FabSwingers.com forum: Nice guys....

By *ark Gr8 Teddy Bear OP Man
over a year ago

Wigan

What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know.

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By *kywatcherMan
over a year ago

Southwick

Who's to say who's a nice guy and who is a dick?

I'd rather not judge myself or others..that's up to other people to decide....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I've got a nice guy and he certainly doesn't turn me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are very wrong in assuming that women don't like nice men,its utter rubbish

Just like that ridiculous saying "nice guys finish last"

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know."

Has anyone specifically turned you down or made a comment about you being 'too nice' and used it as a reason?

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I don't think nice guys turn women off, it's just that for whatever reason that's not what they are looking for, could be lack of attraction and chemistry.

My guy is very nice, I also find him very attractive, we have the same interests, hobbies and sense of humour and he just gets me. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a nice guy. Have met one and waiting to find out more........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are very wrong in assuming that women don't like nice men,its utter rubbish

Just like that ridiculous saying "nice guys finish last""
a good guy should always come second

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Ah, the "you're a nice guy, but....." line. I've heard that one a few times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I just love nice guys

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

there is a glaring difference between a nice guy and a slithering sycophant that

after every female.

just be you, if it works cool

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are very wrong in assuming that women don't like nice men,its utter rubbish

Just like that ridiculous saying "nice guys finish last"a good guy should always come second

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They can come first, as I don't, so I don't mind

oops am now wondering if got the wrong end of the stick?

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

Im going to admit now that I have been sexually attracted to some proper assholes. When I find one that is a great guy but still alpha male its bliss. Not too many out there and I never seem to hang on to them but hope springs eternal.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Who's to say who's a nice guy and who is a dick?

I'd rather not judge myself or others..that's up to other people to decide....

I agree with this and have allowed others to decide.

Being nice certainly hasn't done me any harm on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know."

There are nice guys and "nice" guys.

A nice guy is the sort of guy most women actually like. He can be polite and well mannered yet he isn't a wet blanket. He can be the alpha male when he needs to, but he isn't an arrogant tit either.

A "nice" guy is the sad creeper who always wants to put a woman on a pedastal and be the perfect boyfriend to them but won't make the first move to ask a girl out and ends up being just friends with girls all the time. He's the guy who goes out of his way for you, yet is always staring at your bum or boobs even when he's talking to you.

"Nice" guys finish last because they don't try and start anything more often than not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting definition of Alpha male in this thread

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know.

There are nice guys and "nice" guys.

A nice guy is the sort of guy most women actually like. He can be polite and well mannered yet he isn't a wet blanket. He can be the alpha male when he needs to, but he isn't an arrogant tit either.

"Nice" guys finish last because they don't try and start anything more often than not."

A brilliant distinction of the two types of "nice"

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know.

There are nice guys and "nice" guys.

A nice guy is the sort of guy most women actually like. He can be polite and well mannered yet he isn't a wet blanket. He can be the alpha male when he needs to, but he isn't an arrogant tit either.

"Nice" guys finish last because they don't try and start anything more often than not."

Perfect!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to many on here do judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because you're nice guy don't mean you come last or don't achieve anything. If someone puts you down for being nice you'd most likely not want them either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice" guys finish last because they don't try and start anything more often than not."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being nice doesn't mean being wet or coming second

It means having confidence in who you are but the self-awareness to know you don't have to show-off or be arrogant

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know.

There are nice guys and "nice" guys.

A nice guy is the sort of guy most women actually like. He can be polite and well mannered yet he isn't a wet blanket. He can be the alpha male when he needs to, but he isn't an arrogant tit either.

"Nice" guys finish last because they don't try and start anything more often than not."

I could hug you for this right now!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there is a glaring difference between a nice guy and a slithering sycophant that

after every female.

just be you, if it works cool

good luck"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know.

There are nice guys and "nice" guys.

A nice guy is the sort of guy most women actually like. He can be polite and well mannered yet he isn't a wet blanket. He can be the alpha male when he needs to, but he isn't an arrogant tit either.

"Nice" guys finish last because they don't try and start anything more often than not."

Best description I've read!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

There are nice guys and "nice" guys.

A nice guy is the sort of guy most women actually like. He can be polite and well mannered yet he isn't a wet blanket. He can be the alpha male when he needs to, but he isn't an arrogant tit either.

"Nice" guys finish last because they don't try and start anything more often than not."

I thought it was "Nice guys you fancy' and 'Nice guys you don't'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice, is a very insipid word.

better descriptions are, kind, sensitive, thoughtful, caring, strong,

understanding.

Nice guys tend to meet nice women.

In other words, insipid guys tend to meet insipid women and have insipid lives.

So when people describe you as nice, its time to look in the mirror and modify your thought process, unless you actually want a nice, ( insipid life.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who's to say who's a nice guy and who is a dick?

I'd rather not judge myself or others..that's up to other people to decide....

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By *ark Gr8 Teddy Bear OP Man
over a year ago

Wigan

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know.

Has anyone specifically turned you down or made a comment about you being 'too nice' and used it as a reason? "

yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know.

Has anyone specifically turned you down or made a comment about you being 'too nice' and used it as a reason?

yes. "
I've been told I'm too nice before by someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know.

Has anyone specifically turned you down or made a comment about you being 'too nice' and used it as a reason?

yes. I've been told I'm too nice before by someone. "
meant to say I don't let it bother me anymore. I am what I am

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know.

There are nice guys and "nice" guys.

A nice guy is the sort of guy most women actually like. He can be polite and well mannered yet he isn't a wet blanket. He can be the alpha male when he needs to, but he isn't an arrogant tit either.

"Nice" guys finish last because they don't try and start anything more often than not."

spot on!

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I think many women use nice when they mean boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many women use nice when they mean boring"
I don't. Nice guys can have manners and still have a naughty side. Not saying more than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know.

There are nice guys and "nice" guys.

A nice guy is the sort of guy most women actually like. He can be polite and well mannered yet he isn't a wet blanket. He can be the alpha male when he needs to, but he isn't an arrogant tit either.

"Nice" guys finish last because they don't try and start anything more often than not.

spot on!

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"I think many women use nice when they mean boring I don't. Nice guys can have manners and still have a naughty side. Not saying more than that

I shall place you in the 'few' camp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many women use nice when they mean boring I don't. Nice guys can have manners and still have a naughty side. Not saying more than that

I shall place you in the 'few' camp

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"few camp"? is that good or bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being a nice guy or a dickhead is only one aspect of attraction. dont forget the physical aswell

you have to tick more than one box to get a shag usually

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"I think many women use nice when they mean boring I don't. Nice guys can have manners and still have a naughty side. Not saying more than that

I shall place you in the 'few' camp

"few camp"? is that good or bad?

Neither. I said "many women". You said you don't. If you're not with the many then you're with the few

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know.

Has anyone specifically turned you down or made a comment about you being 'too nice' and used it as a reason?

yes. "

okay just a thought.. maybe they were just being nice with that reason.. maybe you werent for them maybe they didnt have an attraction to you to want to play but didnt want to risk sounding horrid so gave a nice reply so as not to offend.

Just a thought... we give guys reasons sometimes that we think kind as the honest truth jusy isnt needed really and would only cause offence and upset in many cases..

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"What is it about us nice guys that turn women off. You see some many post about guys being assholes. I just want to know."

I ve never understood Why people dwell on the reject messages, for whatever reason given,

whats the difference, you re still on the reject pile, move on,

find someone that likes you for who you are,, you re never going to be anyone else,,

Good luck,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many women use nice when they mean boring I don't. Nice guys can have manners and still have a naughty side. Not saying more than that

I shall place you in the 'few' camp

"few camp"? is that good or bad?

Neither. I said "many women". You said you don't. If you're not with the many then you're with the few

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ok I understand. yes im in the few - nice does not mean boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a song: 'i don't want to be nice' by John Cooper-Clarke.

Only bit I can remember is: 'i don't wanna be nice, I think it's cleaver to swear'

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Bollocks. I wouldn't entertain anyone that wasn't an honest, decent, genuine guy. Not to be mistaken for a sycophant that w say anything to get inside a woman's knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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