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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

thinking about getting back on my motorbike - had a bad experience last year and have lost my bottle a bit - has this happened to any one else and how did you get over it? Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fell off my push bike last year trying to avoid a puddle and hurt by knee and arm.

The next day, I went over the same bit and determined not to let it bother me, and I succeeded without a hitch.

Not quite the same as riding a beast between my legs I know, however, positive mental attitude will definitely help!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thinking about getting back on my motorbike - had a bad experience last year and have lost my bottle a bit - has this happened to any one else and how did you get over it? Z "

A few weeks back i (kat) had a blow out on the m1 at rush hour at 70 mph, in the middle lane,car did a 360 3 times, got control just as i was about to slam into the central reservation. We where very lucky nothing hit us, i also had my 10 year old in the car.

I was very scared to drive again, but i was back on the motorway 3 days laters, i must admit that first time back on the motor way i was nearly in tears i was that scared, every little noise every little bump in the road, i was a nervous wreck, i didnt get out of the first lane i didnt go above 60, even now about a month later im still a little nervous when i have my daughter with me, BUT it does get better once you have done it that first time.

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over a year ago

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

Thanks Pearl - I just need to pull myself together a bit! Z

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"thinking about getting back on my motorbike - had a bad experience last year and have lost my bottle a bit - has this happened to any one else and how did you get over it? Z

Wow - that must have been terrifying - thanks Z

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"Thanks Pearl - I just need to pull myself together a bit! Z"
Zoe, have you tried any of the motorbike schools? do you know of one in your area, give them a call, I'm sure they'll offer you the best advice.

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over a year ago

The only thing I have fallen off is a horse and I had no choice but to get straight back on and ride the git back or walk for miles

Zoe,just go for short rides at the moment until you get your confidence back......im sure it won't take long xx

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Thanks Pearl - I just need to pull myself together a bit! ZZoe, have you tried any of the motorbike schools? do you know of one in your area, give them a call, I'm sure they'll offer you the best advice."

thanks - yes - i will just try going out on it and if that fails will go back to the place i went to take my test - they were really nice so will look after me i'm sure - Z

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"The only thing I have fallen off is a horse and I had no choice but to get straight back on and ride the git back or walk for miles

Zoe,just go for short rides at the moment until you get your confidence back......im sure it won't take long xx"

Thats good advice - i'll just start by sitting on it inthe garage and making engine noises!!! Z

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over a year ago

"The only thing I have fallen off is a horse and I had no choice but to get straight back on and ride the git back or walk for miles

Zoe,just go for short rides at the moment until you get your confidence back......im sure it won't take long xx

Thats good advice - i'll just start by sitting on it inthe garage and making engine noises!!! Z"

Well I was thinking a bit longer than that but if it helps then cool

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"The only thing I have fallen off is a horse and I had no choice but to get straight back on and ride the git back or walk for miles

Zoe,just go for short rides at the moment until you get your confidence back......im sure it won't take long xx

Thats good advice - i'll just start by sitting on it inthe garage and making engine noises!!! Z

Well I was thinking a bit longer than that but if it helps then cool

I break out in a cold sweat just thinking about swinging my leg over it at the moment! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best way is to nudge yourself back into it.

And what I mean by that is short rides maybe on not so busy roads and preferably on a dry day.

Take it steady and just increase it slowly over a few weeks. Each time going further or maybe over a different route.

Exposure is the only way to overcome fears.

That didnt sound right did it???

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Best way is to nudge yourself back into it.

And what I mean by that is short rides maybe on not so busy roads and preferably on a dry day.

Take it steady and just increase it slowly over a few weeks. Each time going further or maybe over a different route.

Exposure is the only way to overcome fears.

That didnt sound right did it???

yes - that sounds spot on! sound advice from every one - thanks - like a bit of exposure! Z

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

thanks - yes - i will just try going out on it and if that fails will go back to the place i went to take my test - they were really nice so will look after me i'm sure - Z"

Take it at your own pace, good luck

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

thanks - yes - i will just try going out on it and if that fails will go back to the place i went to take my test - they were really nice so will look after me i'm sure - Z

Take it at your own pace, good luck

Thanks - will be gutted if i can't ride again this year - i am determined to get back in the saddle! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No wheelies, no stoppies, no burnouts etc for the first 15 mins , you will be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi 'Zoe' I came off my bike, a Kawasaki KH400 triple, that's how long ago it was, and broke my collarbone. Took 6 weeks to heal and after that I was quite nervous for a few days but soon got back into the groove as I'm sure you will, just take it easy for a while. Take care of that ZZR!

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

"thinking about getting back on my motorbike - had a bad experience last year and have lost my bottle a bit - has this happened to any one else and how did you get over it? Z "

Well i have given up! Nearly lost mi goolies in a rear end shunt in 2008 and decided they are too precious to me to loose!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just over a year ago, my clutch went suddenly and I was doing about 40mph approaching a roundabout, and it scared the sh1t out of me. I managed to slow right down and parked up in relative safety.

Earlier this year, my new gear box packed up after 6 miles while I was doing 70mph+ on a dual carriageway. Again, it scared the sh1t out of me.

I was determined to get back behind the wheels pronto, as I have to drive in order to go places.

The first 60s were probably the worst, however, once I got over the initial mental hurdle, it was a breeze.

Just like my recent brush with the law, the first couple of minutes back behind the wheels were the worst!

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

Thank you all very much for your replies - i really appreciate them - will keep you posted! nite all Z xx

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Zoe xx

I know a big ugly guy who was a biker and he will not get back on a bike again (sold it now) He also had an indecent, but three years ago and decided that it was a warning and that was enough. Wanted to see his grandchildren grow up and loves life!

He understood the adrenalin rush and loved it, but his family were way more important than the risk.

Funnily enough, I don't really miss it a bit now!

Whatever happens, stay safe.

Pete xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think positive mental attitude - the bike is not a beast, it is a machine that you can control, and you are its master!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thinking about getting back on my motorbike - had a bad experience last year and have lost my bottle a bit - has this happened to any one else and how did you get over it? Z "

I came off my motorbike twice (both times I was travelling slowly, fortunately, so I wasn't hurt). In addition to the advice given above, I would suggest thinking carefully about what led to your bad experience. Perhaps there's nothing you could have done about it (e.g. if it was due to the actions of another road user), and if so, you just have to make a judgement call on whether the 'adrenaline rush' means more to you than the risk of it happening again. Or is there something that you can learn from the experience, to make you safer in the future?

In my case, one time it was 'black ice' on ungritted roads (a bit of an 'Act of God', but I bought an outdoor thermometer, so I was better informed about when there was a risk of it). The other time was my own carelessness, in assuming the car in front of me would turn left out of a junction because there was a HUGE gap in the main-road traffic (note to self: some other road users are more timid than me! Looking in one direction and riding in another direction is a very bad idea! LOL)

But I learnt from these two (admittedly minor) accidents, and kept on riding.

As with anything, all we can do is to try to be as safe as we consider to be reasonable. Good luck - I hope you find the courage to start riding again!

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

Zoe,

If its something that you really want to do - then get back into it at your own pace hun.

There is no pushing these things.

All the advice above is great - (as usuall with this place eh!!!) and i think you will do just fine.

If you maybe have a bit of sexy fun with stationary bike - so that its not relative??? Like association????

Well someone above mentioned exposure, lol

Good luck hun, you will be fine xxxx

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

Hey love found this thread you started this morning and think maybe if you tell folks what happened you will be able to sort it in your head and then deal with it.

We wont be going touring this year i dont think unless we go 2 up on mine so we should be able to avoid the worst of it all. If you wanna sell the bike then lets do it your always welcome on the back of mine but i will have to buy a bigger 1 cos i aint having them FJR boys leaving us behind lol. ( Just kidding honest)

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got knocked off my cycle just before Xmas last year, the lorry didn't even stop

I was out of it for a couple of weeks but I did get back on my bike, will admit though I was very nervous cycling the very first time but after that I was ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thinking about getting back on my motorbike - had a bad experience last year and have lost my bottle a bit - has this happened to any one else and how did you get over it? Z

But I learnt from these two (admittedly minor) accidents, and kept on riding.

As with anything, all we can do is to try to be as safe as we consider to be reasonable. Good luck - I hope you find the courage to start riding again!"

This was exactly what was going through my mind. Fab advice from Dianna, I too have had a few bum cheek clenching moments on my Blackbird BUT almost all have been my fault, speed for me has been the contributor to my "moments"

I have one other suggestion, is there a quad bike hire place near you? we have a place close by that you can go and ride a quad around a field. You would get the sense of riding a bike but on 4 wheels !!!

Good luck Zoe

Rex xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a few bikes in the 80's and 90's but I kept falling off them so eventually I decided to stick with the car.

These days I fall off mountain bikes instead. In October I had a bad crash in wales on a downhill. I got a separated shoulder which is still healing. However the good news is I've been back on my bike in the last couple of weeks and really enjoyed it. Hope you do too Zoe. XX

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

I climb & used to ride bikes, have had some bad spills and kerpurtles (many broken bones and weeks in hospital) so know what I'm talking about.

the fear only lasts till the rush returns and the adrenaline kicks in. then the trick is not to make the same mistake again!

Go for it girl, get the wind back in your hair!

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

I've just seen all the recent posts since last night - thank you all very much - there's some really sound advice there, Steve is a rock too so hopefully will be ok this year! Have a good day everyone, Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just seen all the recent posts since last night - thank you all very much - there's some really sound advice there, Steve is a rock too so hopefully will be ok this year! Have a good day everyone, Z"

Don't sell the bike, as I believe it is much better to ride your own than to ride behind another person.

Besides, you'll have the freedom to do things separately if you wish!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Andy used to race bikes when he was younger, he had a huge crash 6 months in hospital etc, he tried to race again but had lost his edge, and couldnt get up to speed again, so he got a road bike and happily rode for years then got caught doing a silly speed, only just escaped going to prison.

After that he thought 2 warnings was enough and hasnt riden in 5 years.

Ive asked him many times if he misses it, but he just says "lifes moved on, and i have a family now, much more important than a bike"

Think what im trying to say is if you really want to get back on then go for it and enjoy, but if you dont then dont, and dont feel silly about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had Bikes all of my life and have Crashed a fair few, best way back on is to plan it for a few days ahead and then go for a little run on quiet roads and just do a few miles, then plan another run and do the same which will build your confidence up nicely

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

could you go on the back of your bike with Steve riding it for the first time ? Just so you get the feeling of being on it again but with someone you trust in control. I know you still cant control the actions of other road users but it might help that first time back in the saddle ?

good luck in whatever you decide..and you have a lovely man there ! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wasnt a motor bike but i got hit by a car on my push bike early last year, altho i fractured my pelvis most was just cuts and bruses and lost of aching lol couldnt ride for a while after anyway because of my pelvis but to be honest it didnt put me off getting back on, tho i have to admit i am a lot more weary now, the guy that hit me just came straight out a junction without looking or stopping as i was riding on the main round across the bottom of it and he just ran straight into me, i have found since i tend to slow down when i see junctions to make sure the driver is going to stop and on some occasions ive actually stopped to let them out first even tho i have the right of way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hit a badger on a country lane in North Devon back in 2004. It nearly wrote off my ZZR1100, and me too. Got myself airlifted to hospital in Air Ambulance. I broke 3 ribs where they joined my spine, and was unable to do anything for nearly 3 months!

When I recovered I sold the wrecked Kwak and bought a VN1500 cruiser, but couldn't ride it for much more than half hour at a time, because I must have damaged my knee too, but didn't really notice at the time. Very strange that.

So, sold that bike too and will stick to my car for now.

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

having been a biker most of my adult life, and have even raced them at times too, and yes I've thrown them down the black stuff a good few times too, but i'm now 54 and still ride bikes daily, though i have somewhat slowed my riding style down, there were times when like you i felt enough was enough, but always went back to the bike and took it for a spin,steady at first and short trips on quiet roads mainly(not easy today with the number of road user's).

but don't give up on something you once enjoyed (would you give up on sex because of one bad experience

) just go steady and stay safe and get back to something you enjoyed before, after all said and done we all take knocks in life and just get up shake ourselves down and get on with it.

if you want someone to ride out with and play as a safety marker then there's loads of fellow bikers out there that would be willing to ride out with you and help get your confidence back i'm sure.

hope you can find the spirit to get back on the bike and get out there again, i'll be watching out for you on my rides out for sure.

take care,ride safe and enjoy the freedom that bikes hold for all us two wheeled maniacs lol

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By *eprobatepairCouple
over a year ago

london

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By *eprobatepairCouple
over a year ago

london

I'm a coach and trainer and I coached a UK Champion rider after he had crashed for the second time in two meetings in exactly the same way. He not only went out on the bike again but beat his personal best lap time on that circuit and the team won the race.

We talked it over and he'd been going over and over it in his head. In his mind he'd not crashed twice, he'd crashed about a hundred times. Have you been doing that Zoe?

I asked him to get on the bike,to recall how much he enjoyed riding it and how much pleasure it gave him. Then I asked him to just be aware of his balance, how the bike felt, where he was on the track, and to remind himself that he was a talented rider. I asked him to stop worrying and most importantly to stop TRYING not to crash.

If you just get on the bike and concentrate on what is actually happening rather than worrying about what MIGHT happen it will help you a lot.

If you'd like coaching through it personally send me a message.

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

Once again I'd like to thank every one who has posted here - that in itself has helped me I think! All really positive messages and sound advice - thanks Z xx

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