FabSwingers.com forum: Manners

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i know there are lots of profiles on the site that make the point they dont have time to reply to messages and those that state they will not reply , but at the end of the day if someone takes the time to message someone else isnt it only manners to reply , even if its a polite "no thanks" with a brief explanation why !!! manners dont cost anything ..

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By *hocksandmissusCouple
over a year ago

Chester-ish

mmmmmmmm would it not also be manners to read the persons profile before hand and respect what is written on it and why do you have to explain why it would be a no thanks surly just a no thanks would be enough xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i respect your point but when they dont state they wont reply then what ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not rude to not reply. Try having the amount of messages single women get and you will understand why we don't reply. If I replied to all then I would be here all day

Also often when you do reply explaining why then you often get rude messages back

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

OP, do the maths..

some on here receive dozens every day..

apart from the point made about some being from guys who have not read or have read and ignored a profile..

then there's the 'wanna fuck', 'am staying at a hotel and want to drop my load'..

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

Have been friends with lots of singles ladies on here and been in their company whilst they've been logged on to fab. One lass had about 25 messages in her inbox in just 5 minutes, so they have no chance to read most, nevermind reply to them....

Most men write shite anyway, so can you really blame the women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently some folk on here get 100's of messages each and every day, that's in excess of 36,500 messages every single year they are on here.

Do you think you could reply to that many messages?

Sarcasm alert for those that didn't spot it

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By *hocksandmissusCouple
over a year ago

Chester-ish

"i respect your point but when they dont state they wont reply then what ?"

have to say mind we do always try to reply to polite messages but when your getting 20 a day saying fancy a fuck and so on does get so very boring xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i understand what you,re saying natalie , but i would rather receive a no thanks as aknowlegement the message was even read, and just leave it at that, i certainly would not give anyone abuse on here for it .

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Would you rather log into fab and see you have 20 messages only to find...

No thanks

Not our type

No thanks

No thanks...

You get the idea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone takes the time to read our profile and send a polite message I always reply, even if it is a not for us but thanks for the message. However if it's obvious they haven't read our profile, or are rude/pushy, I will often delete without replying. If they can't take the 30 seconds it takes to read about us then they don't deserve 30 seconds for a reply!

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

OP it will all change in 200 years time when women outnumber men by 10 - 1, so hang in there for when the tables are turned in men's favour

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

How would a message saying no thanks make a difference? Would you feel better about being turned down?

Are you sure you don't message people whose stated criteria you don't match? I ignore messages from people who don't match what I am looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i take into account what each and everyone of you has said and i appreciate the feedback, but i dont send out crude, rude , messages and always read a persons profile. but would actualy be nice to hear back from some people .

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"i understand what you,re saying natalie , but i would rather receive a no thanks as aknowlegement the message was even read, and just leave it at that, i certainly would not give anyone abuse on here for it ."

You can see in your mailbox if it was read.

And a lot of people do reply with abuse when turned down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a fact of life on here that not everyone will reply to messages I can mail some close lady friends and not get a reply because they have some much sent to them it can be missed.

There's no point losing sleep over it.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"i take into account what each and everyone of you has said and i appreciate the feedback, but i dont send out crude, rude , messages and always read a persons profile. but would actualy be nice to hear back from some people . "

Even if they're saying no?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

at least no would be manners.... wouldnt it ?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"at least no would be manners.... wouldnt it ?"

It's not bad manners not to reply. Too many times I've tried and because you've bothered people think it's an opening to strike up conversation/ask why/occasionally get abusive. So I don't bother now. It's meant to be fun for me on here and dealing with idiots that can't take no for an answer makes it a chore.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

we as a Cpl do reply to emails that indicate the sender has read the profile etc..

even some of the well written emails to which we have said 'thanks for the email, however at present we are sorted for single guys, wish you good luck' have started the 'why not' type response..

which usually just makes us delete and block tbh..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well i thank you all for your comments.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"at least no would be manners.... wouldnt it ?"

Under normal circumstances yes, but this site and other high volume sites unfortunately by far the most effective way to ensure you don't get a mouthful back, or simply invite more messages trying to persuade you, is to delete. It has become a necessary evil for most of us. I do try to reply to people who have obviously read the profile and have something personal to say, but if they are 100 miles away and cannot accomm, I reserve the right not to!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"at least no would be manners.... wouldnt it ?"

Do you realise that by replying it means that even if they use the filters to stop messages from your group, (i.e. single men) in the future, you'll still be able to message them?

It means they'd be open to messages from everyone they'd said no thanks to and would have to actually block each person individually.

Some people don't reply for this reason.

I don't think not replying is rude. You decided to message, they decided not to message back. Each party did what best suited them.

Because you chose to use your time to write doesn't give you a right to expect them to use their time as you want (to reply).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

point taken by all of you, thankyou.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not rude its protection from idiots who reply with abuse or going on and on

also replying removes all filters between you. Do if someone changes their filters then it wont apply to so many.

my advice would be not to reflect on those who have zero interest in you,whats the point. They are strangers and always will be

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for that advice brenda

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yay! I haven't had to cut and paste the site FAQ's for ages!

Thanks OP - and here they are!!

"There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?"

Does that answer your question?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

im always thoughtful as to the content of my message and what the person is looking for. if i dont meet a persons criteria i simply dont message .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my profile isn't hidden I state that I am not meeting and will not answer all messages. I got lots of messages asking when I could meet and some very abusive ones when I chose not to reply. My answer is if you don't read my profile it's not my fault I don't reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When my profile isn't hidden I state that I am not meeting and will not answer all messages. I got lots of messages asking when I could meet and some very abusive ones when I chose not to reply. My answer is if you don't read my profile it's not my fault I don't reply. "

Which is without doubt the perfect way to treat unwanted junk mail however what seems to irk some folk is the profiles that are not as clear on the subject as yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im always thoughtful as to the content of my message and what the person is looking for. if i dont meet a persons criteria i simply dont message ."

There's the problem, you think you meet their criteria, but they think that you don't. It's not rude to not reply, it states that on the FAQ. Just take it as "not interested" and move on, no point moaning about it on the forums as it just puts other women off you !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i know there are lots of profiles on the site that make the point they dont have time to reply to messages and those that state they will not reply , but at the end of the day if someone takes the time to message someone else isnt it only manners to reply , even if its a polite "no thanks" with a brief explanation why !!! manners dont cost anything .."

Yep you are right just the same as if you are in a public toilet and the guy stood next to you says - Wow mate thats a mighty fine cock lets have a closer look mabe a feel or a suck - you let him out of politeness.

You do let him have a closer look dont you and maybe a lick or so I am assuming yes because its polite.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

deffinately NOT archangel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"deffinately NOT archangel"

But it would be impolite not to so you must as being polite is a big thing with you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

totally out of context

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"totally out of context "
Not really...but funny!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"totally out of context "

Not at all its about manners surely if someone takes the time to gander your cock while pissing and says how impressive it is it's only manners to let him have some one on one time with it. So as manners are so important to you its a fore gone you stiffen it up and let him have a closer look.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well if that floats your boat, thats your choice .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well if that floats your boat, thats your choice ."

dont be so impolite lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well if that floats your boat, thats your choice ."

Me I am not a manners queen people answer or not and I am the same I dont go with your rules.

So what would you do with the winkie inspector wanting to pet your pecker?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners cost nothing

Time how ever does

On the other hand if your a swf in here or whatever race.

You know your on a winner

Bet they dont get as much attention in the real world

Or maybe im just a jealous guy

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners cost nothing

Time how ever does

On the other hand if your a swf in here or whatever race.

You know your on a winner

Bet they dont get as much attention in the real world

Or maybe im just a jealous guy

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was having a piss and someone politely asked for va closer look.

Id give them a slap

It would be rude not too

Manners cost nothing or sometimes a broken nose

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to every message but get a lot of did u get my last message,are u there etc of course I'm flipping there just haven't got to ur message yet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry i am Rude because i just block ugly people. Saves them messaging again. Unless they send a Nice message then chat Friendly but make it Clear just friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP it will all change in 200 years time when women outnumber men by 10 - 1, so hang in there for when the tables are turned in men's favour

If that ever happened I would send hundreds of wanna fuck messages every day and wait for all the replies of no thank you I'm washing my hair tonight and my dog is sick or behave you fat old bag! Wouldn't even if I didn't have hundreds of alternatives...oooh I can't wait!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reply to every message but get a lot of did u get my last message,are u there etc of course I'm flipping there just haven't got to ur message yet lol"

I am sorry but I simply don't believe you can possibly have time to answer the 100+ messages that you as a Single Woman get each and every day on here, simply impossible.................

unless of course some others on here have been telling porky pies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry I don't agree a no responce back is a polite no thank you .

I think your making the mistake of thinking because you messaged a stranger they owe you something in return for you doing this which of coarse they don't .

Plus do you realise that a couple or single ladies active on the site can have hundreds of messages to go through if they replied to all the would have no time for any fun themselves .

Just suck it up and keep at it or leave would be my advice no one owes you there time because you choose to message them .

The key words there are you choose to message them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reply to every message but get a lot of did u get my last message,are u there etc of course I'm flipping there just haven't got to ur message yet lol

I am sorry but I simply don't believe you can possibly have time to answer the 100+ messages that you as a Single Woman get each and eevery day on here, simply impossible.................

unless of course some others on here have been telling porky pies

Who said I get hundred plus messages x I'm always 10 to 30 behind x I'm a fab addict on ere a lot so always pretty up to date,blame me cuppa and cigbreaks with phone in hand

When I go out for myweekly swinging session I'm not ere to pop on so may have 30 plus and takes ages to catch up tho lol that's where it handy working nightshift answer when people asleep

I never bullshit how many messages I get,it helps that I do not answer winkers as say on profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was having a piss and someone politely asked for va closer look.

Id give them a slap

It would be rude not too

Manners cost nothing or sometimes a broken nose

lol

I one watched a gut try and do the slap thing in the lav and 5 secs late he was doing a head stand in a pan in the 1st cubical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reply to every message but get a lot of did u get my last message,are u there etc of course I'm flipping there just haven't got to ur message yet lol

I am sorry but I simply don't believe you can possibly have time to answer the 100+ messages that you as a Single Woman get each and eevery day on here, simply impossible.................

unless of course some others on here have been telling porky pies

Who said I get hundred plus messages x I'm always 10 to 30 behind x I'm a fab addict on ere a lot so always pretty up to date,blame me cuppa and cigbreaks with phone in hand

When I go out for myweekly swinging session I'm not ere to pop on so may have 30 plus and takes ages to catch up tho lol that's where it handy working nightshift answer when people asleep

I never bullshit how many messages I get,it helps that I do not answer winkers as say on profile

Apologies, tried to PM and say it was a bit of a piss take but definitely definitely definitely not aimed at you.

Most women apparently get way to many messages each day to possibly be able to reply so it was rather refreshing to see someone with a slightly different outlook on the matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still get mail even though my profile states im not meeting and any mail received will be deleted. .......

but if its a nice informative message ,i will take the time to answer it....even though its reminding them of whats written on it and they have either not read it or have chose to ignore it.

Which can be taken as "bad manners" in its self .......

Its a no win situation for many

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"deffinately NOT archangel

But it would be impolite not to so you must as being polite is a big thing with you. "

To be fair though, his opinion is it is rude not to reply, even if the reply is a polite no thank you. Therefore a polite no thank you to the cock admirer would meet his standards of politeness.

It does still amuse me that some people think they are owed something because they chose to write someone a message.

Still, it takes all sorts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does still amuse me that some people think they are owed something because they chose to write someone a message.

Still, it takes all sorts."

To spin that around the same applies to all the 'Read the Feckin profile' threads.

No dig at you, just a simple observation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never expect a reply but it dose pee me off a little when you send a message and then the person asks for a pic so I send one and then nothing if I am not for you just a quick sorry you not for me will do I won't hold nothing against you that's when I think people are rude

Just saying lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never expect a reply but it dose pee me off a little when you send a message and then the person asks for a pic so I send one and then nothing if I am not for you just a quick sorry you not for me will do I won't hold nothing against you that's when I think people are rude

Just saying lol"

Now that is seriously rude and those condoning that need to have a word with themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does still amuse me that some people think they are owed something because they chose to write someone a message.

Still, it takes all sorts.

To spin that around the same applies to all the 'Read the Feckin profile' threads.

No dig at you, just a simple observation

If they read profiles in the first place they would prob get more replies.. just an observation

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It does still amuse me that some people think they are owed something because they chose to write someone a message.

Still, it takes all sorts.

To spin that around the same applies to all the 'Read the Feckin profile' threads.

No dig at you, just a simple observation

I haven't slept since 7 o'clock yesterday morning so I could be missing something but I don't understand what you mean. Further clarification please?