FabSwingers.com forum: Self harm support page

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I posted for help on a self harm support page, used by 1000s for support.

3 comments, one telling "You may as well kill yourself now mate, get it over and done with."

Followed the next guy encouraging him.

And then a link to a DIY site.

This is what i get when im really struggling right now not to do something to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I posted for help on a self harm support page, used by 1000s for support.

3 comments, one telling "You may as well kill yourself now mate, get it over and done with."

Followed the next guy encouraging him.

And then a link to a DIY site.

This is what i get when im really struggling right now not to do something to myself."

If its that bad why are you posting on a Swingers Website, surely there are better places to be seeking help from

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"I posted for help on a self harm support page, used by 1000s for support.

3 comments, one telling "You may as well kill yourself now mate, get it over and done with."

Followed the next guy encouraging him.

And then a link to a DIY site.

This is what i get when im really struggling right now not to do something to myself."

Is there a way to report these people on the site you use??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP please go get professional help

I'm ex pysche nurse

U will get help, but avoid much of the online stuff..especially those who want to troll about it...they arent probably 'evil' , but just lacking the understanding someone may indeed take them up on their comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would urge you to see your gp, or do you have a cpn or someone you can call when your feeling like this? If not maybe call the samaritans?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I posted for help on a self harm support page, used by 1000s for support.

3 comments, one telling "You may as well kill yourself now mate, get it over and done with."

Followed the next guy encouraging him.

And then a link to a DIY site.

This is what i get when im really struggling right now not to do something to myself.

If its that bad why are you posting on a Swingers Website, surely there are better places to be seeking help from

yeh dude really helpful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A medic once asked me did i self harm?

Only when i'm doing some DIY i said.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

the site isnt an anonymous one so they can't hide who they are so authorities are being notified.

As most of you probably saw on the news not long ago, similar situation a girl actually listened to what people like that said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the site isnt an anonymous one so they can't hide who they are so authorities are being notified.

As most of you probably saw on the news not long ago, similar situation a girl actually listened to what people like that said "

like ive said...get off the internet(I'm not saying its bad), but they way it IS affecting u is what is important.

click off, and call a person who will be reciprocating the contact, after all thats why they are there.Unfortunately those ur dealing with online are almost any tomdicknharry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yeah came on the net because i dont have any one to call. zero friends, dont talk to family especially on these issues.

Yes im able to click away from pages like that but others may not

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"yeah came on the net because i dont have any one to call. zero friends, dont talk to family especially on these issues.

Yes im able to click away from pages like that but others may not"

You're far better to call The Samaritans or the out of hours service of your local Adult Mental Healthcare Team. They will be much more help than any random idiots on the 'net.

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By *wencatWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I would urge you to see your gp, or do you have a cpn or someone you can call when your feeling like this? If not maybe call the samaritans?

Xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeah came on the net because i dont have any one to call. zero friends, dont talk to family especially on these issues.

Yes im able to click away from pages like that but others may not"

OP, heres more advice, stop being a martyr u cannot look after 100's if thousands of people who might be more susceptible to trolls etc, if it makes u feel bad what they are saying , u need to step back.The law is u cant save everyone but urself.What use are u when u sit and think of ideation because of stupid arseholes making comments.

I've seen too many think that caring for others is more important than caring for themselves, it simply doesnt work like that.

number 1 is u, if u want to care for others, start with urself

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By *ebsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Orpington/london

"OP please go get professional help

I'm ex pysche nurse

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I posted for help on a self harm support page, used by 1000s for support.

3 comments, one telling "You may as well kill yourself now mate, get it over and done with."

Followed the next guy encouraging him.

And then a link to a DIY site.

This is what i get when im really struggling right now not to do something to myself.

If its that bad why are you posting on a Swingers Website, surely there are better places to be seeking help from

He tried somewhere more suitable and they were dicks!!

OP please ignore those negative people on the other site. It's good that you recognise the signs and want to do something to stop yourself. Talk to someone even if it's just the Samaritans for now as the confidentiality and anonimity could be good for you. In thelong term I'd look at talking to your GO to see if there is any other help available to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I posted for help on a self harm support page, used by 1000s for support.

3 comments, one telling "You may as well kill yourself now mate, get it over and done with."

Followed the next guy encouraging him.

And then a link to a DIY site.

This is what i get when im really struggling right now not to do something to myself."

Without doubt abd do immediately report to.police the diy site some folk may actually do it. As having lost someone from self harm no excuses report it now.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd suggest speak to a human rather than ask online as per the advice above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I posted for help on a self harm support page, used by 1000s for support.

3 comments, one telling "You may as well kill yourself now mate, get it over and done with."

Followed the next guy encouraging him.

And then a link to a DIY site.

This is what i get when im really struggling right now not to do something to myself.

If its that bad why are you posting on a Swingers Website, surely there are better places to be seeking help from

He tried somewhere more suitable and they were dicks!!. "

Hence my suggestion that there must be better places to seek help and advice from than the keyboards of a few faceless non physc specialists on a Swingers Website

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can only reinforce what others have said - seek advice from another human being face to face

GP may be a good starting point or the Samaritans

I'd strongly advise not using online forums as they unfortunately attract a minority who find being hurtful a cheap way to amuse themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look if you need help call the Samaritans thay are there 24/7 and on call for people in need and will help straight away ...... I know as I was one.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I posted for help on a self harm support page, used by 1000s for support.

3 comments, one telling "You may as well kill yourself now mate, get it over and done with."

Followed the next guy encouraging him.

And then a link to a DIY site.

This is what i get when im really struggling right now not to do something to myself.

If its that bad why are you posting on a Swingers Website, surely there are better places to be seeking help from

He tried somewhere more suitable and they were dicks!!.

Hence my suggestion that there must be better places to seek help and advice from than the keyboards of a few faceless non physc specialists on a Swingers Website

I don't think online is a bad option if it gets him talking about it. Some people find it hard talking face to fave about things like this so if forced they would rather clam up and suffer than speak to someone.

By shunning him and making him feel bad for posting on here, whilst not your original intention I am sure, all you do is risk him becoming more isolated.

He needs to do this in his own time and has taken a great first step. Admitting he has a self harm problem and that he needs help. He sought a community that he thought would help but a nasty few people got in first and now he has tried here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you are struggling, fella, you may have a real world support network that actually care about you.

relying on a website forum (not this one, but the other one you mentioned) to get personal support and advice is a hiding to nothing, because, to be quite frank, the world is full of self obsessed, small minded wankers that think nothing of ruining others lives for a short term laugh.

the online world has brought out the worst in the people that ordinareily wouldnt do, or say, anything to anyone in real life (the so styled keyboard warriors).

may i suggest ringing the samaritans,

they have helped me in the past (although seeings as you will be ringing them, if you are in this position because of a huge phone bill, that may feel in bad taste (see, helpful advice tinged with a little humour to try and raise a little smile from you))

really really good luck to you.

dark places are never a good thing when you cant find a light switch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I posted for help on a self harm support page, used by 1000s for support.

3 comments, one telling "You may as well kill yourself now mate, get it over and done with."

Followed the next guy encouraging him.

And then a link to a DIY site.

This is what i get when im really struggling right now not to do something to myself.

If its that bad why are you posting on a Swingers Website, surely there are better places to be seeking help from

He tried somewhere more suitable and they were dicks!!.

Hence my suggestion that there must be better places to seek help and advice from than the keyboards of a few faceless non physc specialists on a Swingers Website

By shunning him and making him feel bad for posting on here, whilst not your original intention I am sure, all you do is risk him becoming more isolated.

Not shunning or making him feel bad, just the notion that IF things are that bad there must be better places than a chat room on a faceless Swinging site to seek help.

I appreciate interaction on here can and does offer much needed contact for many of those who use these forums each day BUT if there was a serious intention to self harm wasting time in here rather than seeking specialist medical help was not the most productive way ahead.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Talking about it by whichever means he chooses is not wasting time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talking about it by whichever means he chooses is not wasting time. "

IMHO he has two options

Seek specialist medical help or chat here on Fab, which one do you think would be his best course of action?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Talking about it by whichever means he chooses is not wasting time.

IMHO he has two options

Seek specialist medical help or chat here on Fab, which one do you think would be his best course of action?

Whichever he feels most comfortable with at the time. I'd say both but that doesn't seem to be an option

Maybe we should just agree to disagree as I'm sure this discussion is doing nothing to help the OP.

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By *amie0151Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

"I posted for help on a self harm support page, used by 1000s for support.

3 comments, one telling "You may as well kill yourself now mate, get it over and done with."

Followed the next guy encouraging him.

And then a link to a DIY site.

This is what i get when im really struggling right now not to do something to myself."

Talk to a good friend or family member that you trust or call the Samaritans or get in touch with your Occupational Health team at work. They'll be able to put you in touch with a counsellor confidentially. Don't listen to 'online trolls' Good luck and I hope you find the support that you need.

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