FabSwingers.com forum: Overreacting

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi its my first post so please be gentle.

I just want to know if I am overreacting to a message I have had.

Here is the situation I have been chatting to a nice guy for a few days and we have agreed to meet for a social drink to see if there is a connection.

Then today he sent me a message saying "Not that it matters what nationality are you your skin is lovely and dark"

My gut reaction to the delete and block as it does matter or he would ask.

Am I overreacting to the message?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

welcome

if you are uncomfortable, go with your gut feel

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi its my first post so please be gentle.

I just want to know if I am overreacting to a message I have had.

Here is the situation I have been chatting to a nice guy for a few days and we have agreed to meet for a social drink to see if there is a connection.

Then today he sent me a message saying "Not that it matters what nationality are you your skin is lovely and dark"

My gut reaction to the delete and block as it does matter or he would ask.

Am I overreacting to the message?

Welcome.

Personally, I think he was paying you a compliment?x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't think it was an out of order question I just think he was just getting to know you...and welcome

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

I don't think it matters if you are overreacting or not, if something someone said makes you feel uncomfortable with meeting them, go with your gut instinct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome

My gut feel is that it's an innocent question badly phrased

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

It's sounds innocent to me. However, it's how you feel about it that matters, not us. Go with your instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems innocent enough to me. You never know he might be disappointed if your not from a exotic far away land x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Silly thing to ask to you but I don't think there's anything malicious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Seems innocent enough to me. You never know he might be disappointed if your not from a exotic far away land x "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for the advice, I though I might just be overreacting to a bad day a work.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I don't even think it was badly phrased tbh, he's probably just asking in a get to know you type way.

But as the others said, if it makes you feel uncomfortable then go with your gut x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds misjudged to me...

And do you have dark hair?

might be that.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe im overreacting too, but it seems a weird thing to say. i wouldnt be impressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems innocent enough to me. You never know he might be disappointed if your not from a exotic far away land x

Thanks

No probs nice pic btw I would

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