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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Unrequited love or a broken heart?

I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think both add up to rejection which is always hard to cope with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unrequited love or a broken heart?

I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart. "

That's really hard to say, so many relative experiences were different, long, drawn out, embarrassing, painful

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Being told "I want a divorce" out of the blue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unrequited love or a broken heart?

I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart. "

The worst would be one leading to the other - that would be like hell.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Unrequited love or a broken heart?

I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart.

The worst would be one leading to the other - that would be like hell."

Why do I like your avatar? I mean it's not all that is it? Makes me smile tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever someone mentions "love" I put it in parentheses so I don't catch it.

That shit is catching!

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By *Kgirl80Woman
over a year ago

South Coast

Not convinced I'll play that game again. It feels pretty shit when it goes tits up (even when you're the instigator of the break up)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unrequited love or a broken heart?

I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart.

The worst would be one leading to the other - that would be like hell."

It is

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

both hurt but onwards and upwards

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've only truelly had my heart broken once. As for unrequented love, what's the point getting that attached to someone who doesn't care. Love should be a two way thing

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By *bacusMan
over a year ago

Walton on Thames

"Being told "I want a divorce" out of the blue. "

Overhearing your other half wants a divorce out of the blue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one leading to the other and never knowing why.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Unrequited love or a broken heart?

I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart. "

At least with a broken heart you know you have loved and been loved x

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

All of the above, but also falling for someone and then finding out they were involved with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A broken heart.

With unrequited love you don't actually lose anything.

Although they can be the same thing, you get your heart broken because they no longer love you (one sided love).

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

I'll go with, you love them and then find out they didn't actually love you

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"I'll go with, you love them and then find out they didn't actually love you

yeah that one hurts but better off without them imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of the above, but also falling for someone and then finding out they were involved with someone else.

That's happened to me recently, feel for a "single" guy, hook, line & sinker only to find out three months in he had a fiancée & kid he forgot to mention. Not sure what hurt most the lieing to my face or the fact he let me believe we might have a future. The worst bit is I can't turn the feelings off, so I'm still seeing him.

So I think the pain of a broken heart is probably the worst pain anyone can feel and I don't think your heart ever really recovers and always bears the cracks of been broken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unrequited love or a broken heart?

I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart.

The worst would be one leading to the other - that would be like hell.

It is

Yup.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I know what love is, been broken hearted though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a broken heart, as you had the love once...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Unrequited love but I got a heart like ice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Broken heart takes so much time to mend the again never really mends completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The heart is a muscle, it can be fixed,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OK then, next question - do you ever stop loving someone or do you just learn to deal with the love that is still there?

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

your heart can mend but your trust can never be mended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK then, next question - do you ever stop loving someone or do you just learn to deal with the love that is still there?"

You either change your outlook on life in time, resolve the feeling by yourself or find something better.

I think the more social creatures have more relationships to go with the latter.

Unfortunately, I just ended up with massive trust issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"your heart can mend but your trust can never be mended"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men don't really have feelings when their balls are full

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK then, next question - do you ever stop loving someone or do you just learn to deal with the love that is still there?"

I learn to deal with the love still there x

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

unrequited without a shadow of a doubt .. when you try sooo hard to do everything perfect and still get ignored it is soul destroying !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK then, next question - do you ever stop loving someone or do you just learn to deal with the love that is still there?"

It really depends on what side you are on (ie, the 'dumper' or 'dumpee').

In my experience if you love someone who doesn't love you back for whatever reason, your feelings will fade with time to a point where you can't actively say that you love them. The amount of time varies for different people and the circumstance.

Are you ruminating by any chance? Nothing good can come from that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men don't really have feelings when their balls are full

Yes we do, we feel like emptying them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh a broken heart. At least at one stage it was reciprocal. Why does it actually hurt your heart I wonder...because it does.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"I think both add up to rejection which is always hard to cope with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"unrequited without a shadow of a doubt .. when you try sooo hard to do everything perfect and still get ignored it is soul destroying !!"

Totally agree

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By *unluvinsoulxMan
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

I have has my heart ripped out my a girl I loved so unconditionally and never reflected her, always put her first and adored every thing about her only to find she was seeing my best friend for months and then one day told me she was leaving me for him.

I was told by friends that I give too much and trust too easy and need to be selfish as its more attractive. But it's not in my nature to be like that.

So I had vowed never to love again. Just enjoy my sexuality without any attachment.

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By *unluvinsoulxMan
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

Not reflected, mean neglected. Sorry stupid predictive text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loneliness is better than rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have has my heart ripped out my a girl I loved so unconditionally and never reflected her, always put her first and adored every thing about her only to find she was seeing my best friend for months and then one day told me she was leaving me for him.

I was told by friends that I give too much and trust too easy and need to be selfish as its more attractive. But it's not in my nature to be like that.

So I had vowed never to love again. Just enjoy my sexuality without any attachment."

That's nasty, man, hope you're happier. Been there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A broken heart is harder to cope wiv.

When u r in love wiv sumone and u wld of done anything for them and they dump u. Then uve found out wot a cheat and a liar they r, then that hurts like hell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think unrequited love - when you thought they loved you - could even have told you so. But they didn't.

Ive had my heart broken a few times and that feeling fades after time.

But I'm not sure I will ever get over the one who didn't love me. He made me question my faith in mankind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was told by friends that I give too much and trust too easy and need to be selfish as its more attractive. But it's not in my nature to be like that.

So I had vowed never to love again. Just enjoy my sexuality without any attachment."

You feel like that now but in time you will love someone again, you may not expect it, may even deny it but it will happen....as you say it's in your nature x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think unrequited love - when you thought they loved you - could even have told you so. But they didn't.

Ive had my heart broken a few times and that feeling fades after time.

But I'm not sure I will ever get over the one who didn't love me. He made me question my faith in mankind

Ah that's sad & very true, think I may change my mind to unrequited love

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

"I think unrequited love - when you thought they loved you - could even have told you so. But they didn't.

Ive had my heart broken a few times and that feeling fades after time.

But I'm not sure I will ever get over the one who didn't love me. He made me question my faith in mankind

Yup the dishonesty is hard to swallow, the trust & pain is hell & i don't think the heart ever really mends. Time makes it easier to keep it out your mind though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A broken heart.

With unrequited love you don't actually lose anything.

Although they can be the same thing, you get your heart broken because they no longer love you (one sided love)."

you can lose your sanity wondering what it would have been if the love had been requited. Yearning for someone can last forever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex husband broke my heart and I'm not constantly thinking of him. If I loved someone I couldn't have I would think about him every day

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By *unluvinsoulxMan
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

I am totally terrified of falling in love again and if someone did suddenly appear in my life that I should fall for, I think the pain and hardened caution and fear of heartbreak would cause me to turn away from the chance and opportunity.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Are they that different? If your heart is broken your love is no longer requited. If you have been feeling one-sided love it hurts.

You can go on loving but you'll go insane if you stop living and let it stop you loving again. I love everyone I have ever loved as we were then. Time moves on, people change. If the change is mutual you can carry on, if it isn't things start to crack.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am totally terrified of falling in love again and if someone did suddenly appear in my life that I should fall for, I think the pain and hardened caution and fear of heartbreak would cause me to turn away from the chance and opportunity. "

I am absolutely terrified of love. It scares the living daylights out of me. But before I met the man who left me in January I had shut my heart off and was happy with that. He melted it and now its hurt. Love is terrifying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought this was just me.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I think unrequited love - when you thought they loved you - could even have told you so. But they didn't.

Ive had my heart broken a few times and that feeling fades after time.

But I'm not sure I will ever get over the one who didn't love me. He made me question my faith in mankind

Yes, because if there deception involved too then that compounds the injury, in my opinion it is even more damaging.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I can understand that, but I hope you don't, it's so sad when that happens. They do say at the end of our lives we will most regret the things we didn't do.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

The longer you live in fear of exposing your emotions the easier it is to live like that and the harder it is to break the habit. I speak from experience and it's not one I would recommend for any of you.

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By *unluvinsoulxMan
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

I can understand that, but I hope you don't, it's so sad when that happens. They do say at the end of our lives we will most regret the things we didn't do."

Yes but sadly when you have tried so much and give all you have in your heart freely and ached for them so hard that you can't breath right, believe in anyone else as much as them and would melt at your core for just a loving smile on their lips and glimmer in their eyes your spent when they smash you and crash your world into a dark cold place where your love gets sealed away.

And you know you just could never ever survive that wrenching pain again.

No, I am safe and cozy with my heart securely hidden and protected

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I can understand that, but I hope you don't, it's so sad when that happens. They do say at the end of our lives we will most regret the things we didn't do.

And you know you just could never ever survive that wrenching pain again.

No, I am safe and cozy with my heart securely hidden and protected

Yea, but in order to open your heart to BE loved, you first have to expose it. That's the point - we need to feel the love, not the pain. We may fear the pain, but we still need the love.

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By *unluvinsoulxMan
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

I can understand that, but I hope you don't, it's so sad when that happens. They do say at the end of our lives we will most regret the things we didn't do.

And you know you just could never ever survive that wrenching pain again.

No, I am safe and cozy with my heart securely hidden and protected

Yea, but in order to open your heart to BE loved, you first have to expose it. That's the point - we need to feel the love, not the pain. We may fear the pain, but we still need the love."

Only if you wish to expose your heart and I don't. No ones gonna get a second Stab at it, ever.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I can understand that, but I hope you don't, it's so sad when that happens. They do say at the end of our lives we will most regret the things we didn't do.

And you know you just could never ever survive that wrenching pain again.

No, I am safe and cozy with my heart securely hidden and protected

Yea, but in order to open your heart to BE loved, you first have to expose it. That's the point - we need to feel the love, not the pain. We may fear the pain, but we still need the love.

Only if you wish to expose your heart and I don't. No ones gonna get a second Stab at it, ever."

Well, some people love and never stab. I still hope one finds me (and you regardless) but I hear what you are saying, it sounded vicious. x

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By *unluvinsoulxMan
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

I can understand that, but I hope you don't, it's so sad when that happens. They do say at the end of our lives we will most regret the things we didn't do.

And you know you just could never ever survive that wrenching pain again.

No, I am safe and cozy with my heart securely hidden and protected

Yea, but in order to open your heart to BE loved, you first have to expose it. That's the point - we need to feel the love, not the pain. We may fear the pain, but we still need the love.

Only if you wish to expose your heart and I don't. No ones gonna get a second Stab at it, ever.

Well, some people love and never stab. I still hope one finds me (and you regardless) but I hear what you are saying, it sounded vicious. x"

I do admire people who are in love and do know it is the most wonderful consuming feeling your heart can know, but I do not trust that a person could love me and never break my heart again. It's called having faith and I don't have any left. But I will always cosmically pray that others find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have "love like you'll never get hurt" tattooed on my back.

Despite the hurt I've experienced - almost to the point of ending it all - I couldn't live without love in my life. Ever.

Sometimes that's not good for me but the hurt fades and I know I've lived the only way I know how - being a loving person.

Sometimes it may be easier to not be but we all function differently

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By *anyoufeelmeMan
over a year ago

near you

a lost love will stay with you for the rest of your life ...

even new exciting love will never fill the heartbreak of lost true love

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I've never experienced unrequited love, but have a broken heart and it was awful, would never ever want to feel that way again, yet it hasn't stopped me falling completely in love again x

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

there are different types of love I love my husband but I also love my long term lovers you just have to think it was not meant to be and love again will find you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blah to the lot just get a black heart and be done with the lot if it

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Blah to the lot just get a black heart and be done with the lot if it

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Oh give over....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Blah to the lot just get a black heart and be done with the lot if it

Yeah yeah, like you don't do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unrequited love everytime.

I have had my heart broken, yes its horrible and debilitating but the hurt fades with time and now i can look back with bittersweet fondness of the times we shared.

Unrequited just gnaws at your heart until the yearning is all consuming and unbearable and never truly leaves you, its also the most dangerous because you reach a point of desperation that you will do anything to get a scrap of attention from them, you start to disregard consequences entirely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think both add up to rejection which is always hard to cope with

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"I think unrequited love - when you thought they loved you - could even have told you so. But they didn't.

Ive had my heart broken a few times and that feeling fades after time.

But I'm not sure I will ever get over the one who didn't love me. He made me question my faith in mankind

Yes, because if there deception involved too then that compounds the injury, in my opinion it is even more damaging."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought that I would never love again after my ex played away, it took me to a place that I didnt know was there. But I climbed back up in time and met someone whom I let have my heart (looking back maybe it was far to soon) but because of all the hurt that I had suffered before kept flooding back into my life and on occassions made me impossible to be with. I decided that i couldnt put him through anymore and walked away without any really good reason.....

I know that I left a very broken heart behind me and that saddens me but sometimes I think our hearts have to be broken to make us stronger people. But it still hurts like hell !!

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

I think there is broken, you can get over but also a broken, that you can't.

I'll go on with life, look for a relationship but never again will i let someone that close to me/my heart.

Caring for someone will be enough. I already have enough love in my life with my beautiful children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each hurt .. I can't define the difference in heartache

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