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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wanted to say forget politics and hatred of any kind! Make the most of life while you can and enjoy it! Tonight my 15yr old daughter lies in a hospital bed after trying to cut her wrists! I am torn to pieces as her stepdad and after reading some of the recent forum posts it's got me thinking life's too short for fucking around and causing grief ! Please people spread love not hatred etc! I also ask you pray for my daughter! Thankyou fellow fabswingers! Remember we get but one chance at life! Cling to it.

Billy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree and that is what I am doing now I'm single again after 35 years. I really hope your daughter comes through ok though xxxx my best wishes for you and your family are sent xxxx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I hope she recovers well and that you all recover together.

Suicide attempts that fail can be a turning point. She was in pain.

My thoughts are with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh hun im so sorry 2 read ur post I wish u all the love in the world n deffo pray that ur daughter makes a speedy recovery ,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope alls well soon xx

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Billy, may I send you big hugs and hope that your daughter gets the suitable therapy needed and is on the road to recovery soon. Take care x

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

She will be in my prayers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts are with you and your family at this time. I totally agree with your statement life is for living....

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Iv lost so many good friends an very close family in the last 11yrs so have been saying this for some time it couldn't be more true. Feeling for you about your daughter I don't belive there can possibly be a god in this world but just in case I'll pray your baby pulls threw an selfishly that I never find out what your feeling right now. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a daughter that age too, I feel for you. Hope all is ok xx

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Sorry to hear that. You must be distraught. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

On my ass at the moment and yes I'm having a drink! Well more than one! I'm only stepdad so can't even try to imagine how Sammi is feeling! Why is life such a bitch! And no I'm not feeling sorry for myself as I've been through the same many many years ago well before meeting Sammi but its so hard seeing my daughter going through it! It's not something parents should see their kids go through! Makes one wonder is there a god? If so why does he put kids through this shit ! They should be having fun just like we did as kids growing up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all seems to be so much harder for kids these days, so much pressure.

My thoughts are with you all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

although i dont pray (not a religious person) your step daughters welfare will be in my thoughts for the next few days.

it was a cry for help, and now those that may not have seen what she has been going through are now fully aware.

please dont just look at the negatives in that she tried to take her own life (suicide is such that, if it was meant to have happened, it would have been successful) but the positive in that, at least now you know she has been going through some form of personal turmoil that she has, up until now, felt she cannot share with yourselves.

now that it has come out, in the most horrific way imaginable, you can all come together, as a loving family, and help her defeat the demons that are making her life difficult.

good luck to you all.

i wish you all the best love and wishes i can muster.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"although i dont pray (not a religious person) your step daughters welfare will be in my thoughts for the next few days.

it was a cry for help, and now those that may not have seen what she has been going through are now fully aware.

please dont just look at the negatives in that she tried to take her own life (suicide is such that, if it was meant to have happened, it would have been successful) but the positive in that, at least now you know she has been going through some form of personal turmoil that she has, up until now, felt she cannot share with yourselves.

now that it has come out, in the most horrific way imaginable, you can all come together, as a loving family, and help her defeat the demons that are making her life difficult.

good luck to you all.

i wish you all the best love and wishes i can muster.

xxx"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm just shot to pieces and dont know what to do! she's only a kid for fuck sake with her whole life infront of her yet tonight i had to leave her in a strange hospital bed when she should be here at home with her family (mum sister and brother)Oh yeah and me the wicked stepdad lol... who love her to bits! Why?????

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I'm just shot to pieces and dont know what to do! she's only a kid for fuck sake with her whole life infront of her yet tonight i had to leave her in a strange hospital bed when she should be here at home with her family (mum sister and brother)Oh yeah and me the wicked stepdad lol... who love her to bits! Why?????"

cos shes a kid mate. I know how shite I thought life was back then an I recon id feel it even more so today. An just cos your not her biological dad doesn't mean you feel any less for her in fact in my mind it proves how much you do feel for her. For a start your her step dad because you want to be I mean any 2 bit prick can father a child it takes a real man to be a real dad so stop knocking yourself if your anything like the dad I am your pure gold

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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now that it has come out, in the most horrific way imaginable, you can all come together, as a loving family, and help her defeat the demons that are making her life difficult.

xxx"

I don't want my baby going through this! i've been there myself in the past myself, done it and got the tee shirt! she's never done anything to hurt anyone so why has it happened to her when there are total asholes out there who deserve to be punished and have made other peoples lives a total misery but yet they get away scot free! and my baby is the one who is suffering! I'm a non practising irish catholic but right now i'm questioning is there really a god out there! and if there is why make innocent people suffer??? Sorry just need to let off some steam somewhere!

Billy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm just shot to pieces and dont know what to do! she's only a kid for fuck sake with her whole life infront of her yet tonight i had to leave her in a strange hospital bed when she should be here at home with her family (mum sister and brother)Oh yeah and me the wicked stepdad lol... who love her to bits! Why?????

cos shes a kid mate. I know how shite I thought life was back then an I recon id feel it even more so today. An just cos your not her biological dad doesn't mean you feel any less for her in fact in my mind it proves how much you do feel for her. For a start your her step dad because you want to be I mean any 2 bit prick can father a child it takes a real man to be a real dad so stop knocking yourself if your anything like the dad I am your pure gold"

Thankyou! yes to me she is my daughter as i've been with her mum Sammi for the last 10 years making her 5yrs old when i met her, and yes we have our fall outs just like anyone else but hurt her and you hurt me! Now she's hurting and i feel useless and cant do anything to protect/comfort her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing is to remember this is about her. I understand the pain you and the rest of the family must be feeling but this is her cry for help and she will need calm understanding. Any panic could be a barrier to her opening up and to be quite honest, due to the fact this has happened, the strange hospital is probably the best place for her.

When I was in, there were many other patients who went around thinking they were in prison when really they needed help and nursing. Please try to assure her that however confined she may feel in there, the staff will always be doing their best to monitor, assess and find the right course of treatment for her.

Any wish on your part for her to come home quickly will detract from that. Reassure her that you all love her and care for her and that home will be there for when she is released but to try and trust, open to and discuss with the hospital staff who can seem detached and scary. They have a tough time doing their job and I know from my experience that putting myself in their hands helped me and them immensely.

I cannot emphasise this enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry about your daughter big hugs and prayers to her and your family. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Billy you let your steam out here and then when she needs you, you will be ready to help each other through this difficult time

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Like I said a real dad. Now get your shit together starting with slinging that bottle its making your job harder right now. Go to bed even if you can't sleep its better than drinking an wasting time on here an if you think about it that's the only posible option you have. What's that did you ask why ? Because YOUR doughter needs her dad. Now in the nicest posible way mate fuck off you've work to do tomorrow

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One thing is to remember this is about her. I understand the pain you and the rest of the family must be feeling but this is her cry for help and she will need calm understanding. Any panic could be a barrier to her opening up and to be quite honest, due to the fact this has happened, the strange hospital is probably the best place for her.

When I was in, there were many other patients who went around thinking they were in prison when really they needed help and nursing. Please try to assure her that however confined she may feel in there, the staff will always be doing their best to monitor, assess and find the right course of treatment for her.

Any wish on your part for her to come home quickly will detract from that. Reassure her that you all love her and care for her and that home will be there for when she is released but to try and trust, open to and discuss with the hospital staff who can seem detached and scary. They have a tough time doing their job and I know from my experience that putting myself in their hands helped me and them immensely.

I cannot emphasise this enough. "

we know what you are saying we have told the staff we do not want her at home until she is ready to come home and gets herself sorted out! Like i said before i've been in the same position myself many many years ago and know deep down she is in the best place at the moment its just as parents we dont want to see her in such a position and yes we feel as if we've let her down somehow! that we didnt see the warning signs but you never think its gonna happen to one of your own it always seems to be something you read about or hear happenong to other peoples kids!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we know what you are saying we have told the staff we do not want her at home until she is ready to come home and gets herself sorted out! Like i said before i've been in the same position myself many many years ago and know deep down she is in the best place at the moment its just as parents we dont want to see her in such a position and yes we feel as if we've let her down somehow! that we didnt see the warning signs but you never think its gonna happen to one of your own it always seems to be something you read about or hear happenong to other peoples kids!"

Completely understand


"Like I said a real dad. Now get your shit together starting with slinging that bottle its making your job harder right now. Go to bed even if you can't sleep its better than drinking an wasting time on here an if you think about it that's the only posible option you have. What's that did you ask why ? Because YOUR doughter needs her dad. Now in the nicest posible way mate fuck off you've work to do tomorrow"

You make good antidotal, light sense of this my friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like I said a real dad. Now get your shit together starting with slinging that bottle its making your job harder right now. Go to bed even if you can't sleep its better than drinking an wasting time on here an if you think about it that's the only posible option you have. What's that did you ask why ? Because YOUR doughter needs her dad. Now in the nicest posible way mate fuck off you've work to do tomorrow "

He's right sweety, go bed your family will need you tomorrow xxx

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"although i dont pray (not a religious person) your step daughters welfare will be in my thoughts for the next few days.

it was a cry for help, and now those that may not have seen what she has been going through are now fully aware.

please dont just look at the negatives in that she tried to take her own life (suicide is such that, if it was meant to have happened, it would have been successful) but the positive in that, at least now you know she has been going through some form of personal turmoil that she has, up until now, felt she cannot share with yourselves.

now that it has come out, in the most horrific way imaginable, you can all come together, as a loving family, and help her defeat the demons that are making her life difficult.

good luck to you all.

i wish you all the best love and wishes i can muster.

xxx"

Couldn't of put it better! thinking of you all x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

best wishes for you and your daughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like I said a real dad. Now get your shit together starting with slinging that bottle its making your job harder right now. Go to bed even if you can't sleep its better than drinking an wasting time on here an if you think about it that's the only posible option you have. What's that did you ask why ? Because YOUR doughter needs her dad. Now in the nicest posible way mate fuck off you've work to do tomorrow "

Good luck to you all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wanted to say forget politics and hatred of any kind! Make the most of life while you can and enjoy it! Tonight my 15yr old daughter lies in a hospital bed after trying to cut her wrists! I am torn to pieces as her stepdad and after reading some of the recent forum posts it's got me thinking life's too short for fucking around and causing grief ! Please people spread love not hatred etc! I also ask you pray for my daughter! Thankyou fellow fabswingers! Remember we get but one chance at life! Cling to it.

Billy"

my thoughts and prays are with you and your family at this time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best wishes

This is a tough time but stay strong and you will get through this

Take care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending you and your family my love, it's really tough but hopefully she can now get the help she needs. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The very best of luck for your daughter, she is in the best place. we wish her well.

Its not always easy to see the warning signs. Hindsight is a wonderfull thing. Its in the open now and can be dealt with, she has the support of a loveing family.

Youre not just a step dad, youre dad.

Be strong. Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It all seems to be so much harder for kids these days, so much pressure.

My thoughts are with you all xx "

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

My thoughts are with you all. With your support I'm sure whatever the problems are for her they can now start to be worked through. I really feel for her, it's tough when you hit that bad place, but from my experience the only way to go from being so low is upwards. Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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now that it has come out, in the most horrific way imaginable, you can all come together, as a loving family, and help her defeat the demons that are making her life difficult.

xxx

I don't want my baby going through this! i've been there myself in the past myself, done it and got the tee shirt! she's never done anything to hurt anyone so why has it happened to her when there are total asholes out there who deserve to be punished and have made other peoples lives a total misery but yet they get away scot free! and my baby is the one who is suffering! I'm a non practising irish catholic but right now i'm questioning is there really a god out there! and if there is why make innocent people suffer??? Sorry just need to let off some steam somewhere!

Billy

"

He saved her and now she's being looked after. Have faith. Hugs to you all. xx

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

wishing you and your family all the very best !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope she makes a full recovery physically and mentally...and wish the family well x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive thoughts sent your way. Wish your daughter a speedy recovery and I hope you all get the help and support needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my thoughts are with you and all your family. this is very close to my heart as my brother succeeded with his suicide attempt in august, and I know how hard it can be and all the questions that you will need answers to.

she will get the help she needs now and with your love and support will begin to see things aren't as bad as she thinks.

be strong, and be understanding is my advice xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry for what has happened to ur daughter I hope she makes a speedy recovery and I know u and ur partner will look after her in every way u can good luck hun thinking of u all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking of your family OP and daughter, it is I hope a turning point for her and I hope she gets the help she needs.

Life is hard but I agree hold on closely to the ones you love, never give up and don't let go.

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wishing your daughter a speedy recovery from her physical and emotional injuries. My thoughts, and for what they are worth these days, my prayers are with you all. Shout if you need anything. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very sorry to hear this, best wishes to you all xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im so sorry to hear this billy hope she gets well soon

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

Much love, sympathy and good vibes sent your way. I have 2 teen age sons and well remember the emotional agony I felt at that age. Glad she has a loving parent like you who can help her recover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind off puts thinks into perspective

My heart goes out to her, and yourselves, sending love and positivity your way x

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

My thoughts go to you all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my life so far 3close friends have taken there lives so I feel for you

Take care all on fab are with you

X

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By *illycarrolCouple
over a year ago

n/cle on tyne


"I'm just shot to pieces and dont know what to do! she's only a kid for fuck sake with her whole life infront of her yet tonight i had to leave her in a strange hospital bed when she should be here at home with her family (mum sister and brother)Oh yeah and me the wicked stepdad lol... who love her to bits! Why?????

cos shes a kid mate. I know how shite I thought life was back then an I recon id feel it even more so today. An just cos your not her biological dad doesn't mean you feel any less for her in fact in my mind it proves how much you do feel for her. For a start your her step dad because you want to be I mean any 2 bit prick can father a child it takes a real man to be a real dad so stop knocking yourself if your anything like the dad I am your pure gold"
my sentiments exactly all the best billy to you and your family ,this post proves there are some lovely ,caring,thoughtful, people on here

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By *lentyoffun40Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

After working with numerous young people who self harm

I can empathise how stressful it must be as a parent

My best advice is just to be constant and listen without trying to say "don't do this again"

I went on some training regarding self harm and it really opened my eyes

Maybe it would be an idea to try and find something like this ...

May sound extreme but it will really help you understand it and definitely help you to deal with it appropriately

Best wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best wishes for you and your family, billie. Of course there's overwhelming turmoil now, but at least something can be done about your daughter's problems.

Get some sleep. You'll need all your energy.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I'm just shot to pieces and dont know what to do! she's only a kid for fuck sake with her whole life infront of her yet tonight i had to leave her in a strange hospital bed when she should be here at home with her family (mum sister and brother)Oh yeah and me the wicked stepdad lol... who love her to bits! Why?????

cos shes a kid mate. I know how shite I thought life was back then an I recon id feel it even more so today. An just cos your not her biological dad doesn't mean you feel any less for her in fact in my mind it proves how much you do feel for her. For a start your her step dad because you want to be I mean any 2 bit prick can father a child it takes a real man to be a real dad so stop knocking yourself if your anything like the dad I am your pure gold my sentiments exactly all the best billy to you and your family ,this post proves there are some lovely ,caring,thoughtful, people on here"

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

all the best to your daughter, you and the rest of your family

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

One of my grandfathers used to always tell me too grab life with both hands and shake your future out of it. I myself believe you gently guide your future out of life.

Hope your step daughter recovers well. All you can give is love, patience, understanding and a ear for when she is ready and wants to talk.

Much love to all your family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Billy you let your steam out here and then when she needs you, you will be ready to help each other through this difficult time"

This...^^^^^

Thoughts and prayers with you all at this difficult time.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts and prayers are with you Billy and your family xx

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

Thinking of you all at this time. I hope you all find the support and help you need to be strong for each other during the recovery ahead. X Elie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After working with numerous young people who self harm

I can empathise how stressful it must be as a parent

My best advice is just to be constant and listen without trying to say "don't do this again"

I went on some training regarding self harm and it really opened my eyes

Maybe it would be an idea to try and find something like this ...

May sound extreme but it will really help you understand it and definitely help you to deal with it appropriately

Best wishes "

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon

I'm glad the forum was here for you, as ever talking about things alleviates some of the anger, hurt, and fear.

And a big thanks to you for reminding us that no matter how seemingly secure, comfy, fulfilling our lives might be the ceiling can fall in on us without warning, leaving us unprepared and bewildered.

If there are any positives coming out of these awful experiences is that it perhaps teaches us humility, and tolerance of people's situations where we might previously have judged.

Stay strong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My heart goes out to you all. Can I suggest getting in touch with an organisation like Sane, they probably have counsellors you could speak to now and are geared as much for supportong families as they are survivors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2wheels just pointed me in the direction of this post. My heart goes out to all of you, her friends and loved ones.

I took a huge overdose aged 14 and the doctors don't understand how I survived.

From my experience, right now she just needs a big hug and lots of love. I realise it's hard to understand or even begin to contemplate her reasons for doing such a drastic thing but right now, if she's like I was she will be feeling a lot of guilt and she will feel more vulnerable now than what she did before as her feelings are more exposed.

I don't want to lecture or preach about how you should both talk to her or what to talk about but please do message me or say here if you want me to talk more about my experience, how it made me feel and how I wished things were handled by my parents. I don't mind discussing things about myself openly if it'll help others.

Thinking of you both and your daughter.

crystal

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"2wheels just pointed me in the direction of this post. My heart goes out to all of you, her friends and loved ones.

I took a huge overdose aged 14 and the doctors don't understand how I survived.

From my experience, right now she just needs a big hug and lots of love. I realise it's hard to understand or even begin to contemplate her reasons for doing such a drastic thing but right now, if she's like I was she will be feeling a lot of guilt and she will feel more vulnerable now than what she did before as her feelings are more exposed.

I don't want to lecture or preach about how you should both talk to her or what to talk about but please do message me or say here if you want me to talk more about my experience, how it made me feel and how I wished things were handled by my parents. I don't mind discussing things about myself openly if it'll help others.

Thinking of you both and your daughter.

crystal"

a beautiful post: it oozes genuine support and kindness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a geat shame it takes a jolt to make us see whats important. We had it with a health situation a few years ago.

Puts everything into perspective.

Honestly send you all good wishes and hope Daughter recovers ASAP and any issues are dealt with decisivly and completely.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

My sympathies. My husband put our daughter on the bus, phoned me to say she should be home in half an hour. Ten minutes later I got a call from Maudsley our local mental health hospital to say ny daughter had walked in. The hospital was the next stop from where her dad had put her on.

I was confused, what was she doing there? I phoned my ex and we met at the hospital: at this time they sent us across the road to King's A&E where she was.

Her body was a network of cuts, even her wrists. It was a nightmare time she was sectioned, allowed out for her 16th birthday then back in again.

This was a total shock to the whole family, we didn't have a clue she was struggling, we felt such failures.

Fast forward six years and my daughter is working towards her masters, medication free, no longer self harming and freely talks about that time as the scars on her arms are visible with a loving boyfriend.

Things can work out with love and support: trust it works out for your family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really hope to god she get over this and live a life and be happy mind and body .. And I hope she will get the help she need . We worry about things without saying a lot and keep them inside and when it all get to much to handle people do things like this .....Did you know she was low or did she covered it all up some do for years .? And I hope you have people you can chat too as well as things like this you need people who you can off load your worries on ...... and if not samaritans are there 24/7 I was one for years and would if I needed help .. I hope we here better new about her soon I really do x kisses and ((hugs)) jo xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wanted to say forget politics and hatred of any kind! Make the most of life while you can and enjoy it! Tonight my 15yr old daughter lies in a hospital bed after trying to cut her wrists! I am torn to pieces as her stepdad and after reading some of the recent forum posts it's got me thinking life's too short for fucking around and causing grief ! Please people spread love not hatred etc! I also ask you pray for my daughter! Thankyou fellow fabswingers! Remember we get but one chance at life! Cling to it.

Billy"

Oh blimey billy

thoughts are with you at this time and i hope it all works out well .

xxxxx

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Love and hugs to u all xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family from across the pond.

June and Lee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a beautiful post: it oozes genuine support and kindness"

Thank you _iew-As others have said, I hope she has a speedy recovery back to good physical and mental health.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

UPDATE: Fisrtly we would both like to thank everyone for their kind words of comfort and support!

Our daughter is alot brighter and calmer today and she has been assessed by CAMHS, they are keeping her in over the weekend and going to re assess her again on Monday with a _iew to coming home!

Thanks again everyone and we will ofcourse keep all the well wishers informed of any progress

S&B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am so pleased she is going to be ok and with the specialist help she will be fine x thinking of you all x

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"UPDATE: Fisrtly we would both like to thank everyone for their kind words of comfort and support!

Our daughter is alot brighter and calmer today and she has been assessed by CAMHS, they are keeping her in over the weekend and going to re assess her again on Monday with a _iew to coming home!

Thanks again everyone and we will ofcourse keep all the well wishers informed of any progress

S&B"

phew lets all keep our fingers crossed for a good old happy ending and im glad you've obviously as I crudely put it last night got your shit together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree and posted a thread just like this a while ago. Good luck to you and your family xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"UPDATE: Fisrtly we would both like to thank everyone for their kind words of comfort and support!

Our daughter is alot brighter and calmer today and she has been assessed by CAMHS, they are keeping her in over the weekend and going to re assess her again on Monday with a _iew to coming home!

Thanks again everyone and we will ofcourse keep all the well wishers informed of any progress

S&B"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"UPDATE: Fisrtly we would both like to thank everyone for their kind words of comfort and support!

Our daughter is alot brighter and calmer today and she has been assessed by CAMHS, they are keeping her in over the weekend and going to re assess her again on Monday with a _iew to coming home!

Thanks again everyone and we will ofcourse keep all the well wishers informed of any progress

S&B"

Lovely news and i hope things work out ok for her.

Ive been where she is ,so know the trauma to the family.

so all the best for all of you xx

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Sending hugs and I hope you get through this together quickly xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

UPDATE: 23rd Sept

Hi folks, just to let you all know that our daughter has been discharged from hospital today and starts her counselling courses next Monday!

Yes we are only too well aware that this is only the start of the uphill battle for both our daughter and ourselves but atleast it's a step in the right direction and its great to have her home again!

Once more Sammi and myself would like to thank all those who posted on here and sent us private messsages of support and well wishes!

We will keep you all posted on how things progress.

S&B

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Great news was only just thinking I wonder how things where going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the update...

Thoughts and prayers that each day will be a step in the right direction..

Good luck...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"UPDATE: 23rd Sept

Hi folks, just to let you all know that our daughter has been discharged from hospital today and starts her counselling courses next Monday!

Yes we are only too well aware that this is only the start of the uphill battle for both our daughter and ourselves but atleast it's a step in the right direction and its great to have her home again!

Once more Sammi and myself would like to thank all those who posted on here and sent us private messsages of support and well wishes!

We will keep you all posted on how things progress.

S&B"

Thats great news

and from now it will be baby steps but im sure as each day passes, she will improve.

She has great support

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou!

S&B

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Now the work begins, but with love and support of each other you'll get there.

Good luck to you all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 2 girls 15 an 12 they both overdosed last yr 1 in october then in december they both done it again,down to bullies at school that carry it on through face book an bbm.my life is still upside down,eldist not in school since it happend an youngest half days an again feeling suicidle.the world is an evil place an bullies r cowards who kill with nasty words,but denie it when challenged.my kids find it hard to open up face to face so now iv worked out if they have a problem or feel low we watts app each other to talk it through,so far its stopped 2 more attemps at there lives.wish folk would think before there evil tongues do damage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres a web site the babie can go on if she needs it called kooth.com its worth a look urselfs ,gives a little hope an understanding into y an how to move forward ,my heart bleeds for u having bin there,i send u all the love in the world ,be strong an tell ur babie her life is worth so much more than a bullie xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

FINAL UPDATE: 17th Oct

Just to let all our well wishers know as promised, things here seem to have settled down and our daughter is doing well at the moment!

For one last time a big thankyou so much to everyone who posted here, privately PM'ed us etc.

All you messages have helped us through this hard time!

God bless you all.

Sammi and Billy

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FINAL UPDATE: 17th Oct

Just to let all our well wishers know as promised, things here seem to have settled down and our daughter is doing well at the moment!

For one last time a big thankyou so much to everyone who posted here, privately PM'ed us etc.

All you messages have helped us through this hard time!

God bless you all.

Sammi and Billy

xx"

Good to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

glad things are returning to some form of normality.

at least now you know your daughter has issues and you are able to help her moving forward, and she doesnt feel she needs to 'cry for help' as it were.

congrats to all concerned and give her our love

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

have only just seen this and my heart goes out to you all. I pray that she gets all the help she needs to get better and sending you both strength

Life is indeed precious x

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"FINAL UPDATE: 17th Oct

Just to let all our well wishers know as promised, things here seem to have settled down and our daughter is doing well at the moment!

For one last time a big thankyou so much to everyone who posted here, privately PM'ed us etc.

All you messages have helped us through this hard time!

God bless you all.

Sammi and Billy

xx"

so pleased to hear that .. best wishes.

i was in the same sort of position with my daughter shes still sectioned years later so i understand how you feel

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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I'm very glad things are improving for you all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wanted to say forget politics and hatred of any kind! Make the most of life while you can and enjoy it! Tonight my 15yr old daughter lies in a hospital bed after trying to cut her wrists! I am torn to pieces as her stepdad and after reading some of the recent forum posts it's got me thinking life's too short for fucking around and causing grief ! Please people spread love not hatred etc! I also ask you pray for my daughter! Thankyou fellow fabswingers! Remember we get but one chance at life! Cling to it.

Billy"

Shouldn't u be by her side instead of posting on a sex site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

glad things are on the up xx

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By *orny69pussyCouple
over a year ago

Tonbridge

Thinking and praying for you and your family.. especially for her to be able to express what compelled her to do this, and that you can help her through it.

My beloved 12yo cat died this morning and I nearly posted it on the forums.. but something told me not to.. now I know why!

This is just the start of a long journey of recovery for her, and therefore you too.

Love and hugs to you all.. make this bring your family together and not let it tear you apart!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wanted to say forget politics and hatred of any kind! Make the most of life while you can and enjoy it! Tonight my 15yr old daughter lies in a hospital bed after trying to cut her wrists! I am torn to pieces as her stepdad and after reading some of the recent forum posts it's got me thinking life's too short for fucking around and causing grief ! Please people spread love not hatred etc! I also ask you pray for my daughter! Thankyou fellow fabswingers! Remember we get but one chance at life! Cling to it.

Billy

Shouldn't u be by her side instead of posting on a sex site "
If this helped her in her hours of need .. I am glad she could here on fab and get this off her chest and off load as it helps to chat. x Its a very special site not just sex site.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"Thinking and praying for you and your family.. especially for her to be able to express what compelled her to do this, and that you can help her through it.

My beloved 12yo cat died this morning and I nearly posted it on the forums.. but something told me not to.. now I know why!

This is just the start of a long journey of recovery for her, and therefore you too.

Love and hugs to you all.. make this bring your family together and not let it tear you apart!!

"

sorry to hear about your cat hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wanted to say forget politics and hatred of any kind! Make the most of life while you can and enjoy it! Tonight my 15yr old daughter lies in a hospital bed after trying to cut her wrists! I am torn to pieces as her stepdad and after reading some of the recent forum posts it's got me thinking life's too short for fucking around and causing grief ! Please people spread love not hatred etc! I also ask you pray for my daughter! Thankyou fellow fabswingers! Remember we get but one chance at life! Cling to it.

Billy

Shouldn't u be by her side instead of posting on a sex site If this helped her in her hours of need .. I am glad she could here on fab and get this off her chest and off load as it helps to chat. x Its a very special site not just sex site."
And it was Billy who posted so I am glad he felt he could here.. why I love FAB XX Its a mix and that's life for you. xx

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By *orny69pussyCouple
over a year ago

Tonbridge


"Thinking and praying for you and your family.. especially for her to be able to express what compelled her to do this, and that you can help her through it.

My beloved 12yo cat died this morning and I nearly posted it on the forums.. but something told me not to.. now I know why!

This is just the start of a long journey of recovery for her, and therefore you too.

Love and hugs to you all.. make this bring your family together and not let it tear you apart!!

sorry to hear about your cat hugs"

Thanks He's still lying here in front of me wrapped in a towel.. looks like he's sleeping and soppy. Should be buried in the next hour or so in the garden.. with a paving slab on top so the dog don't dig him up. Can't stop crying tho

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