FabSwingers.com forum: feeling empty !!!

By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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a few weeks ago a guy put up a thread about having some lovely meets but feeling empty afterwards ,he got lots of replies to this including one from myself i guess another thing that makes you feel empty is having a meet and the person not contacting you afterwards to say either a. they got home safely or b. they had a good time ,that makes you feel empty

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It is nice to get a message saying ta for a good time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I started meeting guys, it was a new experience, I had 3 meets and felt, empty, lonely and cold afterwards, so much so I decided not to meet again, and stay single and alone. ( which I have been for past 35 yrs)

I discovered 2 things,

1) by seeing meets as being for my own gratification. rather than the guy using me, my mind set changed and I know see meets as for my pleasure first.

2) Most of the guys who want to meet me seem to be in happy straight relationships or marriage, and mostly want to empty their balls.

as soon as they do this a wave of guilt seems to come over them and they get dressed, pretty quickly and leave.

My new mind set means, I always cum first, so never feel cheated.

Works for me.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"a few weeks ago a guy put up a thread about having some lovely meets but feeling empty afterwards ,he got lots of replies to this including one from myself i guess another thing that makes you feel empty is having a meet and the person not contacting you afterwards to say either a. they got home safely or b. they had a good time ,that makes you feel empty

Nope........ but I do enjoy the empty feeling after a good healthy dump.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I would say with respect that if you are relying on meets with people from a swinging site for fulfilment that you are looking in the wrong place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id reply if i ever got a meet

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I have to say many years ago i gave up on one night stands because i walked away feeling empty.

Swinging however so far hasn't been like that. I've always messaged the couples after and said me and himself have had a lovely time etc. Vice versa they have also done the same and mentioned doing it again.

No emptiness, sorted. But as someone said, we're on here to have sex not meet life partners. It's the way you look at it i think

Julie xx

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"id reply if i ever got a meet"

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By *orny69pussyCouple
over a year ago

Tonbridge

I feel empty coz I am!! Got a guy i want to fill me up and can't find anywhere to get it done!!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Nope........ but I do enjoy the empty feeling after a good healthy dump."

This gave me a good LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what you discussed in the meet? Did u hint you wanted a fbw or it was just fun that night? Did he leave feedback on here? Maybe he did not enjoy it as much as yourself? This happens to guys so why not girls?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave in to temptation last week and let 2 guys (not at the same time!) come round for a shag. Both had been after a meet for a while. It reaffirmed my beleif that 'cum and go' meets are not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you need something more than this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep your chin up. Some will message you back whilst others won't. Just have to have that expectation and think the worst i suppose.

..you never know what could happen. Hopefully this empty feeling will soon fade away. It's just a temporary feeling.

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By *orny69pussyCouple
over a year ago

Tonbridge

"Maybe you need something more than this "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite surprised some people on here would feel empty for not getting a message after a meet, i see all meets as potential one off's, some will wants to meet you again so wont but we all know that from the start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever felt empty after a couple of social meets, and then I did not connect with the Ladies, and never saw them again, which was fine by me. but I always send a message to whoever I meet, saying thanks ect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get that feeling on the way home after a meet. I often wondered if it was worth it. After changing my thoughts on things. I would only meet if i/we had that connection. Empty fucks are or can be soul destroying. Selfworth is very important.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.

that practiacally happened to me last week! Went to the loo after the deed came back and he was dressed, out the door before I was fully dressed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to say many years ago i gave up on one night stands because i walked away feeling empty.

No emptiness, sorted. But as someone said, we're on here to have sex not meet life partners. It's the way you look at it i think

Julie xx"

Would you say that's because you're swinging as a couple? Perhaps the one night stands as a single person were very different.

I think couples have each other as kind of 'moral support'. With single people it's totally different, there's no-one to share it with.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.

that practiacally happened to me last week! Went to the loo after the deed came back and he was dressed, out the door before I was fully dressed!"

That is totally crap. No wonder you felt bad after. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.

that practiacally happened to me last week! Went to the loo after the deed came back and he was dressed, out the door before I was fully dressed!"

i had it once too, in a hotel, i went in the shower after and came out to a empty room

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.

that practiacally happened to me last week! Went to the loo after the deed came back and he was dressed, out the door before I was fully dressed!

i had it once too, in a hotel, i went in the shower after and came out to a empty room

That would only bother me if my purse had gone too.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never feel empty after meets,I feel satisfied,I'm on here for myself,I always message peop saying Thankyou etc majority of the time I get replies,remeets etc I find it polite

Rarely I get people that I never hear from again,I don'tget paranoid abt it,if I felt empty after meets I would feel why am I doing this because that takes the fun out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never mind, just think of the next man you will meet, he might be better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can kind of understand where ur coming from

when you think about it, it is mostly about sexual gratification. whats left after that?

depends what ur going home too

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

why is the onus on the guy to contact you? why don't you message them saying thanks for a good time or ask if he got home safe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My second or third time on the site now, but always send a message after a meet even its just a social meet to say thanks, and for me its nots just about the sex its getting to know someone too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.

that practiacally happened to me last week! Went to the loo after the deed came back and he was dressed, out the door before I was fully dressed!

i had it once too, in a hotel, i went in the shower after and came out to a empty room

That would only bother me if my purse had gone too."

Ok I lol'ed on that one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not rely on other people for my own well-being and happiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was a young man I had countless one night stands. No mobiles or internet in them days and very rarely exchanged landline numbers.

It's a mutual thing and if someone felt empty after one off encounters,they best not sleep around then.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"When I was a young man I had countless one night stands. No mobiles or internet in them days and very rarely exchanged landline numbers.

It's a mutual thing and if someone felt empty after one off encounters,they best not sleep around then.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"why is the onus on the guy to contact you? why don't you message them saying thanks for a good time or ask if he got home safe?"

That's what I do. If they don't reply then I assume they don't feel the need or didn't have a good time.

I sometimes feel frustrated but that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.

that practiacally happened to me last week! Went to the loo after the deed came back and he was dressed, out the door before I was fully dressed!

i had it once too, in a hotel, i went in the shower after and came out to a empty room

That would only bother me if my purse had gone too."

I've always contacted people afterwards to show appreciation, even if I don't plan on meeting again.

Hardest one I've had is writing a verification, after being asked for one, from a meet I didn't particularly enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldnt worry if they got home safely, i dont even know them.

the last couple of men i met said thanks for seeing me, which was nice.

i dont mind if they dont contact me afterwards, they are thinking of meeting the next person, like everyone else is on here.

i used to meet men for sex when i was a teenager and didnt know their name most of the time. i only heard from one once months after i had seen him but i had seen him twice before that, the others were one night stands.

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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this guy isnt on this site but another one

and i have met him several times as ive known him nearly a year.

so a thanks for a good time would have been nice x

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this guy isnt on this site but another one

and i have met him several times as ive known him nearly a year.

so a thanks for a good time would have been nice x"

To be fair sounds like the least he could do, and if you've known him a year I'd guess its out of character too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope........ but I do enjoy the empty feeling after a good healthy dump."

And you had the nerve to criticize something I said the other day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As Peter Kay woulr say "give me 3 rings when you get home".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this guy isnt on this site but another one

and i have met him several times as ive known him nearly a year.

so a thanks for a good time would have been nice x"

That usually means they are getting bored with you or taking you for granted, or he had other things on his mind. if i was you i would concentrate on other men. it can get a bit boring having sex with the same person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this guy isnt on this site but another one

and i have met him several times as ive known him nearly a year.

so a thanks for a good time would have been nice x"

Does he usually send a message after you have met?

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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he came over weds night before i went on holiday and text me on the thurs .

i know he spends sunday with his son but as he had logged onto the site a quick message would be nice x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"he came over weds night before i went on holiday and text me on the thurs .

i know he spends sunday with his son but as he had logged onto the site a quick message would be nice x"

Doesn't have to message you every time he logs on then? Is that part of the agreement if you meet people?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

is this the one Julie

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"i know he spends sunday with his son but as he had logged onto the site a quick message would be nice x"

This is quite telling, and not necessarily in a positive light.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is this the one Julie"

Thanks View

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot are here for no strings sex . They wish nothing more than to shag and go .......And move to the next . Its a sex sport to some and feelings do not come into it at all, Not even friends, some don't even have to like you to have sex. So would never wish to chat after . Its cold sex with no feeling .. just getting of on the high of sex but can be all over so soon and you're left feeling alsorts at times after the meet .. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a common curteosy to send a thank you message or text after a great meet, i always make sure its the first thing i do, ive even done it from the car after ive taken her home again.

Also i always make sure the other party is ready for me to leave afterward. Its nice to have a cuppa or a coffee afterward and just chat for a few minutes. You tend to get remembered or invited back.

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

pontefract

"Its a common curteosy to send a thank you message or text after a great meet, i always make sure its the first thing i do, ive even done it from the car after ive taken her home again.

Also i always make sure the other party is ready for me to leave afterward. Its nice to have a cuppa or a coffee afterward and just chat for a few minutes. You tend to get remembered or invited back."

finally someone gets my point a quick message to say thanks for last night would be common curteosy even a quick one line ,anyway chatted to him yesterday online and he enjoyed his eve with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a common curteosy to send a thank you message or text after a great meet, i always make sure its the first thing i do, ive even done it from the car after ive taken her home again.

Also i always make sure the other party is ready for me to leave afterward. Its nice to have a cuppa or a coffee afterward and just chat for a few minutes. You tend to get remembered or invited back.

finally someone gets my point a quick message to say thanks for last night would be common curteosy even a quick one line ,anyway chatted to him yesterday online and he enjoyed his eve with me

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common courtesy not everyone will ..Here you get a real mix of people and have to take the good with bad. Some wish to hide up for a time after no matter how good as don't wish to know... xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Its a common curteosy to send a thank you message or text after a great meet, i always make sure its the first thing i do, ive even done it from the car after ive taken her home again.

Maybe he didn't think it was a great meet then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"he came over weds night before i went on holiday and text me on the thurs ."

You have just said he text you the next day so I cant see what the issue is?

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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no the text was after a previous meet.anyway have chatted online and he enjoyed saturday .so at least he still talking to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope........ but I do enjoy the empty feeling after a good healthy dump."

Classy.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"no the text was after a previous meet.anyway have chatted online and he enjoyed saturday .so at least he still talking to me x"

even if he didn't he has done nothing wrong....he has used the site how he wants to...what i do disagree with is if people promise the other person the world..however i always live by promises are comfort to a fool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Re-reading this,

Not sure how I would feel if I had met somebody and then found that they felt a need to publicly discuss my behaviour in these forums.

I think I would probably block them, seems to me that it is bad mannered and shows of insecurities to a whole new level.

Perhaps you are in the wrong game and need a "dating" site rather than a swinging site. After all, what does No Strings Attached actually mean to you? - Sorry I don't shag any of the cast of Thunderbirds!! (they were string puppets for you youngsters)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

when i had gangbangs it was just cold sex. as far as one to ones go dont think ive had any thank havent said thankyou or me say thank you. may have spoken for a while then the messages just fade out. but if your meeting someone you know your going to get all the build up messages beforehand its part of the process you cant expect them to be like that afterwards

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

"no the text was after a previous meet.anyway have chatted online and he enjoyed saturday .so at least he still talking to me x

I've just used the site how I like to, and now my balls feel empty!

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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i aint a fool and not talking about anyone on here my point was after the recent thread where a lot of people expressed the same thoughts about feeling empty a quick thank you doesnt go amiss ,no need to have a go at me .

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn, now I feel Empty....

time for toast and tea!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

We don't feel empty after a meet if someone didn't mail to say they enjoyed it.... but I don't think there is anything wrong with sending a mail to each other after you have had a meet even if we don't mail each other until the next meet.

We always mail to say thanks for the meet but we wouldn't get wound up if they don't answer back straight away.

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