let previous meets bother me just because they are thin.. if im honest its inevitable that all meets previous to me will be thinner "

I dont know there are quite a few big women on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ladies never doubt your beauty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God I think it all the time.............But strangely I tend to find a lot of things attractive in a person so guess they must too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ladies never doubt your beauty "

thanks darling

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By *havenangel1Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

Yep sometimes feel exactly the same but get told off by the other half x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"God I think it all the time.............But strangely I tend to find a lot of things attractive in a person so guess they must too! "

guess I've done it to myself as I like talk slim muscular men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have a nosey at the veri's if published but i wont let previous meets bother me just because they are thin.. if im honest its inevitable that all meets previous to me will be thinner "

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

No.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep sometimes feel exactly the same but get told off by the other half x"

think part of it is because I had more meets when I was slimmer but keep thinking that may just be my head screwing with me! x

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

I'm intimidated by the fact that I have very thin legs.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"does any other fuller figured chicks find it a little intimidating when someone talks to you and all there verifications are from women who class themselves as slim.

or is it just me"

I sometimes feel that way. And the various BBW bashing threads also make me wonder occasionally.

But then I snap out of it. Why should I let someone elses preferences bother me, when the only preferance that really matters is that of my OH. His preferance is me and that's more than enough to make me happy.

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

why do some ladies on here ask/answer questions like this and then get up in arms about the amount of BBW threads ??

you are what you are, theres someone out there for everyone, some people prefer the fuller figured lady and some dont.

be happy in your skin and stop worrying about the image you portray imho.

enjoy your life and enjoy the people you attract

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't intimidate me...however, if everyone of them is a slim female, and they appeared to have a 'type', I'd wonder why they wanted to meet me (being so different). If there was verifications from women sizes 8-16/18 or whatever, I'd think nothing of it. Definitely wouldn't feel intimidated though, I might be a fat arse, but I'm as attractive, sexy and exciting as any slim lady to some!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not just you. Fuller figure gal here feeling exactly the same. Our own insecurity I suppose... "

Why insecure . Going by what I read you're intelligent as well as gorgeous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep sometimes feel exactly the same but get told off by the other half x"

And so he should tell you off. You're lush.

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By *AMES19620Man
over a year ago

newport

to me you all look good its how naughty you can be interests me mmmmmmmm xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No..... "

I knew that would be your answer, as you are a quite intimidating person yourself but not in a bad way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just like us guys with wobbly bits get intimidated by all those well hung stallions with washboard six packs.

But I know one person that loves me and that's all that matters.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"No.....

I knew that would be your answer, as you are a quite intimidating person yourself but not in a bad way x"

lol how am I?? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No.....

I knew that would be your answer, as you are a quite intimidating person yourself but not in a bad way x

lol how am I?? X "

You have me shaking in my boots.

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By *3viantMan
over a year ago

charge


"yes and no. depends who they are, what their message says, and what they say on the verifications they leave the women they have met.

men could be put off by seeing i have met slim men, i doubt it though.

just because someone is slim, doesnt mean they are better in bed, not all the time anyway. "

From my personal experience there is definitely NO correlation between slenderness and a prodigious ability in the bedroom. In fact, my extensive personal research, if anything, would prove the opposite x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not at all, when im meeting i have clear face/body shots on my profile the ones that dont like me wont message me. I only look at verifications to check they are genuine i dont go sifting through whether someone iss thinner than me or not. Guess im quite confident in that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not at all, when im meeting i have clear face/body shots on my profile the ones that dont like me wont message me. I only look at verifications to check they are genuine i dont go sifting through whether someone iss thinner than me or not. Guess im quite confident in that way"

Maybe, you have the right idea.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Itseems to be human nature for people to focus on their perceived flaws or weaknesses,,

Your profile says Great boobs and bum, from your pictures I d agree, concentrate on your strengths not what you consider your weaknesses ,;-);-)

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

ladies... If a guy likes you, he likes you. I've seen this loads of times...

This used to really annoy me. I'll explain why:

One or two in the past have got abusive with me because they imagine that I don't like them and tell themselves that. Then get funny with me.... More often than not, I have no idea why they're getting shitty.... Until they say I'm too thin for them and that I don't like them.

Excuse me??? I don't like you??? What???

If I tried to console them and said i do like you... They often go weird... More often than not, I found that it was a waste of time chatting to any who were too insecure because they would always cut themselves off and get shitty with me.

Almost take it out on me because they're annoyed or something.

I'm also honestly not joking or lying when I say I've never mentioned their size to them. I'd never say that as I'm a nice guy really. The other thing is that I did actually like some of them and I DIDN'T think they were overweight! Really annoying...

Anyway, now, if a woman is sensitive about her size, I generally don't bother because this used to happen all the time.... Haha!

Having said that... It's ok to be nervous, etc... Men are often concerned about their size, etc too... but its got to be contained!

My advice is: check your size.... You probably aren't actually overweight at all. You can use BMI indicators, etc for that.

If you are overweight and you are happy... Tell the guy that you're feeling insecure and that you aren't interested early on.

If you are overweight and not happy... Join a gym and get happy with yourself. Tell the guy that you're insecure about your size and that you're not meeting yet...

Sounds awful I know...

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on a swinging site I would expect to find lots of larger women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"on a swinging site I would expect to find lots of larger women. "

Why?

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"on a swinging site I would expect to find lots of larger women.

Why?"

Yes why ?

Hope you're not suggesting it's the only place we can get sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beauty is only skin deep........it's ok I have a shovel!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"on a swinging site I would expect to find lots of larger women. "

trip-trap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in my experience larger women have great personalities, love to share and have fun, they tend to be more open, and much friendlier, you can see that by reading profiles, they usually have more things that they like, tan dislike and are more flexible. I didn't consider, it is a place where they have to come to get sex, that was in your heads, not mine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"in my experience larger women have great personalities, love to share and have fun, they tend to be more open, and much friendlier, you can see that by reading profiles, they usually have more things that they like, tan dislike and are more flexible. I didn't consider, it is a place where they have to come to get sex, that was in your heads, not mine x"

And they always have cake for after!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the answer to that would be HELL NO lol anyways i actively seek out women who are not classes as ''slim'' or ''athletic'', i bloody love the more ample , wonderfully curvy woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

classes? lol i meant classed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something very sexy about a woman with curves. If I wanted bony chicks I'd go to KFC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something very sexy about a woman with curves. If I wanted bony chicks I'd go to KFC

"

Amen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even look at the other women. I know I'll be a great fuck if we get on and decide to meet. I don't even care if he doesn't want anyone to know he's fucked me. Same with young men not wanting people to know they meet older women. I don't care, I'm enjoying them and myself....very much and so should you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes purely as I had men who have been cruel about my size after a date etc despite having seen full body shots.

I don't want to be their dare or experiment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No.....

I knew that would be your answer, as you are a quite intimidating person yourself but not in a bad way x

lol how am I?? X "

You have the looks and the personality and you don't take any crap off anyone I bet I speak for a lot of guys on here when I say "out of my league" damn it your just an all round good egg lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes purely as I had men who have been cruel about my size after a date etc despite having seen full body shots.

I don't want to be their dare or experiment."

Unfortunately you're always taking that chance because some people (men or women) are great lairs when they want something NOW!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

If you spend more time embracing your good points rather then your bad confidence will grow and you won't give a shit....I am who I am and if you don't like it tough shit....I certainly don't worry what others have that are better then me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes purely as I had men who have been cruel about my size after a date etc despite having seen full body shots.

I don't want to be their dare or experiment.

Unfortunately you're always taking that chance because some people (men or women) are great lairs when they want something NOW!"

Come to think of it, they are nastiest when I don't put out

It is a risk but I can lessen the risk by checking verification's to see if I will fit in with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes purely as I had men who have been cruel about my size after a date etc despite having seen full body shots.

I don't want to be their dare or experiment.

Unfortunately you're always taking that chance because some people (men or women) are great lairs when they want something NOW!

Come to think of it, they are nastiest when I don't put out

It is a risk but I can lessen the risk by checking verification's to see if I will fit in with them."

That's true, otherwise they'll be like me and wait a long time to get a veri by trying to make friends lol (booorrriiiing)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"does any other fuller figured chicks find it a little intimidating when someone talks to you and all there verifications are from women who class themselves as slim.

or is it just me"

No, it's not just you. I worry they are just out to shag everything! I guess some of the reasoning behind my intimidation is if you've been fat/overweight/obese all your life you are kinda socially conditioned from school that being fat is undesirable (I now know better) but I always actively seek those guys out that are verified by other BBW's. I just worry that guys who meet a mixture of body sizes are disingenuous, rightly or wrongly...

Plus some guys on here treat the site as instashag and I think they would shag anything that moves. I'm really not interested in that kind of meet! I made a mistake once or twice when I was new to this of believing compliments from guys whilst swinging and I felt quite, well shit really when they said stuff like "aww, you are so pretty, your eyes/smile are gorgeous, you'd be a stunner if you were thin" Yeah, thanks for that, really boosted my confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes purely as I had men who have been cruel about my size after a date etc despite having seen full body shots.

I don't want to be their dare or experiment."

Assholes is the word that springs to mind.. i wasted so much of my life worrying about wat guys thought of my size..but u know wat i am beautiful.. adventurous and really enjoy sex.. not my problem if they cant accept that..xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope ...

If they like you they like you - size is irrelevant to some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"does any other fuller figured chicks find it a little intimidating when someone talks to you and all there verifications are from women who class themselves as slim.

or is it just me"

I thought it was just me

if a guy mails me I always look to see what type of women have verified him and if they are slim, athletic, average I don't mail back

I thought I was weird but seems i'm not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope ...

If they like you they like you - size is irrelevant to some "

Size is borderline irrelevant. Its all about curves (the shape) and the face for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent about a year or so after having my child completely hating the fact that I had a mummy tummy and felt that no one would find my body attractive but I now embrace my curves and find that for every one person who doesn't like my body due to their preferences theres more out there that do. In fact S wouldn't have me any other way. So while at times I do panic that potential meets may not like my body I get over it quickly as they see what I'm like from pics and know that if they want to meet then they obviously like what they see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im terrible for this! Maybe one or two veri's from women much slimmer than me but when all of their veri's are that way then i just doubt myself and think they'd be disappointed when they come to meet me so will not bother.

I miss the days when i first joined and really didnt give a fuck! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be really bad for it but over time I've gotten over it after some great meets with some gorgeous fella;s who each made me feel wanted whilst I was in their company...many of whom asked for repeated visits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"does any other fuller figured chicks find it a little intimidating when someone talks to you and all there verifications are from women who class themselves as slim.

or is it just me"

not just women feel like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh yay its the usual "big girls have better personalities than slim girls" thread!

Interestingly a friend of mine went from a size 16 to a size 10 - her personality didn't ever change!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I am curious as to whether this anxiety and comparing to other previous meets is just about size? I mean if you noticed that the previsou meets were all much younger/ older, blonde/ brunette etc, had long or short legs etc... can you see where I am going with this?

I wonder why size issuch a big issue (pardon the pun) especially as we know that there are plenty of people who like bigger ladies? Maybe it is down tot the media?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh yay its the usual "big girls have better personalities than slim girls" thread!

Interestingly a friend of mine went from a size 16 to a size 10 - her personality didn't ever change!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im terrible for this! Maybe one or two veri's from women much slimmer than me but when all of their veri's are that way then i just doubt myself and think they'd be disappointed when they come to meet me so will not bother.

I miss the days when i first joined and really didnt give a fuck! Lol "

Everyone is a different shape/size. Just because one person looks good. Doesn't mean others don't. Example I seen a woman who I used to work with and she's much bigger than you and I would sleep her based on her looks and you are more attractive than her. So don't doubt yourself as you look like a very beautiful young lady with a lovely bum to match

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was a size 12 i was unhappy.. when a size 24 unhappy.. but at 18 i am very hspoy.. its all about loving urself not about if ur big or slim..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something very sexy about a woman with curves. If I wanted bony chicks I'd go to KFC

"

Grow up.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

These threads just turn into a bashing thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something very sexy about a woman with curves. If I wanted bony chicks I'd go to KFC

Grow up. "

I have to admit I cringed a bit when I read that, such comments always come over as being by people who are trying to point score with the fatties

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