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""The majority of women aren't bothered about sex"? Erm, what??" The ones I've met have been - a frigging lot! 
OP - don't sweat the ratios - there's no point trying to analyse it!
Just be yourself and enjoy! 
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""The majority of women aren't bothered about sex"? Erm, what?? The ones I've met have been - a frigging lot!
OP - don't sweat the ratios - there's no point trying to analyse it!
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"Do goats fuck lions? "Yes, depends where you go... I've heard of some strange things... Especially up in Edinburgh way.  | |||
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"Reckon females can easily get shagged anywhere.. when they come on here they want something different, like another woman or a couple to play with " The most plausible comment so far! | |||
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""The majority of women aren't bothered about sex"? Erm, what?? The ones I've met have been - a frigging lot!
OP - don't sweat the ratios - there's no point trying to analyse it!
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*god I'm in a mellow mood today! Quick someone piss me off!! "The women I've met on here are very sexual.. agreed! But that's not what I'm referring to!
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"It's an interesting comment for debate though isn't it. Most of my girl friends are single and apart from one or two, they're happy to be celibate. Not for me I hasten to add. " I swear my friends think I'm celibate and hard up! | |||
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"Do goats fuck lions?
Yes, depends where you go... I've heard of some strange things... Especially up in Edinburgh way."Yeah. The lions usually eat the goats up here! | |||
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"It's an interesting comment for debate though isn't it. Most of my girl friends are single and apart from one or two, they're happy to be celibate. Not for me I hasten to add. " Yes, I have female friends who are the same. The idea of sex to them with someone they hardly know is 'disgusting'. Many women on here though find that hard to believe as they are sexual themselves. | |||
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"Do goats fuck lions?
Yes, depends where you go... I've heard of some strange things... Especially up in Edinburgh way.
Yeah. The lions usually eat the goats up here! "Hahahaha! | |||
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"Some extrapolation... Society plays a big part. There still exists this _iew that men are the "horndogs" and women should be pure and mild mannered and not very sexual. A woman who expresses her sexuality outside of what people consider "the norm" is branded a slag, etc and all the slut shaming begins. It is PROBABLY one reason why not as many women sign up to sites like this. Just my theory. Extending the above to Fab, you see it on the verification threads. A woman with "too many" verifications is a slut/ village bicycle whereas a man with many verifications is "genuine" I apologise for going off on a tangent." Nope. Good point, very well put. | |||
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"Some extrapolation... Society plays a big part. There still exists this _iew that men are the "horndogs" and women should be pure and mild mannered and not very sexual. A woman who expresses her sexuality outside of what people consider "the norm" is branded a slag, etc and all the slut shaming begins. It is PROBABLY one reason why not as many women sign up to sites like this. Just my theory. Extending the above to Fab, you see it on the verification threads. A woman with "too many" verifications is a slut/ village bicycle whereas a man with many verifications is "genuine" I apologise for going off on a tangent." Ok, thats quite a good explanation. Could well be that. No worries man, don't apologize. | |||
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" Apparently, the ratios on this site are 50:1... 50 males to 1 female. " Did you pluck this figure at random? | |||
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"Men & women are designed very very, differently. Not just body parts, but often in ways of thinking & approaching the world. If a man has sex every day & a woman every other day, it doesn't mean the man enjoys sex more than the woman. Or indeed that he has more 'sexualility' Some men have to cum more frequently than other men. Doesn't mean one enjoys sex more than the other, just thier bodies work slightly differently. Some women cum every time they have sex, some never do unless they masturbate. Neither is necessarily enjoying themselves more or less than the other. Differences. Between the sexes & between the same genders. Differences between how society tells the different genders it 'should' be about sex. That's probably the only thing we do know xx " Yeah, interesting... I think its a mix of: Nature - men rule. Society - women aren't 'supposed' to be sexual. Makeup - women just don't seem to have it built into them as strongly. Hmmmm | |||
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"It's an interesting comment for debate though isn't it. Most of my girl friends are single and apart from one or two, they're happy to be celibate. Not for me I hasten to add. " Most of the women I've known have preferred to be celibate. Only very few are in any way sexual. Maybe it's biology maybe they had crap sex and it put them off or maybe their ex's were disrespectful. Most of the guys I've known are very sexual beings. Possibly not constantly horny, but close. (not horny for me, just what they said in general) | |||
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"It's an interesting comment for debate though isn't it. Most of my girl friends are single and apart from one or two, they're happy to be celibate. Not for me I hasten to add. Most of the women I've known have preferred to be celibate. Only very few are in any way sexual. Maybe it's biology maybe they had crap sex and it put them off or maybe their ex's were disrespectful. Most of the guys I've known are very sexual beings. Possibly not constantly horny, but close. (not horny for me, just what they said in general) " I hope some people can believe me now! Ha! Cheers hun. X | |||
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"Some extrapolation... Society plays a big part. There still exists this _iew that men are the "horndogs" and women should be pure and mild mannered and not very sexual. A woman who expresses her sexuality outside of what people consider "the norm" is branded a slag, etc and all the slut shaming begins. It is PROBABLY one reason why not as many women sign up to sites like this. Just my theory. Extending the above to Fab, you see it on the verification threads. A woman with "too many" verifications is a slut/ village bicycle whereas a man with many verifications is "genuine" I apologise for going off on a tangent." Trust you to come up with this rationale. 
My 2p worth: I guess there will be many more women who, like I had, have a distorted _iew of what a site like this entails/offers. It took me quite a while to figure out that you don't have to adopt a different personality or change your desires/wishes; just stay true to what your own values are, and be honest about your yearnings.
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""The majority of women aren't bothered about sex"? Erm, what??" This should read 'the majority of woman aren't bothered about sex with any bloke that swings his cock about or pays her a compliment' From what I've seen on here, be it via message, forum posts, profiles etc a huuuuuuuge number of men (and no i didn't say all before some disgruntled chaps start defending yourselves) have a 'any holes a goal' mentality and really don't care where they poke it!! | |||
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"Women, contrary to popular myth, are extremely sexual. It's only what some men do and say which stifles it. Just look at the way women are commonly abused online in the most appallingly misogynistic manner. To be openly sexual is to be universally vilified. No wonder the libido heads for the hills. " Hmm, I disagree really. Id a agree that this is sometimes the case. Yes, I know what you mean about abuse but the effects are specific to an abused woman, not all women. Though it is terrible. The women I know who aren't bothered about sex, they haven't been abused in any way, nor do they know anyone who has.... They just simply don't think about sex. for whatever reason. | |||
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""The majority of women aren't bothered about sex"? Erm, what?? This should read 'the majority of woman aren't bothered about sex with any bloke that swings his cock about or pays her a compliment' From what I've seen on here, be it via message, forum posts, profiles etc a huuuuuuuge number of men (and no i didn't say all before some disgruntled chaps start defending yourselves) have a 'any holes a goal' mentality and really don't care where they poke it!! "As far as this site is concerned, you're right. But on this site, women are very sexual. That's not what I'm talking about.
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""The majority of women aren't bothered about sex"? Erm, what?? This should read 'the majority of woman aren't bothered about sex with any bloke that swings his cock about or pays her a compliment' From what I've seen on here, be it via message, forum posts, profiles etc a huuuuuuuge number of men (and no i didn't say all before some disgruntled chaps start defending yourselves) have a 'any holes a goal' mentality and really don't care where they poke it!! " | |||
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"Women, contrary to popular myth, are extremely sexual. It's only what some men do and say which stifles it. Just look at the way women are commonly abused online in the most appallingly misogynistic manner. To be openly sexual is to be universally vilified. No wonder the libido heads for the hills. Hmm, I disagree really. Id a agree that this is sometimes the case. Yes, I know what you mean about abuse but the effects are specific to an abused woman, not all women. Though it is terrible. The women I know who aren't bothered about sex, they haven't been abused in any way, nor do they know anyone who has.... They just simply don't think about sex. for whatever reason." They probably do, but in my experience woman don't talk about it as much as men. | |||
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"Women, contrary to popular myth, are extremely sexual. It's only what some men do and say which stifles it. Just look at the way womens are commonly abused online in the most appallingly misogynistic manner. To be openly sexual is to be universally vilified. No wonder the libido heads for the hills. Hmm, I disagree really. Id a agree that this is sometimes the case. Yes, I know what you mean about abuse but the effects are specific to an abused woman, not all women. Though it is terrible. The women I know who aren't bothered about sex, they haven't been abused in any way, nor do they know anyone who has.... They just simply don't think about sex. for whatever reason." Firstly it would depend on what you consider abuse. Secondly one woman abused publicly can affect many. The message being that it does not pay to be openly sexual. Ive experience of this and seen also how it affects other women. They deny their own sexuality to avoid the labels and so hope to be more socially accepted. | |||
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"Men & women are designed very very, differently. Not just body parts, but often in ways of thinking & approaching the world. If a man has sex every day & a woman every other day, it doesn't mean the man enjoys sex more than the woman. Or indeed that he has more 'sexualility' Some men have to cum more frequently than other men. Doesn't mean one enjoys sex more than the other, just thier bodies work slightly differently. Some women cum every time they have sex, some never do unless they masturbate. Neither is necessarily enjoying themselves more or less than the other. Differences. Between the sexes & between the same genders. Differences between how society tells the different genders it 'should' be about sex. That's probably the only thing we do know xx Yeah, interesting... I think its a mix of: Nature - men rule. Society - women aren't 'supposed' to be sexual. Makeup - women just don't seem to have it built into them as strongly. Hmmmm" I'd disagree with that summary when you consider women used to be sectioned under the mental health act for being sexually promiscuous and are having acid thrown at them for being sexually active i wouldn't say 'by nature they are less interested or that they dont have it built into them as strongly' and say the opposite, that even after centuries of sexual oppression women are fighting for equality sexually most women i know that supposedly aren't that bothered about sex, are only because they've been taught that sex is for men & have learnt to get pleasure from other sources you only have to look at the success of the shite 50 shades books to know that there is a whole tsunami of suppressed female sexuality out there | |||
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" you only have to look at the success of the shite 50 shades books to know that there is a whole tsunami of suppressed female sexuality out there " In addition to everything else you stated, it is the effects of the ever prevalent patriarchy. Also (probably unpopular opinion coming up), there needs to be more "sex positive" feminism to help overturn the overwhelming attitudes towards sexually free women.....from both men and women. | |||
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" you only have to look at the success of the shite 50 shades books to know that there is a whole tsunami of suppressed female sexuality out there In addition to everything else you stated, it is the effects of the ever prevalent patriarchy. Also (probably unpopular opinion coming up), there needs to be more "sex positive" feminism to help overturn the overwhelming attitudes towards sexually free women.....from both men and women." | |||
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"Men & women are designed very very, differently. Not just body parts, but often in ways of thinking & approaching the world. If a man has sex every day & a woman every other day, it doesn't mean the man enjoys sex more than the woman. Or indeed that he has more 'sexualility' Some men have to cum more frequently than other men. Doesn't mean one enjoys sex more than the other, just thier bodies work slightly differently. Some women cum every time they have sex, some never do unless they masturbate. Neither is necessarily enjoying themselves more or less than the other. Differences. Between the sexes & between the same genders. Differences between how society tells the different genders it 'should' be about sex. That's probably the only thing we do know xx Yeah, interesting... I think its a mix of: Nature - men rule. Society - women aren't 'supposed' to be sexual. Makeup - women just don't seem to have it built into them as strongly. Hmmmm I'd disagree with that summary when you consider women used to be sectioned under the mental health act for being sexually promiscuous and are having acid thrown at them for being sexually active i wouldn't say 'by nature they are less interested or that they dont have it built into them as strongly' and say the opposite, that even after centuries of sexual oppression women are fighting for equality sexually most women i know that supposedly aren't that bothered about sex, are only because they've been taught that sex is for men & have learnt to get pleasure from other sources you only have to look at the success of the shite 50 shades books to know that there is a whole tsunami of suppressed female sexuality out there " Just picturing a tsunami of suppresed female sexuality...someone pass a towel please! | |||
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"Let me just start by saying that I think this is a very interesting question OP and one that I have often wondered about. I don't have an answer for you but think there are a variety of factors relating to human sexuality which are at play here and which make the fab gender ratios (whatever they may be in actuality) so skewed. To begin with I do think that male and female sexuality is different. Although you cannot generalise I'd say that female sexuality (or sex drive)follows a steep normal distribution curve where you find that 80% of the female population sits in the average portion of the curve and we'd call them "normal". The remaining 20 % would be the extreme outliers, where 10% have a very low sex drive and the other 10% have a very high sex drive. I think that the women on Fab come from the top 10% of the population and are therefore not representative of the population as a whole. Now the difference with men comes from the fact that their sex drive curve is shifted to the right. So this means that although there is also a normal distribution, the bulk 80% have on average a higher sex drive than the women, and you still get the top outliers which are very very high and meet their match on the female top 10% (if they can find them). As to the reasons... obviously there is biology, females only need one reliable, healthy provider to ensure genetic continuation through offspring so evolution has selected for females to be fussy and picky about their mates. There is society (including religion) which dictates female sexual behaviour, but then there are also other external factors such as drugs. For example, hormonal contraceptives are documented to have a severely dampening effect on the female libido as do anti depressants (which many women take). I am sure there are other factors... Looking forward to reading what other forumites think." Excellent. In a nutshell though I'd blame hormones. During child rearing days the biological emphasis is on nurturing offspring. Post this and you get women craving sex for sex sake. However environment also plays a part (nature nurture debate). Obviously doesn't work for all women but it does for many. | |||
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"Another thread just got me thinking... Why is the ratio of m to f so different? Apparently, the ratios on this site are 50:1... 50 males to 1 female. Maybe admin can verify that for me? In this country, according to my research, slightly more than half of our population are female. If the sexuality/mentality of both genders was equal, there would actually be more women on here than men. Slightly... The sexuality of women mustn't as a whole be as strong as the sexuality of men and the women on here are probably the most sexual in the country. Why are the majority of women not too bothered about sex? I've seen it myself too. I know women who can go a month without and its no big deal to them. One woman I know isn't interested at all. She said she's only interested if she gets a baby other than that, she doesn't see the point. Maybe due to their makeup, they get too stressed? Maybe just too shy? Embarrassed? I don't know... But this obviously is an issue. I know I said the ratio was 50:1 too but I reckon half of the women on here are unverified, not even wanting sex. Just want the attention. Would make it 100:1 that actually want sex! To be fair, I know us guys get funny with the women on here from time to time, but these women are sexual! They are a minority! Rare! Anyway, was just something I was thinking about. What actually is going on here? Ha! Why isn't the ratio 1:1? Nature seems to follow a trait where the males have to compete in some way to get the female... Ie, goats, lions, etc... The females are never really looking, they're just available for the winning guy. Strange thought... Xx" I asked admin directly re ratios. No response. When I did research of gender ratio per population I'm sure I found the opposite to you. | |||
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" Just picturing a tsunami of suppresed female sexuality...someone pass a towel please! "I don't know if you could handle it | |||
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" Just picturing a tsunami of suppresed female sexuality...someone pass a towel please!
I don't know if you could handle it "Probably not. Just got swept away with the image! | |||
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" I asked admin directly re ratios. No response. " Doubt they'd ever publicly release such information, purely for business reasons. | |||
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" I asked admin directly re ratios. No response. Doubt they'd ever publicly release such information, purely for business reasons." A friend asked admin last year and it was 50:1. It's worth double checking though. That may have been for a county or something. | |||
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" I asked admin directly re ratios. No response. Doubt they'd ever publicly release such information, purely for business reasons. A friend asked admin last year and it was 50:1. It's worth double checking though. That may have been for a county or something." Before present owners? | |||
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"personally I think women don't have as much spare time to be looking for meets on here as men, as most men on here are playing away can we assume that if the ratio was 1 to 1 most women on here would be playing away too? if so what with working, looking after the house and kids I would imagine it would be a lot harder for a woman to find time to sneak away for a meet than men, a lot of men I meet are in hotels working away on business, not many women with kids work away for days at a time, I personally think that's the reason there arnt as many women on here " I mean no offence, but i think this is a bit of a blinkered _iew of what the OP was asking. | |||
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"It's not 50:1 your stats stink of a skunks dirty pants. I just asked the all knowing site search function. It produced the following results: Single men 300+5000 Single women 300+2 That means it must be exactly the same "lol | |||
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"personally I think women don't have as much spare time to be looking for meets on here as men, as most men on here are playing away can we assume that if the ratio was 1 to 1 most women on here would be playing away too? if so what with working, looking after the house and kids I would imagine it would be a lot harder for a woman to find time to sneak away for a meet than men, a lot of men I meet are in hotels working away on business, not many women with kids work away for days at a time, I personally think that's the reason there arnt as many women on here " | |||
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"personally I think women don't have as much spare time to be looking for meets on here as men, as most men on here are playing away can we assume that if the ratio was 1 to 1 most women on here would be playing away too? if so what with working, looking after the house and kids I would imagine it would be a lot harder for a woman to find time to sneak away for a meet than men, a lot of men I meet are in hotels working away on business, not many women with kids work away for days at a time, I personally think that's the reason there arnt as many women on here I mean no offence, but i think this is a bit of a blinkered _iew of what the OP was asking." no offence taken but if my _iew is blinkered then so be it but that's my opinion to the question asked, of course not everyone will agree infact on here no one will agree you just get used to that | |||
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"It's not 50:1 your stats stink of a skunks dirty pants. I just asked the all knowing site search function. It produced the following results: Single men 300+5000 Single women 300+2 That means it must be exactly the same
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" no offence taken but if my _iew is blinkered then so be it but that's my opinion to the question asked, of course not everyone will agree infact on here no one will agree you just get used to that "Of course, i can totally appreciate that | |||
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" But my best chums are men, and even a lot of them would judge me for coming on a site like this." Yup, society at work there. No offence to your chums. "People who 'can do' nsa on an ongoing basis must be a small percentage of the population anyway I think." I also agree with this line of thinking. A whole lot more recently. | |||
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" I asked admin directly re ratios. No response. Doubt they'd ever publicly release such information, purely for business reasons. A friend asked admin last year and it was 50:1. It's worth double checking though. That may have been for a county or something." If it was, I reckon it is probably way off the mark now. Just doing a basic search by area on women only looking for couples, returns circa 3500 results (bearing in mind it maxes out at 300 by area) 50:1 would mean a single male membership of 175,000. Mind you, I don't think much site housekeeping takes place. | |||
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"Some extrapolation... Society plays a big part. There still exists this _iew that men are the "horndogs" and women should be pure and mild mannered and not very sexual. A woman who expresses her sexuality outside of what people consider "the norm" is branded a slag, etc and all the slut shaming begins. It is PROBABLY one reason why not as many women sign up to sites like this. Just my theory. Extending the above to Fab, you see it on the verification threads. A woman with "too many" verifications is a slut/ village bicycle whereas a man with many verifications is "genuine" I apologise for going off on a tangent." I personally think this is the main reason to be honest. I work in a predominantly male environment and often have to smile to myself at the way the guys will openly discuss their conquests but happily slut shame any woman who even thinks the same way let alone acts it. I'm pretty sure things are said about me when I'm not there...not that I give a shit or they know just how much of a slut I am...but I have been told by them that I think like a man! Odd thing is I think it's because I grew up with male friends and work with guys that I am more sexually open minded. Even when I've been at Ann Summers parties with women, the way some of them talk about sex like it's something dirty or it's some kind of chore amazes me. I can never get my head around it, and to be honest it's why I keep this side of my life so private. I'd love to be able to discuss it with my friends, but one of them basically called me a slag for having sex on a first date (phrased much more nicely) so I could never expect them to understand this part of me 
Think the whole 50 Shades crap might have had a positive effect in some ways though. As bad as the books are, I do think they have allowed some women to talk a bit more about sex in general..baby steps but it's a step in the right direction. Maybe some trashy books about casual sex will help even more! | |||
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"personally I think women don't have as much spare time to be looking for meets on here as men, as most men on here are playing away can we assume that if the ratio was 1 to 1 most women on here would be playing away too? if so what with working, looking after the house and kids I would imagine it would be a lot harder for a woman to find time to sneak away for a meet than men, a lot of men I meet are in hotels working away on business, not many women with kids work away for days at a time, I personally think that's the reason there arnt as many women on here I mean no offence, but i think this is a bit of a blinkered _iew of what the OP was asking." Cheers, my thoughts exactly. | |||
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"I think the biggest reason is that most women prefer sex within a relationship, and a lot of women will *only* accept sex within a relationship - so they just would not come here. I have a feeling the statistic is reversed in men. And a lot of those ladies I know have just given up because the "pleasure vs emotional fallout" ratio was just not favourable enough, it was just all too much hassle for a bit of second rate nookie! But my best chums are men, and even a lot of them would judge me for coming on a site like this. People who 'can do' nsa on an ongoing basis must be a small percentage of the population anyway I think." I for one want the strings attached. I spend more time on here than conventional dating sites due to the "cheaters" being more honest. Also the NSA seekers are more honest also. On conventional dating sites they are more likely to lie to get into a girl's knickers than on here where many have that expected entitlement to getting sex, after-all it's a sex site huh?  | |||
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"Some extrapolation... Society plays a big part. There still exists this _iew that men are the "horndogs" and women should be pure and mild mannered and not very sexual. A woman who expresses her sexuality outside of what people consider "the norm" is branded a slag, etc and all the slut shaming begins. It is PROBABLY one reason why not as many women sign up to sites like this. Just my theory. Extending the above to Fab, you see it on the verification threads. A woman with "too many" verifications is a slut/ village bicycle whereas a man with many verifications is "genuine" I apologise for going off on a tangent. I personally think this is the main reason to be honest. I work in a predominantly male environment and often have to smile to myself at the way the guys will openly discuss their conquests but happily slut shame any woman who even thinks the same way let alone acts it. I'm pretty sure things are said about me when I'm not there...not that I give a shit or they know just how much of a slut I am...but I have been told by them that I think like a man! Odd thing is I think it's because I grew up with male friends and work with guys that I am more sexually open minded. Even when I've been at Ann Summers parties with women, the way some of them talk about sex like it's something dirty or it's some kind of chore amazes me. I can never get my head around it, and to be honest it's why I keep this side of my life so private. I'd love to be able to discuss it with my friends, but one of them basically called me a slag for having sex on a first date (phrased much more nicely) so I could never expect them to understand this part of me
Think the whole 50 Shades crap might have had a positive effect in some ways though. As bad as the books are, I do think they have allowed some women to talk a bit more about sex in general..baby steps but it's a step in the right direction. Maybe some trashy books about casual sex will help even more!"That's a good point. That actually reminds me. A friend of mine, a woman who is very sexual also thinks like a man. Another good point. | |||
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"I wonder if the ratio of female to male is different on a dating site... I wonder that is all" It most probably is. I have no scientific evidence of this though. | |||
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"I think the biggest reason is that most women prefer sex within a relationship, and a lot of women will *only* accept sex within a relationship - so they just would not come here. I have a feeling the statistic is reversed in men. And a lot of those ladies I know have just given up because the "pleasure vs emotional fallout" ratio was just not favourable enough, it was just all too much hassle for a bit of second rate nookie! But my best chums are men, and even a lot of them would judge me for coming on a site like this. People who 'can do' nsa on an ongoing basis must be a small percentage of the population anyway I think." Generally I know fewer women that can separate sex from love...hence a lot of them getting hurt by guys because they've misunderstood what was on offer. You can have sex without love, and love without sex, but some just can't see the difference and assume both always go hand in hand. And as for the emotional fall out, I do think that sometimes comes from the guilt society imposes on promiscuous women | |||
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"I wonder if the ratio of female to male is different on a dating site... I wonder that is all It most probably is. I have no scientific evidence of this though." Very unlikely actually (again no proof), but the fact many are using the dating sites for "intimate encounters" suggests the ration is similar. Even though POF has "stopped" this side of their free dating site, it will simply move underground, so to speak (ie the men will be doubly deceitful). My profile out there is more sedate but I still get propositioned. | |||
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" Generally I know fewer women that can separate sex from love...hence a lot of them getting hurt by guys because they've misunderstood what was on offer. You can have sex without love, and love without sex, but some just can't see the difference and assume both always go hand in hand. And as for the emotional fall out, I do think that sometimes comes from the guilt society imposes on promiscuous women" I wasn't talking about that, just of the hassle of trying to have a half decent relationship, especially in the 'second time around' age group, it's slim pickins out there!! Several women I know settled for really second rate deals to get the sex - no away I'm going there!! And I've also had an opposite experience on here - I'm advertising for nsa, and I'm getting guys pretending to offer relationships, even pretending to love me! WTF's that all about? Strategy for the masses I guess, but I came here trying to AVOID the deception of dating sites! | |||
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" And I've also had an opposite experience on here - I'm advertising for nsa, and I'm getting guys pretending to offer relationships, even pretending to love me! WTF's that all about? Strategy for the masses I guess, but I came here trying to AVOID the deception of dating sites!" Societal influence again. Many guys grow up being told...no bombarded with the notion that all women want is a long lasting relationship, stable relationship with every guy they date/ have sex with. To go even further, some get told that women will use sex as a way to trap unsuspecting men into such. It is a very damaging, male driven way of thinking, but it permeates deep into the general psyche. Hence the term "Women need a reason to have sex, men only need a place" | |||
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"In all seriousness also I think that there is probably a higher percentage of single mums on here as well who probably (like me) struggle for free time so although we love a good seeing to the options to get that are hugely limited due to having youngsters at home/lack of baby sitting options etc. so it's not that we don't want it! It's just we can't get it as often as we'd like! "Id have it every day if I could!!! I don't tho because I already feel slightly morally guilty meeting when I do. Its also y I don't meet when the kids are at school - only when they are completely out the picture staying at thier dads. | |||
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"Women, contrary to popular myth, are extremely sexual. It's only what some men do and say which stifles it. Just look at the way women are commonly abused online in the most appallingly misogynistic manner. To be openly sexual is to be universally vilified. No wonder the libido heads for the hills. " Very well summed up | |||
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"Barring some sort of Mad Max-esque post civilised wasteland or zombie apocalypse I really don't see many ways that the modern male will ever be able to acquire sex as easily as a woman - of course, when being chased by rotting cannibals or in danger of becoming some mohawked thugs hood ornament, getting your end away is probably an afterthought." Rotting cannibals?? | |||
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"In all seriousness also I think that there is probably a higher percentage of single mums on here as well who probably (like me) struggle for free time so although we love a good seeing to the options to get that are hugely limited due to having youngsters at home/lack of baby sitting options etc. so it's not that we don't want it! It's just we can't get it as often as we'd like!
Id have it every day if I could!!!
I don't tho because I already feel slightly morally guilty meeting when I do. Its also y I don't meet when the kids are at school - only when they are completely out the picture staying at thier dads."That about sums it up for me. The thought of feeling 'morally guilty' which so many women experience in this still rampantly patriarchal society. Luckily I cleansed myself of those feelings 2 decades ago. | |||
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"That about sums it up for me. The thought of feeling 'morally guilty' which so many women experience in this still rampantly patriarchal society. Luckily I cleansed myself of those feelings 2 decades ago. " Good for you.
Two years for me - but it's better late than never, I guess. | |||
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"That about sums it up for me. The thought of feeling 'morally guilty' which so many women experience in this still rampantly patriarchal society. Luckily I cleansed myself of those feelings 2 decades ago. Good for you.
Two years for me - but it's better late than never, I guess."Absolutely. Some women never do. | |||
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"Women, contrary to popular myth, are extremely sexual. It's only what some men do and say which stifles it. Just look at the way women are commonly abused online in the most appallingly misogynistic manner. To be openly sexual is to be universally vilified. No wonder the libido heads for the hills. " Unfortunately women are as guilty of being judgemental,to the detriment of other women,and just as likely to vilify other women, who are openly sexual,and promiscuous. They are also as likely,as the male chauvinist,in promoting the stud,slut,mind set. This is wrong,no matter the gender,and though things are getting better,sexual equality, and acceptance,are still a long way off. | |||
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"Women, contrary to popular myth, are extremely sexual. It's only what some men do and say which stifles it. Just look at the way women are commonly abused online in the most appallingly misogynistic manner. To be openly sexual is to be universally vilified. No wonder the libido heads for the hills. Unfortunately women are as guilty of being judgemental,to the detriment of other women,and just as likely to vilify other women, who are openly sexual,and promiscuous. They are also as likely,as the male chauvinist,in promoting the stud,slut,mind set. This is wrong,no matter the gender,and though things are getting better,sexual equality, and acceptance,are still a long way off. " I agree many women do buy in to the misogyny which is truly depressing. Perhaps they look for acceptance within patriarchy. | |||
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Saw a stat earlier re. Facebook ratio in the UK - it's slightly more women than men ie. representative of the population.
I think the more interesting stat on here would be if you stripped away the daydreamers and the cam wankers - ie. what's the ratio of men and women and couples that actually play? I suspect it's a fair bit more level. | |||
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" I think the more interesting stat on here would be if you stripped away the daydreamers and the cam wankers - ie. what's the ratio of men and women and couples that actually play? I suspect it's a fair bit more level." 5:1 male to female (active) ratio i'd guess at that rate. | |||
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" I think the more interesting stat on here would be if you stripped away the daydreamers and the cam wankers - ie. what's the ratio of men and women and couples that actually play? I suspect it's a fair bit more level. 5:1 male to female (active) ratio i'd guess at that rate." That's about what I'd think too. | |||
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"seems pretty simple any woman can go outside and find a man, so they would come a site like this for something different. " See I don't think I've met many women that feel that way. Men assume it's so on the basis that they'd shag anything. | |||
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"I imagine this has all be enlightening for the OP, despite a few derail attempts. Has this gone some way to answering your original query?" Yes matey!!! Haha! Been very useful! | |||
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" I think the more interesting stat on here would be if you stripped away the daydreamers and the cam wankers - ie. what's the ratio of men and women and couples that actually play? I suspect it's a fair bit more level. 5:1 male to female (active) ratio i'd guess at that rate." The follow on from that would be how many of those women, or men for that matter truly play NSA? We have played for many years now and my OH definitely prefers the intimacy of meets with regular friends where as I prefer the thrill of the unknown on the club scene. If women and guys think they sometimes have it tough believe me when I say many 'honest' couples also find the pathway a little difficult at times | |||
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"Tee ratio is not that bad if you check things out there is only 139 makes to every 14 females and 15 couples who want to meet single guys in a small sample locally. So thats 10 to 1 or 5 to 1 depending on ho you look at it. But thats only a sample its active profiles that count as dormant ones don't meet. " Or the dormant ones have their stables and meet with only those people, returning to replenish the stock as and when they need to? | |||
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"Lots of interesting things in this thread. Women I know in sexless marriages hang on longer to being faithful to their marriages than the men I know. I also know men who are sexually frustrated in their relationships and come onto sites like this just to perve. They never meet. Women with young children might not have the time or energy to consider sites like this. Older women may not have the confidence if they have the inclination. I denied myself sex for a long time to try and control my libido. It didn't mean I didn't want sex but I couldn't handle NSA at the time. Plus I didn't even know sites like this existed. In fact I thought only my gay friends did things like this. Finally, we can make the ratios work better just by assigning five men to every meet with a woman on here. " Assign me 5 good ones please. | |||
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" Finally, we can make the ratios work better just by assigning five men to every meet with a woman on here. "Do you mean we should all be having MMMMMF? Bring it on!!! | |||
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"Finally, we can make the ratios work better just by assigning five men to every meet with a woman on here. "I approve of this | |||
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" Finally, we can make the ratios work better just by assigning five men to every meet with a woman on here.
Do you mean we should all be having MMMMMF?
Bring it on!!!"Can I be one of your five.. will you need to inter_iew us first | |||
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"Ladies! I'm not sure if you're aware, but this is already the case! You physically CAN get mmmmmf! Just message five random men. Lol. Fffffm is practically impossible. X" It's not true. I can't even manage to get MMF. I'm not getting my fair share. I do have a plan in the making though... | |||
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"In all my chats with women on more dating and sex orientated sites . There main gripe with guys is the lies about the true motives towards them .....these sites were aim at a friend with benifits out look. In my chats I discovered most women don't like to be used for just sex they like even if its a illusion the feeling of actually being liked past a place to stick ones cock. Now because of this I feel a lot of women give up or don't try as the cold nature of just using someone for sex the same way you would use your right hand or a toy doesn't leave them feeling good about themselfs . Don't shoot me for saying this as its a fact that not all people are happy with cold hard sex for sexes sake exspecialy a lot of women . I'm sure that's why you have more men than women online looking for sex . Just look at prostitution some men will happily pick up a women just for sex ....but prostitution aimed at women for women is different the women want the gigolo experience a guy who you can talk to have a meal its about more than cold hard sex . Lots of women want warmth friendship attraction in there sex life where as a lot of guys just want the sex . " | |||
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"In all my chats with women on more dating and sex orientated sites . There main gripe with guys is the lies about the true motives towards them .....these sites were aim at a friend with benifits out look. In my chats I discovered most women don't like to be used for just sex they like even if its a illusion the feeling of actually being liked past a place to stick ones cock. Now because of this I feel a lot of women give up or don't try as the cold nature of just using someone for sex the same way you would use your right hand or a toy doesn't leave them feeling good about themselfs . Don't shoot me for saying this as its a fact that not all people are happy with cold hard sex for sexes sake exspecialy a lot of women . I'm sure that's why you have more men than women online looking for sex . Just look at prostitution some men will happily pick up a women just for sex ....but prostitution aimed at women for women is different the women want the gigolo experience a guy who you can talk to have a meal its about more than cold hard sex . Lots of women want warmth friendship attraction in there sex life where as a lot of guys just want the sex . "Actually this has pissed off my wife more than once. On here she does just want cold hard sex - not clingy, needy follow up messages begging for more meets or muppets thinking she can be wooed into a meet. We're swingers not looking for a date. | |||
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"Actually this has pissed off my wife more than once. On here she does just want cold hard sex - not clingy, needy follow up messages begging for more meets or muppets thinking she can be wooed into a meet. We're swingers not looking for a date." Isn't there such a thing as the Golden Mean? | |||
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"Actually this has pissed off my wife more than once. On here she does just want cold hard sex - not clingy, needy follow up messages begging for more meets or muppets thinking she can be wooed into a meet. We're swingers not looking for a date. Isn't there such a thing as the Golden Mean? " Only if it's on her terms | |||
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"Another thread just got me thinking... Why is the ratio of m to f so different? Apparently, the ratios on this site are 50:1... 50 males to 1 female. Maybe admin can verify that for me? In this country, according to my research, slightly more than half of our population are female. If the sexuality/mentality of both genders was equal, there would actually be more women on here than men. Slightly... The sexuality of women mustn't as a whole be as strong as the sexuality of men and the women on here are probably the most sexual in the country. Why are the majority of women not too bothered about sex? I've seen it myself too. I know women who can go a month without and its no big deal to them. One woman I know isn't interested at all. She said she's only interested if she gets a baby other than that, she doesn't see the point. Maybe due to their makeup, they get too stressed? Maybe just too shy? Embarrassed? I don't know... But this obviously is an issue. I know I said the ratio was 50:1 too but I reckon half of the women on here are unverified, not even wanting sex. Just want the attention. Would make it 100:1 that actually want sex! To be fair, I know us guys get funny with the women on here from time to time, but these women are sexual! They are a minority! Rare! Anyway, was just something I was thinking about. What actually is going on here? Ha! Why isn't the ratio 1:1? Nature seems to follow a trait where the males have to compete in some way to get the female... Ie, goats, lions, etc... The females are never really looking, they're just available for the winning guy. Strange thought... Xx" Ermm maybe not every woman in the country swings, plus overall women are pickier than men when it comes to sex, I'd rather go without for months and wait for quality than have sex regular that I find dull and unexciting | |||
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"Actually this has pissed off my wife more than once. On here she does just want cold hard sex - not clingy, needy follow up messages begging for more meets or muppets thinking she can be wooed into a meet. We're swingers not looking for a date." Good on you both and props for not compromising yourselves on that front at least. | |||
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" However, a large proportion of the males on the site are either "chancers" "dreamers" or "a bunch of guys bored in their lunch hour who create a fake profile just to wind other people up"." I wouldn't say that's been my experience, they nearly always want to meet, but there are a lot of lazy sex tourists who think they're going to get mobbed (and quickly get very disillusioned no doubt). I'm really not impressed by a message that begins 'I'm in a hotel near you tonight....' Chancers, yes. No way women would do that. | |||
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"In all my chats with women on more dating and sex orientated sites . There main gripe with guys is the lies about the true motives towards them .....these sites were aim at a friend with benifits out look. In my chats I discovered most women don't like to be used for just sex they like even if its a illusion the feeling of actually being liked past a place to stick ones cock. Now because of this I feel a lot of women give up or don't try as the cold nature of just using someone for sex the same way you would use your right hand or a toy doesn't leave them feeling good about themselfs . Don't shoot me for saying this as its a fact that not all people are happy with cold hard sex for sexes sake exspecialy a lot of women . I'm sure that's why you have more men than women online looking for sex . Just look at prostitution some men will happily pick up a women just for sex ....but prostitution aimed at women for women is different the women want the gigolo experience a guy who you can talk to have a meal its about more than cold hard sex . Lots of women want warmth friendship attraction in there sex life where as a lot of guys just want the sex .
Actually this has pissed off my wife more than once. On here she does just want cold hard sex - not clingy, needy follow up messages begging for more meets or muppets thinking she can be wooed into a meet. We're swingers not looking for a date."That's because i'd guess she has you to supply her with warmth love the feelings of being wanted liked . This post was about why do not a lot of single women use these sites I had a fwb a good few years ago she would try any think in a relationship but when she was single she would just look for a guy she could play as a partner with she would never play single . When I asked her about it she said more or less what my earlier post said . | |||
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"Some extrapolation... Society plays a big part. There still exists this _iew that men are the "horndogs" and women should be pure and mild mannered and not very sexual. A woman who expresses her sexuality outside of what people consider "the norm" is branded a slag, etc and all the slut shaming begins. It is PROBABLY one reason why not as many women sign up to sites like this. Just my theory. Extending the above to Fab, you see it on the verification threads. A woman with "too many" verifications is a slut/ village bicycle whereas a man with many verifications is "genuine" I apologise for going off on a tangent." I would be the Rayleigh Chopper of bikes then. I love sex and a male body to play with | |||
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