FabSwingers.com forum: why is life so hard !!!

By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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i'm trying my best to keep going after a crap 2 years what with a divorce i not want having to sell my home and find myself a new home for me and my 2 dogs ,dated a nutter that i got rid of every i pick myself up i get knocked back down the final straw is after a summer of my boss taking the mick with me she has asked girl i work with to be supervisor i have been there longer ,but i cant work with this lass as my supervisor as

she is a bitch x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep smiling, don't let the fuckers grind ya down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if things were easy they wouldnt be worth having.

maybe its your attitude that they held against you, i dont know because i dont know you or this other lady.

but keep on keeping on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i'm trying my best to keep going after a crap 2 years what with a divorce i not want having to sell my home and find myself a new home for me and my 2 dogs ,dated a nutter that i got rid of every i pick myself up i get knocked back down the final straw is after a summer of my boss taking the mick with me she has asked girl i work with to be supervisor i have been there longer ,but i cant work with this lass as my supervisor as

she is a bitch x

Been there done that...it will change just hang in there. Set yourself some goals & go for them..they don't need to cost either. Me i learnt how to ride a motorbike as it was something i alway wanted to do but with family comitments never got round to. Look to change yr job go back to collage there's loads you can do.

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Yeh having it pretty crap myself at the minute, struggling to find a way out of a big mess I'm in!!!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

she is a bitch x

Tell me about it.

Churchill apparently said

"If you're going through hell - KEEP GOING!"

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

she is a bitch x

Do you drive? I am assuming the profile name is about your job, so if thats the case, are the customers happy with what you do?

If yes to both, set up on your own - it gives you great motivation to go out and earn, you could potentially have a customer base ready and waiting, and if you are good, then word of mouth will also work in your favour. Working for a company means they have overheads to service, working for yourself means you could very easily undercut them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every one gets it hard now and again but we all get through it.. things will change..be positive I know its hard at times but it helps...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is what you make it!

Make the best that you can from what may seem a bad situation....

And remember there is always someone, somewhere worse of than yourself!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Life is hard but not all the time. You have work, you appear to have your physical health. You're not enjoying life at the moment and that is difficult. Sort out your head and the rest will follow.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeh having it pretty crap myself at the minute, struggling to find a way out of a big mess I'm in!!!"

Snap...me too, its hard some days but im sure things will work out some how

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life is what you make it!

Make the best that you can from what may seem a bad situation....

And remember there is always someone, somewhere worse of than yourself! "

This with bells on!!

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By *atelotmanMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Ive had the last year from hell,wont go into details,but come out this end of it for the better.Have meet so great people on the site an some very sexy ladies.So head up an look to the future.

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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thanks guys, girl i work with last night told me they had asked her to be supervisor then asks me what i thought and as i reacted angrily to the news she wasnt even supposed to tell me promptly ignored me rest of night and wasnt speaking to me

so now as ive to go get ready for work dreading it .she just ruined job for me in a second

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"thanks guys, girl i work with last night told me they had asked her to be supervisor then asks me what i thought and as i reacted angrily to the news she wasnt even supposed to tell me promptly ignored me rest of night and wasnt speaking to me

so now as ive to go get ready for work dreading it .she just ruined job for me in a second

She hasn't. She was offered a job. You weren't. Her accepting the job doesn't mean it will automatically be offered to you or that she should be made to feel bad for accepting this opportunity.

You are angry and upset and I hope you get over that but do treat your colleague fairly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The tastiest apples are allways at the top of the tree. Harder to get to but worth the effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds bout as good as my last two years my husband had an affair and left me for her just as I fell pregnant with twins! (Who he's never met doesn't wants to meet n I support on my own) Couldn't afford the mortgage on my own as I got made redundant n he had put some secret debt in my name before he took off too so had to sell up to break even n move back with my parents, I too got with a nutter after that who beat me once, he did that n he never saw me again! Then I got diagnosed with breast cancer which thankfully I'm now in remission from so take some comfort in knowing you aren't the only one that's had a shit time of it

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

We all do it at some time feeling sorry for ourselves but you have to think positive...You have your health and you have a job and sometimes in life we don't get what we want...Maybe the other person had more experience etc...While we might work with some we don't like you have to main professional. Stay postive ad rememeber there are some worse off then you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds bout as good as my last two years my husband had an affair and left me for her just as I fell pregnant with twins! (Who he's never met doesn't wants to meet n I support on my own) Couldn't afford the mortgage on my own as I got made redundant n he had put some secret debt in my name before he took off too so had to sell up to break even n move back with my parents, I too got with a nutter after that who beat me once, he did that n he never saw me again! Then I got diagnosed with breast cancer which thankfully I'm now in remission from so take some comfort in knowing you aren't the only one that's had a shit time of it"

well, typing 'keep ya chin up' just doesnt seem to cut it.....

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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she doesnt have more experience as im 20 yrs older than her have a diploma in house keeping and have been in the job longer than her ,the fact that she not speak to me tonight proves what sort of person she is cos if you say something that she not like she goes off on one .she has been nasty to me at times since she started so that why i cant work with her as my suprvisor

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Look for a new role if it makes you unhappy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look for a new role, if you're not happy with your present job. But, in the meantime, maintain your professional standards and demeanour. You may disagree with her being offered the supervisor job, but it's better to 'pretend' to work harmoniously for her, until you find a new opportunity.

Gotta remember that you need that reference to get your next job, and that you can't risk disciplinary proceedures, which might lead to your dismissal.

Bite your tongue, at work, and continue to vent your feelings with us xxx

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

try to get a new job .. have you thought of going freelance .. maybe there are some big houses needing a good cleaner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's that bad look for another job!

Or you could swallow your pride and congratulate her on her new role and stay profession whilst at work!

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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she isnt speaking to me which proves to me the sort of person she is as i would never do that to anyone .so going to get a new job if i dont jack it in first as been at home worrying all day about what is going to happen when i go to work will send me back down the black hole i'm trying so hard to keep out of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep an eye on her attitude and behaviour towards you- especially if alone- write things down then complain officially against her IF she is treating you unfairly. Keep strong!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"she doesnt have more experience as im 20 yrs older than her have a diploma in house keeping and have been in the job longer than her ,the fact that she not speak to me tonight proves what sort of person she is cos if you say something that she not like she goes off on one .she has been nasty to me at times since she started so that why i cant work with her as my suprvisor

regardless of age she may have experience for example there is someone that works for me that is alto older with less experience....you really cant be bitter that she got the job.....if you feel that she is treating you unfairly then raise it. until you find another job you have to rise above it...

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

She may also have other skills, such as interpersonal skills or leadership skills, that your managers have picked up on. Maybe her work ethic or attitude are better. Maybe she's more reliable.

There are a lot of maybes.

Anyone running a business is going to offer a promotion to the best candidate, not necessarily the person who has been there the longest.

Maybe you should speak to your managers and ask them which skills they feel you need to build on.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"She may also have other skills, such as interpersonal skills or leadership skills, that your managers have picked up on. Maybe her work ethic or attitude are better. Maybe she's more reliable.

There are a lot of maybes.

Anyone running a business is going to offer a promotion to the best candidate, not necessarily the person who has been there the longest.

Maybe you should speak to your managers and ask them which skills they feel you need to build on."

good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to hear about your bad times that you have went through and only hope things get better for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She may also have other skills, such as interpersonal skills or leadership skills, that your managers have picked up on. Maybe her work ethic or attitude are better. Maybe she's more reliable.

There are a lot of maybes.

Anyone running a business is going to offer a promotion to the best candidate, not necessarily the person who has been there the longest.

Maybe you should speak to your managers and ask them which skills they feel you need to build on."

This is very good advise, and if it's promotion your after? The feedback that you recieve from your manager may help you along that path

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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i have worked for my boss nearly 3 yrs never had a day off even when i went thru my troubles went into work . my boss uses me to do cover work for her in a morning .this girl started last summer then got pregnant , never put in 4 hrs work .has 6 months off ,comes into work time she feels like it takes personal phone calls at work has bullied me so that why i cant have her as my supervisor x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"i have worked for my boss nearly 3 yrs never had a day off even when i went thru my troubles went into work . my boss uses me to do cover work for her in a morning .this girl started last summer then got pregnant , never put in 4 hrs work .has 6 months off ,comes into work time she feels like it takes personal phone calls at work has bullied me so that why i cant have her as my supervisor x

Im sorry but you have to accept that she has got the job...stop being bitter about it and if you feel that you are being treated unfairly then raise the concerns.

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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when she told me i reacted angrily so that why she not speaking to me even tho i apologised i,m angry at my boss cos of the way she is treating me she is trying to get rid of me but cant sack me as she hasn't got any grounds to do so .i just feel this is the last straw .need a break sort myself out and go find a new job and get out of this rut i'm in before it kills me xx

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

You say that if she hears something she doesn't like she goes off on one, yet state that you reacted angrily to her news? Are you not just as bad as each other?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all hit bad spells but it's our attitudes which shorten or prolong them. You're full of negativity and so will attract the same. If you have never learned to meditate then go for it. The key (AND the hardest thing to do) is to blank your mind and calm yourself with breathing exercises. Ensure no interruptions. Sometimes you will be so relaxed you will fall asleep.

If you cannot blank your mind then concentrate on something (I draw a shape in my mind's eye).

With meditation you will begin to lose the shroud of negativity.

If you fail, try another time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mate of mine's philosophy on life is :-

'Ya born, ya go to school, ya go to work n then ya die'

Not very enervating I agree but sometimes it can feel like that

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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like i just put i was angry at my boss for

doing this to me ,i did aplogise to her .she was even told not to tell me ,ths boss is going to do this but so far i havent heard from my boss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You say that if she hears something she doesn't like she goes off on one, yet state that you reacted angrily to her news? Are you not just as bad as each other? "

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