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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Appreciate there’s no definitive answer but how long would you need to know someone and be having NSA sex with them (minimum of once a week) with nothing else except some chat in bed too before: “that’s a long time” could be said?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its subjective .. everyones opinion would be different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

every case is unique and different...

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

nsa is nsa - you have no holds over them or you. You are both effecitively single and free to make your own choices without ever having to report in. Thats the beauty really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its subjective .. everyones opinion would be different "

K and I suppose the opinion of people who don't frequent site's like this will probably be different too.

But who doesn't these days? And that's a different thread.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

subjective as others have said..

we all view relationships and meets etc differently..

as with the site..

some view it as a 'meat market'..

others don't..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"nsa is nsa - you have no holds over them or you. You are both effecitively single and free to make your own choices without ever having to report in. Thats the beauty really.

"

Absolutely. I invited her to come on a short holiday with me and the kids (it was a Sun hol so I had to pay for 4 regardless). She would have liked to but couldn't get the time off work. So we still haven't moved out of her bedroom. Just other times I've had similar life's always got in the way.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Even after reading the replies I don't understand the OP's question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even after reading the replies I don't understand the OP's question "

I think hes asking at what point does it stop being NSA and starts being something else??

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Even after reading the replies I don't understand the OP's question

I think hes asking at what point does it stop being NSA and starts being something else??"

Ahhh, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Until you're bored with it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Until you're bored with it?"

Bored of NSA sex?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Even after reading the replies I don't understand the OP's question

I think hes asking at what point does it stop being NSA and starts being something else??

Ahhh, thank you "

Not really no. We have both said (but not in any great detail) that it's predominantly just about sex. And like I say other times when I've had similar life's got in the way but there seems no change on the horizon for this one. Soz if the mention of the hol gave the wrong impression.

Just how long to have the sort of 'relationship' I've just described before it starts to be regarded as a long time?

And we both see others too.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

There's a lady I met in 1993, whilst I was in an open relationship with someone else. I have been seeing her on and off ever since, although there has been a gap of 5 yrs inbetween frolics when I was in a vanilla relationship, then I'll get a text out of the blue and happy days

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's a lady I met in 1993, whilst I was in an open relationship with someone else. I have been seeing her on and off ever since, although there has been a gap of 5 yrs inbetween frolics when I was in a vanilla relationship, then I'll get a text out of the blue and happy days "

That's a long time. It's good renewing acquaintances, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is very subjective even between people who are seeing each other. I used to see someone from another site on a regular basis, usually once a week, which went on for about 4 months. Imagine my surprise when she got the hump when she discovered I was arranging to meet others. My advice would be to clarify the other persons feelings so at least you know where you both stand.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"That's a long time. It's good renewing acquaintances, isn't it? "

It certainly is, although she is 8 yrs my junior, she has taught me a few tricks along the way as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is very subjective even between people who are seeing each other. I used to see someone from another site on a regular basis, usually once a week, which went on for about 4 months. Imagine my surprise when she got the hump when she discovered I was arranging to meet others. My advice would be to clarify the other persons feelings so at least you know where you both stand. "

Thanks. Better say it's been over six months now (and give the cue to other to say: 'that's not long at all'). Not always but it's usually overnite. Great for me coz I often work until 10 and she's into accommodating overnite. Meet at least once a week and neither of us have ever gone back on any arrangement we have made for the next meet. I tell her when I'm on afternoon shift and she almost always says yes.

And it's fully understood we both see others off here. She told me she was looking a few weeks ago and has a couple of recent veris on her profile. We sometimes say 'hi' when we're both on here. So seeing others isn't an issue. I've got a new meet Friday morning. Maybe just a social. There seem to be more of those lately. But, again, that's another thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is very subjective even between people who are seeing each other. I used to see someone from another site on a regular basis, usually once a week, which went on for about 4 months. Imagine my surprise when she got the hump when she discovered I was arranging to meet others. My advice would be to clarify the other persons feelings so at least you know where you both stand.

Thanks. Better say it's been over six months now (and give the cue to other to say: 'that's not long at all'). Not always but it's usually overnite. Great for me coz I often work until 10 and she's into accommodating overnite. Meet at least once a week and neither of us have ever gone back on any arrangement we have made for the next meet. I tell her when I'm on afternoon shift and she almost always says yes.

And it's fully understood we both see others off here. She told me she was looking a few weeks ago and has a couple of recent veris on her profile. We sometimes say 'hi' when we're both on here. So seeing others isn't an issue. I've got a new meet Friday morning. Maybe just a social. There seem to be more of those lately. But, again, that's another thread. "

Best way to be. I meet with a guy on a regular basis, we make no demands on each other (unless in bed) & it's been nearly 6 months now. Yes we are friends but he is free to see others as am I. We don't even play every time we meet up. We've also had meals out & gone out for drinks.

You can be friends with benefits & it's still NSA. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is very subjective even between people who are seeing each other. I used to see someone from another site on a regular basis, usually once a week, which went on for about 4 months. Imagine my surprise when she got the hump when she discovered I was arranging to meet others. My advice would be to clarify the other persons feelings so at least you know where you both stand.

Thanks. Better say it's been over six months now (and give the cue to other to say: 'that's not long at all'). Not always but it's usually overnite. Great for me coz I often work until 10 and she's into accommodating overnite. Meet at least once a week and neither of us have ever gone back on any arrangement we have made for the next meet. I tell her when I'm on afternoon shift and she almost always says yes.

And it's fully understood we both see others off here. She told me she was looking a few weeks ago and has a couple of recent veris on her profile. We sometimes say 'hi' when we're both on here. So seeing others isn't an issue. I've got a new meet Friday morning. Maybe just a social. There seem to be more of those lately. But, again, that's another thread.

Best way to be. I meet with a guy on a regular basis, we make no demands on each other (unless in bed) & it's been nearly 6 months now. Yes we are friends but he is free to see others as am I. We don't even play every time we meet up. We've also had meals out & gone out for drinks.

You can be friends with benefits & it's still NSA. Xx"

Similar to me but (and it's a back to front thing for a man to say) I seldom manage to get her out of the bedroom. Last time I had the going for drinks and meals, etc. with it as well her hubby who she was separated from made her pregnant!! Like I say life got in the way.

Atm every meet is sex and I don't thank that's gonna change.

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