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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't agree...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not racist!!!

Would make life easier for all as lots don't meet others due to preference which is NOT racist!

Would make it easier for us to find new friends as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope not racist!!!

Would make life easier for all as lots don't meet others due to preference which is NOT racist!

Would make it easier for us to find new friends as well! "

I wonder what someone's preference is for not meeting people of a different race? Does it mean someone whose skin is a different shade from one's own? Or does it refer to a different culture?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter "

Dam , my velour track suit with babe across bum , huge earrings and white shoes and handbag not a good idea for social then

Please note no chavs were hurt in the making of this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope not racist!!!

Would make life easier for all as lots don't meet others due to preference which is NOT racist!

Would make it easier for us to find new friends as well!

I wonder what someone's preference is for not meeting people of a different race? Does it mean someone whose skin is a different shade from one's own? Or does it refer to a different culture? "

Usually colour. People can't help being attracted or not attracted to other people of a certain colour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter

Dam , my velour track suit with babe across bum , huge earrings and white shoes and handbag not a good idea for social then

Please note no chavs were hurt in the making of this post "
i was!!! I'm crying to my tenth child's head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my time I've probably dated most skin shadese races n cultures from white thro to deepest black n embracing Chinese n Asian along the way with a Persian prince thrown in for good measure

I have absolutely NO racial prejudice just people preferences!

Generally I decline Asians now - but that is only because I find them too passive - which of course is only a PERSONAL experience n no doubt there are plenty who are not but they just haven't crossed my path

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter

Dam , my velour track suit with babe across bum , huge earrings and white shoes and handbag not a good idea for social then

Please note no chavs were hurt in the making of this post i was!!! I'm crying to my tenth child's head"

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Read the profile. It is usually stated on there, in clear, bold letters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would seem to make sense as we Coe across a few profiles that state only after black or the reverse such as no Asian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read the profile. It is usually stated on there, in clear, bold letters."

if not then the pics can be a HUGE giveaway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't be racist.

All the 87 inch black cock lovers could filter everybody else out then.

POF also has an ethnicity search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter "

That would filter about 97% of fab members though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter

Dam , my velour track suit with babe across bum , huge earrings and white shoes and handbag not a good idea for social then

Please note no chavs were hurt in the making of this post "

Oooo what size white shoes i need some for kent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter

Dam , my velour track suit with babe across bum , huge earrings and white shoes and handbag not a good idea for social then

Please note no chavs were hurt in the making of this post

Oooo what size white shoes i need some for kent "

One size , fits all chavs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do think the search filters could do with updating, anything that helps you find what your looking for easier is only a good thing, and there's always a choice weather to use them or not

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By *kywatcherMan
over a year ago

Southwick


"We do think the search filters could do with updating, anything that helps you find what your looking for easier is only a good thing, and there's always a choice weather to use them or not "

Come rain or shine.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I think it would be great. I have struggled to manually find the blue, three-titted women that I prefer.

To have a button that did it for me would be a boon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races.

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter "

God yes, but sadly many chavs don't know they are chavs

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races."
How is having a preference racist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter

God yes, but sadly many chavs don't know they are chavs "

Or indeed what a filter is

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter

Dam , my velour track suit with babe across bum , huge earrings and white shoes and handbag not a good idea for social then

Please note no chavs were hurt in the making of this post i was!!! I'm crying to my tenth child's head"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admin stated months ago in another thread that they were going to do this but so far not materialised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races.How is having a preference racist?"

Well I suppose the generic answer to that would be ' on what specifically are you are basing your preference ' innit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So tempted to use the Richard Madely/Ali G quote

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We do think the search filters could do with updating, anything that helps you find what your looking for easier is only a good thing, and there's always a choice weather to use them or not

Come rain or shine. "

I shouldn't but...

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

What qualifies someone to be a Chav ?

Postcode, bloodlines, job title, grammar, qualifications, labels worn ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What qualifies someone to be a Chav ?

Postcode, bloodlines, job title, grammar, qualifications, labels worn ? "
correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter "

What about a fuckwit one

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races.How is having a preference racist?

Well I suppose the generic answer to that would be ' on what specifically are you are basing your preference ' innit "
And the answer to that question would be just my right to like what I like. If I don't like Thai food does that make me racist? No!

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"What qualifies someone to be a Chav ?

Postcode, bloodlines, job title, grammar, qualifications, labels worn ? "
And the ultimate sign of chavdom..talking "pratois". The fake and embarrassing accent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people might not want to meet black/chinese/Indian men for sex because they only find white men physically attractive, they might have black/chinese/Indian friends though. Does that make them racist?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races."

Oh for the love of Mike: how is that racist?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races.How is having a preference racist?

Well I suppose the generic answer to that would be ' on what specifically are you are basing your preference ' innit And the answer to that question would be just my right to like what I like. If I don't like Thai food does that make me racist? No!"

Er.......I don't think that analogy quite works cos yoy could dislike Thai food BUT still date the cook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Admin stated months ago in another thread that they were going to do this but so far not materialised "

As far as I'm aware they have been saying it will be done by the end of the year for a few years now. Don't hold your breath

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races.How is having a preference racist?

Well I suppose the generic answer to that would be ' on what specifically are you are basing your preference ' innit And the answer to that question would be just my right to like what I like. If I don't like Thai food does that make me racist? No!

Er.......I don't think that analogy quite works cos yoy could dislike Thai food BUT still date the cook "

That's pretty much what they said/meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?"

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Some people might not want to meet black/chinese/Indian men for sex because they only find white men physically attractive, they might have black/chinese/Indian friends though. Does that make them racist? "

It doesn't even have to be that deep: this is fantasy. For some being with someone "different" is their fantasy.

If others view preferences as racist not a lot you can do about that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue "

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races.How is having a preference racist?

Well I suppose the generic answer to that would be ' on what specifically are you are basing your preference ' innit And the answer to that question would be just my right to like what I like. If I don't like Thai food does that make me racist? No!

Er.......I don't think that analogy quite works cos yoy could dislike Thai food BUT still date the cook "

I thought it a poor analogy too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue "

Prexactly

N when u start issuing filters on race etc WHERE do u draw the line? NO Jews (I'm Jewish before anyone dives on that) NO French people - some think we are a bit unreliable in world wars as allies in govt n historically Britain n France have not always got on - I'm quarter French so don't dive in that one either) .

Surely people can just view profile's n think to themselves 'oh not for me ' without need for those kind of filters! Y

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter

God yes, but sadly many chavs don't know they are chavs

Or indeed what a filter is "

Bloody hell, well spotted that man. Bugger do we need to start a new new swingers site where chavs are filtered at the start?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mention race, bi or gay in a thread and the pc brigade come out in droves trying to push their views onto you!

"If you don't go black, your a racist", "if you don't do bi/gay, your homophobic"!

People will always try and foist their own opinion of a subject onto others in the vain hope that it will 'make you see the light and convert'. My advice? Just do what YOU feel comfortable with and stick to YOUR principles. Having a preference, or non preference for a certain creed is NOT racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,d love to meet a lady of colour so a filter would help.

and an Asian women.....YES please

message me PLEASE xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What qualifies someone to be a Chav ?

Postcode, bloodlines, job title, grammar, qualifications, labels worn ? "

their police report being emblazoned with the accronym C.H.A.V (council house and violent).

its a tag that has been used to be subversive towards a generation of people that have an aggressive attitude to authority, and has been adopted by such as a title, or a societal prejudice to be proud of (anyone remember that fella that won the lottery and was branded 'king of the chavs, mikey carroll i think his name was. never fought the papers fora rebuttle of the title did he, so obviously proud of the moniker)

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Read the profile. It is usually stated on there, in clear, bold letters.

if not then the pics can be a HUGE giveaway"

Exactly.


"

All the 87 inch black cock lovers could filter everybody else out then.

"

This comment is quite telling for a whole host of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it because I's black?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read the profile. It is usually stated on there, in clear, bold letters."

Or it's in the username. I personally don't see the need for a section for any colour t all, I appreciate people have preferences, some women preferring to meet with BBC etc but each to their own, If I like the look of the guy regardless of race colour creed or religion then I will meet with them. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

actually yeah more filters like

no chavs

no married men

No idiots

no fakes

no timewasters

no sky remote pics of cans of deorantant

anymore

(by the way i am taking the piss)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society. "

Correct. Why would I want to? If I speak to a single woman, a couple or a man it becomes clear quite quickly whether we are compatible and it's not a judgement based on sexuality or any other single issue

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Mention race, bi or gay in a thread and the pc brigade come out in droves trying to push their views onto you!

"If you don't go black, your a racist", "if you don't do bi/gay, your homophobic"!

People will always try and foist their own opinion of a subject onto others in the vain hope that it will 'make you see the light and convert'. My advice? Just do what YOU feel comfortable with and stick to YOUR principles. Having a preference, or non preference for a certain creed is NOT racist. "

I abhor the phrase "pc brigade" as it's often used by those who resent not being able to call a spade a spade...figuratively...but that aside...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society.

Correct. Why would I want to? If I speak to a single woman, a couple or a man it becomes clear quite quickly whether we are compatible and it's not a judgement based on sexuality or any other single issue "

Because some people are here to find something specific so it would make searching easier.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"

All the 87 inch black cock lovers could filter everybody else out then.

This comment is quite telling for a whole host of reasons."

Oh ain't that the truth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mention race, bi or gay in a thread and the pc brigade come out in droves trying to push their views onto you!

"If you don't go black, your a racist", "if you don't do bi/gay, your homophobic"!

People will always try and foist their own opinion of a subject onto others in the vain hope that it will 'make you see the light and convert'. My advice? Just do what YOU feel comfortable with and stick to YOUR principles. Having a preference, or non preference for a certain creed is NOT racist.

I abhor the phrase "pc brigade" as it's often used by those who resent not being able to call a spade a spade...figuratively...but that aside... "

It was the only phrase i could think of without getting a forum ban.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society.

Correct. Why would I want to? If I speak to a single woman, a couple or a man it becomes clear quite quickly whether we are compatible and it's not a judgement based on sexuality or any other single issue

Because some people are here to find something specific so it would make searching easier."

I take your point on that BUT there's no need for us to offend a whole swathe of fabbers whilst searching for our own satisfactions now is there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read the profile. It is usually stated on there, in clear, bold letters.

if not then the pics can be a HUGE giveaway

All the 87 inch black cock lovers could filter everybody else out then.

This comment is quite telling for a whole host of reasons."

Exactly, this

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"actually yeah more filters like

no chavs

no married men

No idiots

no fakes

no timewasters

no sky remote pics of cans of deorantant

anymore

(by the way i am taking the piss)"

No pisstakers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society.

Correct. Why would I want to? If I speak to a single woman, a couple or a man it becomes clear quite quickly whether we are compatible and it's not a judgement based on sexuality or any other single issue

Because some people are here to find something specific so it would make searching easier."

Which is what I said in my original post ... the latter comment was based on how I feel and what I do and not how others should.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about having a facility to filter out the ignorant or narrow-minded? The pompous and elitist?

If it's solely skin colour then maybe those of you with that preference would like an option for tanned/not tanned?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society.

Correct. Why would I want to? If I speak to a single woman, a couple or a man it becomes clear quite quickly whether we are compatible and it's not a judgement based on sexuality or any other single issue

Because some people are here to find something specific so it would make searching easier.

I take your point on that BUT there's no need for us to offend a whole swathe of fabbers whilst searching for our own satisfactions now is there "

How would this offend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society.

Correct. Why would I want to? If I speak to a single woman, a couple or a man it becomes clear quite quickly whether we are compatible and it's not a judgement based on sexuality or any other single issue

Because some people are here to find something specific so it would make searching easier.

I take your point on that BUT there's no need for us to offend a whole swathe of fabbers whilst searching for our own satisfactions now is there

How would this offend "

I guess I'll just concede defeat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

How would this offend "

The filter may not but a OP like this might who btw I would suggest failed his initial wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races.How is having a preference racist?"

It is not but as I said someone put up a post about racism on fab, due to a couple saying no to him as he was not what the couple were looking due to his ethnicity.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

If _unky monkeys platinum membership doesn t have this option available,,, then theres no hope for the rest of us,,

Means you get to perve,, err peruse lots of profiles,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also think mail filters should also have the ability to be set to stop people outside a preferred distance from messaging. Fed up of getting mail from Glasgow, Newcastle, London. Half of my mail is from people I will never meet because of distance. However, it should go on GPS, so if someone is in your area for work/ holiday etc, then they can message. And obviously if people aren't using the mobile app, they can then change their location.

Just an idea, as I know lots are like me and don't want mail off people hours away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races.

Oh for the love of Mike: how is that racist?!! "

whose mike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about having a facility to filter out the ignorant or narrow-minded? The pompous and elitist?

If it's solely skin colour then maybe those of you with that preference would like an option for tanned/not tanned?"

You said it yourself in your statement m8. Its a preference. If having a preference to whom I want to have sex with makes me pompous and elitist, then so be it!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society.

Correct. Why would I want to? If I speak to a single woman, a couple or a man it becomes clear quite quickly whether we are compatible and it's not a judgement based on sexuality or any other single issue

Because some people are here to find something specific so it would make searching easier.

I take your point on that BUT there's no need for us to offend a whole swathe of fabbers whilst searching for our own satisfactions now is there "

Sorry, I truly can't see where the offence would be.

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By *denlouWoman
over a year ago

bideford


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about having a facility to filter out the ignorant or narrow-minded? The pompous and elitist?

If it's solely skin colour then maybe those of you with that preference would like an option for tanned/not tanned?"
how about no tan lines ?

Real turn off, especially on the arms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whose mike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races.

Oh for the love of Mike: how is that racist?!!

whose mike "

Hunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society.

Correct. Why would I want to? If I speak to a single woman, a couple or a man it becomes clear quite quickly whether we are compatible and it's not a judgement based on sexuality or any other single issue

Because some people are here to find something specific so it would make searching easier.

I take your point on that BUT there's no need for us to offend a whole swathe of fabbers whilst searching for our own satisfactions now is there "

Are we offending 'a whole swathe of fabbers' when we input our age range preference then? Is that ageist? Should it be left at 18-99 just so we don't hurt someones feelings?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"

I abhor the phrase "pc brigade" as it's often used by those who resent not being able to call a spade a spade...figuratively...but that aside... "

ditto..

often bandied about by those who think its 'their right' to express their particular offensive 'opinion' without any responsibility..

pinko leftie sandal wearing muesli eating softies is far more preferable..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You said it yourself in your statement m8. "

Only if you take my suggestion as a serious one. That's the joy of taking the time getting to know someone.


"If having a preference to whom I want to have sex with makes me pompous and elitist, then so be it! "

I was referring to the OP not your general wish to have sex with whom you choose. I do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?"

This answer is no. The only way to know, so far, is if it's included in the profile by the author.

As far as it seeming racist? Nah.. Most of the comments saying it is is because they're looking at it as a filter that EXCLUDES. But perhaps it can be used as a search tool to FIND a particular ethnicity.

(P.S. the term is prejudice, not racism if it's an ethnic search you'd like)

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"

I abhor the phrase "pc brigade" as it's often used by those who resent not being able to call a spade a spade...figuratively...but that aside...

ditto..

often bandied about by those who think its 'their right' to express their particular offensive 'opinion' without any responsibility..

pinko leftie sandal wearing muesli eating softies is far more preferable.. "

You omitted Guardian reading...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I abhor the phrase "pc brigade" as it's often used by those who resent not being able to call a spade a spade...figuratively...but that aside...

ditto..

often bandied about by those who think its 'their right' to express their particular offensive 'opinion' without any responsibility..

pinko leftie sandal wearing muesli eating softies is far more preferable.. "

What do they do with the right one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't read all the posts so sorry if this has already been said but I'd love a filter that filtered out slim or athletic types!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It wouldn't be racist.

All the 87 inch black cock lovers could filter everybody else out then.

POF also has an ethnicity search. "

that's pof .... this is fab!!! big big difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It wouldn't be racist.

All the 87 inch black cock lovers could filter everybody else out then.

POF also has an ethnicity search.

that's pof .... this is fab!!! big big difference "

Yes a sex site has even more to do with physical attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a filter for bull shitters, maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is about time people saw people for people rather than the colour of their skin.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"a filter for bull shitters, maybe. "

If that were to happen...Fabswingers...(membership: 0)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd welcome a filter. No harm in making it an option. It would simply help people find what they're looking for and it is a feature available on some sites.

You could still make your preferences known on your profile and search what you desire.

If you don't like it, like winks for example, don't use it.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It is about time people saw people for people rather than the colour of their skin. "

I think in general people do. It's just that for some of us this is fantasy...nothing deeper than that.

If I were on Match.com ethnicity wouldn't matter to me, for a fantasy fuck: hell...yeah!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'd welcome a filter. No harm in making it an option. It would simply help people find what they're looking for and it is a feature available on some sites.

You could still make your preferences known on your profile and search what you desire.

If you don't like it, like winks for example, don't use it. "

...in a nutshell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

pinko leftie sandal wearing muesli eating softies is far more preferable.. "

Oi!!! I never wear sandals!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of my best friends are er............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First they filtered out the homosexuals, and I did not speak out--

Because I was not a homosexual.

Then they filtered out the small cocks, and I did not speak out--

Because I did not have a small cock.

Then they filtered out the ugly, and I did not speak out--

Because I was not (ahem) ugly.

Then they filtered out me--and there was no one left to speak for me.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"

I abhor the phrase "pc brigade" as it's often used by those who resent not being able to call a spade a spade...figuratively...but that aside...

ditto..

often bandied about by those who think its 'their right' to express their particular offensive 'opinion' without any responsibility..

pinko leftie sandal wearing muesli eating softies is far more preferable..

You omitted Guardian reading... "

far too right wing that one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of my best friends are er............"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

every time this thread appears loads crop up with negative connotations, putting 'racist' in the title does little to help that!

Don't approach the wrong way, this should NOT be seen as a filter to root out and exclude certain races but rather as a handy tool to find that elusive black or Asian beauty that you desire! Any thing that aids the quest for quality meets is a good thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"every time this thread appears loads crop up with negative connotations, putting 'racist' in the title does little to help that!

Don't approach the wrong way, this should NOT be seen as a filter to root out and exclude certain races but rather as a handy tool to find that elusive black or Asian beauty that you desire! Any thing that aids the quest for quality meets is a good thing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"every time this thread appears loads crop up with negative connotations, putting 'racist' in the title does little to help that!

Don't approach the wrong way, this should NOT be seen as a filter to root out and exclude certain races but rather as a handy tool to find that elusive black or Asian beauty that you desire! Any thing that aids the quest for quality meets is a good thing"

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it would be great. I have struggled to manually find the blue, three-titted women that I prefer.

To have a button that did it for me would be a boon!"

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races.How is having a preference racist?

Well I suppose the generic answer to that would be ' on what specifically are you are basing your preference ' innit And the answer to that question would be just my right to like what I like. If I don't like Thai food does that make me racist? No!

Er.......I don't think that analogy quite works cos yoy could dislike Thai food BUT still date the cook

That's pretty much what they said/meant "
Glad you understood my post.

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Mention race, bi or gay in a thread and the pc brigade come out in droves trying to push their views onto you!

"If you don't go black, your a racist", "if you don't do bi/gay, your homophobic"!

People will always try and foist their own opinion of a subject onto others in the vain hope that it will 'make you see the light and convert'. My advice? Just do what YOU feel comfortable with and stick to YOUR principles. Having a preference, or non preference for a certain creed is NOT racist.

I abhor the phrase "pc brigade" as it's often used by those who resent not being able to call a spade a spade...figuratively...but that aside... "
I abhor the term "racist" because it's used in so many cases when it's patently not the case?

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society.

Correct. Why would I want to? If I speak to a single woman, a couple or a man it becomes clear quite quickly whether we are compatible and it's not a judgement based on sexuality or any other single issue

Because some people are here to find something specific so it would make searching easier.

I take your point on that BUT there's no need for us to offend a whole swathe of fabbers whilst searching for our own satisfactions now is there "
Who could be offended? Every from you fill in these days has an ethnic question. Do you refuse to fill them in?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I abhor the term "racist" because it's used in so many cases when it's patently not the case? "

Like any other word in the English language. Do you abhor those too?

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I abhor the term "racist" because it's used in so many cases when it's patently not the case?

Like any other word in the English language. Do you abhor those too? "
Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely there is a difference between being racist in a way which could be considered unlawful or illegal or just " causing offence "

Who gives a monkeys if someone takes offence?

I'm on the wrong side of forty. Should I take offence cos a twenty year old excludes me?

Ok we should try and play nicely but people should be allowed their preferences. That isn't against the law.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"every time this thread appears loads crop up with negative connotations, putting 'racist' in the title does little to help that!

Don't approach the wrong way, this should NOT be seen as a filter to root out and exclude certain races but rather as a handy tool to find that elusive black or Asian beauty that you desire! Any thing that aids the quest for quality meets is a good thing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about having a facility to filter out the ignorant or narrow-minded? The pompous and elitist?

If it's solely skin colour then maybe those of you with that preference would like an option for tanned/not tanned?"

add to that the people who Lord over others because " We both have degrees!" and to put it bluntly snobs

p.s if I was violent I would be chav in some people's opinion

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Mention race, bi or gay in a thread and the pc brigade come out in droves trying to push their views onto you!

"If you don't go black, your a racist", "if you don't do bi/gay, your homophobic"!

People will always try and foist their own opinion of a subject onto others in the vain hope that it will 'make you see the light and convert'. My advice? Just do what YOU feel comfortable with and stick to YOUR principles. Having a preference, or non preference for a certain creed is NOT racist.

I abhor the phrase "pc brigade" as it's often used by those who resent not being able to call a spade a spade...figuratively...but that aside... I abhor the term "racist" because it's used in so many cases when it's patently not the case? "

That's applicable too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about having a facility to filter out the ignorant or narrow-minded? The pompous and elitist?

If it's solely skin colour then maybe those of you with that preference would like an option for tanned/not tanned?

add to that the people who Lord over others because " We both have degrees!" and to put it bluntly snobs

p.s if I was violent I would be chav in some people's opinion "

Lol. I'd say most of the site are only missing out on being chavs due to not being violent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything that filters is bad, you may miss out on so much, and yes I do think it is racist, very racist.

We all have preferences, but seldom end up with what we thought we wanted, whats next, blonde, brown or ginger hair, shaved or unshaved, the list of filters could go on,

And I imaging filtering people by colour could be against the law, it is in every other walk of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society.

Correct. Why would I want to? If I speak to a single woman, a couple or a man it becomes clear quite quickly whether we are compatible and it's not a judgement based on sexuality or any other single issue

Because some people are here to find something specific so it would make searching easier."

I am quiet new but it seems everyone is here for the same reason, an ego trip, an orgasm, and to feel in control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can search for other ethnicities on most sites these days

no biggy

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Anything that filters is bad, you may miss out on so much, and yes I do think it is racist, very racist.

We all have preferences, but seldom end up with what we thought we wanted, whats next, blonde, brown or ginger hair, shaved or unshaved, the list of filters could go on,

And I imaging filtering people by colour could be against the law, it is in every other walk of life."

It's againgst the law to choose the colour of the person I want to fuck me?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything that filters is bad, you may miss out on so much, and yes I do think it is racist, very racist.

We all have preferences, but seldom end up with what we thought we wanted, whats next, blonde, brown or ginger hair, shaved or unshaved, the list of filters could go on,

And I imaging filtering people by colour could be against the law, it is in every other walk of life."

Umm actually if you look there are multiple ethnicity searches and religious searches within the advanced search criteria on lots of dating sites, and some sites are set up specifically for a particular faith or cultural subset such as Jewish Dating. Asian dating is the same, its just excluding non jews or non asians from joining thats illegal I believe.

A preference isnt against the law, discriminatory practice is.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society.

Correct. Why would I want to? If I speak to a single woman, a couple or a man it becomes clear quite quickly whether we are compatible and it's not a judgement based on sexuality or any other single issue

Because some people are here to find something specific so it would make searching easier.

I am quiet new but it seems everyone is here for the same reason, an ego trip, an orgasm, and to feel in control."

Wrong! Wrong! Wrong!

We are NOT all here for the same thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh gawd! Thats me filtered out even more from the site...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be an ethnicity search option...or is there which i haven't found?

For me ... no point.

For others ... taking the forum community as a reflective of the site community then yes it should be an option; useful if you are looking for something specific or conversely not looking for something specific.

As a societal question ... There is something that doesn't sit quite right with me about having a facility to discount a whole section of society based on ethnicity at the click of a button and yes I do understand the preference issue

I take it then that you wouldn't like the idea of having a sexual orientation facility on the search as it discounts a whole section of society.

Correct. Why would I want to? If I speak to a single woman, a couple or a man it becomes clear quite quickly whether we are compatible and it's not a judgement based on sexuality or any other single issue

Because some people are here to find something specific so it would make searching easier.

I am quiet new but it seems everyone is here for the same reason, an ego trip, an orgasm, and to feel in control."

Doesn't that equal your 'full balls=empty head' philosophy? Meaning, if we can't choose who to have sex with, should we just go for the 'any holes a goal' approach?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have preferences, perfectly normal, and expected.

It would be impossible to filter out everything, if that could be done, we would be able to type in what we want and the person who matched would pop up, handy and save time.

That really would be cyber sex.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

my normal comment for this type of thread is "can I have a filter for the people who want to use this Filter"

some may see me as some sort of neatly pigeon holed "niche" where they may be interested in me... I am very unlikely to be interested in them....

if people want to bring it in then cool, but let it come with some kind on consequence... give people something to actually think about before using it....

what next? A "ginger" filter????

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

what next? A "ginger" filter????"

So long as its a filter 'in'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love white women...and beleive me i love them!! But...i just want smething different now, asian and oriental...but searching for them is effort! Would be so much easier with a filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a good idea. I like Eastern European women and mixed race so would be good

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"my normal comment for this type of thread is "can I have a filter for the people who want to use this Filter"

some may see me as some sort of neatly pigeon holed "niche" where they may be interested in me... I am very unlikely to be interested in them....

if people want to bring it in then cool, but let it come with some kind on consequence... give people something to actually think about before using it....

what next? A "ginger" filter????"

One mans niche is another mans fantasy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People arrive on Fab with their preferences. They already manually exclude others because of those preferences. An increased use of filters would just make that manual process automatic.

Fab isn't here to judge people by their preferences, but the site should wherever possible always seek to improve the user experience of it's membership.

I understand those who have reservations about excluding whole sections of society at the switch of a button, but I hope they would respect the choice of individuals who choose to do just that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In any event, would the list of "ethnicities" be all encompassing? Exclusion by default is still exclusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've stated that I'm not seeking single guys in my profile. Does that make me homophobic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters how do we set them up as i love to hear some one moan while being pleasured but hate it when others moan about pointless things

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I've stated that I'm not seeking single guys in my profile. Does that make me homophobic? "

Not unless you spin some elaborate tell to explain why you don't seek single guys beyond "i'm not homosexual or bi"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".... but searching for them is effort! "

So is fucking them, sure you don't want a filter for that too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've stated that I'm not seeking single guys in my profile. Does that make me homophobic?

Not unless you spin some elaborate tell to explain why you don't seek single guys beyond "i'm not homosexual or bi"

"

See? Completely harmless!

People will come up with their own conclusions but it won't change the outcome of what I desire.

People really need to get a grip!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wouldn't meet someone if I didn't want to age size colour don't matter. if I don't like I wouldn't shag them & I hope they feel the same.

im not on here to shag anyone only people I like & get on with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would it be racist if a white couple/fem only wanted black guys? I guess it would going by what people are saying here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And what is making it doubly racist is the assumption its white people that will use the filter. Maybe there is the odd black/asian/martian who doesnt fancy white people.or are they all here to nick our daughters, jobs and cars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people might not want to meet black/chinese/Indian men for sex because they only find white men physically attractive, they might have black/chinese/Indian friends though. Does that make them racist? "

This is exactly what I was going to say, I have lots of friends from all different races and cultures etc. however my personal preference of who to sleep with is white because that's who I find sexually/physically attractive. I have been called racist in the past because if this, which I found highly offensive

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

There already is a filter if you don't want to meet someone of a particular ethnicity. Request a face pic. Takes a little effort but worthwhile if you get what you are looking for.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"People arrive on Fab with their preferences. They already manually exclude others because of those preferences. An increased use of filters would just make that manual process automatic.

Fab isn't here to judge people by their preferences, but the site should wherever possible always seek to improve the user experience of it's membership.

I understand those who have reservations about excluding whole sections of society at the switch of a button, but I hope they would respect the choice of individuals who choose to do just that. "

I've missed you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have thort a system of filtering is already in place as one can use the updates or heading title on a profile to state 'only looking for x y z '

It would be a change from reading phrases akin to 'just shaving my budgie' n 'hot n horny'

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've stated that I'm not seeking single guys in my profile. Does that make me homophobic?

Not unless you spin some elaborate tell to explain why you don't seek single guys beyond "i'm not homosexual or bi"

See? Completely harmless!

People will come up with their own conclusions but it won't change the outcome of what I desire.

People really need to get a grip! "

Get a grip on here when righteous indignation is more fun?!! Yeah...right!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Would it be racist if a white couple/fem only wanted black guys? I guess it would going by what people are saying here."

That's what amuses me with the "racist" comments. The main advocates are those seeking playmates outwith their own race, how a white couple seeking an Asian bi fem is deemed racist is beyond my ken.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Protip: Just state your preference. Drop the whole "i have black/asian/blue friends, so i'm not racist". It sounds extremely defensive and is totally unnecessary to the point you are getting across.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I avoid men of certain ethnicity simply because they remind me of my ex. Racist? No.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Protip: Just state your preference. Drop the whole "i have black/asian/blue friends, so i'm not racist". It sounds extremely defensive and is totally unnecessary to the point you are getting across.

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Agreed, I think "I have..." unnecessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Protip: Just state your preference. Drop the whole "i have black/asian/blue friends, so i'm not racist". It sounds extremely defensive and is totally unnecessary to the point you are getting across.

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I agree n it also sounds somewhat condescending to say 'I have friends.....' as if one was doing a favour by associating with them! In an earlier mail I commented I had enjoyed the physical pleasure of virtually every race n colour over the years (n hope I'll enjoy some more before I'm past it). BUT I didn't indulge with people on basis of their colour/ethnicity as some kind of kink trip. I joined with them because they had great personalities, senses of humour etc etc. And as for the presumption that EVERY black guy is hung like a donkey is of course an urban myth as I well know (just thort I'd throw THAT in too for it's contentious value - )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people might not want to meet black/chinese/Indian men for sex because they only find white men physically attractive, they might have black/chinese/Indian friends though. Does that make them racist? "

"I;m not racist - I've got black mates"!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not racist to have a preference. OK, there will be racists in every walk of life, but you'll have more luck finding world peace than getting rid of them.

I am the last person you could ever call racist, however I can see why a lot of profiles draw the line at Asians. I like Asian women but, from experience, most of the Asian men I've met at clubs seem to have a personal hygiene problem, so I can see where some people are coming from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is about time people saw people for people rather than the colour of their skin. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i havnt met any asians i cant say if i would be attracted to them in any way untill i did meet one, you cant always tell by looking at pictures and sending emails.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races.How is having a preference racist?

Well I suppose the generic answer to that would be ' on what specifically are you are basing your preference ' innit "

What a lot of nonsense. You can't scratch your arse without being called a racist nowadays. If I want a white guy tonight I will have one if I want a black guy etc...preference...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It's not racist to have a preference. OK, there will be racists in every walk of life, but you'll have more luck finding world peace than getting rid of them.

I am the last person you could ever call racist, however I can see why a lot of profiles draw the line at Asians. I like Asian women but, from experience, most of the Asian men I've met at clubs seem to have a personal hygiene problem, so I can see where some people are coming from."

So you'll fuck Asian women but Asian men are dirty and you're not being racist.

I get it now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter "

I reckon they should have a snotty up their own arse filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you'll fuck Asian women but Asian men are dirty and you're not being racist.

I get it now."

Good - I'm glad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not racist to have a preference. OK, there will be racists in every walk of life, but you'll have more luck finding world peace than getting rid of them.

I am the last person you could ever call racist, however I can see why a lot of profiles draw the line at Asians. I like Asian women but, from experience, most of the Asian men I've met at clubs seem to have a personal hygiene problem, so I can see where some people are coming from.

So you'll fuck Asian women but Asian men are dirty and you're not being racist.

I get it now."

Hmm I was engaged to a Singaporean doctor for two years. He had a shower every day. He used deodorant, and I'm pretty sure he was hygienic after poo poos.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

When you get overly defensive about your sexual preferences, it suggests that they originate from a place of prejudice, however small it may be.

Own your choices. Don't want to fuck Asian people? So be it. Because you had a bad experience with one Asian person? That's fine. Don't expect to be immune to people pulling you up on it though.

Because the same people with said preferences have probably had numerous bad experiences with white (or insert other race here) people but that doesn't make them discount all white people.

It is about your sexual pleasure and/ exploration. You are allowed to move the goalposts if you want. Just man up and own your decisions. The moment you try to hard to justify those choices....well, you know the rest.

It REALLY isn't that hard. Happy fucking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see there is any need for one.

But i wouldnt mind a chav filter

I reckon they should have a snotty up their own arse filter "

Now that is a fetish I ain't come across

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"every time this thread appears loads crop up with negative connotations, putting 'racist' in the title does little to help that!

Don't approach the wrong way, this should NOT be seen as a filter to root out and exclude certain races but rather as a handy tool to find that elusive black or Asian beauty that you desire! Any thing that aids the quest for quality meets is a good thing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my normal comment for this type of thread is "can I have a filter for the people who want to use this Filter"

some may see me as some sort of neatly pigeon holed "niche" where they may be interested in me... I am very unlikely to be interested in them....

if people want to bring it in then cool, but let it come with some kind on consequence... give people something to actually think about before using it....

what next? A "ginger" filter????"

I'm ginge but I've dyed my hair this year as I'm fed up with the prejudice I get with it. One day I'll be happy not to.

And to those who are using the legality of this, I don't suppose that most of use who have, not necessarily taken offense to this but find it sad that people cannot see people for people. This makes everyone here some kind of commodity to be shopped for. I thought this was a community of liberated people who like to indulge in what most of society deem as taboo and in that way is different to other sites which require you to pay to contact someone.

Have your preferences, I do, we all do, but try not to be so lazy that you can't spend the time searching for those of a like mind. If you don't find them attractive then don't contact them. Simple isn't it?

By all means let this site have a filter. It'll still cause problems. what about the skin tones that don't fit into the categories you think should be there? We have the option to choose body type while filling in our profiles. It doesn't mean that we are necessarily that body type in other peoples eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You racist!!

If you are not attracted to or only looking for a certain type of person then this would be a benefit, but it could be interpretted the wrong way as there has been a thread on people being racist by showing thier preferance not to meet certain races.How is having a preference racist?

Well I suppose the generic answer to that would be ' on what specifically are you are basing your preference ' innit "

I don't want to meet women... Does that make me sexist?

We all find different things attractive. When it comes to sexual chemistry, and who we want to sleep with, we should be permitted to express this without being labeled as racist, ageist, sexist, etc. We like what we like and there s something for everyone. Why turn it into something it isn't.

I think the more options there are in the search preferences the better... All the ways we categorise ourselves for starters. Height, physique, etc. And none of it should be an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my normal comment for this type of thread is "can I have a filter for the people who want to use this Filter"

some may see me as some sort of neatly pigeon holed "niche" where they may be interested in me... I am very unlikely to be interested in them....

if people want to bring it in then cool, but let it come with some kind on consequence... give people something to actually think about before using it....

what next? A "ginger" filter????

I'm ginge but I've dyed my hair this year as I'm fed up with the prejudice I get with it. One day I'll be happy not to.

And to those who are using the legality of this, I don't suppose that most of use who have, not necessarily taken offense to this but find it sad that people cannot see people for people. This makes everyone here some kind of commodity to be shopped for. I thought this was a community of liberated people who like to indulge in what most of society deem as taboo and in that way is different to other sites which require you to pay to contact someone.

Have your preferences, I do, we all do, but try not to be so lazy that you can't spend the time searching for those of a like mind. If you don't find them attractive then don't contact them. Simple isn't it?

By all means let this site have a filter. It'll still cause problems. what about the skin tones that don't fit into the categories you think should be there? We have the option to choose body type while filling in our profiles. It doesn't mean that we are necessarily that body type in other peoples eyes."

Just because one is sexually liberated doesn't mean one shags anything with a pulse and doesn't require physical attraction. Surely anything that helps you find what you are looking for (body type included) is helpful.

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