FabSwingers.com forum: Friends with benefits

By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Because the film has been on the telly, there have been some interesting conversations going on about the rules (oh yes there are rules even if they are unspoken) and who really benefits the most and why.

What are your views?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us

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By *outhernchappieMan
over a year ago

brighton

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they work if its long distance. I had one a few years ago. Go down for a naughty weekend when I could get away. few naughty texts in between but nothing more.

I have a similar situ now, only he comes to me (when the kids are away) and we do the clubs together. He's on his way up now for a sneaky one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes long distance makes it a touch more special - it's not taken for granted as much as someone only a few miles away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us"

Our rule is that whatever they do before they try to meet with us determines whether we would actually meet them, we empathise with the innocent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No rules. Chat to one almost daily re normal life stuff. One might say good morning etc now and then. One only messages when he wants me. All very busy men with no other sex lives . Poor buggers only have me

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Each friendship and even the benefits are different. I become friendly with all of the people I see more than once.

A friendship with benefits (mainly dinner and theatre together) ended recently as falling in love was against the rules for both of us and that was beginning to happen.

Other people I see but a few times a year and there are the odd messages inbetween. Or a regular friend that I never communicate with between meetings.

They all work in their own peculiar way.

The film was very disappointing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No rules. Chat to one almost daily re normal life stuff. One might say good morning etc now and then. One only messages when he wants me. All very busy men with no other sex lives . Poor buggers only have me

Or so they tell you

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I think a relationship like this can be mutually beneficial but only if you play by the same rules, honesty is one of them. The rest will vary.... dependant on both parties boundaries etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mutual respect for each other's independence and privacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is when you turn up fuck someone you know and fuck off before breakfast right/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is when you turn up fuck someone you know and fuck off before breakfast right/ "

Best time to fuck before breakfast is around 10pm at night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It worked fore for a while! But then we became mates and the sex fizzled out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is when you turn up fuck someone you know and fuck off before breakfast right/

Best time to fuck before breakfast is around 10pm at night.

Too right when the news at 10 is on. And some people are really crap at doing breakfast I was once given porridge made with water!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this suits me. I don't want the whole meet the kids thing. too complicated. relationships turn me into someone I don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us

Our rule is that whatever they do before they try to meet with us determines whether we would actually meet them, we empathise with the innocent."

Slightly off topic , why do you always refer to yourself as our and we when it's a single guy profile?

On topic what do you mean by we empathise with the innocent?

Me I'm with diamond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us"

Unless one of you is trying to pull a relative or a mate of theirs.

Also its better to be discrete about it. Those are the only rules I think.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I think a relationship like this can be mutually beneficial but only if you play by the same rules, honesty is one of them. The rest will vary.... dependant on both parties boundaries etc..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us

Our rule is that whatever they do before they try to meet with us determines whether we would actually meet them, we empathise with the innocent.

Slightly off topic , why do you always refer to yourself as our and we when it's a single guy profile?

On topic what do you mean by we empathise with the innocent?

Me I'm with diamond

It's in the profile and I know you are with Diamond

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us

Unless one of you is trying to pull a relative or a mate of theirs.

Also its better to be discrete about it. Those are the only rules I think. "
I doubt it, its different for each couple I think you will find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or so they tell you

Not all single men are liars

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I don't want another relationship ever again. At the moment, I'm quite happy where I am.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Or so they tell you

Not all single men are liars

No, not ALL.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Or so they tell you

Not all single men are liars

No, not ALL."
Exactly lets not forget the single females.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

As if we could.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us

Unless one of you is trying to pull a relative or a mate of theirs.

Also its better to be discrete about it. Those are the only rules I think. I doubt it, its different for each couple I think you will find."

You have come across someone offline who went with someone and a their mate/relative too and everyone involved knew about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or so they tell you

Not all single men are liars

No, not ALL.Exactly lets not forget the single females.

what have single females got to do with single men? Am I missing something??

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us

Unless one of you is trying to pull a relative or a mate of theirs.

Also its better to be discrete about it. Those are the only rules I think. I doubt it, its different for each couple I think you will find.

You have come across someone offline who went with someone and a their mate/relative too and everyone involved knew about it?

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You stated that your examples were the only rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us

Unless one of you is trying to pull a relative or a mate of theirs.

Also its better to be discrete about it. Those are the only rules I think. I doubt it, its different for each couple I think you will find.

You have come across someone offline who went with someone and a their mate/relative too and everyone involved knew about it?

You stated that your examples were the only rules."

I meant the ones that everybody should/does follow. Any others may vary from person to person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the film has been on the telly, there have been some interesting conversations going on about the rules (oh yes there are rules even if they are unspoken) and who really benefits the most and why.

What are your views?"

I would say the one who phones the other most is benefiting most.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us

Our rule is that whatever they do before they try to meet with us determines whether we would actually meet them, we empathise with the innocent."

What do you mean you empathize with the naive and innocent

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us

Unless one of you is trying to pull a relative or a mate of theirs.

Also its better to be discrete about it. Those are the only rules I think. I doubt it, its different for each couple I think you will find.

You have come across someone offline who went with someone and a their mate/relative too and everyone involved knew about it?

You stated that your examples were the only rules.

I meant the ones that everybody should/does follow. Any others may vary from person to person."

Who put you in a position to decide the rules other people should follow when swinging?

People do play with friends and sometimes relatives - never heard of anyone having sex with two sisters? You sound a bit naive to be setting rules for other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us

Unless one of you is trying to pull a relative or a mate of theirs.

Also its better to be discrete about it. Those are the only rules I think. I doubt it, its different for each couple I think you will find.

You have come across someone offline who went with someone and a their mate/relative too and everyone involved knew about it?

You stated that your examples were the only rules.

I meant the ones that everybody should/does follow. Any others may vary from person to person.

Who put you in a position to decide the rules other people should follow when swinging?

People do play with friends and sometimes relatives - never heard of anyone having sex with two sisters? You sound a bit naive to be setting rules for other people. "
There is no need being so aggressive with the guy he is expressing an opinion and I didn't see him say anywhere he should decide the rules other people should follow.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I meant the ones that everybody should/does follow. Any others may vary from person to person."

"I didn't see him say anywhere he should decide the rules other people should follow."

Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I meant the ones that everybody should/does follow. Any others may vary from person to person.

I didn't see him say anywhere he should decide the rules other people should follow.

Really?"

That was a reply to fem clarifying and if you are going to quote get it right he wasn't making up any rules to follow he was referring to general rules that people see as relevant.

You might want to stick to the topic rather than disrupt it with aggressive comments to a guy who was expressing an opinion.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

My question was valid and entirely on topic.

Y'know though, you and the rest of the gang stalking me round the forum, getting aggressive to try and make out I am aggressive, (just like insulting Paddy before crying that he broke the rules), and sending me totally pointless private messages that will change nothing, well, it's flattering but really none of you are my type.

Now, your last post and this one are off topic so I'll be leaving it there.

My question to Crazed stands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my rule is when their at my house their with me. what either of us do before or after is of no concern to either of us

Unless one of you is trying to pull a relative or a mate of theirs.

Also its better to be discrete about it. Those are the only rules I think. I doubt it, its different for each couple I think you will find.

You have come across someone offline who went with someone and a their mate/relative too and everyone involved knew about it?

You stated that your examples were the only rules.

I meant the ones that everybody should/does follow. Any others may vary from person to person."

And you are right there are unwritten rules for meets and F/B's alike that's what no strings fun is about along with no meaning no and no ties or commitments different people interpret things differently as you say person to person.

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By *ashful BazMan
over a year ago

poole dorset

All my bloody friends are on Benefits.

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