FabSwingers.com forum: The Etiquette of Rearranging...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok, question for you all.

You arrange to meet someone - (not necessarily for sex) - could be social, could be as friends etc and the other party has to cancel for a given (could be very valid) reason.

Who do you feel should re-arrange the meeting, and why?

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

The person who cancelled should have mentioned a rearrange in the cancellation. You would then reply to that invitation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt bother to re arange a meet, one chance only here

harsh i know but i have found that if they cancel once then they are likely to cancel again so i dont bother !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The person who cancelled should have mentioned a rearrange in the cancellation. You would then reply to that invitation."

because they are the one who cancelled

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"The person who cancelled should have mentioned a rearrange in the cancellation. You would then reply to that invitation."

^^^ this... If they don't mention an alternative date then I wouldn't chase them for one.

If someone cancels without re-arranging I would assume they didn't want to re-arrange and that they just wanted to cancel

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

We give a couple of chances and expect the same .but we report and block people who string us along .as we have teenagers we know sometimes you can't avoid having to cancel

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I have cancelled and stated my reason and then said we would rearrange....I hate cancelling but I can't stop my real world life

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

We all get family emergencys or illness etc! I think in those cases we all understand! The last time someone cancelled on me. In all fairness he gave me 5 days notice, and he offerred to rearrange. I turned him down as we had had the meet arranged in advance by about 3 weeks, once it was in my diary I turned down other social activities. But he was cancelling as he was being asked to attend a BBQ at his friends house! I chose not to rearrange as I could foresee this happening again. But sometimes shit happens and we have to be somewhat undersatnding. But in all honesty I rarely give 2nd chances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't any meeting social, pleasure or otherwise a mutual arrangement between all parties ?

If someone cancels then I'd hope they'd say when they could rearrange, but, that opens up another round of negotiations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The person who cancelled should have mentioned a rearrange in the cancellation. You would then reply to that invitation.

^^^ this... If they don't mention an alternative date then I wouldn't chase them for one.

If someone cancels without re-arranging I would assume they didn't want to re-arrange and that they just wanted to cancel"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't any meeting social, pleasure or otherwise a mutual arrangement between all parties ?

If someone cancels then I'd hope they'd say when they could rearrange, but, that opens up another round of negotiations

This

Real Life comes first before Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had to cancel before but have rearranged and had a good meet.

Also once cancelled and they got funny but my hobbit was sick and she will always come first so after them getting funny i never spoke to them again...their loss n all that.

Just ask them to let you know when is good to rearrange and leave it to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I've been cancelled before...but in the message she didnt mention a rearrange date.

So I asked "do you wanna rearrange? " or words to that effect.

She said yeah...and we rearranged and eventually met.

So just my take.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Most interesting responses. I should clarify that my question is a more generalised view on friends and social meetings (and not aimed at anyone or any incident related to this site!!)

For me, if the other party cancels and all express a desire to rearrange, it is very much my view that this lies with the cancelling party. Because if I were to keep trying to re-arrange I would quickly feel that I were trying to push myself onto the other party - and the thought of being 'that pushy friend' just abhors me.

But can it then lead to feelings of disappointment / rejection when it never happens - as if it were all lip-service and that really I'm just not interesting or enough of a friend to take the time to actually rearrange?

If all of that makes sense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most interesting responses. I should clarify that my question is a more generalised view on friends and social meetings (and not aimed at anyone or any incident related to this site!!)

If all of that makes sense!

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total sense

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