FabSwingers.com forum: One for the team ??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After reading other post here about having sex with people your not into and still doing it. Taking One for the team. A person you don't like and still have sex ? Or meeting a person from here you don't really like these pics or there look but still meet for sex .... Do you come away feeling bad or its just about the sex and you really could not care .. Over the years I have done this and felt really bad just to keep john happy when meeting a couples I was not into now I would not do it .Is this different for men and woman ?? Can a man do this easier than a woman meet a person not into don't even like there look for sex and feel nothing after ? I have feelings maybe be a bad thing in swinging just made me feel crap and think how could I do that. ?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I wouldn't do it. I'm pretty choosy for playmates for myself so no way id ever take one for the team!! (Not that I have a team member right now! Lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hand on heart I can honestly say I've not done it. I just can't connect to someone who I don't click with or don't find attractive. Moreover I can't get aroused if I didn't fancy em so it'd be physically impossible anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hand on heart I can honestly say I've not done it. I just can't connect to someone who I don't click with or don't find attractive. Moreover I can't get aroused if I didn't fancy em so it'd be physically impossible anyway. "
Glad to here it ... xx

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By *lueAlMan
over a year ago

Snaresbrook - South Woodford

I understand you doing it to please your partner, but he should understand you have to be turned on by, or like the ones you are engaging with. This is why I fully respect a couple to meet socially and have a 5-10 mins decision time between themselves (I go to the loo or bar) to agree if both are happy to play with me. You have to enjoy it as much as he does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it FAR too often n yes on occasion I have done it via here. I wish I hadn't n I've always regretted it afterwards but I guess it's just my ongoing cycle of deprivation

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" I've done it FAR too often n yes on occasion I have done it via here. I wish I hadn't n I've always regretted it afterwards but I guess it's just my ongoing cycle of deprivation

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Thankyou for being truthful and yes maybe that comes into it your right , xxx

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By *econdhand RoseWoman
over a year ago

Nr Dumfries

I have and I would again. I have to like the person but don't have to fancy them and if I actively disliked them I wouldn't. But if my partner fancied one half of a couple I would happily either let him go on his own or go with him so that he could enjoy it. He would do the same for me.

We both agree though, that either has the final veto if one of us feels strongly enough.

Vixen xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't need to fancy a guy to fuck him or suck him... It's better if I do.. but not essential.

Women I prefer their to be something as it's not my comfort zone lol x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

First rule for us is never take one for the team we respect each other as much as we respect ourselves. If one of us says no we both do.

If giving your partner pleasure by having sex with someone you don't like or find attractive pleases you then that's fine as long as you don't feel bad about yourself but if you do ...why do it?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I can`t do it, there have been occasions when I have actually had to stop the meet and ask the person to leave as I just know it won`t work and I ma not here to feel bad about myself.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

Perhaps, so that people can avoid terrible disappointment, a sister site called Perfect Swingers should be created. Then all us below average undesirables can wallow on here with each other while the top notch folk move to a happier place so they don't have to start such derogatory threads.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps, so that people can avoid terrible disappointment, a sister site called Perfect Swingers should be created. Then all us below average undesirables can wallow on here with each other while the top notch folk move to a happier place so they don't have to start such derogatory threads....."
why as we can't all like the same people here ... Some will love your profile some will not same with me .. What I may find right for me maybe not right for you ....Its not just about looks to me I have to like the person .

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Why is it derogatory?? Especially coming from Jo she never has a bad word to say against anyone! I think it was a good question and is getting some interesting answers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think you take things said on here as personal to you, it's not there are other people on this site other than you.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

AKA a 'Charity Shag'

We both have done in the past but when we got together as a couple we agreed not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps, so that people can avoid terrible disappointment, a sister site called Perfect Swingers should be created. Then all us below average undesirables can wallow on here with each other while the top notch folk move to a happier place so they don't have to start such derogatory threads..... why as we can't all like the same people here ... Some will love your profile some will not same with me .. What I may find right for me maybe not right for you ....Its not just about looks to me I have to like the person ."

I agree with most of the comment that there has to be the "click factor" in as much that we all have to find the other desirable.

However this is a swinging site and from experience i know it is possible for one party to become too close to a swinging partner and start looking for emotional connection. For me the whole purpose of the site is to allow like minded people to have erotic fun without the emotional baggage. Otherwise I would join a dating site.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

It's not a situation I would get into. I wouldn't shag anyone the first time round, that I wasn't attracted to, let alone a second time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined finding a meet was tough going and the temptation to go with something "easy" but not necessarily my cup of chai presented itself on a number of occasions. I'm glad I stayed strong and held out for people that 1.I Fancied and 2.Connected with. Subsequently I am having a blast and would never settle for a cheap thrill that later I would regret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women complain men cant get a hard on when they meet and no way will they get a throbber knobber by taking one for the team lol.

..and i dont think someone should. But, if your part of a couple and your not fully attracted to someone..then maybe add a voyeur dimension to the meet, so as to avoid taking one for the team.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No one is implying that anyone is better than anyone else, this thread isn't aimed at people who perceive themselves to be better or worse looking it is asking people if they would have sex with someone they don't find attractive for any reason.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Women complain men cant get a hard on when they meet and no way will they get a throbber knobber by taking one for the team lol.

..and i dont think someone should. But, if your part of a couple and your not fully attracted to someone..then maybe add a voyeur dimension to the meet, so as to avoid taking one for the team.

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I have done that too the voyeur even covered my eyes .. lol

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

You consider yourself below average and undesirable then???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't do it. I'm pretty choosy for playmates for myself so no way id ever take one for the team!! (Not that I have a team member right now! Lol) "

This! And I could never and would never do it, I see zero enjoyment or pleasure about letting someone touch you that physically repulses you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We did when we first started out but never do it now. We need to feel everyone wants to and is involved.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Done it once.....Not a wonderful experience and not a life shattering experience i don't think it was a take it for the team moment... more of a vodka goggles experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Done it once.....Not a wonderful experience and not a life shattering experience i don't think it was a take it for the team moment... more of a vodka goggles experience

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yes vodka goggles can help until next day , lol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Not going to lie and say we never have. When we first started swinging and were finding our feet. Yes we did on one occasion.

We had no one to blame but ourselves for not communicating better.

Took a step back and learnt from it, changed the way we approached swinging and the way we did things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women complain men cant get a hard on when they meet and no way will they get a throbber knobber by taking one for the team lol.

..and i dont think someone should. But, if your part of a couple and your not fully attracted to someone..then maybe add a voyeur dimension to the meet, so as to avoid taking one for the team.

I have done that too the voyeur even covered my eyes .. lol"

...talk about keeping it kinky

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By *ibralassxCouple
over a year ago

Long eaton

I have done it and I've been asked on numerous occasions to be a girls first bi experience and I don't have to fancy her to give her a good time and I enjoy giving pleasure.

Agree with the part don't have to fancy them as mind can be attractive but has to be some connection for me to have full sex.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is often a big assumption that all ladies will fancy all other ladies.

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By *o1mrtlcMan
over a year ago

cannock

" After reading other post here about having sex with people your not into and still doing it. Taking One for the team. A person you don't like and still have sex ? Or meeting a person from here you don't really like these pics or there look but still meet for sex .... Do you come away feeling bad or its just about the sex and you really could not care .. Over the years I have done this and felt really bad just to keep john happy when meeting a couples I was not into now I would not do it .Is this different for men and woman ?? Can a man do this easier than a woman meet a person not into don't even like there look for sex and feel nothing after ? I have feelings maybe be a bad thing in swinging just made me feel crap and think how could I do that. ?"
I couldnt do it I just couldnt go with someone I didnt fancy you need to have sum sort of connection and if no connection then how can I get aroused I would not be in the mood

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Doesn't bother me in the slightest, tend not to get to see many faces in gay dark rooms

Lots of cocks though, saying that I wouldn't do an ugly cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it. And i most probably will do it again to be truthful. Granted, i'm no catch myself, but on a site like this, where the women outnumber the men by 50/1, we can't afford to be THAT choosy/picky in our old age!

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

I've taken one for the team

I've done a pity shag

Most people I've spoken to have admitted to having done both at least once.

I figure it's like a right of passage so dont dwell on things I did, more look forward to the things I am planning on doing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Doesn't bother me in the slightest, tend not to get to see many faces in gay dark rooms

Lots of cocks though, saying that I wouldn't do an ugly cock. "
I know we are all different like different things.. But I would find that a big turn off as I would be thinking all sorts and could never relax . And do like kinky sex its strange I know .. could not cover my eyes think of England ,lol x x

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Taking one for the team wouldn't apply to us....but if it did I am not sure I could take one for the team.

From the men we have met there isn't really a "type" I have for NSA sex, but I would still need to think them attractive with a nice attractive attachment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have taken one for the team - soft swing only and it will forever be known as the time Ruby grabbed a Grandad.

It was because the guy I was with and I hadn't discussed our limits with regards to age... That changed very quickly afterwards.

Now being single (and admittedly looking for something a little more than NSA) I wouldn't take one for the team - there is no way on this earth I will do that again as I felt dirty for doing it.

I can't have sex with someone I don't find attractive, because without being overly gross it doesn't get my juices flowing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've done it. And i most probably will do it again to be truthful. Granted, i'm no catch myself, but on a site like this, where the women outnumber the men by 50/1, we can't afford to be THAT choosy/picky in our old age! "
Really well how can you get it up if not into them ?? sorry but would be nice to know , lol

as not a man ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've done it. And i most probably will do it again to be truthful. Granted, i'm no catch myself, but on a site like this, where the women outnumber the men by 50/1, we can't afford to be THAT choosy/picky in our old age! Really well how can you get it up if not into them ?? sorry but would be nice to know , lol

as not a man .."

Sorry, what i meant was, they aren't gals i would normally go for/not my type. I didn't mean they were grottbags, which they weren't. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've done it. And i most probably will do it again to be truthful. Granted, i'm no catch myself, but on a site like this, where the women outnumber the men by 50/1, we can't afford to be THAT choosy/picky in our old age! Really well how can you get it up if not into them ?? sorry but would be nice to know , lol

as not a man ..

Sorry, what i meant was, they aren't gals i would normally go for/not my type. I didn't mean they were grottbags, which they weren't. Lol."
I am sure they was nice woman .. just if I was a man I am sure I could not get it up .. if not for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we first started swinging we both had sex with people we wouldn't normally do it with just because one of us fancied one of the other couple.

I've drawn the short straw a few more times than Kate has though.

We wouldn't do it anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we first started swinging we both had sex with people we wouldn't normally do it with just because one of us fancied one of the other couple.

I've drawn the short straw a few more times than Kate has though.

We wouldn't do it anymore

Forming a pattern here (seems like us) you do things when new that you wouldn't do now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A person you don't like and still have sex"

No chance.

I don't think "fuck it let's fuck for fucks sake anyway".

Nope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"AKA a 'Charity Shag'

To be honest if I was on the receiving end of a "Charity Shag" I'd be pissed off.

I wouldn't be thinking "Cool!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way hose hay.....

Neither of us has ever taken one for the team.. Not even when we first started swinging... I know Luke wouldn't expect me towns I certainly wouldn't expect him to either!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I wouldn't do it. I'm pretty choosy for playmates for myself so no way id ever take one for the team!! (Not that I have a team member right now! Lol) "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt very much that there is a couple on here that has not driven home at some stage with one half of the couple smiling in satisfaction whilst the other half is thinking that was OK

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I can imagine for a couple everyone has maybe done so at some point, being single I pic who and when and even say no during a social meet if I am not attracted!

Don't get me wrong, in my younger years I have gone home with someone with beer goggles on and thought in the morning 'What the f*ck were you thinking!' But with age comes wisdom...hopefully lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be attracted to a man to get turned on, that attraction doesn't have to be because he is gorgeous.

I have been attracted to men for a variety of reasons, although find that personality has to accompany looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the flashbacks in utter self disgust at yourself for ever having gone there in the first place that haunts you ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the flashbacks in utter self disgust at yourself for ever having gone there in the first place that haunts you ..."

In our formative days we foolishly ended up at a couples house after a drink in a pub. Spent about an hour plucking up courage, somehow 'got it done' drove home vowing never a fucki gain

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