FabSwingers.com forum: Irrelevant Criticising !!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I for one love the forums ... Always an interesting thread and some good fun here... But I'm puzzled ... Some people are more interested in criticising the OP than they are on answering the question !!!

..... Is it just me (because I'm a grumpy old bag at the moment) or do others think some people are given a hard time for no good reason ? ....... Ok hard hat and body armour on .... Fire away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally by some. But there are some strange folk on here

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Being able to get away with it, if they tried it down the pub they would probably get twatted

Or an inability to get their point across in a decent way whilst typing

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

It's all about the trolls and lols. Don't go changin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yer I think you are right !!! Sometime I just wanna say "give him\her a break" have done a few times !

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By *hocksandmissusCouple
over a year ago

Chester-ish

have to agree like in every other part of life there will always be some small minded idiots that have to do the best to spoil things mind I do feel sorry for these ppl as there lives must be so uninteresting that the only enjoyment they get is trying to ruin others fun xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dare I mention the C word?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dare I mention the C word?

ooooh ill have a cuppa now you've memtioned it

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

It's the newbies I feel for....first forum post and they get slaughtered! the trolls are just obviously well being trolls lol but some of the regular forumites can be very hard on anyone new

People forget that we all started somewhere...be welcoming and friendly peeps!

Mrs Dirty

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"It's the newbies I feel for....first forum post and they get slaughtered! the trolls are just obviously well being trolls lol but some of the regular forumites can be very hard on anyone new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dare I mention the C word?

Noooooooooooo...!!!

Minxie is out for the day...

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

Your not wrong. When I first started posting here I was appalled at what I felt was venom directed at me for really no good reason. Advice to ignore that did sink in and now I'm so annoying I gave those fuckers a reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your not wrong. When I first started posting here I was appalled at what I felt was venom directed at me for really no good reason. Advice to ignore that did sink in and now I'm so annoying I gave those fuckers a reason

Haha I love that !!!! You go girl !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But we wuvs ya anyway.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the newbies I feel for....first forum post and they get slaughtered! the trolls are just obviously well being trolls lol but some of the regular forumites can be very hard on anyone new

Thumbs up from the wench who threatens all newbies wiv a flipflop...

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"It's the newbies I feel for....first forum post and they get slaughtered! the trolls are just obviously well being trolls lol but some of the regular forumites can be very hard on anyone new

Thumbs up from the wench who threatens all newbies wiv a flipflop...

"
Shut ya cakeole you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the newbies I feel for....first forum post and they get slaughtered! the trolls are just obviously well being trolls lol but some of the regular forumites can be very hard on anyone new

Thumbs up from the wench who threatens all newbies wiv a flipflop...

Shut ya cakeole you...

Yes miss...!!!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes I do....

There are a few that seem to just sit and wait ready to pounce on any little thing.

There is a big difference between offering advice and ripping someone to shreds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to stick up for posters every now and then, and sometimes get torn into a crap-fest myself for sticking up.

Those types are on my blocklist so fuxk them.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I try to stick up for posters every now and then, and sometimes get torn into a crap-fest myself for sticking up.

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Fuck me, you are well subtle then.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Yes I do....

There are a few that seem to just sit and wait ready to pounce on any little thing.

There is a big difference between offering advice and ripping someone to shreds."

I agree with this. Sometimes you can predict that it will be a negative post when you see who has written it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to stick up for posters every now and then,ford sometimes get torn into a crap-fest myself for sticking up.

Fuck me, you are well subtle then.

I do and will put my balls are on the line and stick up for said person (s) if someone is getting ripped to shreds for no apparent reason.

Definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the saddest twats are the ones who have no sensible answer to the post, and criticise the poster's profile instead. Shows a definite lack of intelligence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There do appear to be a few who regularly only post negatively, criticise the OP and thread topic, yet never seem to start any threads of there own, interesting, stupid, banal or otherwise.

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By *anyoufeelmeMan
over a year ago

near you

ive been on the receiving end of some of that negativity ..

good news the rest of the thread ( in the main ) was on my side therefore it can be touchy but we should be free enough to ask question or make statements without feeling stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dare I mention the C word?

ooooh ill have a cuppa now you've memtioned it

make mine a tea then I will be sorted for a good bitching session

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I'm amazed by the small minded opinions of people on here considering we're supposed to be a lot more liberal then the average joe. When I first joined I got into a few arguements that pissed me off and decided to quit the forums. After awhile I thought screw it and returned but am more thoughtful about posts I reply to, avoid the powder keg topics and just do snog, fuck or pass ones instead

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By *anyoufeelmeMan
over a year ago

near you

lol dear you say you wouldn't fuck me ... why not ... whats wrong with me ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" !!!

..... D"

Only 3 exclamation marks against 5 full stops!!!!! How unbalanced can you get.....

Sorry what was the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones that amuse me are those that only seem to post* to tell the rest of us what we should and shouldnt be thinking and doing. Right, thats gonna work ain't it?

(*Mods excepted)

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By *anyoufeelmeMan
over a year ago

near you

" !!!

..... D

Only 3 exclamation marks against 5 full stops!!!!! How unbalanced can you get.....

Sorry what was the question

who ever said i was balanced

*** Love - You*** ... lots !!!

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By *upitersmileCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Was certainly more lighthearted a year or so back and the serious threads were much less judgemental.

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By *omeBiCouple
over a year ago

Central Belt

Stupid pointless thread

;)

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By *anyoufeelmeMan
over a year ago

near you

nasty nasty ... now dont spit your dummy out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was certainly more lighthearted a year or so back and the serious threads were much less judgemental. "

I disagree, also depends who is posting at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends what the original post is. Yes sometimes I think people go on a crusade against the OP somewhat unfairly. However if the post is something like

"I've been on this site for 6 months now trying to cheat on my wife and nobody will help me. Why?"

"Even the dogs and the fat girls on here wont fuck me, what's with that?"

then I think they're asking for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And not to forget those who deliberately try and wind the forumites up with inane postings...

But do agree that some newbies get unjust aggro.......

leave them alone folks, we were all new once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess it depends what the original post is. Yes sometimes I think people go on a crusade against the OP somewhat unfairly. However if the post is something like

"I've been on this site for 6 months now trying to cheat on my wife and nobody will help me. Why?"

"Even the dogs and the fat girls on here wont fuck me, what's with that?"

then I think they're asking for it!"

So, by the same token is someone who posts "I'm 20 stone, i cant stop shoving cake and mars bars in me gob, yet i cant seem to lose weight, please help" also asking for it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally, there are also some really shitty moods going around lately and the forums are a great place - just like anywhere else online - for the faceless and placeless keyboard warriors to take it out on others.

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

"Was certainly more lighthearted a year or so back and the serious threads were much less judgemental. "

In hindsight last years were worse, much more political

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I for one love the forums ... Always an interesting thread and some good fun here... But I'm puzzled ... Some people are more interested in criticising the OP than they are on answering the question !!!

..... Is it just me (because I'm a grumpy old bag at the moment) or do others think some people are given a hard time for no good reason ? ....... Ok hard hat and body armour on .... Fire away

I for one am glad you posted this thread. I don't come on much but when I do I mostly see blatant negativity amongst the Forums for no good reason at all and it's frustrating and disappointing. There are, sadly, a few cliques operating on here and it's never tackled at all, from what I've seen so far anyway.

Infact it seems to be the opposite at times i.e. sometimes a thread gets dire with people ganging up against the OP then the good guys come along and speak up and speak out against it.. then what happens? "Thread closed by moderator". So seemingly it's mostly ok for Forum users to have to put up with negativity from established forumites but once there's a backlash the situation changes and the thread gets closed?!

People.. where's the balanced fairness here? The balance to me seems to be way over on the negative side to me.. very disappointing to say the least.

"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all" That's my favourite quote, it's from Bambi. Read it and understand it.. good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..... Is it just me (because I'm a grumpy old bag at the moment) or do others think some people are given a hard time for no good reason ? ....... Ok hard hat and body armour on .... Fire away

People.. where's the balanced fairness here? The balance to me seems to be way over on the negative side to me.. very disappointing to say the least.

"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all" That's my favourite quote, it's from Bambi. Read it and understand it.. good luck.

With a cock like yours you can say anything and I will listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahahahahahahaha thanks

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

As usual,

your all talking piss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As usual,

your all talking piss.

given half a chance x (_O_)

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Just a thought, but is it at all possible that the "good guys" who've defended newbies or those being picked on have reported posts thus alerting the Mods to bullying behaviour on a thread which in turn means the thread gets closed? I know that's happened when I've reported nasty posts and appealed against the pack mentality that sometimes happens - I'd like to think I'm the (if not good, then at least reasonable) guy on a few occasions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i fully agree x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive noticed 2 with saying that like to put there input in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a possibility and to be very honest here, I do my best to report people when I feels it's justified but to date none of the Threads I've reported about have ended up getting closed. Honestly now again I'm not just saying that to help reinforce the point I tried to make earlier (above) and this is also a factor in my annoyance with the carry on around here.

This is the internet I know, not a Democracy. But some people really should wind their distasteful necks in as there's no need to slate someone for no good reason... cioa for now x

"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will find with any forum there will be long standing posters who think they own the place and will bully the majority of new people which in turn puts them off posting.

This is actually one of the nicer ones.

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

"You will find with any forum there will be long standing posters who think they own the place and will bully the majority of new people which in turn puts them off posting.

This is actually one of the nicer ones. "

I bet some of these long standing posters font even realise how negative they are. They are well liked by the core group and so get away with it. I think dome people should check their posts and she see if maybe they are not being a tad more negative than they thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also sometimes does my head in when you have an opinion and then you are given crap for posting it when that is the whole point you were asked to post it

Some people see this as life and there are some odd bods

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also sometimes does my head in when you have an opinion and then you are given crap for posting it when that is the whole point you were asked to post it

Some people see this as life and there are some odd bods "

Or you genuinely seek advice and people seem to take that as an opportunity to dictate how you should live yours.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

as usual these types of threads point fingers at the actions of others, if people ask me for my opinion I will give it straight and I dont change depending on the gender of the person and I do not go around fluttering flittering and joining in the love ins... not my thing but what others chose to do is cool. It has irritated me in the past but who am I to dictate what others do. I have learnt a lot over the years.

yeah I probably have at times ripped into someone, I have been punished for it and have mostly taken it on the chin. I do not join in the hunting in a pack but what I do see, they ain't exclusive to the longest serving forumites.

it's an adult site, I try to behave like an adult and take adult responsibility for my actions... at least I put my hand up

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"it's an adult site, I try to behave like an adult and take adult responsibility for my actions... at least I put my hand up

Yobro! There is a fisting thread for this type of shizzle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dare I mention the C word?

Noooooooooooo...!!!

Minxie is out for the day...

But I am back now .............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the irrelevant criticising bit stems from people more interested in making a noise than joining the discussion - and there's a lot of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as usual these types of threads point fingers at the actions of others, if people ask me for my opinion I will give it straight and I dont change depending on the gender of the person and I do not go around fluttering flittering and joining in the love ins... not my thing but what others chose to do is cool. It has irritated me in the past but who am I to dictate what others do. I have learnt a lot over the years.

it's an adult site, I try to behave like an adult and take adult responsibility for my actions... at least I put my hand up

Well done and well said because opinions on a certain topic is the basis of a lot of threads yet they get abused by people with no actual interest in contributing on the subject itself. They just wade in on purpose with their crap and disrupt what is sometimes a serious discussion.. ruining it for the more sensible and composed people looking for an answer to something or for genuine advice on something important to them.

"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it's an adult site, I try to behave like an adult and take adult responsibility for my actions... at least I put my hand up

Yobro! There is a fisting thread for this type of shizzle.

hahaha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I hate.......the band wagon,no one reads,no one listens they just follow the herd because they can only think en masse and are scared to stand alone incase they get run over by said band wagon when it changes direction

Other than that I love the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are quite a few examples of irrelevant or unnecessary criticising on the free school dinners thread. Some people just seem unable to respond to a simple question without having a go at others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..... Is it just me (because I'm a grumpy old bag at the moment) or do others think some people are given a hard time for no good reason ? ....... Ok hard hat and body armour on .... Fire away

You couldnt be more right and you have a right to be grumpy about it. It's an absolute clusterfuck of condescension here lately.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

..... Is it just me (because I'm a grumpy old bag at the moment) or do others think some people are given a hard time for no good reason ? ....... Ok hard hat and body armour on .... Fire away

I would say that any newbie's first post is a little like 'Baptism of Fire'. From my own experience it often stems from the fact that most new forumaites do not read the Forum rules nor use the Forum search to see if their subject has already been discussed a zillion times.

I also believe that criticism and desire to be provocative depends a lot on WHO is online at the time the thread goes up!

I hope I have answered your question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..... Is it just me (because I'm a grumpy old bag at the moment) or do others think some people are given a hard time for no good reason ? ....... Ok hard hat and body armour on .... Fire away

I also believe that criticism and desire to be provocative depends a lot on WHO is online at the time the thread goes up!

I hope I have answered your question

But why should it matter if a question has been asked before? If the longstanding members find them boring then why do they respond. Personally, I find the snog, marry, avoid threads really dull and there are tons of those but I just ignore them. I dont go on there and rant that its all been seen/heard before. This is a forum for all not just the select few x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What I hate.......the band wagon,no one reads,no one listens they just follow the herd because they can only think en masse and are scared to stand alone incase they get run over by said band wagon when it changes direction

Other than that I love the forums

The benefit of the herd is you don't have to think at all - just jump when you're told.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are quite a few examples of irrelevant or unnecessary criticising on the free school dinners thread. Some people just seem unable to respond to a simple question without having a go at others. "

Its not irrelevant criticism though is it, its all related to the subject.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

..... Is it just me (because I'm a grumpy old bag at the moment) or do others think some people are given a hard time for no good reason ? ....... Ok hard hat and body armour on .... Fire away

I also believe that criticism and desire to be provocative depends a lot on WHO is online at the time the thread goes up!

I hope I have answered your question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are quite a few examples of irrelevant or unnecessary criticising on the free school dinners thread. Some people just seem unable to respond to a simple question without having a go at others.

Its not irrelevant criticism though is it, its all related to the subject."

Actually, the original question was whether free school dinners was a good or bad idea. Some people veered very far from that question and began criticising people for using breakfast clubs/childcare. So yeah, I would say a lot of posts were irrelevant!! Some people on here just enjoy criticising/making inflammatory/derogatory remarks for no apparent reason. Anyway, must get on, need to make tea!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are quite a few examples of irrelevant or unnecessary criticising on the free school dinners thread. Some people just seem unable to respond to a simple question without having a go at others.

Its not irrelevant criticism though is it, its all related to the subject."

I've had a read and that's definitely not the case as you say it is. Not nit-picking myself here but when I see the "keepers of the moral high ground crew" at work like they are in there I can't see how someone could turn around and say "it's all related to the subject" like you have.

"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all"

I know this strangely on topic for an off topic post... but please can you change your tag line every time I read it my head explodes! the double negative for some reason is driving me even further round the bend

If you can't say something nice, say nothing at all

If you can't say something nice, shut up

If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all

would all leave me with some semblance of sanity, but "don't say nothing" is too much for me to cope with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all"

If you can't say something nice, say nothing at all

If you can't say something nice, shut up

If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all

would all leave me with some semblance of sanity, but "don't say nothing" is too much for me to cope with

Hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a quote from the Bambi movie if you were wondering where it's from x

Loves the Bambi movie

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Its true there are a few people on here whose only goal seems to be to criticise other posts, or post grumpy and irrelevant replies. But they tend to do that for ALL posts, not specific to one or two people, so it's easy to ignore them.

I've said this before, but compared to other forums this one is sweetness and light. The only way to get stuck in (hurr hurr) with posting on the forums is to just be yourself, and ignore the grumpy buggers and post hi-jackers. The squeaky wheel gets the grease!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are quite a few examples of irrelevant or unnecessary criticising on the free school dinners thread. Some people just seem unable to respond to a simple question without having a go at others.

Its not irrelevant criticism though is it, its all related to the subject.

"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all"

Wouldnt it be boring if everyone agreed with each other all the time.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Wouldnt it be boring if everyone agreed with each other all the time."

No!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are quite a few examples of irrelevant or unnecessary criticising on the free school dinners thread. Some people just seem unable to respond to a simple question without having a go at others.

Its not irrelevant criticism though is it, its all related to the subject.

"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all"

Wouldnt it be boring if everyone agreed with each other all the time."

There is a vast difference with disagreeing with somebody elses opinion and criticising or having a dig for no reason at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are quite a few examples of irrelevant or unnecessary criticising on the free school dinners thread. Some people just seem unable to respond to a simple question without having a go at others.

Its not irrelevant criticism though is it, its all related to the subject.

"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all"

Wouldnt it be boring if everyone agreed with each other all the time.

There is a vast difference with disagreeing with somebody elses opinion and criticising or having a dig for no reason at all"

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