FabSwingers.com forum: Crunch Time.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey Guys,

Hope everyone is having a great day, I was pondering on something and would love some advice on how you fab people handle the situation where you have swapped a few messages and its crunch time to decide if your going to meet with whoever your chatting to and for you it just dosn't feel right and you would rather not meet, how on earth do you say no thank you?

All of us have feelings and I don't know, are swingers that chilled out that if your chatting to someone you would love to play with, who says no thankyou, does that not hurt feelings?

How can you say no thank you without coming across as rude and maybe hurting peoples feelings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you thank you, I thought that this thread may well have been about Crunchies, thank you .....you have restored my faith, I will now re read and answer accordingly.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

if you don't want to meet just say so, we meet people then decide we don't fancy them and don't play, just because you meet doesn't mean that you have to do anything, if they don't get that then they shouldn't be swinging. We're very polite but we won't do anything we don't feel comfortable with. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say "No" or a " No Thank you". Its not difficult.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Hey Guys,

All of us have feelings and I don't know, are swingers that chilled out that if your chatting to someone you would love to play with, who says no thankyou, does that not hurt feelings?

How can you say no thank you without coming across as rude and maybe hurting peoples feelings?"

its not face to face in person so just be polite and honest and if he gets shitty it would just confirm you were correct in your choice

sure he will be upset but hey that's life

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Simple. You send a polite "It's been nice chatting online but I really don't think there's the spark that makes me want to meet." message - and then if they can't accept this in the spirit it's sent - cut contact and block. If they accept it and you're both happy to continue just chatting online then that's up to you.

Better to be up front sooner rather than later!

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

If it doesn't feel right, then it doesn't feel right.

You can't help that.

So a polite 'I'm sorry but I have given it a lot of thought and I don't feel the connection I need to meet you'

It's the way of life unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys, great advice x

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