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"Not sure what you really mean.You have 17 verifications in 5 months. Many men don't have that after a year or two on here. " I had a profile previously n had to change my profile because of a stalker. So upon the change I got a lot of verifications immediately from previous months. I just don't no why it's to difficult to reply with a no thank you if your not interested. That's my point. | |||
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"Not sure what you really mean.You have 17 verifications in 5 months. Many men don't have that after a year or two on here. I had a profile previously n had to change my profile because of a stalker. So upon the change I got a lot of verifications immediately from previous months. I just don't no why it's to difficult to reply with a no thank you if your not interested. That's my point. " | |||
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"a deleted message surely communicates the message that they are not interested .. just curious... why do you feel better about knowing that they aren't interested by having a mail to open that reads .. 'no thanks ' ?" Very good point. And this has been hashed over so many times - if we reply, we always get more messages trying to change our minds, and it's too much to deal with. | |||
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"a deleted message surely communicates the message that they are not interested .. just curious... why do you feel better about knowing that they aren't interested by having a mail to open that reads .. 'no thanks ' ?" Coz it's common decency, manners cost nothing. Ignore or delete the message is pure ignorance mixed with an ugly dose or arrogance. | |||
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"Should I stay or should I go? It's obvious if a man wants a meet he should make an effort in his message. But why is it when a genuine single male reads a profile and IF matches the fem/couples criteria. He sends a personal message, with a face pic or two, directs the message to worthy verifications and only asks kindly for a response either way he gets ignored n message deleted. I understand clearly that I'm not to everyone's liking, yet it's appearing to be that the profile is fake I.e the stereotypical trailer trash male. Or it's a rude impolite lady who clearly either has her head up her own arse because she gets endless messages from desperate cocks or has not only lost her knickers but gave up on manners when she lost self respect. This is a general moan n I will get slammed by the haters but frankly I've had enough. Single normal n genuine men are a minority, but I wouldn't of thought a respectable genuine female/couple wouldn't be able to muster up a no thanks. Please just tell me someone's courteous enough to respond. " Simple if you don't enjoy the sight don't log in. Not rocket science is it? | |||
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"a deleted message surely communicates the message that they are not interested .. just curious... why do you feel better about knowing that they aren't interested by having a mail to open that reads .. 'no thanks ' ? Coz it's common decency, manners cost nothing. Ignore or delete the message is pure ignorance mixed with an ugly dose or arrogance. " No its called PREFERENCE and its their choice. | |||
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"Yes it can be construed as rude, but no one is obliged to answer anybody. If someone has clearly put some effort into their message but I'm not interested, I'll take the time to thank them and send a thanks but no thanks type. If not, deleted! " Think this is how it should work but it never will | |||
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"a deleted message surely communicates the message that they are not interested .. just curious... why do you feel better about knowing that they aren't interested by having a mail to open that reads .. 'no thanks ' ? Very good point. And this has been hashed over so many times - if we reply, we always get more messages trying to change our minds, and it's too much to deal with." I reply with a thanks for the response then block them. As we all know by doing this it saves accidental contact at a later date. On occasion some profile change a pic or even a profile name. By me deleting them it saves accidental messaging again. | |||
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"Yes it can be construed as rude, but no one is obliged to answer anybody. If someone has clearly put some effort into their message but I'm not interested, I'll take the time to thank them and send a thanks but no thanks type. If not, deleted! " Perfect | |||
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"a deleted message surely communicates the message that they are not interested .. just curious... why do you feel better about knowing that they aren't interested by having a mail to open that reads .. 'no thanks ' ? Coz it's common decency, manners cost nothing. Ignore or delete the message is pure ignorance mixed with an ugly dose or arrogance. " As are the messages I get from guys who want to meet when my profile states I'm not meeting. I refuse to spend my time answering them when they obviously haven't read profile in first place and even when I am meeting it also says that I will not answer every message. | |||
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"a deleted message surely communicates the message that they are not interested .. just curious... why do you feel better about knowing that they aren't interested by having a mail to open that reads .. 'no thanks ' ? Coz it's common decency, manners cost nothing. Ignore or delete the message is pure ignorance mixed with an ugly dose or arrogance. " When I read the OP I had my normal head on, ie, caring, decent, normal run of the mill head on, so obviously would always reply to a message, out of politeness and common courtesy, if someone has taken the time to write a message to me, the reply would depend on effort taken, one common message I get is fancy a shag, or do you wanna suck my knob. I would reply with a one word answer. However if thought, originality and time is taken, I would reply in a similar way. However as I read the following posts, I remembered what site im on, Some people have very low standards, they are commiting adultery, cheating, and have very high opinions of themselves. Some are just here for a power trip, or to get some excitement in their life, when I remembered that, I can understand why they don't bother replying or block you. So far I have never sent a message, only replied to messages. | |||
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"Or it's a rude impolite lady who clearly either has her head up her own arse because she gets endless messages from desperate cocks or has not only lost her knickers but gave up on manners when she lost self respect. " Why would you want to meet women that you have sich a low opinion of? | |||
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"Surely by deleting your message they have informed you they do not want to meet. Why is that so difficult to understand? Do you need additional information just in case by some stroke of incompetence they have deleted you in error. Just accept a delete is as good as a mail saying no thanks." If you plucked up courage to text someone you had fancied for ages and asked them if they fancied going out for a drink sometime .. You would be a hell of a lot more pissed of if they did not reply to your text then if they replied with. No thankyou .. Just saying | |||
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"Should I stay or should I go? It's obvious if a man wants a meet he should make an effort in his message. But why is it when a genuine single male reads a profile and IF matches the fem/couples criteria. He sends a personal message, with a face pic or two, directs the message to worthy verifications and only asks kindly for a response either way he gets ignored n message deleted. I understand clearly that I'm not to everyone's liking, yet it's appearing to be that the profile is fake I.e the stereotypical trailer trash male. Or it's a rude impolite lady who clearly either has her head up her own arse because she gets endless messages from desperate cocks or has not only lost her knickers but gave up on manners when she lost self respect. This is a general moan n I will get slammed by the haters but frankly I've had enough. Single normal n genuine men are a minority, but I wouldn't of thought a respectable genuine female/couple wouldn't be able to muster up a no thanks. Please just tell me someone's courteous enough to respond. " Often when you respond with a polite no thainks you get Buy why? Ok but why not give me a chance? But why not? Your a time waster if you don't! The reality is responding makes you stand out its a bit like answering the telephone to an unwanted cold caller! THEY KNOW YOU ARE ALIVE AND THERE! | |||
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"a deleted message surely communicates the message that they are not interested .. just curious... why do you feel better about knowing that they aren't interested by having a mail to open that reads .. 'no thanks ' ? Coz it's common decency, manners cost nothing. Ignore or delete the message is pure ignorance mixed with an ugly dose or arrogance. When I read the OP I had my normal head on, ie, caring, decent, normal run of the mill head on, so obviously would always reply to a message, out of politeness and common courtesy, if someone has taken the time to write a message to me, the reply would depend on effort taken, one common message I get is fancy a shag, or do you wanna suck my knob. I would reply with a one word answer. However if thought, originality and time is taken, I would reply in a similar way. However as I read the following posts, I remembered what site im on, Some people have very low standards, they are commiting adultery, cheating, and have very high opinions of themselves. Some are just here for a power trip, or to get some excitement in their life, when I remembered that, I can understand why they don't bother replying or block you. So far I have never sent a message, only replied to messages." | |||
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"Should I stay or should I go? It's obvious if a man wants a meet he should make an effort in his message. But why is it when a genuine single male reads a profile and IF matches the fem/couples criteria. He sends a personal message, with a face pic or two, directs the message to worthy verifications and only asks kindly for a response either way he gets ignored n message deleted. I understand clearly that I'm not to everyone's liking, yet it's appearing to be that the profile is fake I.e the stereotypical trailer trash male. Or it's a rude impolite lady who clearly either has her head up her own arse because she gets endless messages from desperate cocks or has not only lost her knickers but gave up on manners when she lost self respect. This is a general moan n I will get slammed by the haters but frankly I've had enough. Single normal n genuine men are a minority, but I wouldn't of thought a respectable genuine female/couple wouldn't be able to muster up a no thanks. Please just tell me someone's courteous enough to respond. Often when you respond with a polite no thainks you get Buy why? Ok but why not give me a chance? But why not? Your a time waster if you don't! The reality is responding makes you stand out its a bit like answering the telephone to an unwanted cold caller! THEY KNOW YOU ARE ALIVE AND THERE! " Quite so. If I get a message, with a decent face pic, and I am not interested they get 'no thank you'. Just that - three simple words. I have found that if you try to justify why not it opens the flood gates. If they then message 'why not?' then I ignore and delete. It is on my profile very clearly that I do not engage in that kind of conversation. If I get an abusive response they are blocked and I think no more of it. I was clearly right to say no if they are that kind of person. | |||
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"Must admit we reply to all messages. But the OP has asked a simple question should he stay or should he go, which no one yet had answered. My answer is you clearly feel the site is not for you so I say go. But I bet if you got a thousand people say go you would still stay" and this is exactly the case | |||
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"Just go There I said it Signed....hater of Ipswich xx " If i send you a message will you just put no thanks . Just to appease me | |||
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"Just go There I said it Signed....hater of Ipswich xx " , it does make a change to have a bit of a conversation going on around it rather than just the normal don't let door hit you on way out comments though ( obviously if it had been a fem that wouldn't have happened) | |||
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"a deleted message surely communicates the message that they are not interested .. just curious... why do you feel better about knowing that they aren't interested by having a mail to open that reads .. 'no thanks ' ? Coz it's common decency, manners cost nothing. Ignore or delete the message is pure ignorance mixed with an ugly dose or arrogance. " Then why would you want a reply from someone like you describe? Some people reply, some don't, you can either take it on the chin and not let it spoil your enjoyment of the site or let it annoy you so much that you ask strangers what decision you should make. | |||
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"Not sure what you really mean.You have 17 verifications in 5 months. Many men don't have that after a year or two on here. " | |||
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" I just don't no why it's to difficult to reply with a no thank you if your not interested. That's my point. " I have made that point in here numerous times and also suggested it to admin a few times aswel. A simple icon to click that would send an automatic message on along the lines " Thanks for the interest, but your not for me/us, take care and happy swinging" | |||
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" I just don't no why it's to difficult to reply with a no thank you if your not interested. That's my point. I have made that point in here numerous times and also suggested it to admin a few times aswel. A simple icon to click that would send an automatic message on along the lines " Thanks for the interest, but your not for me/us, take care and happy swinging"" Yep and then we would get lots of threads say that's so rude after I spent time writing a personal message to them they came back with a auto reply | |||
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" I just don't no why it's to difficult to reply with a no thank you if your not interested. That's my point. I have made that point in here numerous times and also suggested it to admin a few times aswel. A simple icon to click that would send an automatic message on along the lines " Thanks for the interest, but your not for me/us, take care and happy swinging"" And the needy would find a reason to moan about that | |||
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" I just don't no why it's to difficult to reply with a no thank you if your not interested. That's my point. I have made that point in here numerous times and also suggested it to admin a few times aswel. A simple icon to click that would send an automatic message on along the lines " Thanks for the interest, but your not for me/us, take care and happy swinging" Yep and then we would get lots of threads say that's so rude after I spent time writing a personal message to them they came back with a auto reply " this I get that its frustrating for the men but as a single bi fem I do get my inbox filled with a lot of trash. Pic collectors or too far away or monosyllabic messages so sometimes I do a mass delete. Should I feel guilty for doing that? | |||
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"Good manners invariably require some sort of effort, bad manners rarely so. If someone has taken the time to read my profile (in effect my advert) and has made the effort to respond with a personalised message, my core values mean that I would always respond, even if it is with a thanks but no thanks. I don't need external rules to dictate who I chose to be. That said, if others chose not to show a certain level of courtesy, that is their choice and my core values mean I chose to respect that. In forums like this they will sometimes give you the mitigants of why, but the bottom line is usually that in their _iew it's just not worth the effort. In a way it's good manners to just respect that. I chose to hold the door open for others who may be walking behind me, others don't, I'm sure they can always justify it to themselves. It doesn't mean that I will stop holding the door the next time I walk through it. " | |||
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"Surely by deleting your message they have informed you they do not want to meet. Why is that so difficult to understand? Do you need additional information just in case by some stroke of incompetence they have deleted you in error. Just accept a delete is as good as a mail saying no thanks. If you plucked up courage to text someone you had fancied for ages and asked them if they fancied going out for a drink sometime .. You would be a hell of a lot more pissed of if they did not reply to your text then if they replied with. No thankyou .. Just saying " How is that even vaguely the same? If you text someone to ask them out you would already know them and they you. So yes you would expect a reply. If you randomly text a number you pluck out of thin air asking someone out then no I wouldn't expect a reply from a stranger! | |||
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"You may as well just go. You aren't going to get people to reply to your messages like you want so what is the point in staying. Especially as you seem quite annoyed about not receiving a no thanks which you get the same outcome as a deleted message. " This!! | |||
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"a deleted message surely communicates the message that they are not interested .. just curious... why do you feel better about knowing that they aren't interested by having a mail to open that reads .. 'no thanks ' ? Coz it's common decency, manners cost nothing. Ignore or delete the message is pure ignorance mixed with an ugly dose or arrogance. " Manners do cost on here though. I used to reply to every message. It opens the door for more messages. The site software deems that you are indeed communicating with each other and doesn't put up a 'stop think' message. I have had abuse along the lines of 'rude, arrogant, up your own arse' variety for saying no. If we say no and then block to stop further communication then a thread appears asking why the rude, arrogant women block when they have responded. I reply to a few now, if they have put some effort to their message. It's mostly fine but about 20% will be rude or pushy and that isn't worth the hassle. Your post makes me think simply ignoring is a better option. | |||
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" Please just tell me someone's courteous enough to respond. " If you don't get any replay's you are doing something wrong and its often attitude to people. To expect everyone to reply? come on I bet you dont chat to every cold caller. If you don't get a reply its because you didn't get someone attention address that and you will get more its that simple. | |||
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" Please just tell me someone's courteous enough to respond. If you don't get any replay's you are doing something wrong and its often attitude to people. To expect everyone to reply? come on I bet you dont chat to every cold caller. If you don't get a reply its because you didn't get someone attention address that and you will get more its that simple. " | |||
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