FabSwingers.com forum: Despite my previous rant... I'm very lonely. Here's another rant. :P

By *heNerdyCyclist OP Man
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

why the fuck do people assume that because you are polyamorous it's easier to attract partners? do people not realize or understand the risks and dangers of actually being polyamorous and trying to actually attract the people in the first place. Then having to sit down and have the chat about who you are. And if you do manage to find another partner convincing your partner you are not an love rat. I utterly HATE how closed minded people are!! And why do I feel so ashamed for being poly? Why am I made to feel guilty for who I am?!

For fuck sake!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think swinging is a fantastic way to meet lots of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because we dont live in a society where that is considered socially acceptable.

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By *heNerdyCyclist OP Man
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

"because we dont live in a society where that is considered socially acceptable."

This. Sadly this

Face.

Hoof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's more acccepted in D/s relationships. Well I thought so.

I was a sub to a couple once and they were both poly.

*shrugs*

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

It's not necessarily closed minded. There's nothing wrong with preferring monogamy.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Why do you feel guilty for who you are? I may not be representative of the population (swingers or not) conscience-wise, but I know I couldn't care less about what people think of me if they're not important to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"because we dont live in a society where that is considered socially acceptable.

This. Sadly this

Face.

Hoof.

i wasnt judging you at all, what people get up to is their business, i was just answering your question as to why.

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By *heNerdyCyclist OP Man
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

I was agreeing with you.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"why the fuck do people assume that because you are polyamorous it's easier to attract partners? do people not realize or understand the risks and dangers of actually being polyamorous and trying to actually attract the people in the first place. Then having to sit down and have the chat about who you are. And if you do manage to find another partner convincing your partner you are not an love rat. I utterly HATE how closed minded people are!! And why do I feel so ashamed for being poly? Why am I made to feel guilty for who I am?!

For fuck sake!

Not sure I understand your rant. Are you saying people who choose monogamy are close minded? I also don't get what you're ashamed about.

I'm a Domme that meets men for casual encounters. People on here think I'm weird let alone "outsiders". Do I think them closed minded? Of course not! Do I give a flying one what people I don't know or want to know past a superficial level think? Yeah...right!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Why do you feel guilty for who you are? I may not be representative of the population (swingers or not) conscience-wise, but I know I couldn't care less about what people think of me if they're not important to me."

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over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I told you there was a difference between wanting to be alone and being lonely. Just be you but slightly toned down and you'll be fine. This is a good place to make contact with like minded people with similar interests. Happy swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not necessarily closed minded. There's nothing wrong with preferring monogamy."

I think the accusation of close minded is unfair and unreasonable.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

pardon my ignorance OP but if your in a poly relationship surely you don't need to convince your partner your 'not a love rat'..?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

For fuck sake!

There are NO more risks to being polyamorous than there are to being monogamous... ( im assuming you are talking sexual health )

Do you mean the danger is that your partner will kill you if she catches you messing with another woman ? I guess that's a bit dangerous.

Why would you have to convince your partner you are not a love rat ?

Surely you would tell any female that you offered committment to that you were not monogamous BEFORE - AT THE OUTSET ..... so that she didn't get the wrong idea. You'd never mislead her now would you ?

I find it hilarious that you are ranting about closed minded people while berating their beliefs.....

Shame usually occurs when you go against your own moral beliefs and not when you do something you consider right.

Have you been caught out and are trying to play the wounded innocent ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"pardon my ignorance OP but if your in a poly relationship surely you don't need to convince your partner your 'not a love rat'..?"

See

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It's not necessarily closed minded. There's nothing wrong with preferring monogamy.

I think the accusation of close minded is unfair and unreasonable.

Yeah ....smells of double standards in 'ere.

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By *heNerdyCyclist OP Man
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

For fuck sake!"

This may or may not come as a surprise but I was drinking while writing this rant. But there are some points in this rant I'd soberly support. In response to the conversation and previous debates, so I don't get confused and get lost in points, I'm just going to refer back to the original text above.

"why the fuck do people assume that because you are polyamorous it's easier to attract partners?"

This is an problem being poly. And actively looking for partners there never seems like a good time or place to tell your potential partner you are poly. I've had women totally go off me because they don't know what it is and I may have badly explained it.

"And why do I feel so ashamed for being poly? Why am I made to feel guilty for who I am?!"

Is an example of me and my writing that could be misunderstood. This outburst was triggered by talking to someone mono interested in accepting my poly. When I told her (I dislike NOT being honest and my honesty gets me into A LOT of trouble but I rather serve facts than serve sugar coated bullshit) I met an couple I am interested in playing with. This caused us to have an uncomfortable conversation and me feeling upset with myself and feeling ab-normal. Which on an side note I am, anyway. But my concerns is what if I date an mono girl and I still want to play with others? I find it difficult understanding the difference between being poly, truthful and keeping your mono partner happy, being poly and UNFAITHFUL and being an love rat.

I hope that is an clearer explanation. Please reframe from thinking I am out to attack monos or any other groups who disagree with me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Don't over egg the pudding

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

never really understood the rant but if you are feeling better in the good old sober light of the day

that is good

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By *heNerdyCyclist OP Man
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

"Don't over egg the pudding

I don't follow... I'm guessing this is an slight tease about my writing style.

I can't help it! I get passionate about things and my teddy dog gets bored of hearing me rant!

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