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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it just me or do other women / men find that if you talk to someone on here and are polite that they assume they are in with a chance.... I am not on here to suck everyone's cock to prove I am good at it, nor am I into fucking everything in trousers. How do you solve it? Ignore them? Block them? Saying "you're not my type" over and over again? I am a bit demented by it just now

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Yup - but I make it clear early on that I am not interested. If they persist (just once would do) then I block. Problem solved.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yup - but I make it clear early on that I am not interested. If they persist (just once would do) then I block. Problem solved."

Yeah, I am trying to do that myself but just not coping with it well, pushy pushy, some of them I just don't know if I would because they have like one pic that's really attractive then another that's just not so!? Thinking aloud really here xx

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Yup - but I make it clear early on that I am not interested. If they persist (just once would do) then I block. Problem solved.

Yeah, I am trying to do that myself but just not coping with it well, pushy pushy, some of them I just don't know if I would because they have like one pic that's really attractive then another that's just not so!? Thinking aloud really here xx"

What's to cope with? You don't know them, they are pushing their luck and you are clearly not that attracted to them. Block, move on and don't give it a second thought. Don't worry what they may think of you - they aren't exactly on your Christmas card list are they?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Is it just me or do other women / men find that if you talk to someone on here and are polite that they assume they are in with a chance.... I am not on here to suck everyone's cock to prove I am good at it, nor am I into fucking everything in trousers. How do you solve it? Ignore them? Block them? Saying "you're not my type" over and over again? I am a bit demented by it just now "

Sadly that is why the women on here often end up deleting without replying. Deleted first mails rarely get followed up and seem to cause less grief for us, though some guys then complain we are being rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yup - but I make it clear early on that I am not interested. If they persist (just once would do) then I block. Problem solved.

Yeah, I am trying to do that myself but just not coping with it well, pushy pushy, some of them I just don't know if I would because they have like one pic that's really attractive then another that's just not so!? Thinking aloud really here xx

What's to cope with? You don't know them, they are pushing their luck and you are clearly not that attracted to them. Block, move on and don't give it a second thought. Don't worry what they may think of you - they aren't exactly on your Christmas card list are they?"

Very true, thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People contacting you for whatever reason are doing absolutely nothing wrong and you have 2 very clear and very easily understandable choices.

Block and move on or bask in the attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it states in my profile, just cos i chat to you in my inbox doesnt mean im "up for it!".

Now all they have to do is read the bloody thing!!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Today I love you all. Well nearly all of you.

But I'm not planning on shagging anyone.

Some of you will be pleased to hear this, no doubt!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well it states in my profile, just cos i chat to you in my inbox doesnt mean im "up for it!".

Now all they have to do is read the bloody thing!! "

That's where you are falling down.

There is nothing in the site rules that says anyone HAS to read and comply with your profile.

Understanding and accepting that will lead to a much calmer Fab Swingers experience

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Not really, if I think for one minute thats what is going through their head I usually say"You are never ever getting into my knickers but..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends how one words one's profile, like attracts like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually respond in the line that I do not mind chatting however it does not necessarily lead to anything more.

The messages usually dry up soon afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea what will happen when I start chatting on here. hopefully we will connect on line, then maybe meet for a social or 2 or 3 even, then if we really connect a play meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well it states in my profile, just cos i chat to you in my inbox doesnt mean im "up for it!".

Now all they have to do is read the bloody thing!!

That's where you are falling down.

There is nothing in the site rules that says anyone HAS to read and comply with your profile.

Understanding and accepting that will lead to a much calmer Fab Swingers experience "

Obviously people can do what they like on fab but it's just daft in my opinion to blatantly ignore someone's profile if what they really do want is to get into their knickers!!? Why demand the sex? Why not just go for the Mr nice guy approach and hope for a sympathy meet in the end!? Block and move on seems to be working for me just now xx

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