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A Vanilla versus swinger conflict of interest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im determined to re find my mojo and get back to having some "fun" ...now my one knee is improving

Tho recently ...an old vanilla "friend" has popped up out of the blue...

He wants to meet and catch up but now im sort of putting the "feelers" out ..re a nice "meet"

Ooooooo what to do eh ?

Say nothing to "old friend" until im sure whats gonna happen and the same re "swinging" .........

Just lie back and see what "comes" up ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with the flow.

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

Have both!! You won't know until you meet up. Go with the flow and see what happens.

Life is too short

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well, he knows all about the swinging..but he doesnt like to share.

and i DONT want a "relationship"

Sooooooooo really, i cant see it working ....

But yer...go with the flow

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"Well, he knows all about the swinging..but he doesnt like to share.

and i DONT want a "relationship"

Sooooooooo really, i cant see it working ....

But yer...go with the flow "

tell him its NSA

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well, he knows all about the swinging..but he doesnt like to share.

and i DONT want a "relationship"

Sooooooooo really, i cant see it working ....

But yer...go with the flow

tell him its NSA "

To be honest.....

i may tell him to f...off if he starts saying "i dont want you doing this and that"

lmao

strange how writing it down shows a little more clarity ...even in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he's not up for sharing and doesn't want NSA.....and you don't want a relationship, just make it clear from the begining. Though I don't see how it would work. No harm in meeting up if your friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If he's not up for sharing and doesn't want NSA.....and you don't want a relationship, just make it clear from the begining. Though I don't see how it would work. No harm in meeting up if your friends. "

I think thats the answer...

keep him as a "mate" only and be honest and tell him im still swinging and wont be stopping.

then its his choice on if he still wants the "friendship" only

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"Well, he knows all about the swinging..but he doesnt like to share.

and i DONT want a "relationship"

Sooooooooo really, i cant see it working ....

But yer...go with the flow

tell him its NSA

To be honest.....

i may tell him to f...off if he starts saying "i dont want you doing this and that"

lmao

strange how writing it down shows a little more clarity ...even in the forums. "

I have that situation with a bloke I just don't tell him!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he's not up for sharing and doesn't want NSA.....and you don't want a relationship, just make it clear from the begining. Though I don't see how it would work. No harm in meeting up if your friends.

I think thats the answer...

keep him as a "mate" only and be honest and tell him im still swinging and wont be stopping.

then its his choice on if he still wants the "friendship" only "

The best you can do tell how it is and let him make his mind up.

There are plent of good men about, if you know where to look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go with the flow."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If he's not up for sharing and doesn't want NSA.....and you don't want a relationship, just make it clear from the begining. Though I don't see how it would work. No harm in meeting up if your friends.

I think thats the answer...

keep him as a "mate" only and be honest and tell him im still swinging and wont be stopping.

then its his choice on if he still wants the "friendship" only

The best you can do tell how it is and let him make his mind up.

There are plent of good men about, if you know where to look. "

Lol kenny

you smooth talker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

meet him for a drink and see what happens

nothing wrong with a drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

does he need to know you are still involved in the lifestyle the first time you catch up after a while?

unless he is planning on proposing as soon as he sets eyes on you, i dont see how its any of his business

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"does he need to know you are still involved in the lifestyle the first time you catch up after a while?

unless he is planning on proposing as soon as he sets eyes on you, i dont see how its any of his business"

Im sure he will ask and i like to be honest .

If he ever proposed....you wont see me for dust.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"does he need to know you are still involved in the lifestyle the first time you catch up after a while?

unless he is planning on proposing as soon as he sets eyes on you, i dont see how its any of his business

Im sure he will ask and i like to be honest .

If he ever proposed....you wont see me for dust. "

advice NEVER SAY YES WHEN IN BED WITH A LOVER!!!!!

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area

Peaches you have to do what is best for you. If he can't cope with the thought that's his problem to deal with not yours.

Good luck and you will of course fill us in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Peaches you have to do what is best for you. If he can't cope with the thought that's his problem to deal with not yours.

Good luck and you will of course fill us in "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet him and work your frustrations out on him. If he asks if you're still swinging be honest. If he doesn't like it at least you got a shag out if it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Meet him and work your frustrations out on him. If he asks if you're still swinging be honest. If he doesn't like it at least you got a shag out if it. "

lmao

though im hoping for one of them before meeting up with him

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

not sure 'how' they play determines what you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you need to forget him, get yourself up to sheffield and get well and truly leathered and go back home grinning like a Cheshire Cat!!!!

Only kidding, sounds ok... Do the usual have a drinky pooos and and a bit of bish bash bosh... Leave it at that... If he keeps textin you know that he's a boiler and leave the country and have cosmetic surgery and change your name!!!

Seriously go and find out and go with the flow and you never know a friendship may blossom..as Nick Faldo (golfer) said.... Swing away..swing away!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you need to forget him, get yourself up to sheffield and get well and truly leathered and go back home grinning like a Cheshire Cat!!!!

Only kidding, sounds ok... Do the usual have a drinky pooos and and a bit of bish bash bosh... Leave it at that... If he keeps textin you know that he's a boiler and leave the country and have cosmetic surgery and change your name!!!

Seriously go and find out and go with the flow and you never know a friendship may blossom..as Nick Faldo (golfer) said.... Swing away..swing away!!!"

im gonna go with the flow.....but if boiler tendencies show up.....

im gone man, solid gone

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