FabSwingers.com forum: the regrets of being blocked

By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

Hiya,

Just a thought provoking thread really.

There's a lady on here who blocked me ages ago. I don't know why she blocked me but obviously you don't get blocked for no reason. I'd obviously done something which displeased her. Lol.

Anyway, I've been watching these forums recently since coming back after a month or two off... And this girl is lovely. She has such a nice attitude towards things and I can just read her personality, you know?

Anyway... One time I posted on her thread not realising she was the op, or a poster and I got suspended from the forums for 24hrs! She must have complained or something? Just strange because I don't know what I've done which was so offensive! I mean, I'm an alright type of guy - I think! Haha!

Was just pondering over this just then while looking over peoples threads...

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

She posts on this forum and is a lovely girl? Well that's narrowed it down then! A lot. (awaits the expected deluge of housebricks on his head)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP did you get blocked for stalking? The ban was probably for using the forums to try to get round a block, it's not allowed for good and sensible reasons. Expect this to get pulled by the mods when they see it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually see the age range as a block, and i dont mean a cock block haha.

There are so many individuals on fab who have me biting my lips, but as i dont meet their age range..i cant always message them with a view to arrange a meet sometime in the future (im not brave like that lol)

..the only downside is, they never know that a lovely guy like me exists.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest a person can on here can block anyone and there doesn't even have to be a reson why.... It's down to individuals who they want to interact with or not!

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

It's frustrating when you don't know why you have been blocked.

But it's one of those things you have to just live with. You will probably never know.

You can still post on the same threads to express an opinion. But you can't try to directly speak with her.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Why do you think you have done something wrong?

A friend of mine lives in an area where it would leave no doubt as to whom he/she is in that village, hence everyone with the same postcode that is on or joins the site he/she automatically blocks by making regular searches.

Don't over think it!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Again, why do people concentrate on those not interested in them?!! I truly don't get it. Sometimes someone writes something on the forums asking advice etc and I go to reply privately I'm blocked: *shrugs* back to the forum, and the world continues to turn.

Some people need to get over themselves and get a life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you use the forums to get round a block then you will get banned, and I for one do not believe you didn't realise who the OP was

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Again, why do people concentrate on those not interested in them?!! I truly don't get it. Sometimes someone writes something on the forums asking advice etc and I go to reply privately I'm blocked: *shrugs* back to the forum, and the world continues to turn.

Some people need to get over themselves and get a life!

I don't think he is concentrating on the reason he is blocked but being banned from the forums for just listing on a thread of hers is a bit harsh don't you think?

Providing of course he was commenting on the thread topic and not trying to ask why he was blocked.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Some people need to get over themselves and get a life!

I don't think he is concentrating on the reason he is blocked but being banned from the forums for just listing on a thread of hers is a bit harsh don't you think?

Providing of course he was commenting on the thread topic and not trying to ask why he was blocked. "

If commenting on threads by people who blocked us leads to a ban then there'd be tumble rolling on these forums.

However, I've seen people post on threads "op, you've blocked me so I can't send you a message" type thing: now that deserved a ban!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been blocked by a couple of people on here ... They must have a reason and I don't question it

If everyone liked everyone then it would be less amusing

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Why do you think you have done something wrong?

Don't over think it!"

I think banning someone from the forum to replying to a thread probably means the OP was blocked for more personal reasons.

I find that odd to be honest. I have replied, and directly quoted, posters who have me on their block list, yet never been banned. Obviously without knowing why (which we won't speculate on) it is difficult to discuss that aspect, but it does seem a bit harsh.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

I hate it when someone sends you a nasty message after you have politely said no thank you and then instantly blocks you so you cant respong

Cowards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think you have done something wrong?

Don't over think it!

I think banning someone from the forum to replying to a thread probably means the OP was blocked for more personal reasons.

As soon as I read the opening post, I thought that he'd answered his own question why he was blocked. Responding to a post from someone who has blocked you, is not a reason to be banned, if the response is fairly general. It is when you use posts to initiate contact, after you have been blocked, that is not allowed

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

When I was banned the message told me why, would it be different in this case?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate it when someone sends you a nasty message after you have politely said no thank you and then instantly blocks you so you cant respong

Cowards"

Never had that. Been blocked after sending some nice/polite messages, or even with no reply. But never had anyone bother to reply before blocking.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

why do u think the ladies on here need a reason

u can get blocked on here for breathing the wrong way it can be a bit of a power trip for some

just move on to someone not so petty

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Why do you think you have done something wrong?

Don't over think it!

I think banning someone from the forum to replying to a thread probably means the OP was blocked for more personal reasons.

Yeah it does say she must have complained. I hope so else I'm going to have to be a lot more circumspect about who I respond to on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't worry

I've been banned for saying things which are normal chit chat on other forums.it can be very n koreanesque on here.

We have also blocked lots of people.its just the way it is.saves messages or profile views from people you have no interest in meeting.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"why do u think the ladies on here need a reason

u can get blocked on here for breathing the wrong way it can be a bit of a power trip for some

just move on to someone not so petty

But a forum ban as well suggests it was more than simply not being her type.

OP: can of worms! You may be heading towards another ban - first rule of ban club is we do not talk about ban club!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"When I was banned the message told me why, would it be different in this case?"

Was just going to post this.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Why is the OP regretting being blocked? Ah, read the post and he has his eye on someone specific. If only she realised he is perfect for her because she is lovely she must be worth pursuing.

I wouldn't be able to post if general comments were not allowed. I'm blocked by many I like to interact with on the forum. They have their reasons and I don't question their reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was banned the message told me why, would it be different in this case?

Was just going to post this."

I was banned a few times, a while back, and message did not say why, though this may have changed

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Control the controllable

The fact you are blocked is out Of your control

The fact you were banned from the forum is in your control,,,

First rule of forum club,,, Don t talk about bans,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only block bi or gay guys who don't get the hint from a polite reply that says not interested!! now i know that guys like to pursue or chase i'm one myself, but if i don't get a reply after a first message i will then send a polite message to see if they didn't get the first one, after that it's time to move on, theres plenty more beautiful people on here to chat too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without the facts it is speculation but if the OP is correct and his message was not rude and the forum post also was not rude related to the ban, then how is he banned from forum,

If a user complains how much investigation is undertaken or are we in a situation whereby anyone cam cause anyone problems by simply making bogus complaints.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

These things happen people can block who they like....when they like..just move on from it

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"These things happen people can block who they like....when they like..just move on from it

Then people start threads about the person blocking that person it just become silly and personal..

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Without the facts it is speculation but if the OP is correct and his message was not rude and the forum post also was not rude related to the ban, then how is he banned from forum,

If a user complains how much investigation is undertaken or are we in a situation whereby anyone cam cause anyone problems by simply making bogus complaints. "

Anyone can hit the report button and state their reason. We don't actually know it was her or what his post said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agreed,

but if for example you hit report on me and gave a reason that is untrue is the accusation investigated or taken at face value, if the latter we are all vulnerable,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is creepy

Posting on a thread that was started by someone that has blocked you would not get you a ban unless you were talking about the block

This thread could get you one though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally agreed,

but if for example you hit report on me and gave a reason that is untrue is the accusation investigated or taken at face value, if the latter we are all vulnerable,

I would say that, in theory, everyone is vulnerable. I would imagine there would need to some weight of evidence (ie multiple complaints), before any action would be taken. Possibly some sort of 'warning' initially, as can't really see who is to be believed, unless all messages are retained somewhere. Even that wouldn't account for such as 'no-shows', or abuse over phone/text.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've been blocked by people I've had no contact with. I either put it down to them having an animus against CD's, or they have read my forum posts and correctly concluded I'm a wally.

For myself, I have blocked stalkers, people who have a major thing against CD's (mostly to stop me from looking at their new pics a month later), some blatant fakes and a few people on grounds of taste from the forum.

It doesn't bother me getting blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate it when someone sends you a nasty message after you have politely said no thank you and then instantly blocks you so you cant respong

Cowards"
one less theres 1000s here so don't worry xx

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

Hahaha, yeah...

Some of you are saying its creepy, stuff like that...

It's not like it think about this girl all day or anything. I've just simply noticed how nice her demeanor is on these forums.

When I post in thereads I don't check if I'm blocked, I just reply if I fancy it.

Apparently, I was trying to get round a block or something? I don't see how though. obviously, if I had pleaded with her on a thread, that would be weird. Of if I asked her to unblock or something...

I mean, it doesn't bother me. Not going to lose sleep lol. Just something I noticed last night. I can't help to wonder what it is I've done wrong to someone who seems so nice.

Also I don't see how this post can get me suspended as it isn't specific.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally agreed,

but if for example you hit report on me and gave a reason that is untrue is the accusation investigated or taken at face value, if the latter we are all vulnerable,

"
it's a 24 hour forum ban, does it really matter if the investigation is thorough and fair?

That is IF the OP is accurate that the person reported his post, if there was any attempt on his part to circumvent the block the mods would quite rightly taken action without any report.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

You will get another ban now for discussing a ban...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got banned once, still to this day am clueless as to why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hahaha, yeah...

Some of you are saying its creepy, stuff like that...

It's not like it think about this girl all day or anything. I've just simply noticed how nice her demeanor is on these forums.

When I post in thereads I don't check if I'm blocked, I just reply if I fancy it.

Apparently, I was trying to get round a block or something? I don't see how though. obviously, if I had pleaded with her on a thread, that would be weird. Of if I asked her to unblock or something...

I mean, it doesn't bother me. Not going to lose sleep lol. Just something I noticed last night. I can't help to wonder what it is I've done wrong to someone who seems so nice.

Also I don't see how this post can get me suspended as it isn't specific. "
Just move on if you know you have done nothing wrong .. move on as dwelling on things can make you think all sorts .. lots of lovely people here on fab . It should be fun and getting to know new people not this . I have not one in my block But for some its there way of just saying they never wish to meet and do it with out even a hello ,

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Well, you sound charming on your profile - maybe she's in fact 31, or classifies her boobs as large, or likes small men......

;-)

People one here have all kinds of bizarre criteria for using banning as filtering system it seems - whereas I feel someone has to offend before being banned. But chances are you have done nothing wrong, you just don't fit her criteria, or she doesn't fit yours.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Getting round mail blocks does result in a forum ban...no one has to complain about it, a mod just has to see it.

Take it on the chin that someone has you blocked.

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