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By *elmc1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

hello folks. this is my first post, so please be gentle. my profile is what it is, truthful. i know you hot couples and sexy single ladies must be inundated. but surely even a no ta isnt that hard. thank you. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hello folks. this is my first post, so please be gentle. my profile is what it is, truthful. i know you hot couples and sexy single ladies must be inundated. but surely even a no ta isnt that hard. thank you. x"

Sorry fella but the general consensus here is usually that no response is even easier lol unless you got a rant reply instead

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Welcome.

I'll be gentle and tell you to read other threads with the same or similar titles. Then read the site FAQs.

Have fun, join in and have patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a nut shell it saves them hassle.

Everyone loves a reply and some actually do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A synopsis of what you'll find:

Many do not like cock pics (so 3 is superfluous).

Text speak is a very big no no here in forum land so I suggest you amend that.

Due to text speak I didn't even read all the profile, but in case there are spelling errors, do use spell check.

No response to messages equates to a polite no thanks.

Welcome and good luck

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"hello folks. this is my first post, so please be gentle. my profile is what it is, truthful. i know you hot couples and sexy single ladies must be inundated. but surely even a no ta isnt that hard. thank you. x"

I read the profile before the message. If there's something on the profile I don't like I delete the message without reading: I'll leave it there.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"A synopsis of what you'll find:

Many do not like cock pics (so 3 is superfluous).

Text speak is a very big no no here in forum land so I suggest you amend that.

Due to text speak I didn't even read all the profile, but in case there are spelling errors, do use spell check.

No response to messages equates to a polite no thanks.

Welcome and good luck "

All of the above op.

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By *elmc1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Do'nt get me wrong im 45 i can cope with rejection. haha. but you do'nt even get a chance to prove your an ok fella. most just think your a fucking weird perv without a brain. xx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Do you send polite no thank you's to the men that send you messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you send polite no thank you's to the men that send you messages?"

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By *elmc1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

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By *elmc1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

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By *elmc1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Do you send polite no thank you's to the men that send you messages?

"
9 Out of 10 times yes. just a no thanks. but because im not on fuckbook or twatter, i probably have more time than most. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to respond with a polite 'no thanks' but got thoroughly fed up that some people did not understand and thought I was interested

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Do you send polite no thank you's to the men that send you messages?

9 Out of 10 times yes. just a no thanks. but because im not on fuckbook or twatter, i probably have more time than most. X "

Well good for you. Let's assume that 90% of the time those that you have messaged also reply with a no thanks. 10% of the time they don't. If you catch a run of being in the no response 10% to you it's going to feel like 90% no response and only 10% response.

There are so many factors at play that it's not worth considering.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I fail to understand the need for a thanks but no thanls message, the common denominator between

A message thats a polite no thanks,

a deleted message,

a message thats read but no reply

Is no meets,

My suggestion concentrate on the folks that do want to meet you give them your 100% attention, if you don t some smooth operator will,,

Good luck have fun,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you send polite no thank you's to the men that send you messages?

9 Out of 10 times yes. just a no thanks. but because im not on fuckbook or twatter, i probably have more time than most. X "

You could put filters up so men cannot contact you. Perhaps you secretly like the attention.

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By *elmc1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Thanks for the feedback folks. thought i might have been in for it with the fuckbook and twatter. sorry for not crediting you all with the intelligence you all obviously have. my apologies. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fully agree mate

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By *elmc1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Do you send polite no thank you's to the men that send you messages?

9 Out of 10 times yes. just a no thanks. but because im not on fuckbook or twatter, i probably have more time than most. X

You could put filters up so men cannot contact you. Perhaps you secretly like the attention."
Not really. but im a firm believer in each to there own. just because someone has different preferences to me, do'nt mean we can't find a topic to have a natter about. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much what everybody else said. I don't see what else i'd add

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Do'nt get me wrong im 45 i can cope with rejection. haha. but you do'nt even get a chance to prove your an ok fella. most just think your a fucking weird perv without a brain. xx"

But your profile text is written as though you are a yoof!

If you don't want messages from men then set your filters.

If you do want replies from women who don't write you off as a perv or worse as a numpty write in reasonably correct English. No u for you and no numbers inserted into the text.

Reconsider your pics: the forum consensus whenever cock pics are discussed is that women mostly prefer body shots with an occasional cock pic.

Finally before you send a message ensure you match the preferences of the woman/couple you are messaging - if they are only looking for 21 year old boy toys then no matter how horny their pics make you they won't even bother reading your message let alone checking out your profile.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile says no single men, so we don't even bother to reply. If you can't read, we don't reply.

We ALWAYS reply to couples. We know how it feels to get zero response to a polite, well thought out initial contact.

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By *elmc1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Do'nt get me wrong im 45 i can cope with rejection. haha. but you do'nt even get a chance to prove your an ok fella. most just think your a fucking weird perv without a brain. xx

But your profile text is written as though you are a yoof!

If you don't want messages from men then set your filters.

If you do want replies from women who don't write you off as a perv or worse as a numpty write in reasonably correct English. No u for you and no numbers inserted into the text.

Reconsider your pics: the forum consensus whenever cock pics are discussed is that women mostly prefer body shots with an occasional cock pic.

Finally before you send a message ensure you match the preferences of the woman/couple you are messaging - if they are only looking for 21 year old boy toys then no matter how horny their pics make you they won't even bother reading your message let alone checking out your profile.

Good luck."
Well said. ta bitch x. sorry im not calling you that. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you send polite no thank you's to the men that send you messages?

9 Out of 10 times yes. just a no thanks. but because im not on fuckbook or twatter, i probably have more time than most. X

You could put filters up so men cannot contact you. Perhaps you secretly like the attention. Not really. but im a firm believer in each to there own. just because someone has different preferences to me, do'nt mean we can't find a topic to have a natter about. xx "

B/S I've gone back and read the last sentence of your profile!

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By *elmc1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Do you send polite no thank you's to the men that send you messages?

9 Out of 10 times yes. just a no thanks. but because im not on fuckbook or twatter, i probably have more time than most. X

You could put filters up so men cannot contact you. Perhaps you secretly like the attention. Not really. but im a firm believer in each to there own. just because someone has different preferences to me, do'nt mean we can't find a topic to have a natter about. xx

B/S I've gone back and read the last sentence of your profile!"
Not b/s. just do'nt want to waste there time. if they message or wink me i will reply. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile isn't helping your chances on getting a reply. I like most if the others that have replied would at best sent a no thanks, but more then likely just delete your messages.

The forum golden rules for profile:-

1. One cock pic is ample, more and it puts people off,

2. No text speak and use a spell checker, use punctuation and don't write it all as one large block of text,

3. Don't include your phone number, it just makes you look desperate.

4. Use your mail filters to block the people you don't want to message you, rather then write it in your profile. Ranting about "no single guys" is off putting.

5. Loose anything to do with privacy e.g the Sydney university thing. Pointless waste of time.

6. No rants in your status. If you are bored with the site or thinking of leaving. Just do it, putting it on your status is seen as attention seeking and looking for "aww don't leave" type messages.

7. Humour in a profile is a double edged sword, what you think is funny other people won't.

And finally...your profile is your shop window to sell yourself. Always read your profile and ask yourself the question "would I want to meet me?" If it's a no, your profile isn't doing its job.

If you follow the golden rules & read the sites FAQs you'll have a much happier FAB time.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Your profile isn't helping your chances on getting a reply. I like most if the others that have replied would at best sent a no thanks, but more then likely just delete your messages.

The forum golden rules for profile:-

1. One cock pic is ample, more and it puts people off,

2. No text speak and use a spell checker, use punctuation and don't write it all as one large block of text,

3. Don't include your phone number, it just makes you look desperate.

4. Use your mail filters to block the people you don't want to message you, rather then write it in your profile. Ranting about "no single guys" is off putting.

5. Loose anything to do with privacy e.g the Sydney university thing. Pointless waste of time.

6. No rants in your status. If you are bored with the site or thinking of leaving. Just do it, putting it on your status is seen as attention seeking and looking for "aww don't leave" type messages.

7. Humour in a profile is a double edged sword, what you think is funny other people won't.

And finally...your profile is your shop window to sell yourself. Always read your profile and ask yourself the question "would I want to meet me?" If it's a no, your profile isn't doing its job.

If you follow the golden rules & read the sites FAQs you'll have a much happier FAB time. "

Think you've wasted your time, as have I trying to help the OP, as the only thing he's changed is his avatar.

I know he doesn't have to follow any advice given, but why ask then?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hello folks. this is my first post, so please be gentle. my profile is what it is, truthful. i know you hot couples and sexy single ladies must be inundated. but surely even a no ta isnt that hard. thank you. x"

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Your profile isn't helping your chances on getting a reply. I like most if the others that have replied would at best sent a no thanks, but more then likely just delete your messages.

The forum golden rules for profile:-

1. One cock pic is ample, more and it puts people off,

2. No text speak and use a spell checker, use punctuation and don't write it all as one large block of text,

3. Don't include your phone number, it just makes you look desperate.

4. Use your mail filters to block the people you don't want to message you, rather then write it in your profile. Ranting about "no single guys" is off putting.

5. Loose anything to do with privacy e.g the Sydney university thing. Pointless waste of time.

6. No rants in your status. If you are bored with the site or thinking of leaving. Just do it, putting it on your status is seen as attention seeking and looking for "aww don't leave" type messages.

7. Humour in a profile is a double edged sword, what you think is funny other people won't.

And finally...your profile is your shop window to sell yourself. Always read your profile and ask yourself the question "would I want to meet me?" If it's a no, your profile isn't doing its job.

If you follow the golden rules & read the sites FAQs you'll have a much happier FAB time.

Think you've wasted your time, as have I trying to help the OP, as the only thing he's changed is his avatar.

I know he doesn't have to follow any advice given, but why ask then?!! "

Bit he didn't ask for advice on his profile. He just asked why people didn't say no thanks.

OP in my experience some men can get abusive when turned down or keep badgering you to tell them why not so for some it's easier to just ignore messages that don't interest them.

I don't understand why people would want a load of rejection messages anyway.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Your profile isn't helping your chances on getting a reply. I like most if the others that have replied would at best sent a no thanks, but more then likely just delete your messages.

The forum golden rules for profile:-

1. One cock pic is ample, more and it puts people off,

2. No text speak and use a spell checker, use punctuation and don't write it all as one large block of text,

3. Don't include your phone number, it just makes you look desperate.

4. Use your mail filters to block the people you don't want to message you, rather then write it in your profile. Ranting about "no single guys" is off putting.

5. Loose anything to do with privacy e.g the Sydney university thing. Pointless waste of time.

6. No rants in your status. If you are bored with the site or thinking of leaving. Just do it, putting it on your status is seen as attention seeking and looking for "aww don't leave" type messages.

7. Humour in a profile is a double edged sword, what you think is funny other people won't.

And finally...your profile is your shop window to sell yourself. Always read your profile and ask yourself the question "would I want to meet me?" If it's a no, your profile isn't doing its job.

If you follow the golden rules & read the sites FAQs you'll have a much happier FAB time.

Think you've wasted your time, as have I trying to help the OP, as the only thing he's changed is his avatar.

I know he doesn't have to follow any advice given, but why ask then?!!

Bit he didn't ask for advice on his profile. He just asked why people didn't say no thanks.

OP in my experience some men can get abusive when turned down or keep badgering you to tell them why not so for some it's easier to just ignore messages that don't interest them.

I don't understand why people would want a load of rejection messages anyway. "

Fair point, however, the difference between a reply and a delete for me, and most of the others that have replied is the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit he didn't ask for advice on his profile. He just asked why people didn't say no thanks.

OP in my experience some men can get abusive when turned down or keep badgering you to tell them why not so for some it's easier to just ignore messages that don't interest them.

I don't understand why people would want a load of rejection messages anyway. "

I did say the reason he may not be getting replies was down to his profile & then listed general tips, not a specific critique of his profile.

OP sorry if I've upset or offended you with my original post, I was trying to be helpful nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile isn't helping your chances on getting a reply. I like most if the others that have replied would at best sent a no thanks, but more then likely just delete your messages.

The forum golden rules for profile:-

1. One cock pic is ample, more and it puts people off,

2. No text speak and use a spell checker, use punctuation and don't write it all as one large block of text,

3. Don't include your phone number, it just makes you look desperate.

4. Use your mail filters to block the people you don't want to message you, rather then write it in your profile. Ranting about "no single guys" is off putting.

5. Loose anything to do with privacy e.g the Sydney university thing. Pointless waste of time.

6. No rants in your status. If you are bored with the site or thinking of leaving. Just do it, putting it on your status is seen as attention seeking and looking for "aww don't leave" type messages.

7. Humour in a profile is a double edged sword, what you think is funny other people won't.

And finally...your profile is your shop window to sell yourself. Always read your profile and ask yourself the question "would I want to meet me?" If it's a no, your profile isn't doing its job.

If you follow the golden rules & read the sites FAQs you'll have a much happier FAB time.

Think you've wasted your time, as have I trying to help the OP, as the only thing he's changed is his avatar.

I know he doesn't have to follow any advice given, but why ask then?!!

Bit he didn't ask for advice on his profile. He just asked why people didn't say no thanks.

OP in my experience some men can get abusive when turned down or keep badgering you to tell them why not so for some it's easier to just ignore messages that don't interest them.

I don't understand why people would want a load of rejection messages anyway.

Fair point, however, the difference between a reply and a delete for me, and most of the others that have replied is the profile.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Txt speak....phone number sending friends requests and asking no bi people mail you.

All reasons why i wouldnt even look at the pics or respond.

Maybe time for an update.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"but you do'nt even get a chance to prove your an ok fella. "

Of course you do, it's called a profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a single male i have had my share of dear john's

when i receive a dear john i never ask why not

i always reply by saying thank you for the reply and finish off by wishing either the couple or single female in question all the best in the future.

it can be frustrating not receiving a response however i also appreciate how many enquiries couples and single females must receive from single males.

its a personal choice and not a personal slight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I asked a similar question now I just send the message if you get nothing back no problem if they are read I still delete them if someone want to contact you they will if they don't good luck to them i say

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By *obbobeanMan
over a year ago

dagenham


"hello folks. this is my first post, so please be gentle. my profile is what it is, truthful. i know you hot couples and sexy single ladies must be inundated. but surely even a no ta isnt that hard. thank you. x"

Hi I have in fact contacted admin about this very matter, and suggested an automated 'thanks but no thanks' button someone can click, that way the sender would know we're he/her/they stand and it would take the person who received the msg 1 second to click that button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hello folks. this is my first post, so please be gentle. my profile is what it is, truthful. i know you hot couples and sexy single ladies must be inundated. but surely even a no ta isnt that hard. thank you. x"

It depends on the type of message that has been sent wether we reply with a no thanks. We found if it was a well thought out message they didn't take a no thanks badly. But a "can I fuck you" message just gets a delete. When we have replied to these type of messages previously we seem to just get abuse back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hello folks. this is my first post, so please be gentle. my profile is what it is, truthful. i know you hot couples and sexy single ladies must be inundated. but surely even a no ta isnt that hard. thank you. x

Hi I have in fact contacted admin about this very matter, and suggested an automated 'thanks but no thanks' button someone can click, that way the sender would know we're he/her/they stand and it would take the person who received the msg 1 second to click that button."

Nice idea but any change to the basic software package this site uses is very likely going to cost the owners money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hello folks. this is my first post, so please be gentle. my profile is what it is, truthful. i know you hot couples and sexy single ladies must be inundated. but surely even a no ta isnt that hard. thank you. x

Hi I have in fact contacted admin about this very matter, and suggested an automated 'thanks but no thanks' button someone can click, that way the sender would know we're he/her/they stand and it would take the person who received the msg 1 second to click that button."

Or instead of changing the site you could just take a no reply as a thanks but no thanks

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By *elmc1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Hiya folks, thanks for all the advice, its all been taken onboard. your very helpful you lot. i'll alter my profile when i get a chance. once again thanks. neil. xx

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