FabSwingers.com forum: Are you a worrier?

By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Do you worry at a problem? Worry about life the universe and everything? Worry and don't know why?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Yes, yes, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes worry about everything. Going away in 4 weeks now worrying there could be snow

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

I used to be terrible a few years ago, worried about the slightest thing!!!

My brother helped me get over a lot of it though(god rest his soul) he was my best friend aswell as my big brother, but he left me stronger and able to cope a lot better, when I start worrying I just think of what he would say- like he's always with me, if that makes sense x

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

The only thing I really worry about is my boy. As long as he's ok I'm ok x

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Maybes aye, maybes naw, sometimes, always, never...

Ooft worried that's the wrong answer...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id worry about stuff i shouldnt and kinda ignore stuff i should be more concerned about..

like id panic if i ran outta tooth paste and just go 'oh well i've just spent my gas money'

those just given for examples

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

"The only thing I really worry about is my boy. As long as he's ok I'm ok x "

Same here with my two boys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the point in worrying.

Though I'm a little worried England turn up to a different game and the ghosts of 40 years ago haunt the Wembley pitch once again.

Bye bye Brazil, bye bye

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Not bug decisions or at work but I do sweat the small stuff.

I worry that people hate me all the time.

I worry people treat me like a twat.

I worry that comments I make will be taken the wring way.

I worry that people will think I'm interfering when I try to be helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only thing I really worry about is my boy. As long as he's ok I'm ok x

Same here with my two boys x"

likewise.. kids always are number one! xx

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Do your worries become self-fulfilling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you worry at a problem? Worry about life the universe and everything? Worry and don't know why?

Yes and no.

Yes massively about most things (life/universe) but it is so intense it leads the worrying to almost a point of apathy, and a subsquent no.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Do your worries become self-fulfilling?

What do you mean lickety? X

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"What's the point in worrying.

Though I'm a little worried England turn up to a different game and the ghosts of 40 years ago haunt the Wembley pitch once again.

Bye bye Brazil, bye bye

Don't they know the way to Wembley? They were there last week.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Do your worries become self-fulfilling?

What do you mean lickety? X"

Do they end up happening because you worry about them?

Like...er... worrying a bf will dump you and him ending up dumping you because you are a worried, neurotic wreck.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Do your worries become self-fulfilling?

What do you mean lickety? X"

As an easy example, if you worry that you can't get up and speak in public then you get to the point where you stop yourself ever speaking in public and it becomes as self-fulfilling prophecy.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Do your worries become self-fulfilling?

No, once I woman up and deal with them they often turn out to be no problem at all.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Do your worries become self-fulfilling?

What do you mean lickety? X

As an easy example, if you worry that you can't get up and speak in public then you get to the point where you stop yourself ever speaking in public and it becomes as self-fulfilling prophecy.

Ah I see. Well I only truly worry about my boy and he's bound to get in the odd scrape here and there but that's unavoidable I suppose. But I worry he will get something terrible wrong with him. Again that will happen wether I worry or not. Wish I could stop myself worrying but I can't

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

"Do your worries become self-fulfilling?

What do you mean lickety? X

As an easy example, if you worry that you can't get up and speak in public then you get to the point where you stop yourself ever speaking in public and it becomes as self-fulfilling prophecy.

Bless u Hun, it's a mothers curse I'm afraid!!! I am the just the same x

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Do your worries become self-fulfilling?

What do you mean lickety? X

As an easy example, if you worry that you can't get up and speak in public then you get to the point where you stop yourself ever speaking in public and it becomes as self-fulfilling prophecy.

Yes, we do worry about the children but it's really important not to put our worries onto them. Teach them to know what's dangerous and to avoid that but to take risks.

I have seen kids really fucked up by parents that excel at worrying about their children and how it has affected those children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

worry about my kids all the time and hope I will be in good health for many many yrs to come

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

i worry about my girls all the time

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Do any of you worriers meditate at all?

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By *exystargirlWoman
over a year ago

Warrington

I worry to much, little things start to slowly become headbangers, just isn't enough hours in the day sadly.

Got my kids going away on a school trip next week for 4 days, I'm dreading it. Will be the first time i've ever been that long apart from them, even when ex has them at weekends, i worry lol.

I just know i'll miss them like crazy and the house is gonna be so quiet.

I sound like a right sad cow, jealous of my kids school trip. Just highlights how all my time is based around them, gonna be very weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously this is not bravado or bullshit, but I don't really worry.

I'm VERY like my dad like that.

Mind you my mum is the same, she does worry a bit mostly about my older sister who used to be Anorexic, but never used show it.

But I don't really worry.

I don't choose to focus on bullshit that may or may not be going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do any of you worriers meditate at all?

no i dont but did used to write it down. i have been lucky with finances but there was once when i did get a bit scared and couldnt sleep.. wrote stuff down because i was ashamed to talk about it, but through writing it down acccepted i had a problem and the next day i took action on that problem.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Do any of you worriers meditate at all?

Not really sure how. Seems like trying to sit still and think of nothing - two things I am not very good at!

I'm definitely going to give yoga a try though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a mum so that goes without saying,I worry about my kids and family

I'm not a worrier when it comes to myself or other things,life is too short to worry

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Do any of you worriers meditate at all?

Not really sure how. Seems like trying to sit still and think of nothing - two things I am not very good at!

I'm definitely going to give yoga a try though. "

You has helped me a lot. I have been looking at mindfulness too. My Buddhist nun friend says that the easiest way to start meditation is to just to spend a minute concentrating on your breath before going to sleep. You build up and then work on doing that without going to sleep.

I know that making my mind blank helped me get better when my Lupus first started. I couldn't walk or use my hands very well but I kept pushing myself to get better and it was making it worse. Learning to switch off then made a real difference.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

I worry about my 2 boys.alot.but apart from that I cudnt give a shit if the world collapsed around me.I got that from my dad.he has always floated through life while everything could be goin to shit and he wouldnt care.altho I didnt get the worrying about my kids from him.he didnt care about us either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I worry about everything. I have panic attacks brought on by worrying about having a panic attack. I'm an idiot

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Do any of you worriers meditate at all?

Not really sure how. Seems like trying to sit still and think of nothing - two things I am not very good at!

I'm definitely going to give yoga a try though.

A minute concentrating on one thing?

Can I start with ten seconds?

And what is this sleep thing you mention?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do any of you worriers meditate at all?

I have relaxation exercises I was taught at hospital. They are ok for not so bad moments but the really bad days they don't get through the wall of worry. I go from a walk sometimes to tire myself out so I can sleep but adrenaline wakes my brain up

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By *ust_for_laughsCouple
over a year ago

Hinckley

Yep...confident on the outside, bag of nervous shit on the inside!

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

A minute concentrating on one thing?

Can I start with ten seconds?

And what is this sleep thing you mention? "

That's the thing - the meditation helps you fall asleep and remain asleep. The sleep helps you sort out your emotions and then you begin to worry less.

It's not easy - when I'm really stressed it takes a while for me to remember to do all of this but once I do I can feel the results after just a week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worry.... Me.... Never!

Haha

Yes I am a worrier and an overthinker. But I am doing my best to have an "oh fuck it! mentality!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

A minute concentrating on one thing?

Can I start with ten seconds?

And what is this sleep thing you mention?

That's the thing - the meditation helps you fall asleep and remain asleep. The sleep helps you sort out your emotions and then you begin to worry less.

It's not easy - when I'm really stressed it takes a while for me to remember to do all of this but once I do I can feel the results after just a week.

I can't concentrate on my breathing for a minute without my mind wandering off on tangents. My brain doesn't have an off switch.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I practice mindfullness my cpn taught me

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I practice mindfullness my cpn taught me"

Would you recommend it?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I practice mindfullness my cpn taught me

Would you recommend it?

yes, i guess so but it took me awhile to get into it but then im not good at concentrating. There are some good books.

Its quite easy once you get into it and it is theraputic. In fact it seems to be the new in thing therapy wise as a few people have mentioned it to me

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I used to worry but with all the stuff that's happened in the last three years I don't see the point if I cant solve it

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I practice mindfullness my cpn taught me

Would you recommend it?

yes, i guess so but it took me awhile to get into it but then im not good at concentrating. There are some good books.

Its quite easy once you get into it and it is theraputic. In fact it seems to be the new in thing therapy wise as a few people have mentioned it to me"

I went to a lecture earlier this year with Ruby Wax talking about it, and a therapist running a 10 minute session for us all to try. It struck me as being quite like Buddhism.

I have also been looking at its use with children and young people where the effects appear to be more immediate in addressing their worried behaviour.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I practice mindfullness my cpn taught me

Would you recommend it?

yes, i guess so but it took me awhile to get into it but then im not good at concentrating. There are some good books.

Its quite easy once you get into it and it is theraputic. In fact it seems to be the new in thing therapy wise as a few people have mentioned it to me

I went to a lecture earlier this year with Ruby Wax talking about it, and a therapist running a 10 minute session for us all to try. It struck me as being quite like Buddhism.

I have also been looking at its use with children and young people where the effects appear to be more immediate in addressing their worried behaviour.

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it is quite Buddhism, if I remember I will ring my nurse and get the names of the books she recommends

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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"Do you worry at a problem? Worry about life the universe and everything? Worry and don't know why?

My phylosophy in life is "why worry about something that you can do nothing about, what will be, will be"

but this way of thinking has recently been challenged when my daughter (who is currently volunteering in an orphanage in Peru) was bitten by a dog! Rabies is not widely spread where she is but when i received her email saying 'Mum, I dont want to die of rabies', my blood and heart suddenly stopped..what was I to say? what could I do to alleviate her concerns? Should I play it cool and be reassuring mum? or should I freak out and get her out of there (yes she would have had to fly to another country) and get her the vaccin jab?

All things considered (I called the doctor and the UK helpline) and taking into account the circumstances of the bite, I decided to comfort her, try and remove her fears in order to calm her down and all is well, as of today!

Now the little bugger wants to visit lake Titicaca on the border with Bolivia...did she have the Yellow Fever vaccin inoculation before she left??? Nope but what are the chances she will get it?...next to none.

I am not a worrier for myself but I care and worry for those I love and hold dear. Life is a merry go round...hop on and see where the ride takes you! but be prepared for all eventualities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a doer not a worrier.

If something bothers me I'll do something about it.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I used to until I made myself Ill now I see that there is no point worrying about things you can't change

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I do worry sometimes about upsetting other people through something I have to do.

I also worry about my children and their future sometimes.

I worry about my elderly relatives sometimes.

I worry about my partner sometimes.

Rationally I know worrying is not going to make the blindest bit of difference to the outcome... and I TRY not to let worrying affect my choice of behaviour and action. Does this make sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not bug decisions or at work but I do sweat the small stuff.

I worry that people hate me all the time.

I worry people treat me like a twat.

I worry that comments I make will be taken the wring way.

I worry that people will think I'm interfering when I try to be helpful. "

Awwwww Evie... We dont hate you All the time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I worry about way too many things and end up not sleeping ....not good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

AM FUCKING WORRIED ABOUT THEM FALSE WIDOWS THEY FOUND ONE IN REDCAR NOW LOL

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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"I do worry sometimes about upsetting other people through something I have to do.

I also worry about my children and their future sometimes.

I worry about my elderly relatives sometimes.

I worry about my partner sometimes.

Rationally I know worrying is not going to make the blindest bit of difference to the outcome... and I TRY not to let worrying affect my choice of behaviour and action. Does this make sense?"

Yes. That makes sense to me!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

not overly so

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I do worry sometimes about upsetting other people through something I have to do.

I also worry about my children and their future sometimes.

I worry about my elderly relatives sometimes.

I worry about my partner sometimes.

Rationally I know worrying is not going to make the blindest bit of difference to the outcome... and I TRY not to let worrying affect my choice of behaviour and action. Does this make sense?"

That all sounds like reasonable worrying and within the confines of caring about people rather than worrying for the sake of worrying.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"AM FUCKING WORRIED ABOUT THEM FALSE WIDOWS THEY FOUND ONE IN REDCAR NOW LOL"

Wear cycle clips on your trousers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and get stressed sometimes too

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I do worry sometimes about upsetting other people through something I have to do.

I also worry about my children and their future sometimes.

I worry about my elderly relatives sometimes.

I worry about my partner sometimes.

Rationally I know worrying is not going to make the blindest bit of difference to the outcome... and I TRY not to let worrying affect my choice of behaviour and action. Does this make sense?

That all sounds like reasonable worrying and within the confines of caring about people rather than worrying for the sake of worrying.

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You could be right there - I do not usually worry about silly things, like whether my place is tidy I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not bug decisions or at work but I do sweat the small stuff.

I worry that people hate me all the time.

I worry people treat me like a twat.

I worry that comments I make will be taken the wring way.

I worry that people will think I'm interfering when I try to be helpful. "

I worry about the exact same things!x

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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Why do we worry aout things that may happen?

Why do we worrry about things that have happened?

Why do we worry about anything?

We only have so many years on this earfth...do you really want to spend it worying?

I dont!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worrying is praying for what you don't want

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I used to worry about everything but since the ex left I've become me and that's a much more chilled person. As a mum I do have worries about my daughter but that's just natural. In general I just think positive and go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm worrying now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you worry at a problem? Worry about life the universe and everything? Worry and don't know why?

You been following me around

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I'm worrying now

Why?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Do you worry at a problem? Worry about life the universe and everything? Worry and don't know why?

You been following me around

I wouldn't have to ask the question if I had been following you.

Try the breathing and meditation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont really worry about things. Wot will be will be. Lifes too short to over think about stuff.

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