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why do men pretend to be a cple ggrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So im new to all this

Anyway long story short got chatting to a cple exchanged numbers but now conviently the female cant chat as ill!!!!

Why do pple do that ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they think it's a better way to get meets as opposed to being a single male it's annoying as hell but once you settle in and get used to things you will be able to quickly and easily tell the difference between these type of "couples" and actual couples

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Because they can. Nothing more than that really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah i guess

The whole wanting pics soon as they say hi big give away lol

Muppets though how do they think they would get away with it in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to speak to verified in person only couples and look at the verifications to see mentions of both of them.

Also first thing to insist on is the a fem to fem convo on the phone, before exchanging numbers and if there are a million excuses as to why they can't then block and move on.

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

I agree it is annoying when this happens, but believe me it isn't exclusive to men. There have been plenty of similar threads stating that "single" women will only meet with their (partner, hubby, FB, FWB, insert as applicable) on the Fab forums too.

The simple answer is if you come across a profile that states they are a couple but in effect is just a single person, or a single person whom only meets as a couple, then report to admin and leave it to them to either change the persons status or to sort it out as appropriate.

Best of luck as your a newbie with your Fab adventure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not to jump to anyones defence, cuz i dont know who messed you around, but we have the same problem.

i (mr) am usually the one on here, answering messages and so on, because she hasnt the facility to be on here very often (doesnt like logging on here on a computer the swith her kids).

she lives in a different country, so an instant phonecall isnt possible

we get to se each other every 2 weeks, so camming straight away ist always possible

so its not a case of we always pretend to be a couple, because there are plenty that are actual couples, its just not always possible to be at peoples beckoned call with immediate effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe me, it happens to us guys too for some strange reason. Can never get my head round why though but each to their own I suppose

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats what was so annoying i insisted on a chat fem to fem they agreed then the whole oh shes ill or shopping or busy started once numbers were exchanged.

But good to know im not the only one experiencing it

Time tells i guess thanks ppl xx

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By *ORNY_DEVIL_SEEKERSCouple
over a year ago

Basildon Essex

We get this a lot and there's even some couples who have been verified that are not real,they won't exchange numbers the other excuses are my hubby likes to meet the couple first then gos bk to tell he's wife if we suit them both and just last night we had a couple where the gf was ment be a sleep but the guy wanted Skype with us so he could tell her about it in the morning look for good feedback and more than one pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh aint it daft.

Blimey i wish i had enough time to pretend to be fwo ppl its hard enough being one lol

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I find being one person is tough enough!

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By *amie0151Man
over a year ago

Wallasey


"So im new to all this

Anyway long story short got chatting to a cple exchanged numbers but now conviently the female cant chat as ill!!!!

Why do pple do that ffs "

Some men on here don't just pretend to be couples they also pretend to be single females too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get this a lot and there's even some couples who have been verified that are not real,they won't exchange numbers the other excuses are my hubby likes to meet the couple first then gos bk to tell he's wife if we suit them both and just last night we had a couple where the gf was ment be a sleep but the guy wanted Skype with us so he could tell her about it in the morning look for good feedback and more than one pic "

We don't exchange numbers ever so I'm not sure how or why that makes us fake? Oh and we never cam either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not to jump to anyones defence, cuz i dont know who messed you around, but we have the same problem.

i (mr) am usually the one on here, answering messages and so on, because she hasnt the facility to be on here very often (doesnt like logging on here on a computer the swith her kids).

she lives in a different country, so an instant phonecall isnt possible

we get to se each other every 2 weeks, so camming straight away ist always possible

so its not a case of we always pretend to be a couple, because there are plenty that are actual couples, its just not always possible to be at peoples beckoned call with immediate effect."

We met a couple last night that have had a similar set up for the few months they've been on the site. They were honest from the start that they would be living apart until October and because they were upfront we weren't suspicious at all. Had he not told us at the start I think we would have got suspicious.

It also helped that in the 3 months we've been chatting he never once suggested meeting alone or did anything to suggest he was looking for wank fodder!

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By *ORNY_DEVIL_SEEKERSCouple
over a year ago

Basildon Essex


"We get this a lot and there's even some couples who have been verified that are not real,they won't exchange numbers the other excuses are my hubby likes to meet the couple first then gos bk to tell he's wife if we suit them both and just last night we had a couple where the gf was ment be a sleep but the guy wanted Skype with us so he could tell her about it in the morning look for good feedback and more than one pic

We don't exchange numbers ever so I'm not sure how or why that makes us fake? Oh and we never cam either

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like we said good feedback and more than one pic helps if u are not going to swap numbers but we don't meet anyone or less the females from each couple spoke on the phone but everyone is different but is easier on a phone as anyone can be behind a screen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not to jump to anyones defence, cuz i dont know who messed you around, but we have the same problem.

i (mr) am usually the one on here, answering messages and so on, because she hasnt the facility to be on here very often (doesnt like logging on here on a computer the swith her kids).

she lives in a different country, so an instant phonecall isnt possible

we get to se each other every 2 weeks, so camming straight away ist always possible

so its not a case of we always pretend to be a couple, because there are plenty that are actual couples, its just not always possible to be at peoples beckoned call with immediate effect.

We met a couple last night that have had a similar set up for the few months they've been on the site. They were honest from the start that they would be living apart until October and because they were upfront we weren't suspicious at all. Had he not told us at the start I think we would have got suspicious.

It also helped that in the 3 months we've been chatting he never once suggested meeting alone or did anything to suggest he was looking for wank fodder! "

must say, as soon as anyone asks about meeting or anything i immediately tell people its not going to be possible until we are together.

most walk away, and tbh im fine with that as my relationship with V is much more important than anything we would get from off here.

its just very anoying that everyone that isnt the 'conventional couples' on here gets lambasted and dismissed as time wasting fakes.

we have been in this situation for 3 years, and believe me, having to wait a week until you can have a couple on a cam or a fem to fem phone call, is small beans compared to only seeing the person you love for 3 days every 2 weeks!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow its got heavy in here lol

I was referring to a couple whos profile stated a couple and i spoke to from the day i joined then i swapped numbers he said she was ill and unable to meet or talk but he could hence why be fake?

He would surely be better off just saying his alone player just why pretend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So im new to all this

Anyway long story short got chatting to a cple exchanged numbers but now conviently the female cant chat as ill!!!!

Why do pple do that ffs "

There are so many reasons some involve shyness, others not really looking to meet and more when its not a couple. The key is early phone calls and even then nothing is set in stone so chalk it off to experience and block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To get around filters

To avoid being treated like a lepper

Lack of confidence

They have been watching Catfish

Take your pick lots of other reasons as well.

it's a pointless exercise but single women do it as well. On the day of a meet I was told by the way it has to be bareback and my hubby has to join in.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

It's a tale as old as time itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are so deluded that they actually believe their own lies in the end and would even turn the situation around, to make the innocent duped swinger,feel like they're the timewasters and liars. They will go to extreme lengths and have some serious issues going on inside their sad minds. Best just to move on not become bitter but just that little bit wiser.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow its got heavy in here lol

I was referring to a couple whos profile stated a couple and i spoke to from the day i joined then i swapped numbers he said she was ill and unable to meet or talk but he could hence why be fake?

He would surely be better off just saying his alone player just why pretend "

laryxitis?

swollen glands?

how often did you try and converse with the female of this couple?

was it on one occasion, or many different occasions over a length of time?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Because they can. Nothing more than that really. "

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"To get around filters

To avoid being treated like a lepper

Lack of confidence

They have been watching Catfish

Take your pick lots of other reasons as well.

it's a pointless exercise but single women do it as well. On the day of a meet I was told by the way it has to be bareback and my hubby has to join in."

Annoys me as well, especially as when given permission i meet single guys, so why lie!?!

Can't be dealing with liars - we all have different situations, as long as people are honest it's cool...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually the same reason that some couples pretend to be single fewales. So they can get a meet. Just report and block em!

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"So im new to all this

Anyway long story short got chatting to a cple exchanged numbers but now conviently the female cant chat as ill!!!!

Why do pple do that ffs

Some men on here don't just pretend to be couples they also pretend to be single females too! "

And some of the "men" pretend to be men......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its a crazy old world

No i asked on 3 occassions to speak to her ho hum on to the next lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So im new to all this

Anyway long story short got chatting to a cple exchanged numbers but now conviently the female cant chat as ill!!!!

Why do pple do that ffs

Some men on here don't just pretend to be couples they also pretend to be single females too!

And some of the "men" pretend to be men......"

How does that one work then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Once before we swapped numbers and twice after swapping numbers like i said i live and learn at least ive spoke to some gen females today though so looking up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once before we swapped numbers and twice after swapping numbers like i said i live and learn at least ive spoke to some gen females today though so looking up "

well, we would meet ya, but you would have to wait for a phone conversation lol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Because they can. Nothing more than that really. "

We often have been accused of being fake because we won't give out our phone number to all who ask.

Only people who get our number are those we have confirmed a date to meet with and then it's usually the day or so before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So im new to all this

Anyway long story short got chatting to a cple exchanged numbers but now conviently the female cant chat as ill!!!!

Why do pple do that ffs "

Its usually down to frustration or for a wankfeist.

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By *beautifulpainCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I don't like the fem to fem convo on the phone thing that seems to happen, everytime it has been brought up with us it a has been:

"Let's let the girls talk on the phone and the guys can organise the meet".

This seems pretty misogynistic to me. Why can't I do the organising? After all I am the half of us who suggested this lifestyle. I don't like talking on the phone at the best of times but always happy to cam.

But yeah I agree with the OP this is so frustrating. I wish every would just be as honest as we are.

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By *MilamberMan
over a year ago

totnes

I have a pretty good way of summing this up.

"lots of lying arsehole men...loss people off (couples and singles) making it hard for the nice ones!"

Stop it people, this site is for swingers not desperados.

Ah i feel better lol

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By *MilamberMan
over a year ago

totnes

Whoops....piss not loss ha

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