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"In theory sounds ok but if there are children in the household I'd say be very careful about what kind of messages this may send to them. Otherwise, it's worth a try! Z" Thank you xx they are teens not really young... But this is my worry ! | |||
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"Would like peoples opinions on Open Marriages ! Has anyone experienced or are any of you living in an open marriage ... I don't mean a swinging one ... I mean one where .. You have fallen out of love and there is no intimacy in your relationship, but you get on ok.. More like flat mates, but because of finances and kids you stay in the same house, have separate rooms but still live as a family, both having your own personal life. What do you think, can this work or is it to hard for the kids to get there head around? " Is this an open marriage? I always thought it was where either party were still in a relationship but could see other people on their own with the others approval but not participation | |||
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"Would like peoples opinions on Open Marriages ! Has anyone experienced or are any of you living in an open marriage ... I don't mean a swinging one ... I mean one where .. You have fallen out of love and there is no intimacy in your relationship, but you get on ok.. More like flat mates, but because of finances and kids you stay in the same house, have separate rooms but still live as a family, both having your own personal life. What do you think, can this work or is it to hard for the kids to get there head around? " I was the third person as it were in an open marriage. His wife knew all about me, it was her idea to have that type of marriage. There were kids on both sides but all adults so not around. Still, had there been younger children I think it would have been much more difficult! I finished it after eight years | |||
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"That's a marriage of conveniance you're describing something totally different." If you are referring to my post, no it was not a marriage of convenience! You don't know the facts | |||
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"Would like peoples opinions on Open Marriages ! Has anyone experienced or are any of you living in an open marriage ... I don't mean a swinging one ... I mean one where .. You have fallen out of love and there is no intimacy in your relationship, but you get on ok.. More like flat mates, but because of finances and kids you stay in the same house, have separate rooms but still live as a family, both having your own personal life. What do you think, can this work or is it to hard for the kids to get there head around? Is this an open marriage? I always thought it was where either party were still in a relationship but could see other people on their own with the others approval but not participation " My thoughts exactly. x | |||
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"Hm. Tricky one. I'd have thought even this approach would lose its shine after you start living increasingly separate lives, surely you'd want your own space... *shrug * at the end of the day.. Whatever works best.. You guys are the experts in your own relationship! Good luck! " I would love my own space ... But I am the one who would have the kids ... He would have to lodge somewhere and leave everything ! He said he would rather sleep in the shed than leave !!! I would have so much guilt! Making him go! He would carry on as we are if he could !! But I need more !! He has had a year to change !!! But nothing ! He has never taken me out in the 25 years we have been together! There is no affection ! When my kids were small it was ok I did not need it ! But I have changed ! | |||
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" I would love my own space ... But I am the one who would have the kids ... He would have to lodge somewhere and leave everything ! He said he would rather sleep in the shed than leave !!! I would have so much guilt! Making him go! He would carry on as we are if he could !! But I need more !! He has had a year to change !!! But nothing ! He has never taken me out in the 25 years we have been together! There is no affection ! When my kids were small it was ok I did not need it ! But I have changed ! " Well, ultimately you both need to do what is in the long term best interests for each of you. If those interests are completely different then sticking together as a "default" option while easier in some ways, would logically result in you wondering "what if.." later down the line, I'd have thought. Maybe it's helpful to pose the problem ss "what's more expensive.. Doing nothing and maintaining status quo, or to invoke change and handle the upheaval that brings" Not looking to over simplify what you've said, but this is something I use to work out what the problem I'm trying to solve actually is. Maybe it's useful to you too? | |||
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"Would like peoples opinions on Open Marriages ! Has anyone experienced or are any of you living in an open marriage ... I don't mean a swinging one ... I mean one where .. You have fallen out of love and there is no intimacy in your relationship, but you get on ok.. More like flat mates, but because of finances and kids you stay in the same house, have separate rooms but still live as a family, both having your own personal life. What do you think, can this work or is it to hard for the kids to get there head around? " it may be easy, but may stop you moving on and finding happiness, It would be difficult for anyone new coming in, for either of you. You cant fix a broken cup. let go, move on. | |||
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