FabSwingers.com forum: am i in wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

....been in hiding since before i started to talk to someone on here ....when we first starting talking about 5 months he hid his profile but for last 2/3 months had his open whilst mine was hidden ...i unhid mine yesterday and all of a sudden hes disbelieving what i saying to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"....been in hiding since before i started to talk to someone on here ....when we first starting talking about 5 months he hid his profile but for last 2/3 months had his open whilst mine was hidden ...i unhid mine yesterday and all of a sudden hes disbelieving what i saying to him"

depends why u hid it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why waste a second worrying, move on, life is so short.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Ehh ?? Sorry youve lost me

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

So he don't want your profile on show?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends why u hid it x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

double standards

tell him to get a life move on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop waiting around for him

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Not sure I understand your post. Sorry!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i hid mine due to other issues ...nothing to do with him ...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Talking? or meeting & having sex ?

maybe he thought it should move quicker

only he can answer to his intentions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i hid mine due to other issues ...nothing to do with him ..."

yet it's your profile your life

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Why would opening your profile mean that you have misled him? How did you find each other if you both hidden? Are you bothered he has opened his profile?

I'll stick with, eh?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

The only person who knows why he's changed his attitude towards you is him. Ask him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont understand??

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

I am still puzzled as to what YOU would have gained by hiding your profile in the first place!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we was talking before x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we was talking before x"

I still dont understand, sorry x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"we was talking before x"

I think I understand you were talking (I assume via message on here but you might mean face to face or by phone) before you opened your profile. Were you talking before you hid it? What business is it of his that you hide or open your profile? It's not exactly an all revealing profile after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(groanssssss)

facepalm x 1000!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we was talking before x

I still dont understand. In the wrong about what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we was talking before x

that's what I dont get

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

so were you shagging each other?? after 5 months of not shagging on a swingers site may have taken it toll on him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All you can do is ask him, chick.

But this place is mostly NSA. Guys talk one minute, move on the next.

Move on too and dont waste time worrying.

Plenty fellas and couples to meet here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too complicated to contemplate

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"we was talking before x

I still dont understand. In the wrong about what?"

I don't know!

I will admit when I see a title of "is it me?" and the like my instinct is just to answer yes without reading the OP. I should have just moved on to another title.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I will admit when I see a title of "is it me?" and the like my instinct is just to answer yes without reading the OP. I should have just moved on to another title."

That'll learn ya!

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

Eh???

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"(groanssssss)

facepalm x 1000!"

That is simply not enough facepalms

Do more......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Eh??? "

Dont ask chick x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

for wat i can gather its because my profile says looking to meet single guys ..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes. You are in the wrong.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"for wat i can gather its because my profile says looking to meet single guys .."

so were you exclusive to each other

were you shagging or just chatting

this is like 20 questions and I give up

good luck to both of you, hope it works out

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

Your life, your time on here, you do as you please and don't need to explain anything to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for wat i can gather its because my profile says looking to meet single guys .."

????????????

Do you create cryptic crosswords in your spare time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for wat i can gather its because my profile says looking to meet single guys ..

so were you exclusive to each other

were you shagging or just chatting

this is like 20 questions and I give up

good luck to both of you, hope it works out

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't get it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for wat i can gather its because my profile says looking to meet single guys .."

And he's not a single guy? Huh? Or he doesn't want you to meet other guys? Or you are only talking to him and not meeting because you're not looking for single guys?

I don't get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you should tell people the whole story and then we might be able to help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to bugger off..........sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get it...

Thank Christ I'm not the only brummy who doesn't get it. I was worrying I was starting to confirm to stereotypes!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"for wat i can gather its because my profile says looking to meet single guys ..

And he's not a single guy? Huh? Or he doesn't want you to meet other guys? Or you are only talking to him and not meeting because you're not looking for single guys?

I don't get it"

Nobody does, not even the OP it would seem. The only person who might know is the man in question and as far as I can see he hasn't responded on this thread.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

The O.P hid her profile over five months ago.

The O.P. began chatting to a male.

The male hid his profile.

The male unhid his profile 3 months ago.

The O.P said fuck all about it.

They continued to chat.

The O.P unhid her profile recently.

The male said ...... Oi .what's all this then ? unhiding your profile you property of me you.

The O.P said ..... Oh kind sir I'm a nice O.P. I'm not up to anything ....

The male said ...... Yeah Yeah ...

The O.P. turned to the forum and said ..... am I in the wrong.......

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

The O.P hid her profile over five months ago.

The O.P. began chatting to a male.

The male hid his profile.

The male unhid his profile 3 months ago.

The O.P said fuck all about it.

They continued to chat.

The O.P unhid her profile recently.

The male said ...... Oi .what's all this then ? unhiding your profile you property of me you.

The O.P said ..... Oh kind sir I'm a nice O.P. I'm not up to anything ....

The male said ...... Yeah Yeah ...

The O.P. turned to the forum and said ..... am I in the wrong......."

yeah but are they shagging: that probably will determine how HE is thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not got a scooby doo what's going on there

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

My dear View...... Shagging is only 10% of swinging law where exclusivity is concerned......

Are they betrothed , committed, exclusive ..... ?? is there signed heavydense ? I suspect so in the latter....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I have not got a scooby doo what's going on there

Back of the class. Must try harder !

Sos just been on the education thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like he thought u were truely only wanting him and he liked it that way bit of control and he wanted to play the field how many more did he have like this so all i can say is good on u girl move on dont worry what he says its your life your profile

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

I'd forgotten how much fun this place was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have not got a scooby doo what's going on there

And I couldn't give an eartha kitt anymore

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sorry for misleading you all ...when.i started talking to bloke was unhidden ..due to an.incident that happened when i had my son with me hid my profile ..it was decided between us both...we try a vanilla relationship ...just find it double standards from him to vunhid his and arrange meets then go off at me basically called me a cheater for unhiding mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never seen an airfix thread before and missing the instructions xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sorry for misleading you all ...when.i started talking to bloke was unhidden ..due to an.incident that happened when i had my son with me hid my profile ..it was decided between us both...we try a vanilla relationship ...just find it double standards from him to vunhid his and arrange meets then go off at me basically called me a cheater for unhiding mine"

Well why didn't you say that in the first place???

There seem to be trust issues with both of you so why bother with the relationship. Sorry if that sounds harsh!

Yay, I knew I wasn't mrs thicky mcthick winner of last years mrs thick competition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's not your husband or your babies father................ get rid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I suggest the Jeremy Kyle show for this problem. They live on this shit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i wasnt bothered about him unhiding his cus i know the nature of the site we meet on ....all i asked for was honesty ...we talked about it last night then today to get a text saying i was cheating on him ....was a blow

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"i wasnt bothered about him unhiding his cus i know the nature of the site we meet on ....all i asked for was honesty ...we talked about it last night then today to get a text saying i was cheating on him ....was a blow"

So the vanilla relationship is exclusive, and you meet in person on a regular basis. His swinging relationship with you isn't exclusive. Is that it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your doing it again chick!

Did you both agree to no longer meet people off here or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh right so your in a relationship with this guy who is on here but with an open profile and he's not happy you've opened yours ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get it...

Thank Christ I'm not the only brummy who doesn't get it. I was worrying I was starting to confirm to stereotypes!"

im confused dot com or you can call me Brian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reality folks its a sex site end of day as others say why give it second thought.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

sounds he had you just where he wanted, you were exclusive to him and he played the field. ( based on one side of the story and there is always 2/3 )

sorry, your choice to be treated like that or punt him

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh right so your in a relationship with this guy who is on here but with an open profile and he's not happy you've opened yours ?"

we had agreed it would be an exclusive relationship ...but we had also decided to both keep profiles hidden as we got to know each other ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh right so your in a relationship with this guy who is on here but with an open profile and he's not happy you've opened yours ?

we had agreed it would be an exclusive relationship ...but we had also decided to both keep profiles hidden as we got to know each other ...."

do you really need to ask us what you should do? Clearly its a relationship based on lies and mistrust.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

all this happened after i was trying to arrange a weekend with him ....as a single mum i arrange my weekends around when i dont have my kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't a CLUE wot this post is all about

Sooooooooo could someone peel me a grape n fan me wiv a wet flannel whilst I have a lie down.

It's altogether more complicated to unravel than Barry Manilow's (who shot who) at the COPACABANA

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I've called O.K. magazine and Heat but no one want's to know.

Woman's Weekly are interested if you can knit a fairisle tank top for the photo shoot ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've called O.K. magazine and Heat but no one want's to know.

Woman's Weekly are interested if you can knit a fairisle tank top for the photo shoot ?"

how about trying loose women or even jeremy Kyle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've called O.K. magazine and Heat but no one want's to know.

Woman's Weekly are interested if you can knit a fairisle tank top for the photo shoot ?"

lol certainly suit him better than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you both unhid your profiles when you had agreed not too? Whilst you were in an exclusive relationship?

You've answered your own question...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"all this happened after i was trying to arrange a weekend with him ....as a single mum i arrange my weekends around when i dont have my kids"

So you go away together for weekends when your children are elsewhere. Fair enough. If you had agreed to be exclusive and vanilla but to keep your profiles, just in case/for the forum/whatever, but hidden and he then broke that deal how are you in the wrong?

Walk away and learn from it.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"I've called O.K. magazine and Heat but no one want's to know.

Woman's Weekly are interested if you can knit a fairisle tank top for the photo shoot ?"

Sometimes you really do laugh out loud,this was definitely one of those times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've called O.K. magazine and Heat but no one want's to know.

Woman's Weekly are interested if you can knit a fairisle tank top for the photo shoot ?"

Is there an easy to follow pattern n more importantly - is there an offer on bak page where ya can send away for 12 porcelain thimbles WITH complementary shadow box? I'm not interested if there's no shadow box thanx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I've called O.K. magazine and Heat but no one want's to know.

Woman's Weekly are interested if you can knit a fairisle tank top for the photo shoot ?

You drive such a hard bargain for a man with one rubber glove.....

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I don't get it...

Thank Christ I'm not the only brummy who doesn't get it. I was worrying I was starting to confirm to stereotypes!"

Oi less of the brummy...I'm a sarf London girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've called O.K. magazine and Heat but no one want's to know.

Woman's Weekly are interested if you can knit a fairisle tank top for the photo shoot ?

You drive such a hard bargain for a man with one rubber glove.....

Life has taught me the hard way! If only I'd driven s harder bargain I coulda ended up wiv TWO rubber gloves. Sooooooooo I'm not getting short changed this time Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh right so your in a relationship with this guy who is on here but with an open profile and he's not happy you've opened yours ?

we had agreed it would be an exclusive relationship ...but we had also decided to both keep profiles hidden as we got to know each other ...."

Well, what did you say when he unhid his? Surely all this should have come up 3 months ago?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have I tuned in to JK?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It really didnt bother me ...knowimg site we meet on ...even made a joke of it when i saw he was arranging meets...my life is mainly focused on .my kids so was going with flow ...but i stupidly thought was good for goose is good for gander

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"It really didnt bother me ...knowimg site we meet on ...even made a joke of it when i saw he was arranging meets...my life is mainly focused on .my kids so was going with flow ...but i stupidly thought was good for goose is good for gander "

Well there is your answer.....

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I am so glad I didn't get involved with this earlier!

It's Friday night so red wine yaeh!!!!! (my head is sore after reading this!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well there is your answer....."

just so glad i stood by my guns when he was talking about moving in with mevn kids after couple of months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I answered the Op 2 hours ago, 3rd in thread,

Two hours later I think everyone agrees.

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