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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and I'ts effecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and I'ts effecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused "
There are a lot of people looking for an escape from other stuff on here. I see nothing wrong with it.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

If being here helps you in any way, it helps. As long as you are honest with yourself, and are not intentionally deceiving people don't worry

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

judging by your profile pic .. id love to take your mind off things if you were closer ..best of luck with things and hope you have fun !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bless you I find it a great way to escape the hassles and drama and heartaches and headaches of life lol as long as you keep true to yourself and the people your meeting then there is no harm done.

chin up hun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you guys x just feel a little confused I guess, nice to know this community cares and looks after its own X

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"Thank you guys x just feel a little confused I guess, nice to know this community cares and looks after its own X"

I can understand how u feel as I am the same sometimes but I would say don't use it/people to make yourself feel better- only u can do that but as other comments said, just be open and honest with what you're looking for and all should be fine x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah you're right, I just cant figure out if really doing it is the wrong or right thing, but as you say, only I will know that answer.

Thanmk you for replying it makes me happy you guys care!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

As long as being here doesn't make you feel worse then don't see any harm in it - welcome to the forus btw!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As long as being here doesn't make you feel worse then don't see any harm in it - welcome to the forums btw! "

I didn't think about that!

Being on the forums seems to make me smile and take my mind off stuff, so you may see me buzzing around pestering everyone

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By *aulsussex5Man
over a year ago

nr Gatwick


"Yeah you're right, I just cant figure out if really doing it is the wrong or right thing, but as you say, only I will know that answer.

Thanmk you for replying it makes me happy you guys care! "

You have to remember if its right for you at that time in your life its right!

I have a philosophy of "Never regret what you have done only what you havent" as long as my actions dont hurt or upset anyone else and its right for me then its right!

Good luck fella, I hope you find a happy place in you soon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and it's affecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused "

If you were hurt by a woman, and that is why you are down, then this is the right place to get demoralised, abused, made to feel useless and in most ways absolutely bludgeoned to death by a woman! Good luck!

Requiescat in pace

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"As long as being here doesn't make you feel worse then don't see any harm in it - welcome to the forums btw!

I didn't think about that!

Being on the forums seems to make me smile and take my mind off stuff, so you may see me buzzing around pestering everyone "

Welcome to my world

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and it's affecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused

If you were hurt by a woman, and that is why you are down, then this is the right place to get demoralised, abused, made to feel useless and in most ways absolutely bludgeoned to death by a woman! Good luck!

Requiescat in pace "

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and it's affecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused

If you were hurt by a woman, and that is why you are down, then this is the right place to get demoralised, abused, made to feel useless and in most ways absolutely bludgeoned to death by a woman! Good luck!

Requiescat in pace "
I haven't bludgeoned anyone in ages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all well and good being here to chat to people and so on, but if you are feeling down on yourself about the way things have gone, you may find, much like alcohol, casual sex will not make you feel any better about yourself.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and it's affecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused

If you were hurt by a woman, and that is why you are down, then this is the right place to get demoralised, abused, made to feel useless and in most ways absolutely bludgeoned to death by a woman! Good luck!

Requiescat in pace

I haven't bludgeoned anyone in ages! "

You ill?!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and it's affecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused

If you were hurt by a woman, and that is why you are down, then this is the right place to get demoralised, abused, made to feel useless and in most ways absolutely bludgeoned to death by a woman! Good luck!

Requiescat in pace

I haven't bludgeoned anyone in ages!

You ill?! "
No, my boilersuit is at the dry cleaners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you can take advantage of the site in making a few friends and having a laugh. The other stuff can wait until your feeling a little clearer .

and welcome to the forums, they are mad but normally in a nice way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hehe I can see its kinda crazy, but it seems fun and friendly first day off in ages so might just make the most of it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"all well and good being here to chat to people and so on, but if you are feeling down on yourself about the way things have gone, you may find, much like alcohol, casual sex will not make you feel any better about yourself."

This is kinda what I thought, but I've neve really tried it before, I've met one person on here before about 2 years ago (last time i was on the website) and that turned into something lovely x but it ended as all things do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were hurt by a woman, and that is why you are down, then this is the right place to get demoralised, abused, made to feel useless and in most ways absolutely bludgeoned to death by a woman! Good luck!

Requiescat in pace "

If that is what you take away from this site/forum, then you should step away from it. Others should not be able to have that kind of influence on you. Your self esteem comes from within.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what makes you feel better. If reading/posting in the forums helps then keep at it. As for meeting people, take things at your pace and dont rush into it. I learned this the hard way and ended up taking a break from playing. Casual sex doesnt cure a broken heart and can leave you feeling worse. Give yourself as much time as you need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and it's affecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused

If you were hurt by a woman, and that is why you are down, then this is the right place to get demoralised, abused, made to feel useless and in most ways absolutely bludgeoned to death by a woman! Good luck!

Requiescat in pace

I haven't bludgeoned anyone in ages!

You ill?! No, my boilersuit is at the dry cleaners."

Very funny!! lmfao!

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By *yphoon1Man
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were hurt by a woman, and that is why you are down, then this is the right place to get demoralised, abused, made to feel useless and in most ways absolutely bludgeoned to death by a woman! Good luck!

Requiescat in pace

If that is what you take away from this site/forum, then you should step away from it. Others should not be able to have that kind of influence on you. Your self esteem comes from within."

I, personally, myself, am very happy with the site but then I am a pachydermata and have lucked out by meting some lovely folks. If he is sensitive he will suffer, no ways about that.

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By *yphoon1Man
over a year ago

welcome.

it is a damn good outlet for your emotions rather than bottling it all up. u can always talk to people on here anytime or PM them.

all the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last major break up I had, I was depressed. Had lots of casual sex, discovered I was bisexual and started crossdressing. So it's not all bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The last major break up I had, I was depressed. Had lots of casual sex, discovered I was bisexual and started crossdressing. So it's not all bad "
well im glad you found yourself

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

If you get something positive from the site then there aren't really any "wrong" reasons for being here.

Try it, as long ss you're not likely to break down in tears during a meet and spend the time talking about the break-up, (it has happened to some of us!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all well and good being here to chat to people and so on, but if you are feeling down on yourself about the way things have gone, you may find, much like alcohol, casual sex will not make you feel any better about yourself.

This is kinda what I thought, but I've neve really tried it before, I've met one person on here before about 2 years ago (last time i was on the website) and that turned into something lovely x but it ended as all things do x "

V engaged in casual sex after her marriage ended, and she said it set back getting her head right by months.

i never did after mine ended, and we mat 6 months later, and its blossomed into something more than either of us could every have dreamed of.

the moral is, you can find something beautiful more often when you arent searching for it. pure sex is just that, an itch that needs scratching.

if you are looking for self assurance or a confidence boost, this would be a very short term answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What VandH say above.

The amount of knockbacks guys get on here won't help a low self esteem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and I'ts effecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused "

fuck your confusion away. It's just sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" What VandH say above.

The amount of knockbacks guys get on here won't help a low self esteem."

i was going to warn him against casual sex because of what you said lol.

apparently, it leads to liking men lol

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Im on here and smellsoffish as its a great time killer, makes me laugh when I message a girl and she instantly replies how Im not her type, its more than likely Im taking the piss out of her soppy status that could of been an inbox to the person intended.

If a meet came along, great, but it dosent have to.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Work out what you think you can get from being on here, don't play people and don't ignore your own feelings.

Join in the fun on the forum, join the socials if meeting people is what you're really after.

If you really want another relationship remember that it's likely to be transitional one at this stage and it wouldn't be fair to leave someone else heartbroken.

Hearts mend. If you let them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No your not I've recently just had my heart broken and I joined for the same reason and 4 months down the line I'm a whole lot happier.

Head up and stick two fingers up to the ex is what I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no your only young you should meet lots of women for sex to take your mind of things, think yourself lucky your young free and single, a lot of men will envy you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No your not I've recently just had my heart broken and I joined for the same reason and 4 months down the line I'm a whole lot happier.

Head up and stick two fingers up to the ex is what I say "
haha thanks man,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What am interesting avatar pic!!!

Oh what was the question? I seemed to have been distracted'

Ok so you have come out of a relatshionship and you have found yourself on here with all of us pervs!

I can see no harm at all!

As long as you don't take things to seriously and have no expectations!

Hello and welcome to the forums

Lucy

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and I'ts effecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused "

Personally, I'd avoid you like the plague as in my experience men looking to escape breakups are heavy with emotional baggage, suffer penile dysfunction and not fun meets.

Casual sex with strangers is not a panacea for a broken heart in my view since you're asking.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"all well and good being here to chat to people and so on, but if you are feeling down on yourself about the way things have gone, you may find, much like alcohol, casual sex will not make you feel any better about yourself."

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you very much

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and I'ts effecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused

Personally, I'd avoid you like the plague as in my experience men looking to escape breakups are heavy with emotional baggage, suffer penile dysfunction and not fun meets.

Casual sex with strangers is not a panacea for a broken heart in my view since you're asking. "

Thank you for your input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and I'ts effecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused "
Don't be confused. I think its normal to look for a escape if going through things at times......I am sure loads are escaping on here from normal everyday life its can take your mind off things and help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not read the whole thread, however, I would be concerned about the effect of rejections if one's self-esteem and confidence is already on the low side.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have not read the whole thread, however, I would be concerned about the effect of rejections if one's self-esteem and confidence is already on the low side.

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I didnt think about that, thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm really really down and I just wanted to hear from you guys;

I'm basically on here because, I'm going through the first heart break of my life and I'm looking for an escape, and I'ts effecting me so badly - Is that possibly the wrong reason to be on here? I'm so confused "

Yes in my opinion you are ....sex is no answer for a emotion pain in your life .

Take a step back savior the pain learn to understand your inner feelings and personality before entering into this most shallow of worlds.

Before you can play in this shallow pool of sycophants you have to be very sure of who you are and your emotional strength must be very strong .

As your on a low this shallow world while offering a diverting escape will not help you grow as a human being .

So if I was you i'd hang around with my friends and avoid any more emotional stress until you feel yourself again.

This world can scar people who are not ready for its cold heartless mercenary nature.

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